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. by Sunnimuslim: 6:54pm On Aug 26, 2020 |
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Re: . by daewoorazer(m): 6:57pm On Aug 26, 2020 |
The hate and malice ends the first day you start emptying bottles of beer on same table. Comment rated +18 10 Likes |
Re: . by spiralwedge(m): 7:45pm On Aug 26, 2020 |
7 years gap is huge. He's supposed to know that beating a young adult is a no no. If he does that in his workplace, he would be sacked. But he demands your respect still. I won't recommend you mind your business, because if you do you would both grow up to be enemies. In the time of peace, let him know that he cannot continue to beat you and you also need to grow up and be responsible. Nobody beats a matured and responsible young man. In the North, your mates already have 2 kids at that age and running a small business. This period, i bet, is the best chance to create good memories before marriage and before older people binding you together die. I say so because if all your memories of him is unpleasant you'll never be friends in the future, in fact in the next five years. Play ludo, chess etc together. Talk about football, business. Better still, discuss together where you are both likely to end up in 5 years, 10 years etc. So be responsible. 5 Likes |
Re: . by proffmykey(m): 8:09pm On Aug 26, 2020 |
Embrace GOD'S LOVE...God is love jhn 3:16....Endeavour to always follow peace with him and shun every bitter and hateful thought towards him;talk to him about you feel. |
Re: . by Jqtyfx(m): 8:22pm On Aug 26, 2020 |
What you have experienced is abuse. No, it is not normal. Sunnimuslim: It was hell on Earth for me all through the time my brother and I was living together with grandma. Any slightest mistake the monster will put the rod in use with full force. Aside from constant flogging, I was being treated to a military-grade punishment that leaves all my body sore and weak. Sometimes it takes weeks for me to recover the physical and psychological pain. All the hell I went through while living with him is enough to make me commit suicide but anytime I proceed to attempt it, the fear of God's punishment for suiciders will prevent me. I have no one to confide in because they all see it as a normal thing. 5 Likes |
Re: . by SageMK: 8:44pm On Aug 26, 2020 |
You've been emotionally and physically abused for a very long time. Your hatred is deep rooted, natural & justified. It doesn't make you a sadist. Unhating him will require a lot effort from both sides but the all important step is getting your bro to genuinely apologize for the maltreatment. He needs to know his crimes. He needs to stop. Let him give you a reason to stop hating him. 2 Likes |
Re: . by GboyegaD(m): 9:04pm On Aug 26, 2020 |
Let him know that at this age you are old enough to take care of yourself. More so, each party should respect themselves. 1 Like |
Re: . by Hathor5(f): 9:05pm On Aug 26, 2020 |
Sunnimuslim, what you went through is terrible and it is sad that people act like this is normal. This is not normal, this is abuse. I hope God will give you the strength to heal from the abuse you were subjected to and I pray you will use your experience to do better but I also want you to know that it is not your duty to forgive your brother just because you happen to be related. Forgiveness can't be forced. You will allow it when the time comes and I hope you will allow it for your own sake and your own peace of mind and not because it is expected of you. Take your time. You will be fine. For you to open up here tells me that you are on your way to finding the peaceful resolution that you seek. As of now, feel free to keep your distance from your 'brother'. Sometimes the family we are born to is not the family we need. It can be hard but it can also make you stronger. I am glad you are old enough to stand up for yourself but be careful it doesn't get out of control and someone gets seriously hurt in one of the fights. Your brother hasn't changed. He must have a lot of issues to act the way he does. No sane and content human being behaves like this. I hope that understanding this can help you see that he needs help too but it is not your place to help people who have not asked to be helped. It should be your priority to protect yourself, best by keeping your distance, at least for the time being. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: . by mariahAngel(f): 10:00pm On Aug 26, 2020 |
Sunnimuslim: For you to stop hating him, you'd have to forgive him, and for you to forgive him, he'd have to genuinely ask for it. For your own good, free yourself from hate before it wears you out. |
Re: . by Sunnimuslim: 11:57pm On Aug 26, 2020 |
spiralwedge: About creating good memories, that will be hard cos he barely communicate with me. Sometimes I try to start a conversation but the way he reply like a Nigerian millitary officer always discourage me. His fiancee also noticed that the brother-to-brother relationship we have is not smooth enough. She talked to him about changing but the situation is still the same. |
Re: . by LadySarah: 4:38am On Aug 27, 2020 |
Distance will keep solving it. They say it makes the heart grow fonder. Stay out of his way always. 1 Like |
Re: . by Mindlog: 5:55am On Aug 27, 2020 |
Hathor5: Reading this, sure made me feel like I was reading a mail from a therapist. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: . by sisisioge: 6:12am On Aug 27, 2020 |
I'm so glad you fought back....I hope he learnt his lesson. For good effect, I will suggest that you start exercising more and toning your muscles in case of a rematch. You shouldn't get injured next time, you should leave him in a very bad state so he could learn his lesson once and for all! I'm angry on your behalf... ![]() ![]() 9 Likes |
Re: . by Hathor5(f): 7:28pm On Aug 28, 2020 |
I just wrote from the heart. ![]() Mindlog: |
Re: . by Mindlog: 8:06pm On Aug 28, 2020 |
Hathor5: Well written. 1 Like |
Re: . by Hathor5(f): 8:40pm On Aug 28, 2020 |
Re: . by Supreme145(m): 10:55am On Aug 29, 2020 |
I don't know why some elder ones behave like that, I'm 5years older than my immediate younger brother but you would never know the age difference, we joke and drink on the same table, for a family that consist of 6 boys(5 consecutive boys) we are almost same in height and we all wear each others cloths and we've never fought. I think it all depends on how you guys were raised, its not your fault. I wish I could have a chat with your brother. For now please keep your distance from him with time you will get over it. 4 Likes |
Re: . by Nobody: 1:25pm On Aug 29, 2020 |
Well, a lesson to remember. "Hidden emotions never die. They tend to come later in uglier ways." Whenever you oppress a person, even if they don't react that moment, they would react later in terrible ways. Nevertheless @ op, you have to forgive him so that you can move on. Don't let your future be altered by your past. 1 Like |
Re: . by Nobody: 4:45pm On Aug 29, 2020 |
Give yourself Completely to My Precious Daddy in Heaven .. Love God will all your Heart God is Love His Love will Flow in you, Transform you, Uproot and Delete the Hate and Fill you with So Much Love. |
Re: . by mutter(f): 5:54pm On Aug 29, 2020 |
It is normal that you hate him . He had no right to treat you that way! Hit him back, it's called self defence. Some siblings are mean. 1 Like |
Re: . by halogate: 8:31pm On Aug 29, 2020 |
...Ah elder brothers and their Lord attitude. Mine tot he cud boss me arnd forever...that shit ended when i got to 18. Me wey naturally stubborn. Never hated him though...I just knew what I had to do to change his mindset. He will stop eventually. a few tips to speed up the process. .. never fail to engage him in logical discuss.(views n perspectives) ..doing n making decisions by urself.(he must see and realize u are independent) ..be diplomatically rebellious (small small fit and argument once in a while...his eyes will begin to open) .. get some thing doing to take u out of the house regularly (if u are always arnd to be harassed....u will be) .. most importantly, fight for ur freedom 2 Likes |
Re: . by liberalchick(f): 9:52pm On Aug 29, 2020 |
Hathor5:Very well said! He needs to stay away from his abusive brother, not all blood is kin. 3 Likes |
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