| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by TemmyT002(m): 6:48am On Aug 01, 2020 |
You people are not asking the right questions.
Who is the main boyfriend? She should tell us so that we can warn him.
My advice for you: If the new guy is sensible, he will realize that if you can leave a guy for him, you can leave him for another guy too. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Qudman1(m): 6:48am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Sister Calm down!!! |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Dewisedick: 6:48am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Go Nah! No be you go regret latter. This is why most ladies don't get married forever. You see a guy who had been a little good to you for so long and may even be planning settling with you' yet you dump him half way because you come across one who is just coming "to taste what he thinks you have," who will dump you once he is done doing it. When you will realize who the new guy is it will be too late for you.
Such guys are like fish with human face. Shei Una want die to material things bah?
If you think we'll, all the things ladies have been collected from men this way, they never use it for anything good. I wish the innocent guy a better partner 'once you leave him. 
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| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by JoseRaji(m): 6:48am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Mtchewww... Immature girls everywhere. The new guy represents everything you want... What do you even have to offer? |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by mankind9(m): 6:50am On Aug 01, 2020 |
That new guy is really a good guy and he knows what he wants. Now theck this out before you make a wrong decision.
That new guy decided to cut all communications with you because he is a disciplined guy and he is straight forward. He doesn't want to do to other man what he wouldn't want someone else to do to him. He doesn't want to destroy another man like him relationship.
I bet you, if you force yourself on that guy and tell him you have broken up with your boyfriend afterwards, you will regret leaving your current boyfriend. Quote me now. If you leave your boyfriend for this new guy, you likely won't be respected by this new guy because he has totally got a perception of the kind of girl you are and he won't respect you. Don't ever make a man know you are leaving someone for him. He will treat you like trash and will use the decision you are about to take against you. Quote me 1 Like |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by femi4: 6:52am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
Everything seems perfect from afar until you come closer. You don't know if his flaws is bigger than your present bf |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Nobody: 6:53am On Aug 01, 2020 |
You're not married just break off and move to the next guy, stop being emotional but just know you have to lie on your own bed , when it hits the rock. The grass always looks greener.
Its not a big deal its just relationship not marriage. Though I wouldn't do that because everyone is perfect until you date them |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by rebranded(m): 6:57am On Aug 01, 2020 |
I hope this helps you..when you are in a relationship you sont give a listening ear to a new guy..the moment you do that shows you are not committed to your relationship.
Very very high chance this new guy will turn out not to be all you think at the end of the day. My suggestion is you forget the new guy completely and put all your energy into your relationship |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by psalmylee(m): 7:03am On Aug 01, 2020 |
TimeTraveler369:
Should we tell her?  this time it won't end in years ,she will suffer for 600yyrs in this life |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by alizma: 7:04am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
My advise is that you should try and get along with the new guy and leave your old boyfriend. The reason is that your love for him has fade and you may never be happy with him especially should the new guy remains better financially in the future. At this point, It is better you have a fail relationship with the new guy than to stick to the old guy. Good luck 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by fasty: 7:04am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
We'll, I look forward to see the future of this love entanglement. The choice is yours... And for the Mr Nice guy, I wish him nothing but the best in his future love-life. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Akhirastriver(m): 7:08am On Aug 01, 2020 |
ValeeLove:
What if you accept the new guy and you see another guy with a better better quality than him? Simple ,she'll do this same thing. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by NobleDeSage001: 7:08am On Aug 01, 2020 |
This new guy represents everything I want in a guy
Na so you go still meet guy wey get even 99% qualities better than this new guy.
Relationship is not for the fickle minded. It is a very serious business and should be treated so.
Flip the coin and put yourself in your boyfriend's shoe. If you don't feel any pain of him dumping you, then "bon voyage!"
I am certainly sure you are not more than 22 years... 1 Like |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by fasty: 7:10am On Aug 01, 2020 |
donstan18:
If you are a Guy reading this, please pay attention.
You see this?
You see this?
And this?
And this too....
You see those 4 parts I highlighted? They should be the reason why you should never expect much from GIRLFRIENDS, they are just hoes parading as Girlfriends.
The earlier you understand this the better for you. Thanks!! In addition, it is important to highlight the 'nice to me' part, which has always being the reward for MR NICE GUY. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Mike008(m): 7:11am On Aug 01, 2020 |
This doesn't call for condemnation people.
Y'all already acting like she has already left the old guy for the new one. If she had "lied" the old guy has bad qualities which should be enough to leave him, you people will still castigate and call her a ho and all.
This is story of someone been honest and sincere with the truth, and again her conscience tells her it is something heavy to take so she needs advice, not insults and condemnation.
Remember she didn't go hunting, she was hunted so the problem is not with her, but how much the new guy has turned her charm on in a way her old boyfriend hasn't, and the woman in you is simply reacting accordingly.
However before you make a decision, be sure you are at that sound age where you can really decide what you want.
Be certain you have never told the new guy the things you like about a man, he may be playing to your script, and if you haven't, take more time to understand him.
Be certain your affection for the new guy is not because of money.
I can recommend an expert who may have an answer to your predicament. 3 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Torie8(f): 7:12am On Aug 01, 2020 |
So you want to leave your boyfriend for one guy abi,after your boyfriend don package you finish come give u levels and next for to talk be say the new guy better pass am, now u think say u don arrive,so the next thing for u na to leave am go follow the one wey you think say na your taste. So you think say your boyfriend no see another girl wey better pass you before him come friend. If you leave that your boyfriend eh na you go suffer am. Is your type that will make men to be downgrading we the ladies anyhow. You better get sense now. 1 Like 
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| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Victor0885: 7:14am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Forget this new guy and stay loyal to your bf. It could be a test; you never know. 1 Like |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Oghenerobo2002(m): 7:17am On Aug 01, 2020 |
I feel like I'm the guy she's referring to. I have known this babe for same period, and she told me a guy is asking her out. She feels the guy has better qualities and since then, I've been backing off slowly so I don't have a heart attack 2 Likes |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Osanoghodua1: 7:18am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Pre-Marital sex is called fornication and it's a sin before God, it has a bad effect on you and your future. Repent and stop it. Between both guys, I suggest you approach God in prayers but stop a childish emotional breakdown show strength as resilience be a real woman. God help you. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by sonofElElyon: 7:18am On Aug 01, 2020 |
very deep.. probably the deepest relationship advice on nairaland. dukeprince50:
dont go and make up ur mind, be here doing DELAYtionship and decamping from one man to the other every three months,
U think relationship is build on physical qualities? In life u will always find someone more attractive than the one u are currently dating, wen that time comes, emotional maturity will help u, self control will come to ur rescue and commitment will keep u going, u think happily married couples dont see better qualities, Relationship should not be build on qualities but understanding that commitment is ur greatest arsenal, u can fall in love with anyone but building a relationship takes more than that, but u are just 16yrs, u wont understand
dicey dice u there, Rubbish |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by frozen70(f): 7:20am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
Don't you think the new guy just want a shot with you and go away Wipe his memories of your brain and concentrate on your boyfriend Your boy friend is your real friend the other one just want a fling and that's it |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Akhirastriver(m): 7:21am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Women sha, I used to see post lyk fear women fear them,don't over love a woman .I just think maybe those people didn't find thier perfect match ,until I experienced it yesterday , There's nothing I didn't do for this girl ,care or attention everything ,last last she left ..Very painful . 1 Like |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by kaywhy09(m): 7:22am On Aug 01, 2020 |
I usually tell any lady I newly get into that there'll always be a better person. Yet, they mostly leave when someone seemingly better shows.
Please, as a lady or a guy, if you are the type that can leave the moment you see better offer, always make that known to the person you're into before you go deeper. So, such can always be ready for the day you'll say goodbye.
Your relationship is whatever you make it to be. Your seemingly new good guy will turnout to be below standard when another seemingly better person show.
And, have you ever thought about why the new guy is still single despite the fact that he is 'so good'? Or you think you're the first person he'll ever encounter in his wake as a man?
Think about it. Think well about it. Give it enough time and think well about it.
But if I will advice you, I will tell you to appreciate whatever you truly have and make it the best you could ever get. That's the only way you can truly find long term joy in any relationship. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Burgerlomo: 7:24am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Ningen:
Your boyfriend was right there for you.
But you literally choose a stranger over him.
Your emotional infidelity is all over the place so I cannot advise you to stay, and not to leave him.
Run along into the arms of your new guy.
Don't double date.
Just have the decency be honest. Let him know WHY you're leaving him. These hoes ain't loyal... I just feel sorry for her boyfriend, the dude doesn't deserve this type of gal as his future partner, alainitelorun olojukokoro obinrin.  1 Like |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Osanoghodua1: 7:26am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Oghenerobo2002:
I feel like I'm the guy she's referring to. I have known this babe for same period, and she told me a guy is asking her out. She feels the guy has better qualities and since then, I've been backing off slowly so I don't have a heart attack Na wash, if it's you, you can't even come up here to say it. Na wash you dey wash |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by OyinO: 7:26am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Most people insulting the OP are not matured or simply manifesting the religious hypocrisy syndrome whereby Nigerians use religion to cover their wickedness. Having said that,
A man or Woman will be moved or attracted to the opposite sex that appears to be more endowed (in every ramifications) than their present boyfriend or girlfriend. It's natural! They may suppress the feelings but it's there. However, for the OP, an Hausa proverb says that you should never leave the branch of a tree only to cling to the leafs. Secondly, the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. You can help your boyfriend to cultivate and develop those traits that you admire in the new guy. That's sacrifice and love. But if you're so much in love with the new guy, and it's causing you emotional problems, lack of focus in your relationship, etc., then move on with the new guy because where there's no mutual joy and happiness, just like between the Northern and Southern regional lovers of Nigeria, bonds get weaker and there's bound to be disintegration in the long run. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Burgerlomo: 7:27am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
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| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by kaywhy09(m): 7:30am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Victor0885:
Forget this new guy and stay loyal to your bf. It could be a test; you never know. That's how my ex was romancing a new contact with big identity, not knowing I'm the one behind the scene. And her nonsense saying is always about trust trust trust. Very Nonsense! 1 Like |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Trainee223: 7:31am On Aug 01, 2020 |
gaius01:
well I understand your point let's talk this talk out of the basket. like you said no signs of abuse neither unfaithfulness. Do you know a girl could break up with you because of lack care, incompatibility, too boring and lots more. from what I can deduce her boyfriend ain't giving her the vibes the other was giving her can you imagine the qualities she listed. dam look at it again, and Las Las her boo is not cheating neither does he abuse her. when I was dating I never allow my chatting vibes to be low, I read alot of wide range so that when we start chatting men she won't have time texting those boys because I know if I don't occupy her with vibes others will
one problem with we Nigerians is that when our Bea is cheating, look at your self, take a deep scan through, ask your self, What makes that guy different from me not getting angry or shouting at her every body want a lively boo no one boring, faithful dude. learn new ways to be Romantic, learn her phycology so that you can inflict it for your sef. if she love your vibes trust me she woñt look out albeit you been faithful. So because of women I should go and learn all this rubbish you are typing..... Ogbeni money is the only thing that keep those hoes loyal nothing more. You fit use romantic word sleep with u but that we never keep her loyal because as u get sweet word reach another guy still pass u 1 Like |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by GalPissetzky: 7:31am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
u be block head nd a gold digger . the has more i am sure is money. your type will still leave this new one when u see another that has more potentials or qualities than him and that lader will continue. you are just up for the highest bider. btw, that guy is a siren like me. we mind Bleep u and make u come for us and then we Bleep and dumb u. i dont even know why u are writung this here. u have made up your mind already he is the highest bidder for now. please leave your present bf , he dosnt deserve a hoe and gold digger like u . u where already cheating on him when u where with him. he deserve better girls. u think he never met better girls than u. please send me his number i need to tell him something im[ortant. useless olosho gold digging bastard. |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by oodua1stson: 7:31am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Favour2323:
Nairalanders, I'm about to do something my conscience doesn't agree with but it feels like the right decision to make. I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for the past 6 months. I love him. We were good friends before we started dating. I'm someone who doesn't trust easily and I like to assess a guy for a while before dating him. I assessed his intentions and I realised he didn't just want to have sex with me and leave. He loved me just as I loved him.
Three months ago I met this guy. At first I just saw him as a friend, but as I got to know him I started noticing the good qualities he possessed. He's very attractive, very intelligent and wellspoken. My conversations with him were so immersive. The little time I spent with him always left a profound impression on me. Soon I noticed I had started developing feelings for him. I was still in love with my boyfriend nevertheless.
One day the new guy asked me if I had a boyfriend. I told him I did. The next day he called me and said that he didn't want to interfere with my relationship. He said he had feelings for me and he couldn't remain friends with me when he knows I have a boyfriend. I told him that I had feelings for him as well and that we could still remain friends but he refused and suggested that we stopped talking. He hasn't called or texted me since that day.
This situation has left me in an emotional turmoil. This new guy represents everything I want in a guy and as much as I don't want to admit it, he possesses better qualities than my boyfriend. I can't imagine a life where I can't talk to him anymore. I really like him. His decision has left me in a dicey position. It's unfair to leave my boyfriend who has always been nice to me for someone else, but the new guy doesn't want to have anything to do with me again as long as I'm in a relationship.
Please I need advice. I don't want to make the wrong decision.
do what makes you happy. And if that means leaving the 1st guy, then so be it. You don't owe anyone your vagina Just know 2 can play this game |
| Re: I Want To Leave My Boyfriend For A New Guy. by Matchingsquad10: 7:32am On Aug 01, 2020 |
Confusion everywhere..... Just calm down woman you might be seeing a mirage. |
