Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
So we've been together for some months, almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me, or he'll leave me to do it all.

I don't demand anything from him, he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat. He knows this but he didn't do anything to help, that's how I've been living like I'm single. I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy.

Do you think it's okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future?

Bia I hope you not giving him ur honeypot sha. You can't be suffering and b giving one selfish idiot kini to fvck and satisfy his lust. Kindly free the guy, him no get sense. Don't be with people who don't care about ur welfare.

duduade:
But when he wants to chop you his role in your life is active abi


Abeg break up with him

Let both parties move on individually

A woman could only talk like this when she's confused cos of the pleasure in a man's hot rod!

Shortyy:


Look at them and their double standards crawling out. Assuming the guy was the person that lost all, and the lady is still financially okay, the gospel would've been to help him, build with him, suffer with him and all the nonsense y'all say.

Ndi ala

What do u mean? Is the guy saying he wanna leave ? The guy is ready to stay with her and build buy she is the one thinking of opting out

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
So we've been together for some months, almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me, or he'll leave me to do it all.

I don't demand anything from him, he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat. He knows this but he didn't do anything to help, that's how I've been living like I'm single. I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy.

Do you think it's okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future?

does he not show you a little love from cash level??

No matter how broke a guy is he must try n give his bae money for food.

duduade:
But when he wants to chop you his role in your life is active abi


Abeg break up with him

Let both parties move on individually

you no serious o

Shortyy:


Look at them and their double standards crawling out. Assuming the guy was the person that lost all, and the lady is still financially okay, the gospel would've been to help him, build with him, suffer with him and all the nonsense y'all say.

Ndi ala

Actually that's not a double standard. For this to be a double standard, it would have to mean that the guy was contemplating leaving here merely because she doesn't have anything. Ironically, it is the girl contemplating leaving because she doesn't have anythign.

Nonexistent1:
You said he is not financially stable but here you are doubting his role in your life because he didn't give you money. You see why I call Nigerian girls parasites. The bobo is probably drinking garri and struggling but you are here saying nonsense. I pity men that fall in nonsense love these days.

Thank you.

Nnemuka:

Lol...
Gainfully employed on nairaland
Single and frustrated
Abeg shift

No wonder you are on every thread talking about broke boyfriends...

Pics of my office...
Show me ur husband

endsarrrs:
Chubbyswit abeg advice the op

hmmm what do you want me to tell her?

So you want him to be bathing you and be putting food in you mouth like tata abi...!


Well you guys are just some months na not up to a year , may be his financial state is not too good for now.

Sometimes when you need help don't hesitate to ask him cos he is the closed one to u if he is not having it's a different thing.

Some of we guys we don't know when our girl is in need so that's why they have to ask us if need be, then if we are on point we help , if we are not on point then we think on how to assist, So I fault you for no asking

There is no point staying with a friend, any friend, who knows about your challenges and decides to look the other way. Assuming all you have stated is true, his a fair-weather friend, having nothing to do with him. An English adage says "a friend in need, is a friend indeed."

chinchonglee:

Pics of my office...
Show me ur husband

You are very dull...
Get lost from my mentions

Nnemuka:

You again!!

small girl, how you dey? Its been a while

Nnemuka:

You are very dull...
Get lost from my mentions

Evening newspapers!!!
Menopause will frustrate you.
Dnt jst drink sniper

UndauntedYOCA:

Collins, how're you? Remember me? You once insulted me for no reason and then you apologised.
I'd like to talk to you about a truth that might be bitter but will surely help you.
Can I PM?

Sorry. I've modified the post. You can send a PM.

UndauntedYOCA:

Collins, how're you? Remember me? You once insulted me for no reason and then you apologised.
I'd like to talk to you about a truth that might be bitter but will surely help you.
Can I PM?

Good evening ma'am. I apologise. I've modified the post. You can send a PM.

femi4:
You have poverty mentality on what a relationship is all about. Please get a job to get out of poverty. If you think relationship will do that for you, that's a very big lie

Shouldn't a relationship help out when you're in need?

RichAbujaGuy:
Madame Op, Pls try to close your legs and see how long this guy sticks around. Sounds like he's giving it to you real good and you can't let go of the gigolo.

To the committee of NL gigolos, rock on guys!

Wickedness

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chinchonglee:

Evening newspapers!!!
Menopause will frustrate you.
Dnt jst drink sniper

E painam
Is your mum at menopause suicidal
Abi is she frustrated?

Leave me out of your family issues

Biingoo:
small girl, how you dey? Its been a while

Compliments of the season Ify
Enjoy yourself

frugal:

Where's the gold? They're both broke.

But what's the point of relationship if you can't help each other when in need?

U said they are both broke. So do u want the man to go steal

Nonexistent1:
You said he is not financially stable but here you are doubting his role in your life because he didn't give you money. You see why I call Nigerian girls parasites. The bobo is probably drinking garri and struggling but you are here saying nonsense. I pity men that fall in nonsense love these days.

Did you read the part where she said he is not forthcoming about his finances? She is not even sure wether he has or not. So this indicates a lack of trust.
Nigeria is full of hypocrites both male and female including yourself! Always quick to call out the opposite sex but guilty of far worse social ills.

humilitypays:
The question is does he have enough money to give you, worry more about this

You don't expect a drowning man to rescue another drowning fellow, only Jerk can do that in Titanic and he died of course



Your guy is broke!


Answer the below questions and I will tell you if he is broke or okay:


1.) Does he own a car - Yes or No

2.) If he owns a car, when did he buy the car If the car model/year is below 2005 model, then he is not doing well


3.) If he bought the car like 5 years ago and still driving the same car and he is not building any new house or starting a new company or investing in a business expansion, then he is not doing well financially to foot extra unplanned bills

4.) Is he living in a flat or a room self content or a room/parlor apartment


I repeat, if he has not changed his car in the last 5 years, and he is not building any house or starting a visibly viable business or company, my sister he is broke, pity him and instead of crying that he is not giving you money, go on a 30 days dry fasting and prayer for God to change his financial condition, believe me, once he becomes financially buoyant, he will definitely be splashing money on you.



Even we the association of stingy men, the amount of money we spend on ladies in a year eh, e go fit buy new yatch oh


The raw truth is, every man, Nigerian man loves to spend on his woman/women, if he has enough

Some Nigerian men love to spend on women. Some

Stupid girl go an work they have turn relationship to business them bitches they hide under relationship to demand heaven an earth. Make ur own money you have hands an let him make is own money that what relationship supose look like. even some poor parent have turn there daughters in to money making machine were they bill there husband cool cash or in the name of marriage or relationship.

Is he your father?

Tah go and sleep

Seyzcham91:
you right and you smart like me

despite her trying to prove all independent lady, her parasitic nature as so for all women parasitic nature still dominating and revealing itself

see the way she saying it as if its not proper or right to take care of herself and her own need

must a man, boyfriend or partner help you? don't judge your man or other person if you don't really know what they going through

as you might never know he might really wish to be supportive and since he no get the power or might, baba can't kill himsef

the way you were born is how he was also born! everyone struggling now okay, nobody come to this world to struggle and be taking care of other person, we all trying to survive

so you doing yourself a great favor by taking good care or yourself, upgrade yourself by finding another job but what i believe you were asking validation about don't think it.

if i'm right your purpose of this thread is to justify your leaving a struggling man that's trying to survive and going after some yahoo boy that will be lavishing money on you not knowing the outcome on you later.

afterall we all have one or two problems dealing with so this is still your problem keep on racking your brain on solving it. as far as i'm concern na your own side of the story be this i wish hear hin own side before anything cuz you females(vagina people) can't be trusted for anything.

always looking for reason to go Bleep a better person with money in the name of my boyfriend not helping

shiiorr

Thank u sir. God bless u. Oil dey ur head. More oil to ur head

MrColdsweat:
The difference between us.

When a man has money, he looks to improve his woman, invest in her and help her grow.

When a woman has money, she doesn't need a man.

Men ronu!!!

Doesn't it show you how much they detest the lordship men try to exert over them all the time?

If a little taste of freedom makes someone rebel, it should cue you in on how much they loathe being subservient.

pickatyouu:


Abeg take the back seat. If na like this your logic dey work no one would be broke cos We all have that one rich friend, support must not always be material, but u as a female won't understand that.
In life learn to be independent, if he wasn't there will she not find a way to pick herself up.
It okay to seek for help or want help but to bring an entitlement mentality into it, is the lowest you can go but as a naija girl na, relationship is about who fit fund ur next meal ticket and lavish life style.

I want to know: Is relationship not for the up times and the down times?

pcguru1:
First question I will ask how old are you if you are below 25, he doesn't owe you much because chances are it might bad investment, but if it's fiancee as in Partner level then that's a bad sign. Support between partners is always a key in a healthy relationship, else na just mind games and everyone being calculated. But I have no experience in struggling relationships, my honest opinion you should be single and developing yourself , it's very scary in Lagos to be on the low income status it is not comfortable if you are very young break up and chase something financially worthwhile better to cry in Air conditioner and streaming porn in HD than being broke both figuratively and financially.

Na from relationship fiancee they arise oh. If the guy isn't a cheerful giver now, he can't suddenly become one when they're engaged. Human beings aren't chameleon

Sixfeetbelle:


Some Nigerian men love to spend on women. Some

Nigeria men are so stinging