Michdaf:
Look at how you are just letting things out

Trying to protect you dear. Don't worry, won't say anything again.

Will pick when I'm much calmer. Not in my right frame of mind now.

ZIINI:

A girl I was trying to ask out then
I constantly ask her if she has eaten
You know what she said back to me ?
She said this guy you will like food O this one you're always asking me if have eaten.
Although she said it in a joking way but it i didn't absorb it in a joking way and ever since then I vow never to ask any girl if they have eaten or not
If you like eat if you like don't eat that's your own pro
That question is an old dating line used in 2010 down to 2015. That line is already outdated.

I agree. I mean one can ask after school, family, or work but asking after meals is weird - although I think it is a direct translation of our cultural language.

I also understand that sometimes women say " i haven't eaten today" " my mouth is dry o" What is that?

Please bro let every parent take care of their children. If a relationship has not commenced you have no duty of maintenance.

Michdaf:
Please pick my calls.

Oga drop this sissy attitude, making you look a loser. can't you see she's now using you to catch cruise.

vivalavida:


I love u for this

God bless you for this.
Let's call a spade a spade. People should stop that habit of looking for the worse behaviors in others.

It's not right to purposely negatively and when they do, you drag dem for doing so. Make una stop am, e nor good.

Whether u be man or woman, stop am. Nobody holy abeg.

pocohantas:
You are overthinking things.

How can you keep saying you haven’t eaten for 3days without any explanation? Haba! Don’t you know that is Naija babes intro to ask for urgent 2k?

The guy is not psychic to know you were fasting. Whenever I tell a man I haven’t eaten, I always make sure I add the reason (e.g) Busy day, I am trying to watch my intake/weight...etc.

While it wasn’t so nice of him to disappear, we should remember that building relationships is hard in Nigeria because we suspect ourselves too much. Imagine if he kept telling you he is lonely.

It is okay if you want to block him, I just want you to know you are not entirely blameless. It takes time and trust to unlock certain aspects of a friendship...

you are the only person here that has reason to this matter from both party.. I'm shocked the comment came from a female .lol

Kazim88:
@CalliDora1

If i was the 1, I would have block you on the 3rd instance.

Because i would have suspected that
1. You were testing me
2. You are manipulative and arrogantly trying to collect urgent 2k from me.

I would be right, cos from your post, it was a manipulative test.

I would not want to be a friend with someone that is not straight and fortcoming. Even on a long distance just-friendship.

Exactly. I would have done the same. Don't test me I don't like it. It's a very childish behavior, the guy sef may even be confused as to what to say on the third occasion when she said she's hungry. I don't understand these babes

Samsonklin:

Exactly. I would have done the same. Don't test me I don't like it. It's a very childish behavior, the guy sef may even be confused as to what to say on the third occasion when she said she's hungry. I don't understand these babes

You clearly didn't read the Original post. You're just drawing your conclusions from people's comments.

Please, I never said I was hungry in my post. Go and read before you comment.

do4luv14:
All in the name of testing, you break one of the must important rule during fasting @ CalliDora1

Please enlighten me, what rule is that. I'm curious

kkins25:

DONT MIND HER, she has watched too much Nolly wood... you are absolutely right because the guy has codedly told her that he cant do "urgent 2k" with the lines .

please i dont understand this issue of why does she want to test a friend? why? abi na tiktok trend? If not that the lady in question also get ulterior motives of turning the gentle man into "urgent 2k" disposing machine. Here we have her try to console her conscience like the entitled brat that she is Dear CalliDora1 dont "beat about" it and just tell him you are not interested in any intimate relationships however you dont mind him occasionally suppling you the "urgent 2k" that is supposed to be meant for his fuq buddy.

pocohantas:


People ask that question out of concern, not because they want to open a fast food kitchen for you. Just good ol concern. If you don’t like it, open your mouth and tell him to stop asking you.

We are here to talk about what he thinks, which prompted his actions- not what I think.

Once again, I never said you are guilty. I said you are a victim of stereotyping. You are quite presumptuous...n
Gracias

you're a good student of logical reasoning

CalliDora1:


Exactly how I've been replying his text since last night. the next thing was "are you angry at me? Why are you responding like this? . Imagine.. I just replied, nothing.

For your mind. Lol what goes around comes around. Your own time will still come. Perhaps you was his Karma.

That's life for you.

enemyofprogress:
Must you come here to talk about us?must you? I was only trying to test you but you have failed my test? What do you want to eat that I cannot afford? You brought our private issues here for everyone to discuss, I hope you would be bold enough to tell them everything. Please go ahead and tell them everything before I open up to them. Mtcheeeeeew

hmm...yabaleft patients plenty for this forum

pocohantas:


People ask that question out of concern, not because they want to open a fast food kitchen for you. Just good ol concern. If you don’t like it, open your mouth and tell him to stop asking you.

We are here to talk about what he thinks, which prompted his actions- not what I think.

Once again, I never said you are guilty. I said you are a victim of stereotyping. You are quite presumptuous...

Gracias

In his case the concern was fake.

Why do Nigerians like to ask this question anyway? What if I haven't? Will you cook for me? Or hide like the guy did?

CalliDora1:



On the Contrary though, He's not a gold digger. And he's very much aware I'm older but because I don't look my age, hes not bothered. He's not just any guy, he's a MAN!.

I choose to modify my comment.

Since you know he's gud why bring the issue to NL? You are trying to get on his gud side now because he has seen this thread and you feel say kasal go burst. Seems you are confused, learn to master your emotions it will help in any relationship.

Hathor5:


In his case the concern was fake.

Why do Nigerians like to ask this question anyway? What if I haven't? Will you cook for me? Or hide like the guy did?

I wonder.

CalliDora1:


I wonder.

The guy is probably broke. That's why he avoided to ask why you haven't eaten.

Hathor5:


The guy is probably broke. That's why he avoided to ask why you haven't eaten.

He actually did but I refused to tell him because I didn't want him or anyone to know I'm fasting.

My dear CalliDora1 and Michdaf...please permit my own write up to be long as I have a few things to pass across cos i've been following this thread like Nollywood movie.
In life part of being mature is accepting ones mistakes and taking responsibility. Both of you have faults in this issue and am not particularly pleased with you miss CalliDora1 cos you simply did not want to agree that you have a fault in the matter even though some reasonable comments pointed it out. Now your faults are that you kept on responding No to his question about you not eating for days without backing up with a reason, you claim you didn't want to tell him you were fasting but there was a way around it by saying you're on the mountain (which I believe every believer would immediately know what it means) making him assume the stereotype which truthfully is now a norm but which he claims is not the case here and secondly as a friend maturity would have made you call to know why he went rogue then bare your mind to him instead of assuming (assumption actually kills).

Now Oga Michdaf on your own end you shouldn't have assumed the norm with girls these days and go rogue of which you claim otherwise that you had personal issues and for the sake of peace I give you both the benefit of the doubt, but as close friends that wants to take things further there was nothing wrong with you opening up to her since she herself had opened up to you, letting her know this is the reason you couldn't be of assistance (maybe she would've understood) and from what both of you have said about each other you both seem like really nice people and I even noticed you both have been defending each other against outsiders here.

So my advise to you miss CalliDora1 is for you not to let people here on NL give you advice as to how to or not proceed with your personal life cos people here are of different backgrounds, upbringing, mindset, ethics etc so their views/opinions may not align with yours and you cannot make decisions based on them (including mine but I believe you can decipher the good from the bad).
You both seem to like each other and based on what both of you have written about each other I would say have a meet up to decide where the relationship is headed cos a relationship that starts with a fight turns out to be the strongest cos both party would become real friends.

I wish you guys the very best

CalliDora1:


He actually did but I refused to tell him because I didn't want him or anyone to know I'm fasting.

Maybe he got tired of the hide and seek game. Ask him.

Hathor5:


The guy is probably broke. That's why he avoided to ask why you haven't eaten.

He actually did ask but I refused to tell him because I didn't want him or anyone to know I was fasting. That's the way I was brought up in Catholic from childhood and that practice has remained with me even after I left the Catholic.

Sixfeetbelle:


Despite all the talks going on here, no guy has been able to tell me why he's back after ghosting her because of a perceived 2k?

Is he now buoyant enough to give her the 2k?

He may want to come back together again. He might have been scared away by the prospect of being turned to a maga.

joeekuns:

My dear CalliDora1 and Michdaf...please permit my own write up to be long as I have a few things to pass across cos i've been following this thread like Nollywood movie.
In life part of being mature is accepting ones mistakes and taking responsibility. Both of you have faults in this issue and am not particularly pleased with you miss CalliDora1 cos you simply did not want to agree that you have a fault in the matter even though some reasonable comments pointed it out. Now your faults are that you kept on responding No to his question about you not eating for days without backing up with a reason, you claim you didn't want to tell him you were fasting but there was a way around it by saying you're on the mountain (which I believe every believer would immediately know what it means) making him assume the stereotype which truthfully is now a norm but which he claims is not the case here and secondly as a friend maturity would have made you call to know why he went rogue then bare your mind to him instead of assuming (assumption actually kills).

Now Oga Michdaf on your own end you shouldn't have assumed the norm with girls these days and go rogue of which you claim otherwise that you had personal issues and for the sake of peace I give you both the benefit of the doubt, but as close friends that wants to take things further there was nothing wrong with you opening up to her since she herself had opened up to you, letting her know this is the reason you couldn't be of assistance (maybe she would've understood) and from what both of you have said about each other you both seem like really nice people and I even noticed you both have been defending each other against outsiders here.

So my advise to you miss CalliDora1 is for you not to let people here on NL give you advice as to how to or not proceed with your personal life cos people here are of different backgrounds, upbringing, mindset, ethics etc so their views/opinions may not align with yours and you cannot make decisions based on them (including mine but I believe you can decipher the good from the bad).
You both seem to like each other and based on what both of you have written about each other I would say have a meet up to decide where the relationship is headed cos a relationship that starts with a fight turns out to be the strongest cos both party would become real friends.

I wish you guys the very best

God bless you Sir. I really appreciate you taking your time to put down this words of wisdom. May God continue to increase your wisdom in Jesus name.

I've heard and admit my faults, Sir. Will do the needful.

Thank you Sir.

Chiquitq:
He is not an all weather friend but kindly note that telling someone that you've not eaten more than once also sends wrong signals. Except it is obvious that you are too busy to eat. Forget about this guy, he doesn't mean well at all. If you really lost your job and you were good friends, he might have offered a token to cushion the effect but then again, some girls would turn such nice gesture into an opportunity to take a man for granted and milk him. Just forget about this guy.

bross the matter na two ways jaree...the guy acted like a typical Nigerian girl

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This is the most reasonable answer I've seen on this thread.

The OP is just Delusional.

kkins25:
Help? you now if i tell you to give me urgent 2k just like that, would you? The guy is trying to pave the way for a relationship but a grown ass working lady never chop for good 3 days and most importantly no logical reason was provided.
ishilove: kkins how are you?
kkins: im fine.
ishilove: so whats up how was work?
kkins: fine
ishilove(trying to find another angle to extend the conversation: ok, what did you eat today?
kkins: nothing.
ishilove assumes kkins is not interested in having a conversation and decides to give kkins some time.

one day later
ishilove: kkins, whats up?
kkins: fine.
ishilove: did you sleep well?
kkins: yes.
ishilove: have you eaten?
kkins: No.
ishilove: oh! whats going on?
kkins: Nothing.

ishilove concludes kkins is not interested decides to give up for now and try again letter..

this is what happened and yet according to you, ishilove is not a good friend. fear naija women!!

dontai:
oh, next relationship? you mean this one is gone?

It seem so. She was advised to leave and she's heeding.

luminouz:


Are you for real?

Yes bro. He should be paying her monthly, then save up to send her abroad for Masters next year.

Acecards:
you mean your husband ?

No dear, a friend

dontai:
your own Betta.

Abi o

chronique:


I don't mean to insult you but it appears some of you don't understand how silly you guys sound sometimes. How were you expecting the young man to know you were fasting when you didn't tell him? Is he a witch? Your own gender is correcting you that you are at fault and you are still doing strong head that you have no fault... If I call you 3 days in a row and you tell me you haven't eaten and you can't explain why you have not eaten when I ask, I'd simply assume you are tryna be crafty with me and I detest crafty people with a passion. They ain't no different from idiots in my view.

How that genders think is misery

trutht828:


He may want to come back together again. He might have been scared away by the prospect of being turned to a maga.

Still doesn't answer my question.

Is now rich enough to turn maga or what?



If I'm the girl, since I didn't plan to bill him before but he jakpa on his own, his return will be filled with transaction up and down. Nonsense