Having received lots of advices, messages of concern, name calling, constructive and not-so-constructive critisms, I accept all in good faith. I shared this and a lot of positive outcomes, came out of it. Please I'd like to reiterate that:
1. I love and respect her and would do to her, what i wish on my sister's (my guiding principle).
2. Many have hinted on my laundry business as an inferior business, which can't sustain us, and as a reason why she'll leave in the future. Laundry doesn't define me, laundry isn't what I studied in school, it was a bedrock for me, to test Edo waters in preparation for the ideas that come next. I've always been an achiever right from my uni days (my colleagues can attest to that), plus I'm a health professional, let me not even discuss where I'm coming from (Family background). I do not see marriage or financial dependence on her, as the endpoint. That would have rendered what ever aid I give her as invalid, I just want what's best for all of us.
3. Let come what may, only God can determine my future, I don't accept someone else's experience as the likely outcome of mine, no 2 humans are ever the same. I do listen to advices and sieve out the ones i can relate to.
4. I also passed across the importance of locking SIM cards as much as phones, I believe that we can learn from other people's mistakes.
If you know that all what u r doing if she leaves u can't feel it u can do anything to make her happy but let me tell u d truth and from experience, ladies naturally are very smart in manipulating they behave nicely and angelic once u keep performing father's role on them in fact u ll b thanking God that u v met an angelic one hmmmm... Once she gets freedom financially and a better suitor comes her mindset will change may even ask u what have u done that some one else has not done before, it always looks like film trick but truly it does happen. I can tell, you are doing this because u v fallen in love be careful if u can't handle heartbreak. I was once in ur shoe but learned in hard way.
lonzo: How much be the phone.... pm me ... Bro abeg listen whatever decision you'll make from here onward stick with it... I cant say it'll end good or bad... I understand your pain.. I've been there sadly she passed on before I could get to marry her.. that pain still hurts bro.
LordNicvuitton: Hi Romancelanders, don't know if it's right to share this topic here, but I'll do for now.
I'm Victory, from the East and currently a resident of Edo state. I came to this state, as an intern and thereafter, still served here and in the course of all these, I thought out and established a laundry business, which is just about 8 months old. This was to keep life going and to better bond well with the lady in my life currently.
While in Edo state, having rounded my internship & kickstarting service sometime around 2017, I met this Kiki Osemudiamen (Name changed), and it was nothing serious at 1st, cos I never really thought I'd date someone here, fact is that I never thought I'd stay beyond my service year. I met her while she was in 200l. We encouraged each other, she saw potentials and had faith in me just like I have so much faith in her. She is simplistic, encourages me to save and I in turn, encouraged her and guided her through some of her studies. She passed her 2nd MB.BS. and is currently awaiting lifting of the lockdown on schools, so she can start her clinicals.
Problem is that she came from a not buoyant family financially, and although both parents are alive, she struggles to survive/feed daily. Her dad supplies about 1000litres/trip water to households, while her mum sells at the local market. I on the other hand, came from a middle class family but my Dad is late since 2012, and I've been a sponsor of my education and that of my younger ones through the lil I inherited (which mum manages for now) plus my various endeavours. She depends on me for daily meals and other basic essentials, in fact I had to place her on salary in my laundry shop during this lockdown, so she plays the role of secretary in my shop too.
The latest challenge came about, yesterday. While she slept in the shop, I was out on errand, someone sneaked into the shop and stole her android phone with all of her e-medics textbooks (she reads mostly e-copies because she can't afford hardcopies), she has been crying all through and I really don't know what to do. Since I knew her, She'd been an appendage and an extra financial burden to me, I can't begin to list what I've done for her, although I kept reminding her never to not have entitlement mentality and she does appreciate. Out of desperation to ease her pain, I promised to sponsor her in getting a new phone. I have burdens, huge ones, I'm yet to acquire a diesel engine for my laundry (I use ponytail industrial iron which has higher voltage/current than normal ones), plus other related merchandise that I need to set up and I feel like she slows down my financial pace.
Honestly, I don't do all these for her, hoping for any personal gains, in the words of my daddy in the Lord, Prophet T.B. Joshua, He said and I quote: "We make a living by what we get and we make a life by what we give" but I am almost fed up and tired, especially when I remember that both her parents are still alive.. I am scared that that for the 1st time, I may fail her in that financial obligation because I honestly need money now, with the whole pandemic issue plus, I feel like she slows me down in life financially and a huge burden to me. Right now, she's so attached to me, more so that when I initially wanted to hault our relationship, it almost nearly affected her academics negatively. Please I need matured minds to help me think this through and garnish me with advice(s) because I almost feel so choked up and a rising urge to relocate from here, so i can breathe again.
NB: Advice from married couples and those in serious relationships, will be highly appreciated.
Modified: She went to her bank (First bank) this morning, only to be informed that about 20k (Her mum's business money) has been used to purchase recharge voucher. Her mum sends/receives money from distant customers through her account. Yesterday's scenario, all over again. Please folks, lock your SIM cards just as much as you lock your phones. Learn from this painful experience please.
my brother, I would have said u shud dump the girl. But I won't say so. This girl has potential. She is very serious with her academics, and since she depends on u alone, I assume she does not sleep around. I know Ur fear. U don't want to invest so much only for her to go and marry another man. I wud suggest that, if u truly love her, then consider the option of marrying her NOW. But, PLEASE, No give am belle until she graduates and becomes a doctor. Please don't spoil her future. If u marry her, I believe u will feel comfortable spending all u can on her. It is not really a big deal, as long as u don't bring in kids to complicate life right now
LordNicvuitton: Having received lots of advices, messages of concern, name calling, constructive and not-so-constructive critisms, I accept all in good faith. I shared this and a lot of positive outcomes, came out of it. Please I'd like to reiterate that:
1. I love and respect her and would do to her, what i wish on my sister's (my guiding principle).
2. Many have hinted on my laundry business as an inferior business, which can't sustain us, and as a reason why she'll leave in the future. Laundry doesn't define me, laundry isn't what I studied in school, it was a bedrock for me, to test Edo waters in preparation for the ideas that come next. I've always been an achiever right from my uni days (my colleagues can attest to that), plus I'm a health professional, let me not even discuss where I'm coming from (Family background). I do not see marriage or financial dependence on her, as the endpoint. That would have rendered what ever aid I give her as invalid, I just want what's best for all of us.
3. Let come what may, only God can determine my future, I don't accept someone else's experience as the likely outcome of mine, no 2 humans are ever the same. I do listen to advices and sieve out the ones i can relate to.
4. I also passed across the importance of locking SIM cards as much as phones, I believe that we can learn from other people's mistakes.
Thanks to everyone, I deeply appreciate.
I wish you all the best in what ever decision you take. You're a good person,and I hope you'll end up happy in life.
On a lighter note,I have a feeling your babe goes to the same school with me
lonzo: How much be the phone.... pm me ... Bro abeg listen whatever decision you'll make from here onward stick with it... I cant say it'll end good or bad... I understand your pain.. I've been there sadly she passed on before I could get to marry her.. that pain still hurts bro.
Sorry about the loss Bro, I was touched. An old Anglican hymn says and I quote: "what ever my lot, you have taught me to say, it is well, it is well, with my soul".. everything/everyone that comes your way in life's journey, is there to teach something at that moment in time.
obstead200: my brother, I would have said u shud dump the girl. But I won't say so. This girl has potential. She is very serious with her academics, and since she depends on u alone, I assume she does not sleep around. I know Ur fear. U don't want to invest so much only for her to go and marry another man. I wud suggest that, if u truly love her, then consider the option of marrying her NOW. But, PLEASE, No give am belle until she graduates and becomes a doctor. Please don't spoil her future. If u marry her, I believe u will feel comfortable spending all u can on her. It is not really a big deal, as long as u don't bring in kids to complicate life right now
Lol @dump.. na waste bin? No mind me jare, thanks for your advice. She's focused on her studies and so am I, on my profession and biz.
To the best of my understanding, you are a health worker and business man. If you intend to marry her and she is happy for that, then carry the cross. You will never regret it. Once she graduate, she will get a job and things will open for both of you. I wish you all the best.
I appreciate your kind input. She actually does the laundry in my absence (I work in a hospital within that area) so that when I'm back, I steam and package the clothes, just that i foot her daily meal and daily transport and then pay her monthly. She asked me for it, instead of her staying at home and she also knows that she won't get those extra privileges elsewhere, that she gets from me.
I don't think she's a burden to you... And I don't think she's milking you not slowing you down in anyway, every relationship is all about give an take. What I just see here is you are the type that aspire for more and you always want to invest every penny you have... Get the phone for her if you can sha... Trying to trace the 20k may not be possible sha...
You Are Not GOD! You can never be Jesus! Do the ones you can do! and leave the rest! even if you marry her, there will be days you people will have to financially compromise! if she's a good girl, dont run away because of a temporary set back! if not, plan your exit! https://www.God.bingo
lonzo: How much be the phone.... pm me ... Bro abeg listen whatever decision you'll make from here onward stick with it... I cant say it'll end good or bad... I understand your pain.. I've been there sadly she passed on before I could get to marry her.. that pain still hurts bro.
egopersonified: Start asking her to borrow you money and don't pay back as promised. I am not saying you shouldn't help her out when you deem fit but she is under the impression that even when you complain you still have money to dish out. Till she sees that the well is actually getting dry, she would never be independent. If this pushes her to other men, take a chill pill. I have discovered that girls who see men as their only financial source would never look for a job or business to augment what their guy gives them, they will instead look for a side guy to get extra cash. If she does that, then she was never really worth it.
I would also suggest your purchase one of the items you listed as a need in your business on credit or pay part of it up front. If you do that, you will be cash strapped and not have enough free money lying around to think of charity.
Take care of your girl but if you are feeling trapped or choked up in the relationship, it's time to reevaluate.
Dating a NIGERIAN gal is akin to taking care of an ORPHAN, dia problems no dey ever END Ogbeni OP, dust your slippers, put am for your head and use speed run oooo, else suffer fit kpai you before your time.... But if you've been "Pounding her BANGA" all this while, then make u no complain because you cannot eat your cake and have it, no way. She give you her BANGA to pound, you give her moneyto settle her problems
On the other hand, make she try find something on the side to do. She fit start with CLICKBANK sef Meanwhile, if you've been thinking of how join the trend and shift your hustle to the "ONLINE SPACE", ClickBank is a sure way to get started, and if you need help on how to open CLICKBANK account in Nigeria, this video will teach you how to
My little token: If she has the potential to be a life partner, I would suggest you accommodate her. I am sure of you coping if she were to be your younger sister. Keep investing in her future while hoping she doesn't pay you back with evil.
I want to respectfully keep our intimacy life out of this bro, but just know that I'm her 1st definition of a true love. Most of what you typed, are positive words and i thank you. I've never stopped encouraging her. She has the potential to be a life partner (trust me, I have had experiences to know this) but the financial burden is the negative in all these.
You asked for advice from matured minds who are married and/or in a relationship. I’m above 50 and been married for more than 20 years, so I might feel the criteria;
Question Is your relationship with this a lady a love relationship or her you only her benefactor? Are you in a relationship with someone else? Is this young lady serious with her education? Either way, God has brought you into her life for a reason and do not look at her present despondent situation to stop the good you are doing in her life. As you mentioned, she’s is useful to you as a secretary. If you feel obliged, add to her daily chores to ensure she earns her keep. I do not know you or her, but what you’re doing would not be in vain if you continue. She could have been wayward and unserious with you, but she advices and support you while you were an intern, support her too in her time of need. Either you see it or not, she loves you and desires your growth. Grow her too and one day, you will look back and thank God for bringing her into your life. Shalom!
LordNicvuitton: Hi Romancelanders, don't know if it's right to share this topic here, but I'll do for now.
I'm Victory, from the East and currently a resident of Edo state. I came to this state, as an intern and thereafter, still served here and in the course of all these, I thought out and established a laundry business, which is just about 8 months old. This was to keep life going and to better bond well with the lady in my life currently.
While in Edo state, having rounded my internship & kickstarting service sometime around 2017, I met this Kiki Osemudiamen (Name changed), and it was nothing serious at 1st, cos I never really thought I'd date someone here, fact is that I never thought I'd stay beyond my service year. I met her while she was in 200l. We encouraged each other, she saw potentials and had faith in me just like I have so much faith in her. She is simplistic, encourages me to save and I in turn, encouraged her and guided her through some of her studies. She passed her 2nd MB.BS. and is currently awaiting lifting of the lockdown on schools, so she can start her clinicals.
Problem is that she came from a not buoyant family financially, and although both parents are alive, she struggles to survive/feed daily. Her dad supplies about 1000litres/trip water to households, while her mum sells at the local market. I on the other hand, came from a middle class family but my Dad is late since 2012, and I've been a sponsor of my education and that of my younger ones through the lil I inherited (which mum manages for now) plus my various endeavours. She depends on me for daily meals and other basic essentials, in fact I had to place her on salary in my laundry shop during this lockdown, so she plays the role of secretary in my shop too.
The latest challenge came about, yesterday. While she slept in the shop, I was out on errand, someone sneaked into the shop and stole her android phone with all of her e-medics textbooks (she reads mostly e-copies because she can't afford hardcopies), she has been crying all through and I really don't know what to do. Since I knew her, She'd been an appendage and an extra financial burden to me, I can't begin to list what I've done for her, although I kept reminding her never to not have entitlement mentality and she does appreciate. Out of desperation to ease her pain, I promised to sponsor her in getting a new phone. I have burdens, huge ones, I'm yet to acquire a diesel engine for my laundry (I use ponytail industrial iron which has higher voltage/current than normal ones), plus other related merchandise that I need to set up and I feel like she slows down my financial pace.
Honestly, I don't do all these for her, hoping for any personal gains, in the words of my daddy in the Lord, Prophet T.B. Joshua, He said and I quote: "We make a living by what we get and we make a life by what we give" but I am almost fed up and tired, especially when I remember that both her parents are still alive.. I am scared that that for the 1st time, I may fail her in that financial obligation because I honestly need money now, with the whole pandemic issue plus, I feel like she slows me down in life financially and a huge burden to me. Right now, she's so attached to me, more so that when I initially wanted to hault our relationship, it almost nearly affected her academics negatively. Please I need matured minds to help me think this through and garnish me with advice(s) because I almost feel so choked up and a rising urge to relocate from here, so i can breathe again.
NB: Advice from married couples and those in serious relationships, will be highly appreciated.
Modified: She went to her bank (First bank) this morning, only to be informed that about 20k (Her mum's business money) has been used to purchase recharge voucher. Her mum sends/receives money from distant customers through her account. Yesterday's scenario, all over again. Please folks, lock your SIM cards just as much as you lock your phones. Learn from this painful experience please.
Thanks bro.. beauty never was the attraction, I'm a sapiosexual. That said, she has a good heart, the only difficult thing is that both her parents are alive and she's this dependent on me. I once raised that issue about her parents not doing enough in her life and she cried bitterly. It made me feel bad, like I was reminding her of where she's coming from.
From my point of view it has nothing to do with her family, she is an adult and can make better decisions to improve her personal finance..why should she sleep in the shop If she has your growth at heart she should have started another business of her own and join with yours like recharge card or all these bill payments services like paga and the likes..she can even sell shirts and your customers will definitely patronize her. If you end up with her and this her over dependence mentality,you will be fending for her entire family. NEVER mix business and pleasure. My apologies if I said anything offensive.
5 years down the line, your business is struggling and your lady is busy chasing after her colleague, a senior medical doctor.
You confront her and she doesn’t deny. She tells you to your face she is engaged to the medical doctor. Her family members that know you especially her mother is in support of the engagement to that medical doctor!
You still have the chance now to borrow yourself some sense!
LordNicvuitton: Hi Romancelanders, don't know if it's right to share this topic here, but I'll do for now.
I'm Victory, from the East and currently a resident of Edo state. I came to this state, as an intern and thereafter, still served here and in the course of all these, I thought out and established a laundry business, which is just about 8 months old. This was to keep life going and to better bond well with the lady in my life currently.
While in Edo state, having rounded my internship & kickstarting service sometime around 2017, I met this Kiki Osemudiamen (Name changed), and it was nothing serious at 1st, cos I never really thought I'd date someone here, fact is that I never thought I'd stay beyond my service year. I met her while she was in 200l. We encouraged each other, she saw potentials and had faith in me just like I have so much faith in her. She is simplistic, encourages me to save and I in turn, encouraged her and guided her through some of her studies. She passed her 2nd MB.BS. and is currently awaiting lifting of the lockdown on schools, so she can start her clinicals.
Problem is that she came from a not buoyant family financially, and although both parents are alive, she struggles to survive/feed daily. Her dad supplies about 1000litres/trip water to households, while her mum sells at the local market. I on the other hand, came from a middle class family but my Dad is late since 2012, and I've been a sponsor of my education and that of my younger ones through the lil I inherited (which mum manages for now) plus my various endeavours. She depends on me for daily meals and other basic essentials, in fact I had to place her on salary in my laundry shop during this lockdown, so she plays the role of secretary in my shop too.
The latest challenge came about, yesterday. While she slept in the shop, I was out on errand, someone sneaked into the shop and stole her android phone with all of her e-medics textbooks (she reads mostly e-copies because she can't afford hardcopies), she has been crying all through and I really don't know what to do. Since I knew her, She'd been an appendage and an extra financial burden to me, I can't begin to list what I've done for her, although I kept reminding her never to not have entitlement mentality and she does appreciate. Out of desperation to ease her pain, I promised to sponsor her in getting a new phone. I have burdens, huge ones, I'm yet to acquire a diesel engine for my laundry (I use ponytail industrial iron which has higher voltage/current than normal ones), plus other related merchandise that I need to set up and I feel like she slows down my financial pace.
Honestly, I don't do all these for her, hoping for any personal gains, in the words of my daddy in the Lord, Prophet T.B. Joshua, He said and I quote: "We make a living by what we get and we make a life by what we give" but I am almost fed up and tired, especially when I remember that both her parents are still alive.. I am scared that that for the 1st time, I may fail her in that financial obligation because I honestly need money now, with the whole pandemic issue plus, I feel like she slows me down in life financially and a huge burden to me. Right now, she's so attached to me, more so that when I initially wanted to hault our relationship, it almost nearly affected her academics negatively. Please I need matured minds to help me think this through and garnish me with advice(s) because I almost feel so choked up and a rising urge to relocate from here, so i can breathe again.
NB: Advice from married couples and those in serious relationships, will be highly appreciated.
Modified: She went to her bank (First bank) this morning, only to be informed that about 20k (Her mum's business money) has been used to purchase recharge voucher. Her mum sends/receives money from distant customers through her account. Yesterday's scenario, all over again. Please folks, lock your SIM cards just as much as you lock your phones. Learn from this painful experience please.
My guy.from all you narrated I can say that you are truly in love with her.and she is equally a nice girl too.but due to the financial burden you are becoming tired of her.it happens even if you are very wealthy and someone continues to request or depend on you for money at a point you will feel tired.but if you really think this girl in question is a nice person,though there is no sure way to find out this,but if u are convinced she is nice,don't quit the relationship or run from the state cos of her. I suggested you sit her down explain to her all the burden you face currently and how you need to be careful with expenses at this phase of you life,as a growing young man, still trying to stand in life.I know she is young and won't understand you totally but if she is really a nice person she will be more considerate afterwards. Secondly, try to find out from her what business she can do even while in school.I no a lot of medical students that did small business to sport them selfs throughout school.businesses like selling cloth(OK), eggs, kerosine, some even bought refrigerator and sold fish in the hostel. Medical equipments like test tubes,practical stuffs,credit etc.some learnt skills like making hairs,make ups, event planning, though the leta will take time to learn. I suggested u ask her wic one will be better for her support her to start it, then you can have some relive.you can decide to still place her on salary no matter how little.i believe this will help her be a little bit independent and you will be a bit relieved. And you both will enjoy the relationship. But make sure you have attained that level of emotional maturity that even if in the future she leave you for another guy that if won't put you into depression. I suggest you allow your mind know that helping her doesn't guaranty anything. If you cant get your mind to do this then just do the ones you won't regret leta.may God help you take the right decision
You probably feel she's a burden on you. My candid advise. I noted as you said that she's been very helpful in your laundry work especially when you ain't available. You feed and transport her to and fro...you also pay her monthly salary for now. Again, she's is your girlfriend whom I feel you love cos of the closeness you have accorded her. My brother, forget the facts that are parents are alive and not performing their responsibility, that's common nowadays. You never mentioned that she's a cheat or has a queer attitude other than the dependency. My suggestion my brother, call her and discuss with her which I know she would appreciate very well. Stop the salary for now to be able to buy her another phone....tell her you will keep her salary for her till big enough to buy her another phone while you pay her trans and feeding as usual. If a month salary is enough to buy her a phone, good and if not two months wouldn't be bad....between us and to be sincerely, downloaded medical books are much cheaper and very current than hardcopies...she's really a good lady to do that .....don't feel stress up my brother, you are a good man and I think you have a good lady by your side, just guide her, tame her and make her an enigma. She's has the head to read books unlike some stupid slayers and baby mamas....forget everyother bad advises and stick with your lady in this unfortunate period of her life....this is the time to make her yours and plan her life for her very well since seems she sees you as her mother, father, lover and dependent.... Do this and you will be good. Don't loose your woman for anything.....take care...
never date and support a student financially - it almost never end well
More than a decade ago, I dated this girl I met on the day I was leaving Nigeria after a short visit - we met at the airport as she was seeing a Rev Sister in her parish off and we got talking and one thing led to another we exchanged numbers - i got to the states and we kept communicating and she was an undergrad at UNILAG then - and after a few months of chatting and phone calls - she started complaining how her parents are not supporting her education because they were poor bla bla bla and initially I was so reluctant in sending her anything - but after a while - I said to myself - if this girl calls me all the time and we laugh and joke and open up all the time about life's dreams, and matters- why not just give her even if its 20k to survive a bit - that's not up to what I spend in going out on a Friday night to hang out with friends- so I sent her 20k like 3 times within a year and I was not expecting anything from her - I just felt like helping afterall the money i sent cant buy me anything tangible - its beer money here - afterall she is a "good girl"
cut a long story short - i had to get some documents from a business partner who was having housing issue and going thru a divorce, who resides in Ibadan and I sent this girl 10k to go to Ibadan from LAGOS to get the documents and keep it safely for me as I was planning on coming to Nigeria in a few weeks time (although I didnt open up to her I was coming to Nigeria - I wanted to surprise her) - she took the money and she didn't go and she started avoiding me.
I was stunned - and furious because it was important that she does, after promising me she will- do you know when we got into a little heated argument - I just told her - "girl, I am disappointed u didnt go get those documents- afterall each time you call to tell me ur problems- at east I show concern - only once and the first time I asked you to do something for me, you didnt.... she thundered in response, "what and who do u think u are ? because you live abroad, you think you can just order me around? - or is it the little change you gave me? Did I send you to help me? hmmm thank God she never begged me for money oooo bla bla bla - I froze!!!!
This girl didnt even realize that I was planning to empower her with $5,000 to open a provision store so she can study in there and sell - then still go to school - I was trying to surprise her with the package because I was already developing feelings for her. After she insulted the living day lights out of me - I simply knelt down and thanked my God I didn't give her that money and I celebrated like for a week - because she pretended for 15 months as being so sweet and caring and a PRETTY wife material that I almost made a blunder - N60K in a year of benevolence and N10k for an errand she didn't honor are nothing compared to $5,000 I would have given to this ungrateful girl
so - if you do not desist and leave this girl alone - when she graduates and starts working - you will hear things like
1. did i send you to help me?
2. what did you do for me that someone cant do?
3. is it not your mate that take their gal to shop in MARS and the MOON?
4. ordinary food, phone and tfare you gave me, you are shouting - are you this broke ?
5. what's your own - did i not give you kponmo?
6. when your mates were serious with life- you were chasing after women - (as if she is not the woman that ate you dry)
7. I beg make we hear word, when people are talking about opening a business - you sef will be talking
8. which kain yeye business u open - is laundry business a business ?
9. I am not the one who wrecked you oooo - please go and look for those who ate your money
10. what did you spend for me - calculate it and I will pay you back - nonsense (that is if you are lucky she has any integrity)
OP - stop dulling yourself and leave this gal alone - you are are not Jesus Christ and let her go and meet her father for help. Chikena!!!!!
My guy.from all you narrated I can say that you are truly in love with her.and she is equally a nice girl too.but due to the financial burden you are becoming tired of her.it happens even if you are very wealthy and someone continues to request or depend on you for money at a point you will feel tired.but if you really think this girl in question is a nice person,though there is no sure way to find out this,but if u are convinced she is nice,don't quit the relationship or run from the state cos of her. I suggested you sit her down explain to her all the burden you face currently and how you need to be careful with expenses at this phase of you life,as a growing man still trying to stand in life.I know he is young and won't understand you totally but if she is really a nice person she will be my considerate afterwards. Secondly, try to find out from her what business she can do even while in school.I no a lot of medical students that did small business to sport them selfs throughout school.businesses like selling cloth(OK), eggs, kerosine, some even bought refrigerator and sold fish in the hostel. Medical equipments like test tubes,practical stuffs,credit etc.some learnt skills like making hairs,make ups, event planning though the leta will take time to learn I suggested u ask her wic one will be better for her support her to start it then you can have some relive.you can decide to still place her on salary i believe this will her be a little bit independent and you will be a bit relieved. And you both will enjoy the relationship.
I don't usually comment on this kind of post, but I will now. You're a dickhead. What are you giving her that has not been given before?!!!!!!!! Peanuts!!!!!!! For all I know, she might be sleeping because you got her pregnant, now you're coming out to cry foul! I mean, y wash her dirty linen outside! Your girlfriend, your problem! Talk to her!!! You're the type who would rush to involve third parties when you get married. She should just abandon yr sorry a#s, and you'd be good riddance to bad rubbish!!!!!!!
You are an intern, she is also a medical student. She will become a doctor one day and become a proud wife of yours. I understand loads are heavy on you now but look beyond now. She might be your saving grace in the future. If she's a good n marriageable girl, you are only investing on the mother of your unborn kids. Nevertheless, there should be boundary. She mustn't bother you about financial plight of anyone in her family. It's not your duty. And if she has many younger ones, that's where I would have problem with her if I were you. If you love her, you can continue with her. See her as your sister you can't cut away. As for the phone, it's a minor thing you will both overcome. God will provide.
You are helping her today, she might be the one to elevate you later in life.
