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Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by sweetrace(f): 7:56am On Oct 30, 2020 |
If a man won’t let his wife work, then he should put some measures in place to take care of his family’s future. Have a separate account in his wife’s name which she’ll have excess to when he dies. Put the house and every single property in both their names. If he can, open accounts for each child right from when they are born. All monies realized at the naming ceremony should go into the child’s account. Periodically, he can put some money into the account. Men should invest in good shares. Finally, men should have wills!!! They should be specific as to who inherits what!!!! 3 Likes |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by Guyman02: 7:59am On Oct 30, 2020 |
louken: I may agree with your points but she said they were legally married in a court. It's a case of embittered siblings who feel the wife abandoned their brother at a critical point. Calling a wider family meeting involving the traditional leaders can help to resolve some of the issues 2 Likes |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by tunjilana: 8:00am On Oct 30, 2020 |
As a woman always have your own money As a man, allow and support your wife to work meaningfully As a woman, never allow your loyalty to your man to be questionable, support and be there during his lowest time. As a man, write a will that covers and takes care of all your interest, most especially your children and your LOYAL woman. As society, lets stop judging. The focus should be on the welfare of the kids. Whoever has the antecedent and trust to ensure the kids welfare is guaranteed, should be the custodian of left over assets. If the dynamics of the marriage has shown that selfish interest will prevail them let the family manage the asset and take care of the kids till they are grown enough to handle things themselves 2 Likes |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by Nobody: 8:01am On Oct 30, 2020 |
SILVERLINES:mind you, not all Igbo families do this rubbish. 2 Likes |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by ORIAYO70(m): 8:03am On Oct 30, 2020 |
ThatReporterz: You r not a novice to their culture, when one lazy husbands family will come n claim property... I think this people must be foolish n mean, they don't think of what will befall the children, and the poor widow. It do happens to the wife that is even Igbo not to talk of you that is Yoruba... God will help u out. O ri oko ikun ko to gbin epa sibe. |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by Nobody: 8:03am On Oct 30, 2020 |
sammirano3:you're a cave man. Your mentality doesn't exist in this 21st century. 4 Likes |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by Testimony1988(m): 8:05am On Oct 30, 2020 |
Her husband didn't do well by not allowing her to work, I just hope people will learn from this incidence. 1 Like |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by millionboi2: 8:06am On Oct 30, 2020 |
JidennaJason:Don't take side. Common sense should have told you the woman may not have bn a good wife. A wife that was with her mother when her husband was sick? Hmmmm 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by Samcent: 8:06am On Oct 30, 2020 |
dadavivo: Truth be told it's prevalent amongst the Igbos. I have them as friends, my brother is married to an Igbo lady and my sister is married to an Igbo man. My sister's husband is alive and well, but trust me this issue been discussed here is already staring her in the face. My advice to any lady from outside marrying an Igbo man; be prepared! |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by chatinent: 8:08am On Oct 30, 2020 |
Man is wicked. 1 Like |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by Cantonese: 8:12am On Oct 30, 2020 |
Midas01: Stop playing the ostrich here please, especially if you are from the south west. This issue of properties after the demise of any of the couple is not confined to the Igbos only. It is an age long matter with the Yorubas and other African tribes. It is even worse in the south west. It is the norm of Africans to lay claim on properties at the demise of their siblings. I have met Yoruba women who have requested their husband's to build personal houses for them so that at the demise of the man, her husband's family in claiming the man's properties would not claim that particular one. Go to the courts today and you'll find too many cases of family members battling over properties. 3 Likes |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by AFONAMARO: 8:16am On Oct 30, 2020 |
JidennaJason: I blame the man �. Knowing that his people are tribalistic, he should have protected his wife prior to now. All I've got bears my name and that of my wife. We equally have a joint account i fund in case of eventuality. And she knows all my signatures and has a copy of all necessary documents as well as keys. My wife is my responsibility, and i will go any length to protect her and our kids. I could remember once when my elder sister drove my car, she noticed that the particulars bears our names (mine and wifey) as against just bearing Mr...... She asked why it wasn't in just my name, that her husband bought even her own car in his (the husband's) name. I told her that i am fine this way, that all we (wifey and i) have bears our names. Men, protect your wife and stop putting your siblings ahead of your immediate family. The Bible asked that you leave your people and cleave to your wife. I am not saying you should abandone your parents and siblings. But that you put your immediate family first at all times 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by Charly68: 8:18am On Oct 30, 2020 |
Men should write their will when they are still alive to avoid situation like this. The widow can only pray for divine intervention in her life as things stand now.. if the inlaws took away her husband's properties and never even bothered to ask about the children of their brother,they could kill those children to silence them forever ..Run for your life because of your children. Your in-laws are wicked.. though you too must have opened door for this type of treatment because we need to ask why somebody should be allowed to take away your husband without your knowledge..where were you then? Probably you were not a caring wife .. 1 Like |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by Unified07: 8:19am On Oct 30, 2020 |
SILVERLINES:Are you women praying for your Igbo husband's to die |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by Mrscarter(f): 8:20am On Oct 30, 2020 |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by Cantonese: 8:23am On Oct 30, 2020 |
Odidigboigbo: Taaaaaaaaa make we hear something. Is it better in Delta state. In such cases Delta state ranks among the worst please. I mean all communities in Delta state, whether Urhobo, Isoko, Itsekiri, Ijaw, Ukwuani, Agbor, etc. Do you need examples in Delta state? These issues happen in families where you have greedy, covetous nd wicked people, irrespective of tribe. 2 Likes |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by Mrscarter(f): 8:23am On Oct 30, 2020 |
Igbochief001:I agree. The man would have loved his wife n children why should they suffer n beg after his death. |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by Lagoon0: 8:23am On Oct 30, 2020 |
dadavivo:Its an Igbo culture we know before opening the thread that its Igbo related. The woman might be so foolish to be an house wife in the first place |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by sammirano3: 8:24am On Oct 30, 2020 |
franciskaine: I don't you, but the stupid Yoruba girls marrying your kind. That's why you can open your mouth anyhow to talk. |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by Mrscarter(f): 8:32am On Oct 30, 2020 |
loveth360: So the man would have wanted his family on the streets begging after his death? Wat I'm seeing is greedy siblings. I agree his children should atleast inherit and children need their mother |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by thorpido(m): 8:33am On Oct 30, 2020 |
She stated, “I travelled home to Ondo State to be with my mum when I was pregnant with my twin girls and by the time I returned to Abuja, my husband had been taken away to an unknown location, because he had a crisis. We were not allowed to see him until we were informed that he had died in August 2018. Those saying she abandoned her husband when he was sick,i don't know how some of you read! She travelled to be with her mum when she was close to give birth.It is not stated that the husband was sick at that time.He most likely developed a crisis after she had left. By the way,is that why she would even be denied access to her husband's remains in the mortuary and even denied burial presence?Uwa mmebi. 5 Likes |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by Lagoon0: 8:35am On Oct 30, 2020 |
loveth360:Though Igbo has chosen to remain primitive to the present day .but I think she's a gold digger also, how will your husband ask you not to work and you choose to. House wife are common with igbos not yorubas so she was happy doing nothing. When my grandpa died my dad who was the first son had to call his elder sis before the talk on sharing properties. Same in our house today my dad will always call my elder sister on family issues . when will Igbo start respecting female children ? |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by jesmond3945: 8:36am On Oct 30, 2020 |
JidennaJason:false is not a tribal thing. Every tribe has bad people. Even in the same tribe, you see such things |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by mdchikezie(m): 8:37am On Oct 30, 2020 |
ALLOW YOUR WIVES TO WORK, STOP ALL THESE NONSENSE I DONT WANT HER TO SUFFER, SUFFERING IS INEVITABLE BE IT MENTALLY OR PHYSICALLY OR EMOTIONALLY. ITS ALL SUFFERING |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by Laboni: 8:39am On Oct 30, 2020 |
You abandoned your husband when he was sick and you come here now to talk rubbish.. Well the in laws should hand over all the man’s properties they claimed to his children. 1 Like |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by Indigbo: 8:41am On Oct 30, 2020 |
Midas01: Best LESSON is: MAKE SURE YOU ADD YOUR WIFE'S NAME ON YOUR PROPERTY like Mr Burnaboy Okoro and Mrs Savage Okoro. Any family member near the property will rot in jail. Tested and Trusted. Thank me later! 2 Likes |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by Mrscarter(f): 8:41am On Oct 30, 2020 |
OkoNDOoBo: I know two Igbo brothers that after their parents deaths gave the parents house to their younger sister n went off to make their own life. If U love your family then leaving them with nothing isn't what you do. 2 Likes |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by favor914: 8:41am On Oct 30, 2020 |
Midas01:Ethnicist is Akwa Ibom igbo? |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by thorpido(m): 8:43am On Oct 30, 2020 |
Lagoon0:Na today?It's a common thing with a sizeable number of Igbo men.Many Igbo men generally don't like their wives working for other people.Many wives are not allowed to work.It's fairly common. 2 Likes |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by TinaG(f): 8:45am On Oct 30, 2020 |
Igbos and snatching of properties from their deceased brother's widows are like 5&6. Tufia. |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by Cantonese: 8:46am On Oct 30, 2020 |
SILVERLINES: Your judgement is completely one sided. You did not hear from the man's family. You did not hear from her how she related with her inlaws. You did not hear from her if she encouraged the man to cut off his family? You do not even know whether she charmed the man into marriage with her. Don't forget that some women get juju to make men marry them? The woman said in her statement that she travelled to be with her mum when her husband was in crisis. That's very sad to hear. Who did she abandon the man for? The siblings obviously covered up for her when she travelled as her children were too young to play the role. I take it that there was no good relationship between her and her inlaws for 13 years and they cut her off in their pain. The woman then turned sentimental and has tried to blackmail the Igbos. If she married a fellow Yoruba would that not have happened to her? The Yorubas are known to battle it to the last over properties of their deceased sons. It is very important for women to have good relationships with their inlaws. Do not wish your husband's mother to die. Do not wish to marry a man without a mother. Do not stop a man from relating with his family, especially if the man comes from a united and peaceful home. Do not carry the war in your own father's house to your husband's home. Try to make good friendships with two or more of your husband's people. In the sad case of a loss or battle for properties, your friend's within your husband's siblings will fight for you. Yorubas prefer to marry Igbo men because they feel better taken care of. You may verify that. Please erase your sentiments and let's all live in peace. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Olubunmi Kama: My Husband’s Siblings Seized Our Properties After His Death by thorpido(m): 8:47am On Oct 30, 2020 |
Laboni:Read well.It is nowhere stated in the story that she abandoned him when he was sick.He may have developed the crisis after she was away. |
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