This is Nigerian girls

Imagine that kain thing where on your birthday you'll get an iphone 12 pro max and a big birthday bash and all you can do for him on his birthday is to post him on your status and he'll still take you out.

Is that not see finish like that

It's not very common for people to address certain issues with an "open mind." By default, most people give a "knee-jerk" reaction to certain points of view based on whether they feel it is an attack on their race, religion, gender, political affiliation, etc. It is laudable that the OP got to see things from her friend's perspective, rather than seeing it as an attack on her gender.

@OP, one bottle of Baileys for you.

Op why should ladies worry about being broke to be in a relationship when they naturally believe the only thing they should offer to a man is vagina


Why should ladies bother about being broke when they naturally believe that any man they allow to penetrate their vagina is a very lucky man

Palema007:
Imagine.... You no get money to pay Uber, come still dey ask make driver increase AC . Is that not madness?
It's the desperate sex starved guy I blame! If guys increase their standards most ladies will change but then konji won't let our brothers reason the right way.

I've once back out of what would have been a relationship, guy was too high in all areas. I settled for friendship and I enjoyed him more, learnt from him more and got more exposed. It's not about having low self esteem, it's setting priorities right, I for one, will never be in a relationship where I will keep struggling to meet up or avoid feeling like he's doing me a favor.

Guys think ladies don’t have this fear of social class, we do. There are guys you meet and you will struggle to fit into his class or style of living.

When I told him I couldn’t keep up with such an expensive relationship, he asked why I didn’t tell him and he offered to take over the logistics. It didn’t make sense to me. I am not in 200L. Person suppose outgrow some kind thing. If I need sensible support or giveaway, fine- but I should be able to handle my basic recurrent expenses.

Some of those guys are not even sex-starved, some are just being men. It is in man to provide for the ones he cares about. Except he is an efulefu or he is angered about something.

pocohantas:
I do, some do, majority don’t and that is the reality.

I remember seeing an Uber driver having an altercation with a lady, the number of times I have seen that is alarming. If you can’t afford an Uber ride, you have no business being in one every time and telling the driver to increase AC. They get to their destinations and start calling the guy. That one sef will na take forever to come out. Pride cannot allow me do that o.

I can never forget this guy I met longtime ago. The relationship died at the talking stage. Cost of seeing was too heavy on my pockets. Not like I couldn’t pull through it, but I didn’t see a need to spend all that for prick. I knew I was too broke for that particular one. We just let ourselves be...

We need more girls like you

Mimiey:
So sad the kind of ladies y'all attract.

Lotta women out here grounding for themselves, so many.

Why haven't you found yourself a decent one who believes in being dependent, who works and also sorts the bill whether she is made, hustling or almost there?

There is a diff between a leech and those who are also trying to make ends meet.

Why are u attracting leeches?

I suppose you're a woman because if you're a man, you should know that your chances of meeting leeches is very high

Palema007:
Lol... No they won't... My Sisters are calm
Honestly if I'm a man, there are some things I wouldn't take from women and some things I wouldn't do to women.

Somethings you wouldn’t take as a man? It’s like you’re not ready to find wife then.

Anyway, I believe many guys are a always happy when they find women who are not wired to believe men are their ATM’s.

The issue is how to locate such women early in life.

Sorry this thread isn't for me

Alexaonfleek:
[ Imagine that kain thing where on your birthday you'll get an iphone 12 pro max and a big birthday bash and all you can do for him on his birthday is to post him on your status and he'll still take you out.

Is that not see finish like that

As funny as this sound.. It can be very painful... Imagine the lady is the one getting such treatment.

Sometimes I wonder if ladies guilty of such acts have no conscience or shame.

RedNStripes:

Will comment later

oya time don reach where is your comment?

pocohantas:


Guys think ladies don’t have this fear of social class, we do. There are guys you meet and you will struggle to fit into his class or style of living.

When I told him I couldn’t keep up with such an expensive relationship, he asked why I didn’t tell him and he offered to take over the logistics. It didn’t make sense to me. I am not in 200L. Person suppose outgrow some kind thing. If I need sensible support or giveaway, fine- but I should be able to handle my basic recurrent expenses.

Some of those guys are not even sex-starved, some are just being men. It is in man to provide for the ones he cares about. Except he is an efulefu or he is angered about something.

You're a rare elite in the pool of elitists

Funkyswagzz:


We need more girls like you

go and check well that lady you quoted must be 30yrs and above, because in Nigeria, ladies start having sense and becoming valuable to men they meet from age 28yrs and above.


Girls of 25yrs downwards believe their vagina is more than enough for any man and that's why after guys sample their vagina, they start to remember that Tina, nkechi, Bola, Onome, Aisha, Amina and Chioma cannot cook or greet people, and start to look for a way to break up with her

mariahAngel:
Would a man want to be in a relationship where the lady takes care of all her needs?
How would a man feel when his woman never needs him for anything?
Can a man be comfortable in that kind of relationship?

Madam you did not answer the question of the thread.

coolsegun2002:

Girl A: babes.. I’m broke

Girl B: What happened to your boyfriend??....


Op... for most naija babes...brokenness is the first criteria for being in a relationship.....

This conversation is very real...

Samakus:
She asked me for an urgent 2k, I declined not because I don't have it but because she feels she's entitled to it. Next thing I heard was, 'be there forming fine guy, don't you know I'm a woman and you should be giving, don't go and make money'. I just drew close to her and whispered, this mentality will land you in Shiloh. Bye

Palema007:
My thought exactly!

A financially independent woman has lot of choices and is more valuable than a dependent one.

Incorrect! A financial independent woman in the Nigerian society very limited options. No need to argue with me just check the female entertainment industry and see how far. One would think that the more money they make the more chances at true love they get but the reality is the opposite. It's either they meet leeches especially if they are not so confident or desperate or they become a babymama for a wealthy man.

Palema007:
The usual online boast, same you go offline to buy a woman the "world " only to put the tip.

Nonsense and Nl redpillers!

Mad ooo

AfroKnight:


Somethings you wouldn’t take as a man? It’s like you’re not ready to find wife then.

Anyway, I believe many guys are a always happy when they find women who are not wired to believe men are their ATM’s.

The issue is how to locate such women early in life.

Lol.... That's not true.There are women out there who aren't self centered,women who know what love is, valuable women with healthy sense of responsibility. Believe me, there are.

I can't be spending on a woman who wouldn't deem it fit to reciprocate sometimes. I can't

vickydevoka:
If na Igbo gals. She no go reason am at all. Unless she don turn 40

Hrhehe

Not only financial, but physical, emotional and psychological dependencies. Women wants all. You've iterated the realities of financial dependencies, so I'll iterate the other.

Physical dependency is when she expects the man to check out who is banging the door in the middle of the night, and of course take the bullet first if the unfortunate happens. Or expect a man to lift heavy stuff, even carry her for beach pics even if she is x2 heavier than him.

Emotional dependence goes when a man has to be a regulator of her emotions, and a source of emotional boost. Women are hardly a bedrock of a man in despair, to encourage and motivate him, to be his resting place and make him gets back on track. A temporary emotional man is repulsive, an attraction killer and instantly dries up her honeypot. Women wants strong men, and its non negotiable.

About psychological dependency, women wants to be treated like a goddess, and for a man to actively maintain her delusion. For example a woman would rather hate you tell her she is getting fat, even if it's the truth. She believes she is curvy, plus size, extra large, big bodied and all sugary name she calls herself, but the word "fat" pierces so hard. So a man needs to psychologically makes her feel competent in herself even if she is not. Her delusion must be maintained.

This is what men mean when they say women are burden, as it is not only financially. Nuff said. Until then equality is a long thing.

Samakus:


It gives the lady an air of confidence. Believe it or not, a woman whom the man knows that she can take care of herself is revered and respected more by the man.

If a lady can take care of her needs, she will be confident in herself and classy in her personality. It's just natural. I don't respect leeches that much to be honest. I treat them anyhow and if they walk, I move to the next one. Even if you don't have, there's a way you package yourself, and your guy will be giving you at his discretion or when it's important. Once you have a mindset of 'I'm the girl here', my dear people like me won't even tell you. We will just zero our mind, target the fish, chop it, and chill for you to walk

Would you be comfortable in a relationship where the lady takes care of all her needs and never asks or takes anything from you even if you offer her?
We all know that it makes a man feel good when he takes care of his woman, and you can only take care of a woman if she allows it.
How would it make you feel as a man if a woman you love don't accept gifts from you? Answer honestly, because not all females are materialistic....

No broke person should be thinking of relationship. They should be thinking of breaking the relationship they have with brokenness first before thinking of going into one with another person. You can't be in two relationships at the same time.
When you are broke and still decide to go into a relationship, you will frustrate your partner more and if both of you happen to be broke, na die.

Palema007:
So a friend of Mine posted the above question on his status which i responded to affirmatively. He sent a voice note in response arguing that Most ladies don't. At first i argued profusely, maintaining my stance but along the line I got to see things from his Perspective. One question which threw me off balance was "If you are right Dee, why are ladies always in need of URGENT 2k?" Lol.... While trying to find the right answer to that, another came. Why do Ladies hardly celebrate their Men? , then another : Why are most women dependent? Why do they see relationship as a source of livelihood?. After the long chat I asked myself his initial question , Do women ever consider themselves too broke for a relationship?

"Relationship should be between two people with an agreement to do things MUTUALLY." he said. Everything in a relationship should be reciprocated. Financial expenses in relationship shouldn't be on a person. Relationship becomes sweeter when your partner (the lady precisely) can afford to surprise you, relieve you and be there for you"

Honestly, dude is right. Women hardly ever consider their financial capability before agreeing to date. The average Nigerian lady sees relationship as a Charity home, in her mind all she needs is good face, nice body. She believes she should be taken care of, unfortunately this mentality of hers does more harm to her than good.

Every woman wishes to be treated like Queen but do not know How to be a Queen. When the lady vith no value but with the dreams of a queen gets what she deserves, she starts jumping from pole to pole screaming "Men are Scum" little does she know that she gets what she could offer.

Be a Woman of value and you will never be replaced, Queen attracts Kings!...

What do you think of this?

Baba forget. A man who will treat you like a queen will do so regardless. Abi no b Offset cheat on cardi-B with all her money? You people should keep making money a priority in relayionships OK.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
No broke person should be thinking of relationship. They should be thinking of breaking the relationship they have with brokenness first before thinking of going into one with another person. You can't be in two relationships at the same time.
When you are broke and still decide to go into a relationship, you will frustrate your partner more and if both of you happen to be broke, na die.

Thank You!

In Nigeria, yes.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
No broke person should be thinking of relationship. They should be thinking of breaking the relationship they have with brokenness first before thinking of going into one with another person. You can't be in two relationships at the same time.
When you are broke and still decide to go into a relationship, you will frustrate your partner more and if both of you happen to be broke, na die.

Lies. A lady can be broke and still function good in a relationship. It's even unreasonable to say people should b well financially before relationship so I no get y the discussion sef.

Mayb in other country
Definitely not here

I totally agree.. A lady shouldn't depend on a man for everything.. Love shouldn't be the only thing that is reciprocated in a relationship..ladies should help build their man, men tend to respect these kinda women..

Palema007:
One of the many reasons i laugh Nigerian feminists. They clamour for equal treatment but reject equal responsibilities, they want the gain but not the work.
It baffles me how you will want a "burden" off your neck but still want to be fed for a cause you reject. How do you expect a Man to treat you differently when you still beg for crumbs? Do they know what gender equality mean to a typical Nigerian man?

Honestly my heart breaks when i see women remain in toxic relationships all because the Man foot the bills. I hate it when Guys talk low of Women, or ask women what they offer aside sex. Women need to wake up!

So u mean to say that a woman really has no value except when she pays bills. Gosh.... I'm so pissed. So all those invaluable things such as cooking, cleaning, birthing children and even taking care of them is really nothing till i split bills. Who brainwashed we women like this? . The reality of today's world especially in Nigeria is that a woman has to set a home running at a fast pace of 80% while a man can chip in a miserly 20%. I keep going on the internet to see different miserable standards set by men and women holding on to the standards to show how independent they really are. I pity for u lots. Let men keep shifting the only responsibility they have been accorded to you, u hear? Keep proving how much of a robot u are. The funny thing is that in all this clamour for financial equality on both parties, i have never seen where men are asked to be actively involved in chores. So as a woman, u are expected to change ur surname, cook, clean, birth children, take care of them and still split bills. Wow. Weldone to all the super women out there. Y'all rewards are in heaven #notformethough.

SweetCunt97:
Baba forget. A man who will treat you like a queen will do so regardless. Abi no b Offset cheat on cardi-B with all her money? You people should keep making money a priority in relayionships OK.

This is about Nigeria setting reality. In typical Nigerian relationship, we all know Money is a priority, we only try to shift goals when it doesn't suit our narrative. In Nigerian economy money is needed to run a relationship or marriage.

If this thread is about broke shaming guys, you wouldn't have typed this, rather you would have issued the "Go and make Money" command.