....There's no direct rule that govern all relationships..what works for A might not work for B.....Everyone will talk based on their experience


If you are fully convinced....go ahead .....

BabaIbo:
I am a young man in my thirties and she should be in the same range(I didn't ask her about her age because I don't really lay emphasis on age). We are from neighbouring towns.

As my heading reads, recently I met a lady online and we have been communicating well and I noticed she ticked most of the boxes of what I want in a woman.

Prior to now, I told myself I will stay away from anything woman because I just started a business last year and I want it to grow and balance before thinking of any thing women or marriage.

Recently, I noticed I am developing strong feelings for her, strong enough to lead to the alter.

Now the problem is, she is a single mother of two, we don't stay in the same city and the father of those kids seems to live in a neighbouring city to where she lives(although to a good extent the father of those kids is not a problem).

My question is what will you advice me to do in this situation?
*Go on and start a relationship with her.
*Keep her as a friend, although she may get hooked by another man along the line.

Anybody here who have been in similar situation, should help share their experiences too.

Note: She has never been married.
She is working and comfortable, money a problem is not a problem, i.e no unnecessary billing associated with some relationships.

How did she have two kids without being married?

BabaIbo:
I am a young man in my thirties and she should be in the same range(I didn't ask her about her age because I don't really lay emphasis on age). We are from neighbouring towns.

As my heading reads, recently I met a lady online and we have been communicating well and I noticed she ticked most of the boxes of what I want in a woman.

Prior to now, I told myself I will stay away from anything woman because I just started a business last year and I want it to grow and balance before thinking of any thing women or marriage.

Recently, I noticed I am developing strong feelings for her, strong enough to lead to the alter.

Now the problem is, she is a single mother of two, we don't stay in the same city and the father of those kids seems to live in a neighbouring city to where she lives(although to a good extent the father of those kids is not a problem).

My question is what will you advice me to do in this situation?
*Go on and start a relationship with her.
*Keep her as a friend, although she may get hooked by another man along the line.

Anybody here who have been in similar situation, should help share their experiences too.

Note: She has never been married.
She is working and comfortable, money a problem is not a problem, i.e no unnecessary billing associated with some relationships.

Oga if you think the love is very mutual between you two, go ahead and marry her. Your happiness is more important than what people will say. But if u care too much what people will say then leave in peace.

MyOpinion1:

I see, your point is about the financial aspect of it.
See every children as your children irrespective of whether they are yours or not....
Most rich people even donate most of their wealth to the orphanage, if they have this mindset of not raising people children, will they do that? who knows yours might not be the best version of what you even want them to be..
Life is not always straight my brother.

bros giving to charity is different from marrying a single mother.

imagine those kids in ur house creating wars with ur biological children and the mother threatening to run away with ur kids.

man I love unity n oneness ,no intruder, me ,my wife and my kids, not another mans kids, I don't run a mini orphanage.

If you don’t think something is wrong, getting involved with a single woman with two children who has never been married, why’re you here?
I don’t want to be rude, it’s a new year please. Pay attention to your business, you can’t be that dumb and stu*pid at your age.

Marry her if you want to, no body is perfect and holy, she has her own flaws too, can you cope with it. Are you ready to be those children father, to love and cherish them. Virginity does not guarantee a good marriage, neither a single lady with no kids.

MyOpinion1:

I see, your point is about the financial aspect of it.
See every children as your children irrespective of whether they are yours or not....
Most rich people even donate most of their wealth to the orphanage, if they have this mindset of not raising people children, will they do that? who knows yours might not be the best version of what you even want them to be..
Life is not always straight my brother.

The rich men spend on orphan as a case of charity. A man spending on children because he married their mother is a case of responsibility.
One is spending because he feels like (charity) and another man is spending because he was married into it (responsibility) so know the difference.

baralatie:
chai
choi
chei

op has chop calabar soup

Na edikaikong abi na which of the calabar soup eh?

Consider well, the step you are about to take. Are you willing to be to them everything that a father is to be to them as they are meant to look up to you & love their mother unconditionally? If yes step before the alter and give her your vow.

BabaIbo:
I am a young man in my thirties and she should be in the same range(I didn't ask her about her age because I don't really lay emphasis on age). We are from neighbouring towns.

As my heading reads, recently I met a lady online and we have been communicating well and I noticed she ticked most of the boxes of what I want in a woman.

Prior to now, I told myself I will stay away from anything woman because I just started a business last year and I want it to grow and balance before thinking of any thing women or marriage.

Recently, I noticed I am developing strong feelings for her, strong enough to lead to the alter.

Now the problem is, she is a single mother of two, we don't stay in the same city and the father of those kids seems to live in a neighbouring city to where she lives(although to a good extent the father of those kids is not a problem).

My question is what will you advice me to do in this situation?
*Go on and start a relationship with her.
*Keep her as a friend, although she may get hooked by another man along the line.

Anybody here who have been in similar situation, should help share their experiences too.

Note: She has never been married.
She is working and comfortable, money a problem is not a problem, i.e no unnecessary billing associated with some relationships.

Why come to nairaland for this kind of matter when you know they'd discourage you. Please follow your heart.

BabaIbo:
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If you really love yourself, let that lust in your eyes and heart melt away...
In years to come, you might be full of regrets...
It's better you take your time to find a woman with little flinch with men...
Don't carry a load that you're not sure of what the future will hold...
Anyhow it may be, it's far better to farm in an uncultivated land than the one with years of cultivation...

Avoid single mothers.

Won't explain.

BabaIbo:
I am a young man in my thirties and she should be in the same range(I didn't ask her about her age because I don't really lay emphasis on age). We are from neighbouring towns.

As my heading reads, recently I met a lady online and we have been communicating well and I noticed she ticked most of the boxes of what I want in a woman.

Prior to now, I told myself I will stay away from anything woman because I just started a business last year and I want it to grow and balance before thinking of any thing women or marriage.

Recently, I noticed I am developing strong feelings for her, strong enough to lead to the alter.

Now the problem is, she is a single mother of two, we don't stay in the same city and the father of those kids seems to live in a neighbouring city to where she lives(although to a good extent the father of those kids is not a problem).

My question is what will you advice me to do in this situation?
*Go on and start a relationship with her.
*Keep her as a friend, although she may get hooked by another man along the line.

Anybody here who have been in similar situation, should help share their experiences too.

Note: She has never been married.
She is working and comfortable, money a problem is not a problem, i.e no unnecessary billing associated with some relationships.

She don see, now e remain for you to saw. Goodluck

BabaIbo:
I am a young man in my thirties and she should be in the same range(I didn't ask her about her age because I don't really lay emphasis on age). We are from neighbouring towns.

As my heading reads, recently I met a lady online and we have been communicating well and I noticed she ticked most of the boxes of what I want in a woman.

Prior to now, I told myself I will stay away from anything woman because I just started a business last year and I want it to grow and balance before thinking of any thing women or marriage.

Recently, I noticed I am developing strong feelings for her, strong enough to lead to the alter.

Now the problem is, she is a single mother of two, we don't stay in the same city and the father of those kids seems to live in a neighbouring city to where she lives(although to a good extent the father of those kids is not a problem).

My question is what will you advice me to do in this situation?
*Go on and start a relationship with her.
*Keep her as a friend, although she may get hooked by another man along the line.

Anybody here who have been in similar situation, should help share their experiences too.

Note: She has never been married.
She is working and comfortable, money a problem is not a problem, i.e no unnecessary billing associated with some relationships.

My brother without hesitation call that relationship to an end because there's nothing you will do that will make her forget the man whom she has two kids for. And focus on your business.

Haven't you asked this question before ??

BabaIbo:
I am a young man in my thirties and she should be in the same range(I didn't ask her about her age because I don't really lay emphasis on age). We are from neighbouring towns.

As my heading reads, recently I met a lady online and we have been communicating well and I noticed she ticked most of the boxes of what I want in a woman.

Prior to now, I told myself I will stay away from anything woman because I just started a business last year and I want it to grow and balance before thinking of any thing women or marriage.

Recently, I noticed I am developing strong feelings for her, strong enough to lead to the alter.

Now the problem is, she is a single mother of two, we don't stay in the same city and the father of those kids seems to live in a neighbouring city to where she lives(although to a good extent the father of those kids is not a problem).

My question is what will you advice me to do in this situation?
*Go on and start a relationship with her.
*Keep her as a friend, although she may get hooked by another man along the line.

Anybody here who have been in similar situation, should help share their experiences too.

Note: She has never been married.
She is working and comfortable, money a problem is not a problem, i.e no unnecessary billing associated with some relationships.

Na WA oooo

soundOsonic:


The rich men spend on orphan as a case of charity. A man spending on children because he married their mother is a case of responsibility.
One is spending because he feels like (charity) and another man is spending because he was married into it (responsibility) so know the difference.

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It is you that see difference in it, charity or no charity, the kids in the orphanage are not yours.
If you can't spend on people who are with you, how will you spend on the ones who are far away

Atticusxsz:


Na edikaikong abi na which of the calabar soup eh?

if I talk am here all the emiesere people go show me shege

BabaIbo:
I am a young man in my thirties and she should be in the same range(I didn't ask her about her age because I don't really lay emphasis on age). We are from neighbouring towns.

As my heading reads, recently I met a lady online and we have been communicating well and I noticed she ticked most of the boxes of what I want in a woman.

Prior to now, I told myself I will stay away from anything woman because I just started a business last year and I want it to grow and balance before thinking of any thing women or marriage.

Recently, I noticed I am developing strong feelings for her, strong enough to lead to the alter.

Now the problem is, she is a single mother of two, we don't stay in the same city and the father of those kids seems to live in a neighbouring city to where she lives(although to a good extent the father of those kids is not a problem).

My question is what will you advice me to do in this situation?
*Go on and start a relationship with her.
*Keep her as a friend, although she may get hooked by another man along the line.

Anybody here who have been in similar situation, should help share their experiences too.

Note: She has never been married.
She is working and comfortable, money a problem is not a problem, i.e no unnecessary billing associated with some relationships.

Leave her alone.

Why must she have two kids out of wedlock?

Go ahead and marry her

soundOsonic:


The rich men spend on orphan as a case of charity. A man spending on children because he married their mother is a case of responsibility.
One is spending because he feels like (charity) and another man is spending because he was married into it (responsibility) so know the difference.

But those kids in the orphanage are not his..
You mean if she had put them in the orphanage, you will go there and give to them but you cant give to them in your house

Duru009:
98% of single mothers are only good for fun...

I repeat good for fun.....

Don't foolishly make decisions you will regret later, a stitch in time saves time....

Oga mi... Na a stitch in time saves time or rather a stitch in time saves nine?

EzegeNdiigbo:
Hmmm you're under a spell, go for a deliverance

how can a full grown man be thinking of settling down with a second-class-woman with a kids
Think twice.

I swear. Maybe he is not into women. Dats y knowing women very well b4 marrying is good. Woman way don born Sabi loyal die..

You wanted to focus on your business but now shifting focus on pvssy. You are focusless sha.

Babalbo my brother, follow your heart jare. At least she was open and told you the truth. Many many girls you see out there are single mothers and abortionists but will keep that secret to the grave. Funny enough, some nairalanders dating some of these secretive single mothers are part of those telling you not to date her . If you don't want the kids, let the kids remain in her father's family simple

OP
My advise for u is that you should take your time, think over it and if probably go to church and pray toward it.

Life no balance o

If you late face forward and didn't later marry her

The single lady, u may likely meet, fit bad.

Who knows maybe be mother of 2 is what you're destined to marry.

Note this life no balance oooo

I wonder how some men reason. When has it become a crime or taboo to get married to a single mum?

So because her first marriage didn't work out or her baby daddy didn't marry her has now turned her to a bad woman shebi? What about those useless girls that haven't had any child(ren) before that will turn into a beast after marriage? Are they better than single mums?


OP abeg don't listen to them, they are drunk. If you believe she is the right woman for you and you are financially ok just go ahead and marry her.

MyOpinion1:
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It is you that see difference in it, charity or no charity, the kids in the orphanage are not yours.
If you can't spend on people who are with you, how will you spend on the ones who are far away

You are the one who sees it differently. The kids in the orphanage are not your responsibilities, but every help rendered is charity, no man is ever impressed to donate to charity. The kids from a single mother becomes your responsibility every naira spent is impressed on you by virtue of being a dad.

The father of the kids will be enjoying his life, why you will be sweating and laboring for another man's child. Later on like every man the real father will come and claim his child when things become better in his life and you will be left with nothing.
The reason you are not to invest is because you spend all your emotions and money on kids that will be one day taking from you, this feeling is worse than a ladies heart break.
Stop quoting me, it looks like you fail to understand things.

Age aren't nothing but a number

adadike:
Babalbo my brother, follow your heart jare. At least she was open and told you the truth. Many many girls you see out there are single mothers and abortionists but will keep that secret to the grave. Funny enough, some nairalanders dating some of these secretive single mothers are part of those telling you not to date her . If you don't want the kids, let the kids remain in her father's family simple

stop asking tables nau

No be love, na crazy they worry you, is like se she don cham you ba, your eyes go soon open, very soon.

MyOpinion1:


But those kids in the orphanage are not his..
You mean if she had put them in the orphanage, you will go there and give to them but you cant give to them in your house

Seriously you are funny. Do you need to know the children in an orphanage for you to be charitable?
Children in the orphanage have illegitimate parents with no family to help. The child in your house have two adult parents. Let their parent help them they are not orphans. Please don't quote me again you are draining me with unnecessary explanation thanks.