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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Salt06(m): 3:23pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:Its either he doesn't have or he is insensitive/ selfish. While the former can be understood, the latter is something you shouldn't take lightly if you intend to build a future together. I pray you find someone who'd truly love and cherish you. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Koncept(m): 3:24pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
He's supposed to give her money for the sex they have? duduade: 1 Like |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by DrayZee: 3:24pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Shortyy:The same way women would advise the lady to leave the guy who lost everything and find a better guy, that she shouldn’t “settle”. But you don’t want us to do the same now that it’s a woman. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by pickatyouu: 3:24pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
delishpot: Abeg take the back seat. If na like this your logic dey work no one would be broke cos We all have that one rich friend, support must not always be material, but u as a female won't understand that. In life learn to be independent, if he wasn't there will she not find a way to pick herself up. It okay to seek for help or want help but to bring an entitlement mentality into it, is the lowest you can go but as a naija girl na, relationship is about who fit fund ur next meal ticket and lavish life style. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Snaagg(m): 3:25pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
LoudLord: Me sef I wonder. Relationships are now poverty-alleviation schemes for ladies 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Alimat40: 3:25pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
But have you solicited for help from him, and he turned you down? You have not us told that. So you are lopsided until I hear contrary I am not competent to make any judgement. |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Daewhome(m): 3:26pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Typical woman one sided narration... Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Pauladex(m): 3:26pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Lilgabby: Ds one too strong. I can't stop laughing! You don't ask her if the guy dey enjoy am or stingy man just dey manage her palliatives 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Snaagg(m): 3:28pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
igbosoupkitchen: What nonsense. This isn't the 90s ma. Women are now equal to men and as thus should work for their own money. She should carry her own cross just as he is carrying his! 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by maxist2020(m): 3:29pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:One thing I believe in relationship and given is that it is not about the size of an individuals pocket but the willingness to share no matter how little he/she has. He may also be broke according to you, but out of the little he has he should also remember you, like if he has 4k there is nothing wrong in him given you 1k. My advice is that you confront him by telling him what he is not doing right and watch if he will change and he doesn't then let him go 7 Likes |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by ngwaba(m): 3:29pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
shagasha:You dey mind am 1 Like |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Solatium(m): 3:30pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Do you know what he also passes through? the fact he has not been telling you his own challenges doesn't mean all is well with him too. Get a job and live on your wages, everyone have issues they are dealing with,so far he's not asking you for financial help you are good to go,but if your mission in life is to date and live practically on those you date you are free to move on to a well paying dude. |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Snaagg(m): 3:30pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Seyzcham91: Nigerian girls are shameless parasites. So shameless I tell you. 6 Likes |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by HelpYourself(m): 3:30pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
delishpot: Are you done ? |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by francisbarrack(m): 3:31pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Nonexistent1: Thumb up... Love doesnt exist. Make ur money n u gonna c them begging to b with U. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by lathrowinger: 3:32pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
[quote author=Danyyyyyyyyyyy post=97180591]So we've been together for some months, almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me, or he'll leave me to do it all. I don't demand anything from him, he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat. He knows this but he didn't do anything to help, that's how I've been living like I'm single. I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy. Do you think it's okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future? Did you found out that he has or not Does he care about you... U should know more of his nature. |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by CVhurb: 3:32pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Ask him 4 help first and see how it goes...or call him down and discuss the whole issue with him. People are different, some need communication, no matter how u try they may not understand body language. Talk to him and start demanding wen u need help, he's used to u not asking him for help. If he doesn't change however, u know what to do. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by delishpot: 3:33pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
pickatyouu: I don't believe a woman should date a man for what material benefits she might get. She was prolly reffering to expectations many ladies have vs how she takes things in hers. I did not say in life people follow nature's law I mean we are busy killing and maiming each other in naija so it's understandable that we can't expect people who claim to be friends, parents, lovers etc to have our backs in times of distress. All I am saying is if she has been with him all these months and never asked(forget her reason for not asking) and then she hit hard times, a bf should be among the first to reach out. Unless he is in it to just catch cruise and nothing else. Then it is understandable same way a babe will dump a guy she is just catching cruise with when he goes broke. Yes, by nature those around us who are up should try to uplift those who are down. The only time I will be angry at the person being helped is if he looks down on the efforts of his helper ie not appreciating their support, feeling like you deserve more than they gave etc. Then I will have a problem but till then, do the little or much you can do for a friend or even stranger that is down. It won't hurt you. 6 Likes |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by luminouz(m): 3:33pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
This babe again?? |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Freelane33(m): 3:33pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
No body owes anybody anything . Simple as ABC |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by chinchonglee(m): 3:33pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
cooooooks:Exactly!! This has been my thoughts since i read the topic. because she lost money to scammer, the innocent boyfriend will now suffer Men dey suffer. Women will lose money and leave their boyfriends Men will lose money their girlfriends will leave them. Nature is so unfair to men 2 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by LoudLord(m): 3:35pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Snaagg:I swear Naija ladies don cast 1 Like |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Tonyspecial(m): 3:36pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Yeye dey smell, parasite 1 Like |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by delishpot: 3:36pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
GofuckYourself: Toor! 1 Like
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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by yesloaded: 3:37pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy: My Bible tells me 'ask & ye shall received' Ask him first before you conclude Also, you stated it that he's not financially stable so we can't blame him Above all, some gals don show men pepper so don't quickly judge your man wrongly |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by shimmer19(f): 3:40pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Babe, advising you from experience, my ex does the same to me, i practically does everything myself and sometimes i do things for the both of us with my money. I wouldn't get a thank you, rather what dude was doing is to test my patience and strength. I wasn't bothered initially because i was comfortable with what i earn. But at a time i got concern just like you are now, because he buys luxury things for himself, gift people money in my presence. last month i got the shocking news of my life, uncle got a girl pregnant and was going to pay the bride price on the 28th. I got to know through the nephew when i came visiting a week before the function. i died and wake, i confronted him, he said its a mistake i should understand he is a man. A man that loves you will be eager to put a smile on your face. 7 Likes |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by LadyTianna(f): 3:40pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Lol see how triggered the boys here are hahaha |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Mryacks: 3:43pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Sometimes you are permitted to take a break, focus on you, recharge your batteries and then make a discerning decision. Dont choke yourself! 1 Like |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by chinchonglee(m): 3:47pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Nnemuka:Menopause will do u something las las 1 Like |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by shadeyinka(m): 3:48pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:He knows you can hardly feed yourself, and he didn't divide his remaining gari into two halves: one for you and the other for himself. ANd you are still hoping that someone will help you decide? If you marry him and become sick, wouldn't this one ignore you? 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by freeborn02: 3:50pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy: Haney, the guy doesn't owe you anything. What's even this idea of seeing relationship as poverty alleviation programme? This is stupid 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Emuf: 3:50pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy: I can I advise you? the prove of love is giving. Any man who can't give you, does not love and cherish you. No matter how little it is. Don't force it! 5 Likes |
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