setobaba:
Good morning,

I’ve been thinking and watching on this for few months now, I notice my wife is no longer the damsel I met and dated. She will be 35 in few months, and we had only two kids together, so why she suddenly start looking older than that age is what I don’t know. I’ve seen ladies and colleagues of her age group still killing and rocking it, and going with the trend of fashion and lifestyles, No my wife won’t try to take fashion serious anymore. She will just wear any random cloths, not minding the occasion. You all won’t understand me on this, as In she use to be in line with all these before we had our first child. She’s not going through any stress, we living okay enough to be well fed.
So what’s happening?? Men, do you also feel like this? I mean those married for 5-10yrs and over.

A story of a young man who got married 11yrs ago

doggedfighter:
Did she become too churchy and 'spirikoko'.?

This can be a factor too

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Relationship/Marriage is a talking thing,

#TalkToHerAboutIt

Originalsly:
Bro.... listen to yourself.... after 11 years of marriage only a few months ago you noticed your wife has aged.... and is not fashion conscious as before marriage. Is it you?......or she that just returned from the Moon?
Women go through changes after childbirth.... are stressed .... and even more stressed if the husband is not spending a whole lot more time helping out in the home. Were you? With family come responsibilities and maturity. Her priority is family.... you shoild thank goodness she is grounded and not twittering around as a fashionova while neglecting your kids. As the trendy husband... why not clothes shop for her? ... and take her out to flex? Doing this often can lessen her stress.... and slow down her aging process.
But how about you?..... you believe you are still youthful and up to date in fashion? Stop putting down your wife and pulling down your marriage.

setobaba:
Good morning,

I’ve been thinking and watching on this for few months now, I notice my wife is no longer the damsel I met and dated. She will be 35 in few months, and we had only two kids together, so why she suddenly start looking older than that age is what I don’t know. I’ve seen ladies and colleagues of her age group still killing and rocking it, and going with the trend of fashion and lifestyles, No my wife won’t try to take fashion serious anymore. She will just wear any random cloths, not minding the occasion. You all won’t understand me on this, as In she use to be in line with all these before we had our first child. She’s not going through any stress, we living okay enough to be well fed.
So what’s happening?? Men, do you also feel like this? I mean those married for 5-10yrs and over.



A story of a young man who got married 11yrs ago

ThundrCork:
She's too comfortable. Marry a second wife, when the second begins to get too comfortable, follow it with a third wife.

You only live once.

doggedfighter:


Are you saying money could be an issue?

Neddstark:
Ask Peter Psquare. Guy is still handsome and 40 years old while his wife is menopausal.

Winneygirl:
Do you take her on dates?
After 2 kids, If you guys don't do any adventurous things, she will only get clothes that are comfortable for staying home.
Set up a routine where you guys go out. Ask her to list different restaurants she will like to visit, or places you guys could go.
It doesn't have to be expensive. Just mildly fancy.
Tell her you want to make it a date. You both dress up. Look and smell good. No kids.
You can do it twice monthly, or once a month. Depends on what you guys want.
It's a gradual process, but you both can work together to bring back the spark.

setobaba:
Good morning,

I’ve been thinking and watching on this for few months now, I notice my wife is no longer the damsel I met and dated. She will be 35 in few months, and we had only two kids together, so why she suddenly start looking older than that age is what I don’t know. I’ve seen ladies and colleagues of her age group still killing and rocking it, and going with the trend of fashion and lifestyles, No my wife won’t try to take fashion serious anymore. She will just wear any random cloths, not minding the occasion. You all won’t understand me on this, as In she use to be in line with all these before we had our first child. She’s not going through any stress, we living okay enough to be well fed.
So what’s happening?? Men, do you also feel like this? I mean those married for 5-10yrs and over.



A story of a young man who got married 11yrs ago

frozen70:


11 yrs in a life of a woman with child bearing is enough to change her personal look if only she is subjected to all kind of home front wahala

If you think you guys are OK, then you get it wrong check out the following questions

Do you have children that makes noise and makes her scream over them

Does she works, as in does she gets up as early as a banker, prepare the children for school and then prepare their meal and prepare herself for work

Does she goes to market after work or weekends, then come back and goes to kitchen to prepare meals and at night you still make advances at her and she still gives in to your requests and still wakes up the next day to repeat the same cycle

Does she contribute financially to the home affairs and other areas

After reading the above questions, if she does all this that's exactly what is weighing her and making her look older than her age

The above duties can be shared let her just be doing the bed stuff while you do the rest, you will also looks exhausted and stressed

Seat her down let her share the house chores and let's see if things will change for her to appear good looking

Lastly, every month take her for shopping at leat three outfits a month including night wears let's see if she will not look hot since you like them looking hot