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Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by lexander(m): 6:40am On Sep 29, 2020 |
merieam16:you mean like the way my elder brother's ex-gf came back to him after abandoning him for another man getting married and having 3 kids for said man. They've been dating for 4 years she just came to visit her one day and gave him her wedding invitation but Now she's that her marriage is in shambles she's wants him back (she left her kids with her mom). The thing is he has already accepted him against the better advice of my mom and other family members. So yes men are just as forgiving as women and no sex is better than the other. |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Olusegun345: 6:55am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Take life easy Many people are in similar situation |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Chanchit: 6:55am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Zzor: If I were to go by the comment you made, it is fair enough. But then, I've seen many of your comments on threads like this and they are most times biased. That's why I do not look forward to seeing your comments. |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by AKNDBC(m): 6:57am On Sep 29, 2020 |
You have demonstrated a matured mind with all your story. However, i will like to ask you one simple question and you later ask the man the same question. For the past eight years , does it mean you do not have any man you are dating or intend to marry ? If the answer is positive, i will advice you to go with the fellow and leave this young man. but if your answer is negative, you can give him a second chance on the condition he has not married or engaged with someone. That is my own opinion about the matter. 1 Like |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by ailenmen: 7:00am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Hmmmm this ur matter is a serious one oh,but some times .but my question is he left u all these years ,what has he be doing ? And he now came back AFTER 8 good years with out even phone call or letter from him asking of even his son, and how u suffer to feed and cloth him . . Well I tink u still have love him. But no money how can he manage with marriage trouble? My own ,is if he is ready is to help his stand on his own by assist to get him a job and observe him if he is or will be a good husband u tink before u jump into marring him .cos once u are in its difficult to come out .... |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Chanchit: 7:02am On Sep 29, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: What qualified him to be a husband is the woman that still sees him as one. I will never do such to someone's daughter. But it's not as easy as you see it. I've seen worse cases than this which they find a way to reconcile. That's why they say e hard to put mouth couple's issue. |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Dynamite789: 7:03am On Sep 29, 2020 |
The question you should ask yourself is... it he has been very successful and rich after leaving you, Whould he have come back? If you convince yourself that the answer is yes, then take him back. But if NO. Please throw him out. Because if you help him back on his feet? He may still abandoned you again 1 Like |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by smyo(m): 7:03am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Try to know what he has been passing through all the whole 8yrs first, because he may be passing through hell also, you tried sha, but find a way to forgive and stand by him to build up again |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Milant22(m): 7:04am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Pls just try to study him because he not be that man you know b/4,but for money issue is God that gives money, just if his the same man forgive him |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by mmadu4: 7:12am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Forget that deadbeat of a man . Follow your instincts 1 Like |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by lielbree: 7:14am On Sep 29, 2020 |
abouzaid:Solid guy that abandoned his child for 8years 8years!!! He is a con man. Let him hustle, get a source of income, get a place then he will kick her and her child again. 2 Likes |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by lielbree: 7:15am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Dynamite789: Best comment! |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by lielbree: 7:17am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Op your guy is down now. When he stands on his feet again, he will throw you and your child out. Don't fall for that school fees sacrifice, education seems not to be his priority. Think with your head not your heart. 2 Likes |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by lielbree: 7:22am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Chanchit:What's wrong with being a feminist? If your girlfriend had a child for you then abandoned you are the newborn for 8years, comes back with absolutely nothing, not even the degree you both were pursuing together, would you accept her Wouldn't you conclude she has been prostituting and now is looking for where she will retire? 3 Likes |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by criuze(m): 7:23am On Sep 29, 2020 |
you and your baby seams to be the last hope of his life. he left you hoping to Hussle and make life better for you and your baby, unfortunately life played the other card for him. which always happen in life. Besides no one can love you better than him I'll advice you to marry him if you can, help him find small thing to do . Things will hopefully turn around by God's grace. if you chase him out, he'll go. He may still make it better tommorow. just think about it. life is very tough for most men His destiny may be tied to you. getting you back may help him start better he can still supply you night cuddles as you have lonely for long Two heads are better than one |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Nobody: 7:26am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Chanchit:as regards this post,Dingbang is the one with the biased comment. |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Nobody: 7:27am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Goldp5988:lol |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Ekzoba(m): 7:28am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Divanona:If he can sacrifice his school fee for you that means he truly loved you.I advice that you find out more things like if he has no other woman somewhere and other things.I wish u the best. |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Obynolee(f): 7:30am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Bessppectt: There are a lot you can do legitimately to earn a living other than this 2 Likes |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by iamme1234(m): 7:38am On Sep 29, 2020 |
My sincere advice Do not take him back I know what it takes to be heart broken. He is a bad person Left you for years and came back begging Don’t add more weight of problems to your life. He has wasted his time Do not let him come waste yours. Just don’t listen to all this men saying take him back. Irreversible is the case,if your topic were to be am a Man she left me for years after I made it she came back begging,you would see how the men here will call you names and names and ended up telling the man Man not to take you. Use your head woman Peace to you 1 Like |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by obryns: 7:42am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Things happen,the fact he left doesn't mean he doesn't love u or responsible,I suggest you don't rush into a relationship with him till u find out what happened in d last 8 yes,cross check his stories,let him get a job first B4 talking of marriage,if you can help him stand pls do so?one good turn deserves another n ultimately it is for ur son to see his father as responsible,don't listen to the pessimistic people,good ending sometimes come from dirts |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by obowunmi(m): 7:42am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Divanona: You know this man is USELESS. Why are you wasting your time ? 1 Like |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by pawsofdikeje(m): 7:42am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Move on ooh so he would vent his anger and depression on you. Forget that LOVE wey dey blind you 1 Like |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by jeph19(m): 7:42am On Sep 29, 2020 |
8 Years... First of all i must salute you for still having a place for him, but this is a time where whatever u feel for him will have to be suspended. You have to use ur head and not your heart. Watch to see if his intentions are true and not just to find solace and when it becomes rosy, he'll japa; forget the fact that he's already bonding with his son. Do not yield to him sexually, as it will mar your judgement of him Tell him to revive those dreams and ambitions he had; being a graduate is not the only key to being successful. He should sort himself FIRST, building FINANCIAL CAPACITY, should be his aim now, not MARRIAGE. His relationship with GOD should be aligned so as to have directions as to where he wants to go in life; life is spiritual. |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Funkybabee(f): 7:50am On Sep 29, 2020 |
you better think and pray wise before you make another regrets decision. he is not a serious type, only God knows what he has put his neck on before he come back to you ... ya ara re ni brain |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by debbydams(f): 7:53am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Liposure:Thanks dear |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by TheManOfTheYear: 7:54am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Richy4:Criterion => singular Criteria => plural Please take note next time |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by jornwhite: 7:55am On Sep 29, 2020 |
cococandy: Is it a coincidence our ladies skip the part, the guy sacrifice is tution fee for the lady, maybe thats why he couldnt graduate, you guyz are not even considering the good things she said about the guy. If OP description is anything to go by, i don't think d man wants to be a liability, which explains why he distance himself in the 1st place, maybe circumstance above him brought him back, maybe he was told to locate the lady and be with them b4 God can smile on him or sumtin. My friend had same issue when we were in school, got the gurl pregnant n could not take care of her, out of shame he left 2 hustle n today he is a big boy that could afford to buy three cars in a day. his inlaw are cruising an suv, and the wife is living better than all those gurls advising she chose the wrong guy. There is nothing wrong if she loves the father of her child, the r/ship as gone beyond Bf/GF, she should create terms & conditions that wil push the guy to be more serious, if he has business ideas they can work on it. Most people don't know exist is not a solution. |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by membranus: 7:56am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Divanona: So if he is alive, you will send the post to him saying: "Daddy please help me to decide this". I am very sure he would have said: "Son, are you with your senses at all?" Meanwhile, thanks for the fun. |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by realtalk19: 7:56am On Sep 29, 2020 |
PeacenLove2: Well said. Just what I was about to type 1 Like |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Pymetrics: 7:59am On Sep 29, 2020 |
Zzor: My first question is to you. What have you been doing since 8 years ago without marrying another man? Didn't you date another man or you didn't receive any proposal for 8 years? I assume you graduate at the age of 22yrs. Now add 8, you must be in 30s. Secondly, if you still love the guy and you still find everything worthy of a husband in him then you can accept him back. But you need to give him time to straighten himself as a husband that can feed, protect and provide for his wife and children. You can assist him by giving him a maximum of two years to sort himself in the area of job, accommodation and basic amenities needed in a house. Since you've waited for 8 years, then you should be able to wait for another two years. Within the two years, He can secure a police job or bank teller job with his diploma certificate, he can also secure marketing or sales representative job. While searching for job, He need to acquire skills like riding bike, driving a car. He can use these skills individually or for logistics company or for businesses that need delivery or sales man. He can also acquire short time skills like graphic design. You can assist him with a laptop in this area or he find money through laborer work to fund himself in getting a laptop. All of these can be achieved within two years or less than. He will be able to rent room and parlor sef con or two bedroom flat and move his wife and child there. Just assist him by ensuring his empowerment and give him time to achieve that. Then both of you will marry officially and leave happily. Remember, both of you will maintain communication within the two years. |
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