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Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by chloride6: 12:30pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
You know why African parents flog and European dont flog? Cos Europeans provide privileges they can withdraw. African parents can't afford privileges so they resort to flogging. 1 Like |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by Afritop(m): 12:31pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
The best way my parents, School teachers and guardians disciplined me and made me come this far is the best way I will discipline my child. |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by ModestGal(f): 12:32pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
dgr8truth:Lol, how much is in your bank account? Why should you in cooperate unnecessary fears in children? Thats why Nigerians youth are one hell of coward people, and their ancestors are still ruling them. What is the benefit of incooperating fears that would make children lack confidence 2 Likes |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by Annwrites: 12:37pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
Rewarding and taking away privileges When the child does something wrong especially if you have corrected them about it earlier, some of the privileges they enjoy can be taken away from them. And there is the case of reward. If your child is of good behavior, you reward them too. It is very wrong for parents to wait until when their child does something wrong before taking positive action. Let them understand that good behavior and bad behaviors come with consequences. Talking to them Talk to your children and let them understand why what they did is wrong. But first, you should ask and listen to their reason for engaging in bad behavior. You never can tell what you will uncover. Also, let them understand how good behavior could affect their lives positively and how bad behaviors can affect their life negatively. No Spanking Spanking doesn't work. If it works our society won't be the way it is today. Look around you and tell me how many people turned out well. Not many and our society is a sad reflection of that. Undoubtedly, spanking is abuse. Your child doesn't need to internalize pain to be corrected of bad behaviors. Sometimes you need to seek professional help You notice your underage child is showing amorous behaviors, stealing, fighting unnecessarily, gambling, or suffering from NPD, don't just tell yourself that you can handle it on your own. Take them to see professionals. Lastly, be present in their lives How can an absentee parent correct his or her child? One, the child won't even see you as responsible enough to be correcting them (Yes, children think like this). Two, you don't understand the genesis of the behavior so how do you know the best way to correct them. On this note, be your child's best friend. Let them feel comfortable to confide in you, allow them to grow in confidence around you, and with these, as a precedent you just may know how best to discipline them. Ciao!!! 1 Like |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by Jymsyno: 12:39pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
Flogging is biblical. Provide 22:15. Let God be true and let all men be liers. 1 Like |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by edoairways: 12:40pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
Righteousness89:This statement is misinterpreted |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by Nobody: 12:42pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
udoekere: Follow the child accordingly...there's no best way. Flogging should be the maximum type of punishment, use it once in a while so that a child doesnt get used to it. 2 - 6 strokes is okay. 1 Like |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by doctormoh(m): 12:43pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
Whooop that ass to establish sense in their mendular faculty.. Applicable if the child is becoming a rascal. Chastise the child with words if he/she is deviated for the first time, though in love. Stick & Carrot approach is game on.. |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by edoairways: 12:43pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
Annwrites:I agree with you |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by NwaIgboBoy(m): 12:43pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
don't listen to him when he tries begging u ....."mummy calm down na!!"" |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by edoairways: 12:44pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
Brachaa:Misinterpreted verse, |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by moscobabs(m): 12:44pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
AmazonTopaz: Were u an animal when your parents used to beat u? Or u are a product of indomie generation 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by edoairways: 12:45pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
Let me give a disserted view from a bible scholar on discpline. This will answer your question on the word rod. "Christian parents frequently seek the Bible in their effort to raise godly children. They believe that there is a biblical mandate to spank and they fear that if they don't spank, they will commit the sin of losing control of their child. They believe that God has commended them to spank and they take “spare the rod and spoil the child” literally, but in doing so they misunderstand the concept of the rod. The following are the biblical verses which have caused the greatest confusion: 1.He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.” (Proverbs 13:24) 2.“Folly is bound up in the heart of a child. But the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.” (Proverbs 22:15) “3. Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod he will not die. Punish him with the rod and save his soul from death.” (Proverbs 23:13-14) 4. “The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to itself disgraces his mother.” (Proverbs 29:15) At first glance these verses seem to be in strong support of the use of corporal punishment, but do they really? Through a closer examination of the Hebrew word for “rod” (shebet) one can see that in the Hebrew dictionary it has various meanings, a stick for walking, writing, fighting, ruling, and punishment. The word “shebet” is most frequently used when referring to shepherds who are tending their flocks. The Shepherds used the stick to fight off prey and to gently guide wandering sheep, not to beat them Reread the passages above and replace the references to punishment and the use of the rod with the word “accountability” and the meaning stays the same. For example: Proverbs 13:24 would read, “He who spares accountability hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.” Proverbs 22:15 would read, “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child. But holding him accountable will drive it far from him.” Proverbs 23:13-14 would read, “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you create a culture of accountability he will not die. Create accountability and save his soul from death.” Proverbs 29:15 would read, “The culture of accountability imparts wisdom, but a child left to itself disgraces his mother.” Christians believe that the bible is the inspired word of God and yet while holding fast to interpreting the “rod” in the Proverbs passages above as a mandate to spank, they dismiss other passages that seem too harsh by today’s standards, such as, “Anyone who attacks his father or his mother must be put to death.” (Exodus 21:15) or “If anyone curses his father or mother, he must be put to death. He has cursed his father or his mother, and his blood will be on his own head.” (Leviticus 20:9) Almost every parent would admit that their child has at one time said, “I hate you.” or “You’re not the boss of me.” or maybe, “F--- YOU.” But no one would say that their child should be put to death. And we would all agree that that child needs to held accountable for their choice in behavior. The Bible simply does not support spanking, it supports holding children accountable. Source :Biblical Perspectives on Spanking By Thomas Haller and Chick Moorman @Brachaa |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by vickydevoka(m): 12:46pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
In Africa flogging is really welcome here |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by Nobody: 12:51pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
edoairways: How? Educate me Sir. |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by Nobody: 12:55pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
You should first discipline yourself before your child, what do you do that is bad? Don't do it in front of your children lest they learn it, don't insult your child (this is very important) taking the crazy beings we have today especially in Africa who think they were brought up well then any small thing "your father is a fool" "your mother" "idiot" I hate the fact that I do this but my parents unfortunately had a hand in it so don't even try it, don't use bad words in front of them, teach them how to do the right thing which is respecting other people's decisions about themselves and their feelings, teach them to respect other people no matter the age, caste or class, should they do anything wrong then punish them by deprivation, I will tell you solemnly that flogging doesn't work now, remember back then in school when a teacher flogged you, if you were able to behave like it was not painful your respect increases therefore people (e.g me) got into more trouble just because of respect , sounds funny right, if you flog your children one day they will tell themselves "highest na to flog" and they will collect the so called strokes or beating and behave like nothing happened, worst of all they might fight with you one day and this destroys the parental relationship between parent and child believe me when I say this. And lastly and most importantly teach them to develop personal values and not to follow the herd, this is very important because 90% of our youths these days can't think for themselves and it is disgusting but well I believe in "live and let live". Teach them to think for themselves and to also be reasonable and rational too (this won't apply for Christians or Muslims) |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by Oghenerobo2002(m): 12:57pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
It's funny to see people referring to 'flogging' as ancient, and advice whatever. A child will definitely lack manners if he/she is not flogged appropriately. Even when the child gets to 15 and above, flogging should be substituted for slap on the face. The way kids behave these days, I fear for the future. Just like someone above me said, those above 30 or so, had no nonsense fathers, and it helped shaped their lives. 1 Like |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by Annwrites: 1:03pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
edoairways: Thanks |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by Peacefultosin01: 1:06pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
Flogging done moderately. Threat of depriving him of certain benefits. Punishment with moderation. Try to make him understand why he should or should not do what. Above all, be an example to him. |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by Playermayweda(m): 1:24pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
Flogging is not an effective way of correction,This country have been flogging from the beginning and is one of the most corrupt contries in the world,Apply wisdom |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by Playermayweda(m): 1:26pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
SegFault: This is true,Some even flog without giving a reason for it,If the child feels he did nothing wrong,He will never learn |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by sylve11: 1:26pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
Hmmm |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by Missyajoke(f): 1:38pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
Righteousness89: God bless you ohh Discipline a child they won't listen when the child becomes a drug addict or something bad now they'll be shouting help. Spare the rod and spoil the child, as for me any child that doesn't listen needs to be disciplined. I don't have time for nonsense 2 Likes |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by Aimerosa25(f): 1:41pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
MmKchampions:I know it is but parents do it,I've seen and heard about it. |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by Nobody: 1:55pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
Measure 2 rubber of beans and tell the child to pick it clean. It will humble him/her humble. |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by CaptainFM1: 2:04pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
By Calming Down with him. |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by dgr8truth(m): 2:15pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
ModestGal: What does the money in my bank account has to do with the comment. I never said unnecessary fear. Didn't you read where I said you flog a child when necessary. The urge to reply shouldn't supersede our ability to read and understand. 2 Likes |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by Abusadiq01(m): 2:17pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
Bkayyy: U mumu Aswear
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Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by Abusadiq01(m): 2:19pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
Jerkules: 1 Like
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Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by Enyari: 2:23pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
Traviscottt: Heavens! How the hell did you get a phone? Are you even human |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by Enyari: 2:25pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
Samirana360: You're not human, right? Or just a crazy one... |
Re: What's The Best Way To Discipline A Child? by karkel(m): 3:20pm On Aug 12, 2020 |
DICKstractor:what locking the child |
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