ugbede69:
boss I am a victim ooh
m ex Gf was insisting on a no-sex relationship.. I managed to hold on...I later realized that there's one guy that bleeps her steadily... she's the one that even go to him..after I warned her to stay away from him,babe sincerely told me she CNT leave him...naso we take break up

Mcslize:


Exactly. That's where the issue lies. There are some guys that can actually go on a no sex relationship with any girl that request that especially those that are on semen retention.

But where the problem lies is that they will still be banging another sharp homie in secret while making the one they are saving for marriage seems like mumu with the no sex till marriage scam.

Who is deceiving who?

koyyes:
Stop contradicting yourself.

Don't people date before getting married? Aren't romantic feelings part of it? Must every romantic feeling always lead to sex outside marriage?

Are you saying dating must always involve sex?

If you lack discipline, just say so. Because I don't see why kissing must always graduate to full blown sex.

Just put it this way, if you just want to be in a situationship for sexual gratification, go for your type. Compatibility is key.

xynerise:
First, I am not using this post to say that ladies who desire a no-sex relationship are wrong or are committing a crime. Everyone has the right to decide what idea they feel is right for them or not.

Morally and spiritually speaking, any girl who feels that she doesn't want to have sex till she's married has not committed a crime; it's not out of place. The foundation on which this idea is mostly built on by many young women is where the problem lies.

Romantic affairs are nothing but romantic affairs! They involve romance and I believe everyone reading this post knows what romance is. What romance is, is what romantic relationships entail. Let it not be as if we are still in primary school, learning life basics.

Romantic relationships are not just for kneeling down to pray together, playing ten-ten, ludo, kalokalo or suwe. It involves things that are done behind closed doors. If a girl doesn't want sex in a relationship, she should ask herself first what type of relationship she's into. If it's not a platonic or brother/sister relationship, then she better stay off romantic affairs until she's ready to marry!!!

You own your body as a girl but don't try to turn a full grown sexually active man to a celibate or eunuch because that is what you desire in a ROMANTIC AFFAIR! If he wants sex and you don't, kindly tell him your principle and move on. If he doesn't 'touch' you, who will he touch? Won't he touch somebody outside? Will that not make rubbish of your relationship?

Young ladies who don't want sex in romantic affairs should stay off or look for a celibate who can dance to their tune. After all, most girls have made it a culture not to give anything else in a relationship other than sex. Being that the average African man gives virtually everything, his time, resources, energy including his soul in relationships, what do you, as young women expect him to gain when most of you cannot offer anything other than sex? He won't take that gladly knowing fully well that you are trying to withhold the only thing he knows he can gain from you! If I meet a girl who says she wants a no-sex affair, I should be able to see tangible things I can gain from the relationship. Being a demanding girl in a no-sex affair should be a suicide attempt in relationship.

I might not be too kind with idealism; romantic affairs involve SEX! Even if you go to Madagascar, Norway, Bolivia or Czech Republic, it's the same thing. If you cannot withstand the hotness of the kitchen, stay off the kitchen!

Tips from a Facebook friend

The truth is, if you don't want sex, then please don't kiss him or make him ready for it. That's torture. It is just like touching your cucchies and the guys stands up and walks away.

fati2001:

go Bleep a prostitute with ur fuckin money, i didn't asked for it.. I see you are classify ur type U Bleep around with, I dude I'm above that levels.. okay.
and all understand my signature!

Debra911:

Nawa o, some ladies get mind

fati2001:
that's to show that you don't have anything to offer in relationship apart from money and sex, no ambitions, no goal, no sacrifices at all...... may you see urself through.

PrinceMajestic:
So virtually all NL girls are rude. I read their posts and they are quick to insult people. So there's no social media space that has reasonable girls, all are so rude, I hope they change so that their male counterparts can get serious relationships with them because its been quite a while since NL members married themselves. Probably they're now so rude and intolerant to criticism against their worthless sex lives

paul100:

Your type is rare.The thing about guys is that once they have had sex with a girl,they cannot stop so a no-sex relationship is like hell for them.
My own is a responsible male virgin deserves a good and responsible female virgin and
a guy that is obsessed about sex and have bleeped different types of girls deserves a hoe with a wide pu**sy.
I don't understand the talk of Bleep boys on Nairaland that they want to marry a virgin.What of all the girls,they have bleeped.Who will marry them?

Eddygre8:
Sex must not be involved always

SimplyFacts:
Lol @ugbede69

Even the ones you touch aren't satisfied,,,

Meanwhile,,,
A single life is a peaceful mind,,,

If you know, you know.

Farki:
You're quite right, lots of ladies expect guys to not want sex or don't see it as important then they are suddenly shocked when the guy doesn't stay around.

PrinceMajestic:
So virtually all NL girls are rude. I read their posts and they are quick to insult people. So there's no social media space that has reasonable girls, all are so rude, I hope they change so that their male counterparts can get serious relationships with them because its been quite a while since NL members married themselves. Probably they're now so rude and intolerant to criticism against their worthless sex lives

tollyboy5:

Alaye you're a liar jor! how can u be a V.
Keeping male friends actually is not bad but be quick state your stand as early as possible.

I have female friends, they have nothing upstairs so I know the kind of discussion we have. I love them tho.

1StopRudeness:


Have you noticed the way guys talk on nairaland? There are very ill-mannered people on this forum Incase u haven’t noticed...as in.. people that are not alright at all...u can’t trash-talk and not expect to get a dose of your medicine...

I’ve noticed that the way most girls talk here is just a simple reaction or a defense mechanism to how guys treat them....
Most guys like to assume that girls must be respectful and talk in a modest way no matter what.... but that’s not how the modern world works....ladies are a lot bolder now..... u insult them, u get double portion real quick...

fati2001:
coming from an adult baby with rotten dead brain.... @Mandela27 pls stop disgracing that honorable name (RIP).
did I begged anyone for a conversation?
you quote me I quote U back no offence.
some adult forgo their senses in their mothers womb or their umbilical cord was cut off mistakenly or the brain box is not positioned properly.. I WONDER! .. no wonder some adults don't get respect for the younger one's because of their abnormal maturity, the way they live, instead of showing the youths the truth... but you guys will be leading them to destructions.
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pls stay in ur limits that's all I got to say.
someone hating on himself.... talk it easy guy before you will be consume by depression and anxiety =loading to suicide.
don't worry attentions are coming to ur way.

PrinceMajestic:
you're the only female here who is reasonable and isn't abusive unlike the others

UyaiIncomparabl:


You have been ignored.

xynerise:

Though I am not interested in knowing what you have to offer. I just want you to answer yourself that question. The fact remains that if you have nothing to offer and the guy does more of the offering, please, don't deny him what he benefits from you. If you can't offer him that,then you are not ready to be in a relationship. Just park well.

Men are not robots, they want something too. Sex or something else in place of sex. You make your choice

Munachisom95:
Being a virgin is cool, we re only 10 in Nigeria. Me and 9 others.

Mcslize:


Sometimes people mistake virginity for no sexual penetration. But do know once that hymen is opened either using hands to finger it or engage in other non sexual penetration by the opposite sex organ, one can't term herself a true virgin.

Some that always claim to be virgins are not actual true virgins. If u use dildõ or any other form of penetration, you can't term yourself a pure virgin.

Maybe a second class virgin then I will agree.

Debra911:

Why should I be abusive, na person wey never see life...

tollyboy5:

No vex but you tried, hope you know that won't guarantee you good marriage . get a good hubby

fati2001:

so we still have some responsible pple *like this * condemning the Evil deed.
well only a fool welcome the dirty opportunities.