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Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by Jacqueline22(f): 8:06am On Aug 16, 2020
Who na told you I won’t date you?

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Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by Yxxx: 8:11am On Aug 16, 2020
OutsideTheBox:
1. If you're truly good looking as you say (though no pic for us to confirm ooo), they may think you're a player.
2. It could be you're not that cute. Some guys do tend to hype their looks.
3. You haven't met the right person yet
4. Issa spiritual something and you need to fast and pray



Make person no kpeme for point 4 òoo.
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by loswhite(m): 8:15am On Aug 16, 2020
KingintheNorth:


Yea I'm very well groomed I'm a banker actually and I have never been a flirt .
lol banker that is not a flirt....lol fantabulous
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by wumi2017(f): 8:15am On Aug 16, 2020
KingintheNorth:
This started about 3 years ago, after my Ex girlfriend of 5yrs got married , it took me awhile to move on ,but when I now finally decided to start seeing other women, they all started acting the way .....they will want to hang out, gist ,laugh ,sex but wouldnt want to date me which is exactly what I've been looking for...
I'm good looking ,very tall have a good job .obviously to me, I don't think any girl will have any excuse for not being interested in dating me. I am tired of trying and having the same results Everytime.. Please what should I do??
.


Character matter most check yourself
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by shortgun(m): 8:15am On Aug 16, 2020
Funny thread...this life no balance at all.
Your post is just the opposite of my experience with girls.
I was about creating a thread about it.


I can't have a fling or 1 night stand with any girl and have peace of mind, they will start to call my phones all day n night, they will send loads of messages.
I disabled WhatsApp notifications cos girls.

The one am battling now is call girl...an olosho oo.
We settled price oo, we Bleep.d and i paid.
Now this daughter of marine kingdom is calling and telling me how she loves me grin
How she bought the best SK in town for me and wants me to come to her place to get it.


I wish I have ur life bro...you don't know what you want to get into. Be careful what you are wishing for.

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Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by loswhite(m): 8:16am On Aug 16, 2020
Miniso:
A lady that will want to hang out, gist ,laugh have sex with you abeg what else do u want. biko nu
lol are they not already dating
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by loswhite(m): 8:16am On Aug 16, 2020
samincredible44:


bro he will question them from now til tomorrow there will still be no tangible reply.he need a strong white garment church to flog out that demon
lol
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by KingintheNorth(m): 8:32am On Aug 16, 2020
Bizzyman:
What is the age range of these girls? Are they below 25?

I prefer 24 yrs n above
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by KingintheNorth(m): 8:33am On Aug 16, 2020
loswhite:
lol banker that is not a flirt....lol fantabulous


Lol...not all bankers are flirts
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by Funkyswagzz(m): 8:38am On Aug 16, 2020
KingintheNorth:



Both social media and in real life.

Bro forget about all the questions.. tbh u are too open to them. And stop being too nice to women. Our girls like a guy that is mysterious. Stop being all playful and funny cos that will make them friend zone u asap. Don't ask a woman out after sex cos they feel u are a player. Besides good lookin guys are always taken as players. Women believe handsome guy won't be faithful to them no matter how hard u try to convince them. U should know ur way around women buh pls stop being all funny, playful and don't ask them out after sex. Women watch every move u make and whatever u put across to them will reflect back to u. U got to change ur manner of approach. And please if you are too quick to offer women money cut it off.

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Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by Youngpo413: 8:44am On Aug 16, 2020
KingintheNorth:


Well...I'm not and it's very clear to them .
There are so many important things to focus on apart from women...
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by Skmoda360(m): 8:48am On Aug 16, 2020
KingintheNorth:
This started about 3 years ago, after my Ex girlfriend of 5yrs got married , it took me awhile to move on ,but when I now finally decided to start seeing other women, they all started acting the way .....they will want to hang out, gist ,laugh ,sex but wouldnt want to date me which is exactly what I've been looking for...
I'm good looking ,very tall have a good job .obviously to me, I don't think any girl will have any excuse for not being interested in dating me. I am tired of trying and having the same results Everytime.. Please what should I do??
Talk to the village girl to free you....you don offend one babe for your village way done tie your matter for rope say "no woman go marry you"....
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by Skmoda360(m): 8:49am On Aug 16, 2020
Jacqueline22:
Who na told you I won’t date you?
You won't date him cuz you are far away grin
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by KingintheNorth(m): 8:52am On Aug 16, 2020
Skmoda360:

Talk to the village girl to free you....you don offend one babe for your village way done tie your matter for rope say "no woman go marry you"....


cheesy cheesy cheesy that's not true abeg
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by Sanishu: 8:54am On Aug 16, 2020
Bros just relax and fold your hands. It will happen like magic trust me . cheers

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Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by KingintheNorth(m): 8:54am On Aug 16, 2020
Youngpo413:
There are so many important things to focus on apart from women...


Yea...but not having one person to care about and hold close to ur heart is a big distraction too.
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by KingintheNorth(m): 8:55am On Aug 16, 2020
Jacqueline22:
Who na told you I won’t date you?


You haven't seen me na
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by Skmoda360(m): 9:01am On Aug 16, 2020
KingintheNorth:



cheesy cheesy cheesy that's not true abeg

Waiting you wan make I talk again shocked?...
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by BigDick70inch(m): 9:04am On Aug 16, 2020
KingintheNorth:



What?

U see why u r weak and..can't even decode a girl secret message..

Maybe She's trying to..picking an interest in u or probably wanna get to know u more..Or do u expect to start chykin u on here before u pick up..

See the silly question you typing ehn??
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by Olakunleyakub(m): 9:06am On Aug 16, 2020
I av concluded that nothing spiritual is wrong with you after reading your post....you only have 5 problems that can only be solved by you not nairalanders.

1.the first problem you have is meeting the wrong people who have a different mindset to yours..most of them don't want a serious stuff just wanted to explore, have fun and enjoy the moment with you but for any serious relationship
2. You are sounding so desperate and women don't like a desperate men for obvious and strange reasons.
3. The third problem is that I think your spiritual life is dying gradually... You claimed to be a xtian and you don't go to.church or be prayerful just like sum1 claiming to be a Muslim without going to mosque..see let me tell you, this life is to complex and complicated than to ignore the power and mighty of prayer.
4 you are having a approach problem.. The first impression matters a lot and remember you never.get a second chance to make the first impression.
5.I think you are not real with some.of your behavior with some of.those ladies may be you are trying to impress or be too nice.

You can draw your solutions from the above problem statement. Thanks

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Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by KingintheNorth(m): 9:10am On Aug 16, 2020
BigDick70inch:


U see why u r weak and..can't even decode a girl secret message..

Maybe She's trying to..picking an interest in u or probably wanna get to know u more..Or do u expect to start chykin u on here before u pick up..

See the silly question you typing ehn??



Hahahahaha...calm down, no be fight.
It's possible yes...but what if it's not what she has in mind.
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by PoliticallyInco: 9:15am On Aug 16, 2020
When you combine all these things you have described in your post it is a recipe for disaster! Big one. Especially now that most ladies realize that they can also have fun and have no strings attached relationships but still get material benefits from these men. Most now want to be feminists at their convenience by picking only the juicy part of a man's life. They want to be equal to men but still want you to pay the bills and buy them stuff and etc. They only want the sweet part of a man's life but forget that equal treatment as men means a lot of sacrifice from and on their path. This is the new breed of ladies or "Vagina People" you are dealing with.

Now in your description:

1. You say you are good looking. Let us assume that to be true. This shouldn't be a problem per se. But when combined with other traits in any of the extremes (too much of a nice guy or too much of a bad boy) then it is a problem.

2. You are an incurable Mr. Nice Guy. You are trying too hard to prove you are good. Even the ladies feel this is too good to be true. It is not a bad thing to be very straightforward. Nope. Please don't let anyone deceive you. It makes life easy and simple. It is almost like saying what is on your mind. It works for me. I say what I feel. And I explain it very very well. That way no one is confused or no one will say oh sorry I misinterpreted or misunderstood. You just can't do that when it comes to me. So note that you are perfectly fine being a nice guy who doesn't want to play games and foster doubts.

3. You are dating and meeting girls that do not want to be pressured into anything serious. You are somehow meeting the same age grade or girls with the same mindset, or girl from the same area or something. One way or another that we yet know about, the ladies you meet, they all have something in common controlling their psyche.

4. Depending on where you are, many ladies do not find that "let's date seriously" thing attractive anymore. More and more ladies in Nigeria are becoming slutily independent. They now understand that instead of wasting time on one guy, they can have as many and get benefits instead of heart break. Men are also to blame here but story for another day . Today, as most of our parents and grandparents pass on, the generations X, Y, Z and Millennials see things differently. So, don't go rushing them into having anything serious unless they indicate interest. You are having sex with a lady and still asking her to date you? So how did you two end up in bed? So you see, you pick these type of ladies.

5. Your post means/shows you are desperate. Your desperation is something women can read a mile away. They pick it up. They know they are supposed to be the ones doing that when they are good and ready. But to impress them you give them your phone. You probably do anything and everything for them. You quickly let them into your private life. They don't have to work for it or earn it. You just hand it to them?

So this is your math:


Good looks + Nice Guy + Desperation + the set of ladies we have today = Making ladies run from anything serious.

Long story short you are the one acting like a woman and the women acting like how the man should. The relationship you offer isn't a challenge. They have nothing to fight for. Nothing exciting. No suspicion that another girl may want you. Forget the heart attack talk from one of the ladies. She is either lying to you so you don't take offense or she feels you just too "mushy" ,clingy and needy. No excitement per se. She could also feel that if you are this nice, many girls would want such a man so she runs away. Now problem is all the ladies are feeling the same way and running away. It is the same way people see celebrities or a beautiful girl and they assume she has a boyfriend. Meanwhile she is as alone as a cold night in the desert and notices you and if she likes what she sees, she is praying you just approach her and say "Hello".

Remember that humans are first of all animals with instinct and then we have intelligence that we use to control, overide or enhance the instinctive behaviours. Human instinct was passed on to us by our cavemen ancestors. The men take risks. Go out to hunt. Are hardly 100 per cent available. They get a life. They chase the mammoth. You are just there available. And the women feel that many other women would want a man like this hence they can't deal.

You are trying to live for the women first. Live for yourself first. Chase your interests and passion. Don't just be available for them. Jeez why is dirt/sand which is quartz and silica not valued as much as diamond even though they are all minerals? Because diamond is scarce. Sand, you can get it anywhere. See it everywhere. Nothing exciting about it.

You simply combine all the anti-seductive characteristics.

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Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by BigDick70inch(m): 9:17am On Aug 16, 2020
KingintheNorth:




Hahahahaha...calm down, no be fight.
It's possible yes...but what if it's not what she has in mind.


No be say I dey fight bro..
E jux pain me small..cos I understand your plight okay??
Even guys..wey broke con ugly join they marry ladies anyhow..

Just chat her up bro..
Everything in dis life is 50:50..nothing is assured bro..but with girls u never know okay??


Note:DONT BE DESPERATE O!!!

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Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by wumi2017(f): 9:24am On Aug 16, 2020
BigDick70inch:


How much is that??
. Which one sir
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by BigDick70inch(m): 9:35am On Aug 16, 2020
wumi2017:
. Which one sir

The two air max
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by KingintheNorth(m): 9:36am On Aug 16, 2020
PoliticallyInco:
When you combine all these things you have described in your post it is a recipe for disaster! Big one. Especially now that most ladies realize that they can also have fun and have no strings attached relationships but still get material benefits from these men.

In your description:
I
1. You say you are good looking. Let us assume that to be true.

2. You are an incurable Mr. Nice Guy. You are trying too hard to prove you are good. Even the ladies feel this is too good to be true. It is not a bad thing to be very straightforward. Nope. Please don't let anyone deceive you. It makes life easy and simple. It is almost like saying what is on your mind. It works for me. I say what I feel. And I explain it very very well. That way no one is confused or no one will say oh sorry I misinterpreted or misunderstood. You just can't do that when it comes to me. So note that you are perfectly fine being a nice guy who doesn't want to play games and foster doubts.

3. You are dating and meeting girls that do not want to be pressured into anything serious. You are somehow meeting the same age grade or girls with the same mindset, or girl from the same area or something. One way or another that we yet know about, the ladies you meet, they all have something in common controlling their psyche.

4. Depending on where you are, many ladies do not find that let's date seriously thing attractive anymore. More and more ladies in Nigeria are becoming independent. As most of our parents and grandparents pass on, the generations X, Y, Z and millennials see things differently. So, don't go rushing them into having anything serious unless they indicate interest. You are having sex with a lady and still asking her to date you? So how did you two end up in bed? So you see, you pick these type of ladies.

5. You post means you are desperate. Your desperation is something women can read a mile away. They pick it up. They know they are supposed to be the ones doing that when they are good and ready. But to impress them you give them your phone. You probably do anything and everything for them. You quickly let them into your private life. They don't have to work for it or earn it. You just hand it to them?

So this is your math:


Good looks + Nice Guy + Desperation + the set of ladies we have today = Making ladies run from anything serious.

Long story short you are the one acting like a woman and the women acting like how the man should. The relationship you offer isn't a challenge. They have nothing to fight for. Nothing exciting. No suspicion that another girl may want you. Forget the heart attack talk from one of the ladies. She is either lying to you so you don't take offense or she feels you just too "mushy" ,clingy and needy. No excitement per se. She could also feel that if you are this nice, many girls would want such a man so she runs away. Now problem is all the ladies are feeling the same way and running away. It is the same way people see celebrities or a beautiful girl and they assume she has a boyfriend. Meanwhile she notices and is praying you just approach her and say "Hello".

Remember that humans are first of all animals with instinct and then we have intelligence that we use to control, overide or enhance the instinctive behaviours. Human instinct was passed on to us by our cavemen ancestors. The men take risks. Go out to hunt. Are hardly 100 per cent available. They get a life. They chase the mammoth. You are just there available. And the women feel that many other women would want a man like this hence they can't deal.

You are trying to live for the women first. Live for yourself first. Chase your interests and passion. Don't just be available for them. Jeez why is dirt/sand which is quartz and silica not valued as much as diamond even though they are all minerals? Because diamond is scarce. Sand, you can get it anywhere. See it everywhere. Nothing exciting about it.

You simply combine all the anti-seductive characteristics.


Wow...best comment/Advice I've read in a long time. Thanks for the insight,I'll improve on my weak spots .
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by Bizzyman: 12:33pm On Aug 16, 2020
KingintheNorth:


I prefer 24 yrs n above
okay. Girls start getting sense from 25 years and above. Change the girls you roll with and starting being a "No" man. Just start saying No to girl's request and watch how they will cling to you and never want to leave you. Women are shallow. They like challenge.

Eg, Them: Can I come to your house, see your phone, cook for you, get some money from you, be your girlfriend?
You: No
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by lala45: 12:39pm On Aug 16, 2020
Come,let's date and marry
Re: Please Guys I Need Your Help,nobody Wants To Date Me!! by cicodeblazzer(m): 7:43pm On Aug 16, 2020
KingintheNorth:



I belong to the night watch now...my duty is to the Wall.
that is why they dont date you. John snow the king in the north and whose duty is with the nights watch had all ur mr nice guy enlisted characters but ended up killing the woman who loved him dearly, gave him her heart, lost her 2 dragons while saving his useless ass twice and almost lost her life in battle of winterfel and kingslanding.....beware of the character and name u r inheriting. He refused to give up his right to the throne as his ancestors did (read the history of that podrick song JENNY OF OLDSTONES) neither did he marry her and together they rule rather killed her yet didnt become the king on the throne. Work on yourself bro.

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