Richy4:


I think you were too hash on the OP... Based on your marriage experiences, you should have known that there were so many dotted lines scattered around the story line that begged to be filled/ answered before passing your hasty judgement..

Besides, where you implying that if the young man was living with his brother alone in that house before his brother married the lady in question, he has no right to enter inside the same kitchen he has been using for years and cook?...Also in a normal situation where there are foodstuffs and all in the house, what's the big deal about OP entering into the kitchen, cooking and serving a friend?... He would have been faulted assuming he served food the sister inlaw cooked and prepared by herself to a friend... Besides since when have it become a big taboo in Nigeria for a brother to leave in the same house with his brother...

Also telling him he will reap what he has sown without getting all the answers to solve the puzzle and telling him that you were 23 when you got married was uncalled for.. it was your choice,..you were mentally and financially prepared to get married @23... no one forced you to and it's not compulsory he must get marry at 23... Advise him on what will bring Peace and lasting solution in a cordial manner without acting as if you were mad at someone or frustrated because u got married at 23.. just saying..

I swear u b correct � being...

My advice to unmarried nigas out dere, pls let marry those that will see our families as there own Families... Am sure the woman cnt treat her own younger brother like that.

It's her home Bro and you have to respect that. It is your brother you should talk to so that he will manage the situation in a way that things will not get out of hand

100% YES

Unfortunately u nt making sense, i dont support wat she did bt theres always 2 side To a story. Morally it is wrong bt if u talk abt her right then yes its her house n she can throw u out without even discussing wit ur broda
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You are very funny

Where are you from?

If your brothers wife could shoot you, I’m sorry to say this ....

Your brother is an A$$

There should be boundaries every where, I feel it’s wrong to go into her kitchen

But she doesn’t have any right to throw his things outside... that decision is for the brother



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Liposure:
Your brother's wife is wrong in throwing you out. Even tho you trespassed, it still doesn't warrant such treatment. Her hatred for you is on another level.

He has overstayed his welcome and she has reached her limits. Simple logic.

I think it was wrong to engage your brother's wife in a shouting match; your brother might see that as not having respect for his wife, and by extention not having respect for him.

I also think the woman overreacted by throwing your things out of the house without your brother's knowledge, which is also wrong.

Haven said that, if you're having issues with your brother's wife, you should discuss it your brother and know where he stands, and he can in turn discuss with his wife so that issues can be ironed out for peace to reign.

Every household is different. If your brother's wife frowns at certain things like you going into her kitchen to cook or dish food without her approval, you should respect that. Unless you are the person housing them, which in this case you are not.

Just know that your brother will not leave his wife or his family over matters like this because of you. At the end of the day, if someone should leave that house, it is you, if you want your brother to have a peaceful home & a happy marriage.

My advice to you is: if the atmosphere in the house has become toxic, discuss with your brother and start making arrangement immediately to get your own apartment even if it's one bedroom; you're still single. You can ask your brother for support if you don't have enough money to get a place.

Good Luck!

In maturity coming from both side, u have no right to enter her kitchen, and she does not have right to throw ur things outside.

As much as you erred, your brother's wife fucckked up.

There is no way you can win right now.

Go out and get successful, and cut all ties with her.

That is the true revenge.

Once you have Money, she would want her kids to come and know their uncle and that is when you would show her.

Nwodosis:
Everything is your brother's own and both you worked for it? How?
My friend allow your brother's wife to enjoy her marriage, which right do you have to go and open a married woman's pot to serve not even yourself but a friend? You owe her an apology.

You just want to type abi? Did you not read where he said he cooked the food himself.

pocohantas:


Trust me, I didn’t read that hogwash. I have better things to do with my time now. Simply message the OP and take him in. I am sure your virtuous and different wife can accommodate him. Kapish...

If it was your brother or sister that did that, will you think anything bad of it?

It's a shame, I am a man and I don't see anything wrong with "Going to the kitchen to cook" underline the statement going to cook and serve her guest. Well it depends on your relationship with your sister in law I think your relationship was sour before this event but still she has no right to throw you out like that.

I feel that this story is half true. Secondly why shout at her and keep cam later? Why didn't you keep calm from the onset.

Well this is my answer to your question.

YES SHE CAN THROW YOU OUT BECAUSE ITS HER EFFING HOUSE.

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

yes she does...it is equally her house too if she is legally married...u are encroaching. Go get ur own place.

NikAustine:
I hate all this nonsense.
if I was the Op I will make sure she regret ever doing that. first I will report to my parents and my other siblings and then if my brother doesn't do anything, I will disown my brother simple. and you all know when two bloods are quarreling cause of a lady, the Whole family will end up hating that lady. and besides since she says her husband's house belong to her, anytime she comes visiting with her husband to my father's house or anything and I'm there I will treat her like dirt. infact, if possible I will shout that I don't want to see her step her witchy food in my father's house. so let her and her husband go back to where they're coming from
I will be the reason for their marriage to breakup and I will have no atom of pity. me I wicked o!

I don't see any wrong the op did there. she has no right ever.
if she wanted him to leave she should talk to her husband to also talk to him apart leaving and giving them space not behaving like an uncivilized maniac.

There is nothing wicked in what you have said. It is just the fruit of the seed that she sowed

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

Look at this outsider talking. If your brother get sense E go shock you. The moment a man married a woman everyone else automatically becomes third party.. It's people like you who destroy homes, better go and build your own home and leave her alone in peace.. You're an outsider, a third party in fact your being in that house in the first place is out of her own magnanimity. A husband is the Head of the home, the wife is the neck. Lukadiswan, dragging another woman's house with her, wait you even had the nerve to enter her kitchen to cook without her consent.. Oh wait you even received a first without her consent, my friend if you were my brother and tried it with my wife I'm kicking you out immediately, how you treat her now that I'm alive tells me how you'll treat her and my kids is I'm no more. Gadddemmm!!!

She is your brother's wife. To avoid issues like this again, get your own place (even if it is a small room) and visit your brother regularly.

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

Them never born am well...!!!!
Wife from heaven or hell so my brother that I have been sharing same kitchen with in my momma house eat together flex together sometimes crack some morons head together can't take food from my kitchen cause of a woman ... Mum and dad will curse me the day that happens!!! Infact who is she ? What is she? Which tribe are you from please ? Cause i will send the crazy woman out!!! No apologies I said what I said what I said people..woman no go fit destroy my love for my brother and family even if na 10 rings I give u the day we marry!! Where she dey when we all dey go one pot dish food ... Mama and papa no quarrel us!!! I don't usually comment here cause of who I am but she is mad .... Onye Ara ka obu!!!!

I will send her out and marry someone who respects my brothers.... more reason my ancestors marry 2-3 cause of their nasty behaviors.

All y'all saying she has the right ... Someday your wife's will send your entire family parking for food too!!

Ndeewo!!!

Nwodosis:
Everything is your brother's own and both you worked for it? How?
My friend allow your brother's wife to enjoy her marriage, which right do you have to go and open a married woman's pot to serve not even yourself but a friend? You owe her an apology.

All these home breakers quoting me, that he cooked the food by himself. In whose kitchen and with whose authority? Most problems in marriage is from husband's parents and relations mostly if the man is the family ATM. Marrying a family breadwinner makes one an automatic Bad Wife to the husband's family.

Can you say this all again and again

I dont see anything wrong if he or she went to the kitchen to cook the food or stuffs he bought with his own money. What I suspect may have happened knowing Nigerian ladies very well is that the the op must have been feeling too much at home which invariably became a threat to the wife.

My summation is that both the wife and the op are on the same level and are both stupid people with the husband most likely the most stupid person. If not why should cooking in the kitchen tear all of them apart if they are not a family of stupid people.

Finally for the *her kitchen/ her kitchen gang*

Y'all should grow some balls!!!!

No woman I repeat no woman can stop my siblings from living good on my funds!!! Make she go find another husband!! No be for my house and money she go dey form Patience from nollywood videos.
You have no right to decide what happens around my siblings until I give an approval as a wife!! No no no if you brother doesn't correct this shit man and let's it slide please cut all ties with him cause he is a pussy!!!
My kitchen and food stuffs gbaakwa oku!!
Nonsense and ingredient..

heniford2:
shut up that's disrespect his brother the lady in quote should atleast not throw his stuff outside why do so can't she tell her husband about his younger brother attitude than insult him look the war has just begin the younger brother will never ever see any good thing the lady do as good the family is know turn apart for useless action, will she throw her own family member out like that will she do so nonsense, yes he is her husband but before that he is his brother blood brother

The next thing the woman will do now is to chase away the husband's family and her family members will now pack in...

Brother you have to leave the house,

Reflect on this...

Ur sister marry, her brother-in-law keeps suffocating her like you're doing, u no go like am bah?

If una suffer make money, let him rent an apartment 4 u. Leave ur brothers house!

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

The only sensible thing I've read.

Nwodosis:
Everything is your brother's own and both you worked for it? How?
My friend allow your brother's wife to enjoy her marriage, which right do you have to go and open a married woman's pot to serve not even yourself but a friend? You owe her an apology.

All these home breakers quoting me, that he cooked the food by himself. In whose kitchen and with whose authority? Most problems in marriage is from husband's parents and relations mostly if the man is the family ATM. Marrying a family breadwinner makes one an automatic Bad Wife hearts of the husband's family.

My own brother throw out in his house and bring friends to come and live with him but I promise him that I won't die

Nwodosis:
Everything is your brother's own and both you worked for it? How?
My friend allow your brother's wife to enjoy her marriage, which right do you have to go and open a married woman's pot to serve not even yourself but a friend? You owe her an apology.

All these home breakers quoting me, that he cooked the food by himself. In whose kitchen and with whose authority? Most problems in marriage is from husband's parents and relations mostly if the man is the family ATM. Marrying a family breadwinner makes one an automatic Bad Wife hearts of the husband's family.

Bros if it was the wife younger brother that does the same thing would she throw her brothers things out for entering her kitchen?

Cos i dont get ur point ooo. The woman is very wicked... Thats the main thing. If anything happens to that senior brother later in life who wld the foolish wife run to. Its better to make friends with ur husband younger once than to see them as enemies. The woman is not wise at all.

My brother. You are a trespasser. Even if you own the house, so far that woman is not your wife, she can throw you out by equal right that your brother wife. Your case is a case of a visitor that is cooking for another visitor without permission. But check very well, your real problems with your brother's wife is not actually the cooking but a very bad behaviours from you that you are not telling us here.

Richy4:
<<< OP, The reason why you felt insulted could be that you have been living in that house with your brother before he married your sister inlaw and three of you were now sharing that same space that was your territory back then... You feel that she has no right to encroach on your already made heaven.. and she too feel that she's the rightful owner of the place... so she decided to show you that she is MRS.

<<<< Here's what I think.. I think she has no right to throw your thing outside the house irrespective of what you have done... She has no respect for your brother..i might be wrong but she's the one calling the shots in that marriage if she couldn't wait for your brother to return so she can register her displeasure to him(that's none of my business anyways).. Assuming reverse was the case, and she was living with her own sister, can your brother throw her sister inlaw's belongings outside when the wife was not around..

<<<< OP, you should stop cooking for your friends... You are no longer living with your brother alone... serve them light refreshments when they come visiting.. when you get your own place, then you can cook for them and do as you like...You need not to drag territory with your sister-in-law.. All you have to do is hit the ignore button at all times.. maintain emotional and social distancing from her until you get your own place..

<<<< Finally please.. Please... and Please, whatever decision your brother takes concerning this issue, do not hate him... You might not know the emotional tussle going on behind close doors... The decision might be for him to just have peace of mind.. Help your brother to achieve that peace please..

Very sound advice

All na still poverty mentality.

emorse:


You're very correct. But there's an exception to every rule. Maybe this is it. Experience has taught me to never pass judgement from afar so I'd rather not make assumptions and wait to hear the other side of the story.

We are saying the same thing,wait to hear the other side of the story.


But one thing is sure, this whole fiasco has a back story.

iamGholdaniel:

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

Be using ya brothers wife to catch cruise on NL no go stay for your own house

ume1000:
only a foolish man would side a woman over his brother in such a case

As for me if you send my brother packing u pack as well

did you miss the part he was shouting at her. You said this because you are not married