Bluezy13:
A. Character without virginity is a pass.
B. Virginity without Character is a fail...
C. Virginity with Character is a credit
D. Without Character and virginity is a failure.


I will take A.
Unnecessary shouts (from B and C) pisses me off.

jmoore:
I view virginity as a whole not just one branch

snowat:
why are you so ignorant, why can't you just Google it, do guys have Virginas, or when lesbians have sex do they need to penetrate, or those gays, do they also have hymen. Anything sex voids one's virginity, and avoiding all those things years after years despite all the temptations means the guy or girl is disciplined, have self control and good moral. Being a virgin alone makes you have like 5 good character you just need to have a little more to be a perfect husband for your wife or a perfect wife.

thesilentman:
Hope you can manage virgin wahala just as am doing now?

jmoore:


You are a man, not men.
Virginity is valuable to me as a man. So don't speak on behalf of MEN. Speak for yourself.

Bunsenbun:
value is different from worth.

slyfoxxjoe:
obviously most will chose the virgin but this is an oversimplification of a very complicated matter. The implication of this post is that non-virgins are bad and undisciplined. I don’t agree with this. Just because a girl has lost her virginity does not mean she sleeps around.

Imagine a girl who has had one or two long term and serious relationships (probably that she thought will lead to marriage) and along the line she slept with the guy(s) she was dating. That’s very different from a girl who has casual sex with every guy that comes her way.

Well everyone has the right to their own option, it’s a free society, but to me, while I will definitely respect a lady who kept her virginity till marriage it carries one of the lowest marks on my scorecard of what makes a good wife overall.

stanliwise:

What are you saying this guy?

Social intelligent people knows how to interact with virtually anybody, how to handle toxic people and just how to know thyself. Please type “social intelligence on Wikipedia”

Good character comes as a result of social intellect, having high self esteem about thyself and knowing how to judge people correctly during interactions.

jmoore:


Please don't get me started on English tutorials.

Valuable is the opposite of valueless.

Worthless is a synonym of valueless.


That virginity is valuable means it is also worthy.

collinsuchendu:
Please NEVER marry any Nigerian girl hoe that is not a virgin. Don't say I did not warn you.

#HSD

Bunsenbun:
anything can be valuable,as value systems differ from one person to another but not everything has worth.I don't value wrist watches and would not be caught dead wearing one,but they do have worth.Worth is determined by the caliber/strength/number of people who "value" that thing.As I said earlier,virginity is worthless to men,at least here in Nigeria. By The way i don't think valuable is a direct synonym of worth

jmoore:


Only if you read my first reply to you very well.

You are singular. You are not all men. Read it 30 times.

Just say you don't value it. Don't drag all men into your choice. That's the initial point I made.

okoroemeka:
I totally disagree with your perspective,I interviewed a promiscus teenage girl of 17 yrs and she told me things that are truly shocking,even to an unshockable fellow like me,she said her problems started after she lost her virginity last year,since that she simply cannot control her body, having sex 3-5 times a week is just management,she was crying and was telling me men that are currently fvcking her now and I was speechless,all the boys and married men in my area are actively fvcking the girl,,mind you the girl is still in secondary school but her confessions is truly incredible,I asked her what if a friend of mine married her as a virgin and will be rejoicing what will be his fate,she looked me in the eyes and said that she cannot control herself not to fvck everybody from the gate man to me,if I am interested, marrying a virgin is not an assurance of good behavior,you can break the virginity and hell will be let loose.

Bunsenbun:
would you be willing to do a nairaland poll concerning this?.The response here should be a good indicator

jmoore:


There is a difference between a virgin who abstained from sex till marriage and a virgin who lost her virginity to boyfriend.

You claimed her 'problems' started after losing her virginity. That's not the main point. The main point is that her problems started after

she tasted premarital sex.

Donspicey:



Oga forget dat talk jareh...

If u no get self control u go dey Bleep anyhow

Most disvirgined girls dey faithful after marriage compared to dos married as virgin...

Inside life........

NoToPile:
Loool, the hypocrisy on this thread.

No matter how much you guys want to devalue virginity, it is still the best. Virtginity is just an addendum blablabla na una sabi.

Do what you want to do with your bodies and leave the virgins alone na.

And to think this thread is in the religion section, God expects his children to remain pure till marriage except those that lost theirs though circumstances beyond their control ( rape, peodphila etc) shikena

How people they to twist the word of God amazes me.

There is a reason why Mary had to be a virgin.

Abegi if you are a virgin continue keeping yourself and if you want to stop premarital sex you can still stop.

Bluezy13:
A. Character without virginity is a pass.
B. Virginity without Character is a fail...
C. Virginity with Character is a credit
D. Without Character and virginity is a failure.


I will take A.
Unnecessary shouts (from B and C) pisses me off.

jmoore:

Fabricated opinion with no empirical evidence.


If they had self-control, why did they lose their virginity before marriage?

smh

JastSiryin:
If there's anything I've learnt so far from all the discussions about virginity and so on... Is that people would do anything to feel good about themselves or justify their actions. And this is mostly the case with or without a Law Giver(Religion or God).

Most people validate their actions through other people's guilt and misfortune, not because they want to please God.

I don't understand why what people choose to do or not do with their sexually organs is such a big issue. It's not like it's ever mentioned amongst the credentials of great men and women. E.g "Margaret Thatcher was a great leader who did so and so... She also didn't get some dick until she got married" WTF