CHoccolaTE:
I hope men are not expecting their girlfriends to cook for them or wash and I hope they have sense to not treat their girlfriends like inferior gender since everyone is now playing equal roles.

Let's erase patriarchy completely not just the parts that favour women.

pocohantas:


Lol. I don’t even know how they do it, but then, if the man is willing to help her pay- fine. I prefer two financially stable partners. It isn’t always about materialism, it just makes it easier to enjoy the love and achieve goals.

Frustrated is an understatement. All the small small fight and anger, check am, na money be the main issue.

WoundedLamb:


I agree with you. But sadly, some guys are scared away when a girl is equally boxed up. They see being the girls' source of money as a way of maintaining a strong grip on them. It's actually funny cause these guys complain about girls being dependent but deep within them, they enjoy the sense of superiority that gives them.

Palema007:
One of the many reasons i laugh Nigerian feminists. They clamour for equal treatment but reject equal responsibilities, they want the gain but not the work.
It baffles me how you will want a "burden" off your neck but still want to be fed for a cause you reject. How do you expect a Man to treat you differently when you still beg for crumbs? Do they know what gender equality mean to a typical Nigerian man?

Don't you think men who have dated Nigerian feminists (albeit surprisingly non-existent ones to most people) would be in a better position to tell?

What responsibilities exactly are feminists shrinking from that make them undeserving of equality, respect and dignity? Because this line is thrown about a lot and it confuses the heck out of me.

Abi, all naija babes suddenly don turn feminists?

(Let's not even consider the fact that we are bitter, ugly, lonely, frustrated and broken beings who don't have men over our heads . If men are driven away from feminists because of their attitudes - who dem wan share responsibility, bills and practice feminism for relationship with? (And so, no feminist-centered relationships to draw conclusions from.) )

Samakus:


Don't bother trying to bend a dry stick. She has her mentality and that's not changing soon. I gave up the day I saw her post crying out for any man that will take her to Europe because she's a woman.

Magnoliaa:


Don't you think men who have dated Nigerian feminists (albeit surprisingly non-existent ones to most people) would be in a better position to tell?

What responsibilities exactly are feminists shrinking from that make them underserving of equality, respect and dignity? Because this line is thrown about a lot and it confuses the heck out of me.

Abi, all naija babes suddenly don turn feminists?

(Let's not even consider the fact that we are bitter, ugly, frustrated and broken beings who don't have mens over our heads . If men are driven away from feminists because of their attitudes - who dem wan share responsibility, bills and practice feminism for relationship with?)

Palema007:
Here's the reality of things... Only little percentage of Men in Nigeria can foot the whole family bills, either ways Wives contribute financially, so tell me what part of patriarchy favors women in the real sense?

Would you rather be treated like a trophy in a relationship only to start blowing air into firewood with your mouth in marriage? Let's be realistic please. It's best when two financially stable people come together.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
I won't feel comfortable in relationship where I can't go out and see something nice and get for the guy.
I won't be happy in relationship where I have to ask for money for everything.
In fact, without something to give me small small money, I'm.not going into any relationship.
Even if I'm a saint, the man will always find away to make me feel like a parasite.

pocohantas:


hahahahahahahahahahahaha! Werey!!!

Your mum will start serving you rice and stew with two plates.

CHoccolaTE:


Ok
Are you Christian or Muslim

Palema007:
This is about Nigeria setting reality. In typical Nigerian relationship, we all know Money is a priority, we only try to shift goals when it doesn't suit our narrative. In Nigerian economy money is needed to run a relationship or marriage.

If this thread is about broke shaming guys, you wouldn't have typed this, rather you would have issued the "Go and make Money" command.

humilitypays:
Op why should ladies worry about being broke to be in a relationship when they naturally believe the only thing they should offer to a man is vagina


Why should ladies bother about being broke when they naturally believe that any man they allow to penetrate their vagina is a very lucky man

SweetCunt97:
Yes, when the man is more focused on a relationship rather than fixing his pockets. When you like someone genuinely, you do so irrespective of their pockets.

Samakus:
She asked me for an urgent 2k, I declined not because I don't have it but because she feels she's entitled to it. Next thing I heard was, 'be there forming fine guy, don't you know I'm a woman and you should be giving, don't go and make money'. I just drew close to her and whispered, this mentality will land you in Shiloh. Bye

ePoster:

Financially independent women are the ones with Rights.


The rest, not so much.


For the sake of not being treated like trash, females need to step up and own it.


The entitlement mentality the global culture encourages is the stumbling block of gender equality.


Females generally shooting their own foot.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Lol. She also deserve the good things in life nah.

SweetCunt97:
That's you though. Relationship is more than thinking of spending money to do this or do that. Me, I'd love someone who'd appreciate flowers plucked from a gardens jarey. The important thing is to be happy sha.

Palema007:
Lol.... Nigerian feminists?

I wouldn't want to go into that...

Maybe because you don't know one/any; observed or followed her relationship life (I know it sounds somehow) and you're just making conjectures based on strawmen anti-feminists have put up.

For real, though. I wish you'd point me to one feminist (someone we can ascertain she's a feminist in the real sense of it, identifies as one and has been vocal) pushing... responsibilities off her shoulder? Or just ONE instance of them wanting gains and not 'burdens'.

No man (I don't mean man-boys) has narrated the hypocrisy or double-standards he experienced personally (being romantically involved) from a feminist.

How are naija babes dependent and becoming masculine, footing bills in the home at the same time?? Heck, my brain is not processing that! Maybe, they are just asking for the barest minimum from guys? To contribute something?

Magnoliaa:


Don't you think men who have dated Nigerian feminists (albeit surprisingly non-existent ones to most people) would be in a better position to tell?

What responsibilities exactly are feminists shrinking from that make them undeserving of equality, respect and dignity? Because this line is thrown about a lot and it confuses the heck out of me.

Abi, all naija babes suddenly don turn feminists?

(Let's not even consider the fact that we are bitter, ugly, frustrated and broken beings who don't have mens over our heads . If men are driven away from feminists because of their attitudes - who dem wan share responsibility, bills and practice feminism for relationship with?)

tosinhtml:


Congrats, you did the right thing. Money directly or Indirectly makes people Lord over you, whether we choose to accept or not.
Even my parents started respecting me when I started earning some money.

Palema007:
Lol... I'm a Christian.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Happiness is the highest good at the end of it all. If being broke make you happy, that's great. If being independent makes me happy, thats also great for me. I'm an advocate of Happiness. Real happiness not the one you expect people to give you. The kind that emanates from that feeling of selfhood and knowing that whether you are in a relationship or not, your happiness your responsibility not anyone's.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
You for Waka pass that guy..those set of people have not even discovered themselves let alone know what woman are

Palema007:
Babe, I know you of this opinion because the focus is on ladies...

No problem, I hear you. Love conquers all, even poverty.

Magnoliaa:


Maybe because you don't know one/any; observed or followed her relationship life (I know it sounds somehow) and you're just making conjectures based on strawmen anti-feminists have put up.

For real, though. I wish you'd point me to one feminist (someone we can ascertain she's a feminist in the real sense of it, identifies as one and has been vocal) pushing... responsibilities off her shoulder? Or just ONE instance of them wanting gains and not 'burdens'.

No man (I don't mean man-boys) has narrated the hypocrisy or double-standards he experienced personally (being romantically involved) from a feminist.

How are naija babes dependent and becoming masculine, footing bills in the home at the same time?? Heck, my brain is not processing that! Maybe, they are just asking for the barest minimum from guys? To contribute something?

Palema007:

I'm an advocate of Balance.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
You for Waka pass that guy..those set of people have not even discovered themselves let alone know what woman are

SweetCunt97:
But Bros hustle hard sha. Money is indeed important if not, Ruth for Bible no go sleep for Boaz feet like pussycat. Every woman wants a man who can provide security for d family and offcourse she'll b there to support.

Ruth loun loun! Ahn ahn!

CHoccolaTE:


OK so I hope you will be willing to follow scripture and submit to your husbands authority completely after marriage? Do that while also paying his bills and contributing to his upkeep. All while you are bearing his surname and all your kids bore through 9 months of hardship and hours of labour belong to his family and his lineage.
You share provision which is his major responsibility

Does he share leadership with you?
Does he share pregnancies and Labour and breastfeeding?
Does he let some of your kids bear your own name?
Does he think he is equally responsible for housework, cooking and childcare etc?

SweetCunt97:
Thank you! So being broke or not shouldn't be a limiting factor to being happy. Forget that thing about selfhood, people tend to get depressed when alone no matter how rich they are. Yes my happiness is my responsibility which is why it's mandatory to get a man who won't had to one's problems.