Asadujames202:



You're painting a different scenario here


The op and his brother contributed 50/50 in building the house


Not like his brother owns the house

a building is nothing..pls walk away ...it is a home that is impt.if u love ur brother and value his home sir walk away and neglect the pain..I feel ur agony and pains but at the end one day u will discover that God is permanently attracted to d rejected

Nwodosis:
Everything is your brother's own and both you worked for it? How?
My friend allow your brother's wife to enjoy her marriage, which right do you have to go and open a married woman's pot to serve not even yourself but a friend? You owe her an apology.

He went to the kitchen to cook he said.....most likely, indomie parole.
The fact of the matter is that it is never a good idea to pick up quarrel with an in-law regardless.
OP, you claim to have played a role in your brother's"wealth". Were you not given your own fraction of the cash ?
Get your act together, get a place no matter how small, give them space, face your game. Your brother's wife should be the least of your worries.

Teleprompter:
Are you make or female ?

If you are female, it is so wrong of you to serve a make friend without permission and if you are a male, it is still wrong but not as wrong as the previous.

A cultured woman who respects her husband would not react the way she did packing your belongings and locking the door. She has no regard for her husband even if she is paying the rent, she does not need to act that way.

For you as a person, learn to respect boundaries. Even if your brother owes all his wealth to you, you must not be flaunting that to third parties.

Let's hear how your brother reacted when he found out about this.

sensible

cricifixo:
Unfortunately she does and can equally shoot you for trespassing

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Op, your brother's stuff isn't yours cos he is married, even if you have worked worked your sweat join, it isn't yours, i will advice you to get your own house and leave peacefully, she just warned you, the next will be your grave cos you are now a threat to her and her kids both unborn and born, start building yours and keep a distance from her

blazebaba:
hor....weray maa poo lorii awon manipulators tii won pe nii obirin yen...na the same engineer work for all of them brain...none is different except ur mother and sisters and thats because they are blood....

I swear women are all the same
They're devilish


The witch might even go the extreme of poisoning the op

Nellsworld:
Op, your brother's stuff isn't yours cos he is married, even if you have worked worked your sweat join, it isn't yours, i will advice you to get your own house and leave peacefully, she just warned you, the next will be your grave cos you are now a threat to her and her kids both unborn and born, start building yours and keep a distance from her

Rubbish talk

osazsky:
a building is nothing..pls walk away ...it is a home that is impt.if u love ur brother and value his home sir walk away and neglect the pain..I feel ur agony and pains but at the end one day u will discover that God is permanently attracted to d rejected

I ain't walking away sir


My brother and his wife should also consider renting or building another house

Nwodosis:
Everything is your brother's own and both you worked for it? How?
My friend allow your brother's wife to enjoy her marriage, which right do you have to go and open a married woman's pot to serve not even yourself but a friend? You owe her an apology.

comments like this makes me to wonder the wife no matter the nonsense has no iota of right to throw him/her out. Some women can be very commanding. Likewise, he was wrong to go to the kitchen and dish out food. That kind woman that you know hates you, while not avoid her as much as you can? �

Foolish question. it seems you have an empty brain. what's your highest qualification?

400billionman:
Allow them to enjoy their marriage.

Many people don't know what marriage means.

You are currently an extended relative to your brother.

Your brother's immediate family is his WIFE and CHILDREN. It's called NUCLEAR family

So when they have big problem the nuclear family should not also involve extended family, they should solve it by themselves.

Nellsworld:
Op, your brother's stuff isn't yours cos he is married, even if you have worked worked your sweat join, it isn't yours, i will advice you to get your own house and leave peacefully, she just warned you, the next will be your grave cos you are now a threat to her and her kids both unborn and born, start building yours and keep a distance from her

listen to yourself again so for example, my brother and I contributed and bought a house, later he got married to karashika then suddenly, the house is for my brother alone? the way some of una de reason for this nairaland eh ... Better you advised to settle with his brother and move out.

pocohantas:
Any Nigerian in-law that makes these two statements;

1: Calling a family house “MY BROTHER’S HOUSE”

2: Telling you how they suffered with their brother before you came in...

Is most likely a very troublesome, disrespectful, entitled, egoistic, irrational, unmanageable and petty in-law.

OP used those two statements with so much effrontery. Tells a lot about him. Anyone supporting you should take you in and you try that nonsense with their wives, let’s see how many days you last there.

Make no mistakes, the problem is not the pot or the kitchen, that was just a trap and you fell into it. After all, she knew you wouldn’t come into her room or try to touch her butt. So, she waited for you in the kitchen.

After taking tramadol with your U-27 friends, you come home and start rubbing shoulders with her. You must be sick in the head.

Submit to your brother’s wife and control that your sharp mouth.

Summit to a mere woman
Who shamelessly squats to piss

Asadujames202:



You're painting a different scenario here


The op and his brother contributed 50/50 in building the house


Not like his brother owns the house

Build which house? Is it the OP that is still an undergraduate student at EBSU?

You see this mentality of "We struggled together, it's my brother's house"? Delete it.
Going into your brother's wife's kitchen to cook without her permission is all shades of wrong.
Very few women will tolerate it.
It is clear you don't like her and she doesn't like you too.
Nevertheless, it is wrong of her to attempt to throw you out without your brother's consent. Fact is, she's now his number 1 family and will definitely take precedence over you.
The least you can do is to see your brother for financial support, seeing you struggled together, as you say.
It's time to get your own place.

freetheking:
I'm so sorry that she throw your belongings out of the house of which I know it's not good. Secondly,you did not behave well by going to her pot without her concent. Let me tell you this and every other person reading thread, there are two things that women don't tolerate.

(1) Going to her pot without her concent.

(2) Interfering in the matter that concerns her and her husband.
You will be a good brother in-law or sister in-law.

If you're a female, I will agree with what you said. but if you're a male, I won't.

Mokason288:

You are very funny

Where are you from?

If your brothers wife could shoot you, I’m sorry to say this ....

Your brother is an A$$

There should be boundaries every where, I feel it’s wrong to go into her kitchen

But she doesn’t have any right to throw his things outside... that decision is for the brother



I HOPE I MADE SENSE

Except that you need to remove the phrase that

"she doesn’t have any right to throw his things outside... that decision is for the brother".

She has equal right with her husband except that courtesy demands she allows her husband to do it.

Many of us don't know the meaning of marriage, and that is why many of the problems like this emanate from. We always think it is our culture and tradition that institute marriage or it is man's idea. NO.

God instituted marriage right before any culture or tradition arrives in the garden of Eden.

Gen.2.24 - Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

So any attempt to handle in man's way will always bring confusion, troubles and pain. Take it or leave it. If you know, you know.

Asadujames202:




Summit to a mere woman
Who shamelessly squats to piss

Says the man with saggy balls.

I think the subject is misquoted..... There is a level u acclimatize with ur inlaw and u freely enter the kitchen and cook... He cooked not enter her pot,,����... But if the woman was not cool with it, she could have jokingly say " Baba Oko mi, e ba je kin se ounje yen"....... Simple and it settles it.

Follow the comments written on blue ink.

That is definitely the path to peace.

So much wisdom on display.

My man!

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

Your brother suppose follow her throw you out

Jeffy1206:
listen to yourself again so for example, my brother and I contributed and bought a house, later he got married to karashika then suddenly, the house is for my brother alone? the way some of una de reason for this nairaland eh ... Better you advised to settle with his brother and move out.

Bros it has happened in my family, my mum's dad and his brother were staying together, my grandfather 's sister in law was giving that sign of warning, cos issues up on issues, this is a house that my grandfather and his brother built together, she saw my grandfather and his family as a threat and poisoned my grandfather and grandmother, living my mum and her siblings orphans, they were forced to leave for lagos to their cousins home, he should better leave, a lady that has dat mind to chase the op out can do and undo

Mindlog:


Why should a wife share in the man's "suffering" while growing up, was she not also growing up with her own family?

He cannot marry his sisters or female cousins who probably shared in his suffering while growing up.

Some people's reasoning sha. As if the man was the only one struggling. Oya let him marry his mother nau since his mother struggled with him.

Nwodosis:
Everything is your brother's own and both you worked for it? How?
My friend allow your brother's wife to enjoy her marriage, which right do you have to go and open a married woman's pot to serve not even yourself but a friend? You owe her an apology.

Rubbish comment of the year so far

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

she should have arrested you and bundle your ass to prison. You have the guts to go into someone kitchen to prepare food and serve your friends.

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

Women are full of evil. The bible said it all. They are like sepulchre beautiful outside but decay inside. The bad eggs tho' that is why I never wanted to get married until all my siblings graduate from uni and able to stand on their own. I can't just cope with their plenty problems. What is wrong in entertaining a friend. Maybe she's the breadwinner tho' unknown to you, you enter kitchen go dey short her ration. Abeg just allow peace to reign. Leave them for peace OK? God will do your own.

Ur eye blind.... ur eye dumd.. he just wrote that he went to cuk.. but not to serve from her cooked food.. more over alot siblings work to assist their elderly they live with..buy furniture n other stuff for comfort... ow woman come without idea how they started u r der saying he should live..smh nonsense..

Your question is the more reason why you were thrown out.

What women hate most is for the husband siblings to come live with them but their own siblings are free to live with them for ever anyway it's not a sound idea to be living with married couple unless they have a big house where you're on your own and not eating the woman's food. My sister and I have once lived with our eldest brother and I know how disrespectful it is to live with your married brother. It brings problem to the couple. If your brother sides with his wife you, your parents and other siblings may hate him and if he take side with you he will have problem with his wife. This issue will be resolved but after try to save and leave. She'll start respecting you later and be finding your peace

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

The highlighted statement of yours is the major reason why your brother's wife hates you ! Your sense of entitlement is the source of your sister on law's hatred for you !

You have no right to go to her kitchen,yes it is her kitchen and her house, to dish out food to your visitor without her consent ! What you did was wrong !

It is time for you to move out of that house and start your own life ,especially since you are a hustler like your brother. Trust me,that woman has not started with you. By the time she does,you won't even remember Nairalamd !