SweetCunt97:
But Bros hustle hard sha. Money is indeed important if not, Ruth for Bible no go sleep for Boaz feet like pussycat. Every woman wants a man who can provide security for d family and offcourse she'll b there to support.

Palema007:
Just when I thought you had sense... I'm a lady. So what's your point?

Magnoliaa:


And this is what people try to attribute feminism to: saying it caused women to be working double-shifts, to shoot themselves in the legs, and be cheated...

I don't believe that. I see conservative women trying to appropriate liberal ideals. They want to be financially-contributing submissive women or something like that...

They don't want to be judged as leeches and they don't want to be seen as (being) <too> progressive. *shrugs*

Palema007:
Aunty go and make your money!

Lol... Anyways, I'm a lady and I maintain, a lady without job should get one and not relationship!

pocohantas:


Oh some are, especially in LDRs. Imagine being in Lagos and your partner is in Abuja or PH. Every time you want to see them, you have to budget 60k for flight alone. Isn’t that an expensive prick/pussy?

vickydevoka:
If na Igbo gals. She no go reason am at all. Unless she don turn 40

pocohantas:


hahahahahahahahahahahaha! Werey!!!

Your mum will start serving you rice and stew with two plates.

jaydeevaa:
I think these days, being a financially independent lady is now a crime. you're trying to date or dating an average guy, and all he does is ask you for money. it's exasperating

tosinhtml:


You gerrit, all of a sudden they start asking for your opinions in family meetings.

CHoccolaTE:


OK so I hope you will be willing to follow scripture and submit to your husbands authority completely after marriage? Do that while also paying his bills and contributing to his upkeep. All while you are bearing his surname and all your kids bore through 9 months of hardship and hours of labour belong to his family and his lineage.
You share provision which is his major responsibility

Does he share leadership with you?
Does he share pregnancies and Labour and breastfeeding?
Does he let some of your kids bear your own name?
Does he think he is equally responsible for housework, cooking and childcare etc?

Palema007:
Madam calm down! If you have too many chores to do, get a maid! You see that's what we are talking about, make your money so you can make life easier for yourself. No one is undermining women's role in the family.

We are talking about relationship,the first stage before getting married.A lady who can't pay her own bills shouldn't be thinking of getting into a relationship but getting a job. its very simple.

CHoccolaTE:



When they get married their eyes go clear.
Is it not Nigerian men?
The men will still expect them to continue being independent in marriage.
They will remind you that you were taking care of yourself before marriage so why are you now turning into someone else?

Miss independent, miss independent, that's how they will marry a stingy man that has no interest in providing for them or a man that expects his wife to be obedient submissive slave and co-provider.

Look at the lamentations of these two women that were doing miss independence before marriage


https://www.nairaland.com/6173928/life-story#94833128


https://www.nairaland.com/6173928/life-story/1#95793133

pocohantas:


We are not ready for this conversation. Abuja guys are on this table. It is like once they start wearing that cap on their heads- problem!

SweetCunt97:
Lies. A lady can be broke and still function good in a relationship. It's even unreasonable to say people should b well financially before relationship so I no get y the discussion sef.

Lucyspa:



So u mean to say that a woman really has no value except when she pays bills. Gosh.... I'm so pissed. So all those invaluable things such as cooking, cleaning, birthing children and even taking care of them is really nothing till i split bills. Who brainwashed we women like this? . The reality of today's world especially in Nigeria is that a woman has to set a home running at a fast pace of 80% while a man can chip in a miserly 20%. I keep going on the internet to see different miserable standards set by men and women holding on to the standards to show how independent they really are. I pity for u lots. Let men keep shifting the only responsibility they have been accorded to you, u hear? Keep proving how much of a robot u are. The funny thing is that in all this clamour for financial equality on both parties, i have never seen where men are asked to be actively involved in chores. So as a woman, u are expected to change ur surname, cook, clean, birth children, take care of them and still split bills. Wow. Weldone to all the super women out there. Y'all rewards are in heaven #notformethough.

WoundedLamb:
I'm not a lady but I think they should. I mean, it's really a problem if you don't have transport to meet up with your guy at a preplanned location.

SweetCunt97:
So a student should wait until she get job before going into a relationship? I'm a fvcking realist. So all this useless talks and arguments won't even change anything.

What in hell gave u d idea that I ain't making my own money sef? Abi u go just dey assume like illiterate.

Abi who una wan impress with all this comment sef?

Palema007:
Lol... If I had listed names would I have to add their home addresses and contact line so you would confirm their "feminists" status? Perhaps you would have requested screenshots of ladies begging for alms and also evidences of receipts transport fare, hair bills, lingeries bills or food bills men pay for leeches too. Since in your perfect feminazi world these things don't happen.

Woman, if I say I don't want to go into a topic, it's because I don't see it necessary bring such topics up, giving some guys here something to laugh on. If that fact flew over your head, I'm not surprised your brain can't process what's happening in your environment.

Palema007:
And I wonder why you lot will prefer to believe what goes on in your heads alone and not what's real. Quick question? Does your husband pay All the bills in the house? If yes! Are you in a Master- slave relationship /marriage?
Do you do all the chores in the house?
Does he shut you up everytime?
Is your voice never heard in the house?
Do you not work?
Are you caged in the house?
Are you treated as a intimacy gadget?
Does your opinion not count?

I wonder why you all monetize everything though, so because you bear his surname, carry your own babies, breast your own child, you should be paid? The foolishness in your mentality is that most of you still work 9-5 jobs everyday but come here to claim nonsense!

"9 months to bear a child into his lineage" see nonsense talk, were you forced to marry him? Is the child not yours too? Damn! This is so sick!

jaydeevaa:


I am scared of telling a prospective boyfriend that I work in a bank because they end up doing "beggie beggie"...they also begin to need 2k urgently

CHoccolaTE:


Oga enjoy your thread Abeg, I knew you will definitely find a way to justify what you have been writing even if it doesn't make sense.

Palema007:
If there's anyone not making sense and would love to remain that way, it is you. Learn to be open minded.

Have a nice night rest!

CHoccolaTE:


Fvck off.

Lucyspa:




Sis, leave them. Dem go soon hear word.

jaydeevaa:


I am scared of telling a prospective boyfriend that I work in a bank because they end up doing "beggie beggie"...they also begin to need 2k urgently

Lightangel65:
You guys always complain, if ladies are toobroke then stop dating them or date a lady who is not broke.
If you keep dating broke ladies and spending for them when no one is forcing you or mind controlling you then don't complain. You are complaining of something yet agreeing to it is that not plain stupidity

Palema007:
This one miss road entirely....

Ki lan so, kilo n wi.