Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / NewStats: 3,201,416 members, 7,978,310 topics. Date: Friday, 18 October 2024 at 05:34 AM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Family / Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. (5185 Views)
Seeking Sincere Advise / Pls, I Want To Know About Nigerian Marriage Life. / My Sincere Advise To My Nigerian Sisters This Xmas (2) (3) (4)
(1) (2) (3) (4) (Reply) (Go Down)
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by smithclito: 6:37pm On Nov 07, 2020 |
CanadianNaija: I remember asking politely not to insult. other couples can learn from this thread. do u know I bath my children ,fetch water for the house, sweep at time, run errands just to relieve my wife yet we still have problem. so pls temper r comments with respect. I believe u will not want someone calling r father or brother he goat because of his own wife Will u? . afterall this forum is for adults I believed. 5 Likes |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by CanadianNaija: 8:02pm On Nov 07, 2020 |
smithclito: You do it at times while it’s her permanent job and yet you do not know the solution to this problem you have? Don’t go and hire help, be looking for Work horse that you’ll pound after working at least two jobs all day long. Inconsiderate man! 1 Like |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Octopusssy(f): 8:19pm On Nov 07, 2020 |
Kriss216:Come back and comment when you are married. I don't know why it is single people that are the most vocal in marital issues. You guys come online and yammer 'authoritatively' about things you know nothing of. Argue with your keypad. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Hathor5(f): 8:22pm On Nov 07, 2020 |
Mindlog: They actually think it is which makes their wives cheaper than prostitutes. |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Kriss216: 9:25pm On Nov 07, 2020 |
Octopusssy: Singles give best marital advice. Cry! |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by smithclito: 12:04am On Nov 08, 2020 |
CanadianNaija: I see the reason y r men hardly stay faithful to you women. my apologise to r life u even call someone u dont even know inconsiderate man . u the biggest fool the thread has recorded. are u even married ? do u even have what it takes to keep a partner. Buffalo. 2 Likes |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by smithclito: 12:13am On Nov 08, 2020 |
the thread is open for insult now pls bring it up. mouth ranticees |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by VEXT: 12:17am On Nov 08, 2020 |
CanadianNaija: Sir/ma,u r mad... Very mad for insulting the op.. 1 Like |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by smithclito: 12:23am On Nov 08, 2020 |
VEXT: Thank u very much . I believed so many people can gain from these thread even the intending couples will learn ,thats the reason y I open this thread. now they have turn it to insult arena let them bring it up. |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by zed7: 6:28am On Nov 08, 2020 |
Even an overworked female CEO still has sex. All these excuses isn't cutting it. Perhaps she has fallen out of love or was never in love. Perhaps she is getting it from someone else. Perhaps you are unkempt and unhygienic and you don't turn her on. Perhaps, sex with you is very bad. Whatever the reason, find a way to rectify it. Lack of sex in marriage is a valid ground for termination of marriage. Your wife isn't doing you any favours by giving you sex. It's her duty and she is also meeting a biological and emotional need. 2 Likes |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by crackhaus: 7:21am On Nov 08, 2020 |
smithclito:You even bothered to explain yourself Anytime a man comes with complaints of sex deprivation from his wife, the only thing hooligans assume is that the man does not help her around the house – every damn time, this happens like clockwork as if they live with these people, or perhaps they just think that ALL wives are very good women who can't starve husbands of sex. Well let me help return the thread back to the real world... Women will starve their husbands of sex over the littlest silliest reasons...the only issue is, are you going to be patient enough to massage her ego every time to get it (I don't advise this anyway, but that's just me). Like I noted, the reasons can range from nothing (silly) to valid ones but let's not kid ourselves, most of the time they are usually nothing: – You didnt take her side in an argument/fight with another person because you knew she was the one at fault - problem oo, she can starve you of sex.. – You didn't let her watch her favourite programme - okay na, she can withhold sex that night.. – You didn't buy her something she asked for - she can reduce or even eliminate sex for one week – You didn't drive/take her to a place she asked you to - get ready for sulking, and no sex...for two weeks if she remembers and adds the previous issue when you didn't buy her what she needed... – You decided not to accompany her to her friend's wedding because you would rather do more important things - ohh dear, you have embarrassed her outside, so no sex for one month.. Etc. Etc. Very funny reasons, I could go on and on.. All those talk of housework, chores, and child raising, have simply become the go-to excuses because this is the only way they can defend their sex-withholding when they know the real reasons might be any of those silly little ones. When you think of it, most people (and I figure including yourself) live in modest houses – three/four rooms at most. It's not Buckingham Palace with 50 rooms and another 20 sitting areas that need to be attended to. When it comes to cooking, most families don't cook fresh food daily. Also, most people don't clean and do chores daily - it is completely & utterly unrealistic that anyone would think any of this will be a good reason to deprive a husband of sex for months...months eh The so-called househelps being suggested here, is just the textbook solution to an issue that does not have merit in the first place. The same work that women are crying is too much is usually the same work that they make their helps do even more without option for complain. Every single day, a typical Nigerian woman must find work to give their househelp inside a tiny 3-bedroom house, the same house she can stay for one week and not do any major chore. In fact, if they even catch house-girl sleeping during the day, the thing dey bite them for body. My brother, matter plenty when it comes to women eh. Fortunately for me, I don't know how to beg them or complain to them...we don't do that in my side. Once I say it once or twice or three times, you're on your own. Na to just find an alternative means of momentary happiness, and she will be none the wiser because I won't throw it in her face. Either you simply remove your mind from sex totally and leave your madam to be doing what she is doing (afterall you have tried several times to talk to her), or you keep talking and wasting spit on the matter. You said cheating is not an option for ya, this is the only reason I did not explicitly suggest it. Or you can become a prayer warrior, so that anytime you have urge for sex you enter your inner sanctorium and engage in worship to kill the urge. I don't know what else to tell you like this... 11 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by pocohantas(f): 12:06pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
smithclito: I think you should divorce her. Since she won’t change and you can’t cheat as a believer- just divorce her, okay? 1 Like |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by mariahAngel(f): 12:23pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
Kriss216: Be careful with your careless comments...before you suffer for 600years! |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by mariahAngel(f): 12:32pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
Kriss216: I actually feel sorry for you! Your comments show you've never truly been loved by a woman. So sad. Dude, being loved by a woman is the best thing that could ever happen to a man. 1 Like |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by mariahAngel(f): 12:37pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
Cutehector: Wahala yapa for women wey marry insensitively selfish Nigerian men ooo 1 Like |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Cutehector(m): 12:44pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
mariahAngel:why you come dey quote me? You see say i dey my lane jejely, post my comment without quoting anybody, instead of you to do same, you carry you aproko fingers take quote me. Dey your lane o make wahala no follow you for nairaland. |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by mariahAngel(f): 12:51pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
smithclito: |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by mariahAngel(f): 12:53pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
Cutehector: Dem no born wahala papa well! |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Cutehector(m): 12:54pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
mariahAngel:oya na. You don buy trouble. You go tire beg me. |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Twoclans(f): 1:04pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
pocohantas: Haaaaaaaaaaaa POCO |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Kriss216: 3:07pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
mariahAngel:Mariah, you can’t deny you don’t love me. Swallow your pride and accept the fact. |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Kriss216: 3:21pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
pocohantas:Very simple. Lol |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by mariahAngel(f): 3:27pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
Kriss216: OK. I love you Davash222! Happy now? Make I kuku love all the men wey dey Nairaland...I go soon create list of all the Nairaland men wey I love |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Psych412(f): 4:25pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
CanadianNaija:madam, please keep quiet. this man came here for an advice to save his marriage. why are you insulting him. you lack manners. if you don't have anything to contribute, just off your phone or keep on reading comments 3 Likes |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by smithclito: 4:31pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
u people succeeded in turning my anger into laughter. well thanks for all meaningful and respectful contributions. I believed this thread will help other couples. as for me I will consider all meaningful advice here and conclude what my next action will be .My wife is a wonderful home maker and an excellent mother, she use to be a good love making person but she lost it along the way I tried talking to her but highest after apology she go straight back at it .well I dey one Change now only |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by mariahAngel(f): 4:45pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
smithclito: Reignite your love. Make her fall in love with you afresh. Awaken the passion in her. Do things that you haven't done for her before. You love her, don't you? Start with little things. Buy her romantic gifts: skincare sets, perfume... surprise her Take her out spontaneously. Make her feel beautiful and special again, and I swear, she'll be killing herself to please you in no time. |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by 99thEnemy(m): 5:10pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
Kriss216: |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by Psych412(f): 5:14pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
mariahAngel:babe, I don't understand all this list for his wife to have sex with him. 2 Likes |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by mariahAngel(f): 5:19pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
Psych412: It's not just about the sex... 1 Like |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by mrblessed(m): 6:25pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
mariahAngel:Is anyone in doubt you are not a Nigerian lady? 1 Like |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by tosinhtml: 6:32pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
smithclito: I really wanted to write something very long, but mehn I just erased every thing as I don't have strength. Just Kindly watch this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Na6fHABGK44 It's a couple having a discussion about about Women losing their sex drive, due to all kinds of situations. EG: Loss of Interest in sex, process of childbirth, complications, taking care of children etc. In this video, his Wife was able to have a sit-down discussion & be honest about these issues. You see ehn, you cannot force a horse to drink water, If she isn't willing to change, nothing can change her. |
Re: Pls I Need Your Sincere Advise. by smithclito: 6:56pm On Nov 08, 2020 |
tosinhtml: ok. Thanks |
Hoe Do Ladies Feel? / Teething In Children, What You Should Know ..... / Please Advice Me!! Am Tired Of This, My Husband Loves To Cúm In My Mouth – Wife
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 63 |