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Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by zeusdgrt(m): 1:58pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
pocohantas:Wisdom |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by JONNYSPUTE(m): 1:58pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
pocohantas:...Nice one. Remain blessed |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by purples25(f): 1:58pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
We need emotional care and not necessarily cash. He could have asked: - why haven't you eaten? -hope there's no issue? That will be as good and comforting as money. You guys are too bland emotionally. Even if you dont have money, why fear to ask what the matter is? If you don't have money will she kill you? Did she ask you? Don't assume in a relationship, it causes issues. Everything is not about money. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Michdaf: 1:59pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
I don't normally do this before but I am forced to because op and most commenting really misunderstood me. Yeah am the guy. I had to create this new account to hid my identity. Am Christian and everything I said and did I did with good intentions. Am not the type of guys that will blank or reject her because of money. I really wanted to her then. Infact one the reason I back peddled was because I couldn't assist then. She pose to me then like she was truly in need and I felt ashamed of myself. Not knowing she was lying. She could tell from my intentions then that I meant well. I was going through a lot of this then. Some of which the op knew about. I had this issue that landed me in court. Though she didn't know about the court issue. Am this type of person if am going through a ruff part, I don't like disturbing others. I keep things to myself. We just knew each other, and I cannot be sharing all this with you. If the op notice then, I wasn't if commenting on nl then. I was reserve in everything. Since 22 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 1:59pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Mac12:you mean your husband ? 1 Like |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Raalsalghul: 2:00pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
YourCoffin: Lol! |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by OgaHector: 2:00pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
pocohantas:your reasoning is like that of a man. I’m fucking impressed lolz |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Myhusband(m): 2:00pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
shut up your dirty mouth there Op, do you know if he had many weird experience and disappointment? many of you ladies will even rub the assistance on his face and make him look like a fool my guy if you're reading this, you tried and I'm so happy the testimony is here, she even said what if the person is hunger dead God forbid, you don't have family members? many of you ladies have made men to stop going into relationship because of your over entitlement, if you continue to see relationship as a means to survive hunger, you will be disappointed as men are now wise 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Adeleketj: 2:00pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Girls always feel pained when something of this nature happens. But they do this a lot to guys. I have a friend (guy). Who asked a lady out she declined at first but accepted later. Till he lost his job. She dessertted the guy did even give him a call. Any time he calls she yawns and will seem uninterested. The guy actually felt really bad by this tho. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by SirLiquidGold: 2:00pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
You can't blame.the guy |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by kponkedenge(m): 2:01pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
CalliDora1: Both of you started out by suspecting each other.... So your friendship was bound to fail. If it was me, I'd have certainly asked you why you haven't eaten for days. |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by kkins25(m): 2:01pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
[quote author=CalliDora1 post=96175802][/quote]If my senses work correctly when someone doesn't eat in 4-6 hours after their meal, they usually start having the sensation of hunger. You want to lie say as you dey fast, hunger no dey worry you??smh. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by frankson1(m): 2:01pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
pocohantas: Things that makes me run from ladies I just met or trying to establish relationship: I've not eaten, I don't have money to buy data, I haven't made new hair in months, my phone is bad, I need to change it etc I will run and not look back. Don't test me too because I've failed even before the test 16 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Cutie09(m): 2:02pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
It could be the guy thought it is his duty to help you with food and bills, most naija girls automatically wants guys to help them card food, bills and help solve their family financial wahala. I know there are some good nigerian men out there same with women. 2017 i met a girl online became chat buddies. 2017 she helped me deliver a birthday cake to a friend, 2018 i was supposed to send her £22 for birthday cake accidentally sent her £2,200. Guess what she did? She returned all my money back i know theee are honest guys and ladies out there online. Bola146: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by playerinc(m): 2:02pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
I'll probably do the same. You don't call him. He alone calls and asks after you. He practically carries the conversations because I really believe that it's when the ladies are boring to talk to that guys begin to ask if they've eaten for lack of anything to discuss. Then you decided to start playing him by telling him you haven't eaten for days. What did you expect him to say? Even after he apologized for not being able to help, you didn't come straight with him. He obviously likes you or he wouldn't be trying to get back as no be only you be the girl wey dey this world. 17 Likes |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 2:04pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
phorget: You don't seem to understand. I wasn't mad a him for not being able to help but why blank me then ( evethough I wasn't really broke and dying of hunger like most people here think) and is coming back now. To what end exactly? I believe the chats and calls would have kept the fire burning but he stopped for reasons which don't exist. Or what should I say is the reason. 1 Like |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Cutie09(m): 2:04pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
pocohantas: Trigger his alarm lol. True most naija girl neva chop if u ask them 1 Like |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Nobody: 2:04pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
CalliDora1:you are not okay, believe me. you are not psychologically normal. and if I had you as a friend and you did this online, I will erase you from my life completely until you apologise sincerely what rubbish! 10 Likes |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by toye440: 2:06pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
CalliDora1:Ha Dangote cement, not a wise move. Cement is now #3200. Bae U know ur heart follow ur instinct. Some guys are just broke and they want to roll with d most beautiful babylon in town. I understand buhari has succeeded in pauperizing every body at the moment, but i have a simple rule; if u are not there for me in my darkest hour or time of need, i simple drop u like a bad habit. He should just man up, everyone is broke. I will never advice anyone to settle with a bro or sister who is too churchy. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by BabbanBura(m): 2:06pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Ishilove: Is Ishi now a transgender? Just curious! |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by rashfat(m): 2:06pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
CalliDora1: I'd like to be your CalliDora1 if you don't mind |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Joshbull: 2:06pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
CalliDora1: Let your heels be touching the back of your head as you run my dear. Sounds like he’s up to no good. If it happened just had you stated, then end it all. |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Myhusband(m): 2:07pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Michdaf: my brother save yourself the stress, for someone to bring this to public show she's an irresponsible lady, your situation when you met her is just a coincidence to show you, she doesn't worth it and please for many men that are hustling please I beg you don't go into a relationship with a broke lady, I'm not saying you should be collecting from lady but at least date a lady that can take care of herself while you hustle to make a stand for yourself so guy you owed no one any explanation 24 Likes |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by abbasajao(m): 2:07pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
I think it is now safe to say nairaland is not the best place to get relationships advices. People's comments here complicate issues for whoever is asking for such advice. You can tell him how you feel about that his behaviour. He might not be what you are thinking. |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by daben1(m): 2:07pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
kkins25: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Michdaf: 2:07pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Continuation. Since you this am going to let everything out. Another reason why I back peddled was she had issues on nl. She had been in different relationship in the past that was gave her bad impression here on nl. She had to change her moniker different times. Infact people of her past relationships still hurt her. I just came out of a relationship that was a disaster. And am not ready to get involved in another traumatic relationship. So when all this things start coming out, I decided I should give her time to sort herself out. People were cursing and insulting her. She hardly comment without people cursing her and am not ready for such. So I withdrew. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Ishilove: 2:08pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
BabbanBura:Ishi is in touch with Yin |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by daben1(m): 2:08pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
Mandela27:you did the right then, she should continue wallowing in childishness... Mtcheeeew 1 Like |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Mcslize: 2:08pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
CalliDora1: Why your instance might not be the type that you ain't the one that told him you had not eaten for three consecutive days of asking you, looking at it from men angles, that sent him a wrong impression. He felt that you might be those type of girls that will bill a man simply because he asks if you have eaten. Why you may not be that type of a lady, the truth is that men these days don't want to shoulder any unnecessary financial burden from any lady when there is no actual commitment on the part of the lady. He was only trying to avoid unnecessary financial implications. That's why. For instance, I lost interest in a lady I met on Facebook simply because the first message she sent me on WhatsApp was she has not eaten since 2 days. I simply told her I have not eaten for 2 weeks. She then said ok. That was the last time we chatted. I simply deleted her number. Why? She gave me that impression that she will be a parasite. If I were the guy, I will still do the same. I will surely withdraw because of the impression you created of always saying you have not eaten any time he asks you if you have eaten. To me, that's a wrong impression to give a guy of a friendship that is just starting off. 11 Likes |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by humilitypays(m): 2:09pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
CalliDora1:Shebi your fellow ladies here say all the teaching abi learning threads telling guys never to date broke ladies or marry one or spend a dime on a lady na wash ![]() ![]() Guys are upgrading oh, ladies need to be worried and amend their ways ![]() I went to the bank few weeks ago after a very long time cos I can't remember the last time I visited a bank but because it was a forex stuff and the bank said only account owner can pay so so amount of foreign bills to a Dom account, so I decided to go myself bcsuse I needed the money lodged into that account urgently. There was a queu, in the queue and the one I met inside the banking hall again, I got to meet a pretty damsel; don't ask me how ![]() We exchanged contacts. I later discovered the girl was a student at a private uni lol A week later she started that crap talk of I need to tell you something please lol, I started laughing when I heard that cos I already know lol She said she need an urgent help bla bla bla, I burst into laughter and ended the call. She sent pages of messages, I never read till today. Few days later she called and apologized and said so because she asked me for a favor that she knows I am bigger than, that I stopped replying her messages or picking her calls, I laughed it off. See, ladies have abused those little privilege from guys....ladies and girls must wake up and realize that guys no longer cherish those their I need a help. No guy want to be tagged mugu or maga or hoodlum lol In years to come, relationship will be like business transaction; give me this and take this strictly defined, no more hiding under relationship or dating to milk guys while laughing at them behind. Many guys now are scared of broke ladies.....many guys are single and financially settled to marry but they don't want to marry any jobless or broke lady who also comes from poor family and still lack humility and respect 18 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by Cutie09(m): 2:09pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE: Kind of agree with you people ask because they care it is also chat up line to have conversation |
Re: Why Did He Do This? I Need To Understand Why Some Act This Way. Is It Right? by franksam209: 2:09pm On Nov 18, 2020 |
pocohantas: Only you have the brains of 30 nairaland ladies put together lol ![]() ![]() |
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