Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by HRMK: 7:24am On Mar 09, 2021 |
YES!UR VERY SMART!HE HAS NO TASTE!HE GOES AFTER ANYTHING IN SKIRT!AND SOME OF THESE CHEAP SLUTS KNOW U VERY WELL!THAT IS THE RED SIGN!FORGET ABT WHAT U COLLECT FROM HIM AND RUN FOR U DEAR LIFE!! 1 Like |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by khalhokage(m): 7:30am On Mar 09, 2021 |
Madam involve the police and tell them that he is threatening your life.
This your boyfriend sounds like a mental patient. |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by ghettochild(m): 7:37am On Mar 09, 2021 |
Did u read about the women whose bf set her ablaze.. My friend if u see fire ....run oooo |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Nobody: 7:42am On Mar 09, 2021 |
AdesewaAde: So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.
We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.
Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.
Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.
Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.
He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “
I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste. Madam, the conception that all men do cheat is from the devil. Run away from such man and his family. Delete them from your life entirely. You've already seen the future . You don't need advice on this. That your boyfriend is worse than a dog. The painful thing is that most of those cheats don't want others to cheat on them 4 Likes |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Itusmama: 7:45am On Mar 09, 2021 |
Oluromantic: Hmmm I'm afraid I have both of you to blame. I do not support what he did but you too are just beginning to understand the life of a man. Most men do it but your man was wrong in that he didn't place you high enough over others. You are probably one of the kind of women who get deeply pained over cheating. For you at this level of getting close to marriage and still have the inkling that there's no tendency for him to cheat is being unrealistic. I'm not saying he has d right to cheat but for a woman who's ready to stay in marriage, you shd have learnt before now to take your mind off his cheating tendency. I guess that wasn't included in your upbringing or self training. That's what your mom-in-law was trying to figure out for you..like a woman who wants to last in husband house must close her eyes off her husband's cheating tendency blabla.
For him not to groom you from the onset that he's a free man sexually so as to prepare your mind for what you're coming into is also wrong. For him to tell his side chicks that you're in his life is good, it shows he values you despite their sexual service...some men will deny their wives. But for them to call you names like witch and he's comfortable with it is wrong. Strangely, there are some ladies who even work out chicks for their fiance when they're not around. But it's d man who shd be careful not to misbehave.
This is true for many men. They'll see other girls they like but won't place them above you.
But from your description of him, he seem not to care about your respect. When some men will frown at side chicks for abusing their wives both in her presence and absence, he was too flexible that they have no regard for you. Then also, you need to ignore the number of girls you saw on his phone, it's not always like that. Before a man gets a girl to sleep with, he has to toast about 3-5 before one succumbs, shakara won't let others. So it doesn't mean he's sleeping with 10 girls at the moment. This is the most stupid comment ever ...there are men who don't cheat don't spew trash and she would find one with time 3 Likes |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Nobody: 7:53am On Mar 09, 2021 |
@OP..... I am sorry for what are going through. Betrayal is never easy to get over, most especially by those who we trust and those whom we have chosen to give our hearts to. I have read through the comments and once again I realized how unanalytical we can be. On one hand, you stated his virtues and they are indeed commendable. It is easy to see why you would be convinced he loves you. On the other hand, his vice (singular), can also send you spiralling.
Do yourself a favor. Make a list of all he has been doing right and all he has been doing wrong. Evaluate your happiness rate as well as well as your sadness rate. I advise this so that you can see things in black and white by yourself. So that, no matter what your final decision is....you own it. It will not be due to on-line or off-line pressure.
It is never easy to let go of a loved one, it needs careful thinking. Use this method all through your life to evaluate issues and make life changing decisions. Nobody can ever understand your situation as much as you, you know!
He seems unapologetic and condescending, but I can't use that to judge him because sometimes words can be cheap. It take emotional intelligence to know if: 1. He seemed scared of loosing you. 2. He tends to be flippant when harangued.
Making the correct analysis of his state of mind is totally up to you as we Nairalanders were not there.
Wish you all the best going forward. Cheers! 3 Likes |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Mrscarter(f): 7:53am On Mar 09, 2021 |
dazzlingd:
African man like fela....
New generation african women want a man that will kneel before them to propose and later after marriage, man act like nollywood mumu washing plates and taking turns to babysit their baby. And any small argument, lady will scream get out of my house and throw the man out and file for divorce.....
You fvking africans imitating a foreign culture.....he Is a man.....if u cant stay then get out and look for an african white boy that will kneel before u and u can take turns to babysit your baby and you can manipulate into marriage and divorce.
What am I even saying self, I know I'm saying what nobody want to say but everybody want to hear ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png)
But hear the truth babe, leave that guy and find another guy that will cheat on you more carefully while the guy finds a younger and more beautiful girl to continue with So a man isnt much of a man if he spends time with his own child? Or if he respects his woman especially his wife? A man should be allowed to screw anyone one he wants no matter how his wife feels n put himself n therefore her at risk of stds and pregnancies and drama from other women? Thats not family. Thats not a man. A man can still be all manly if he cares loves n respects his wife. But it goes both ways. A woman shouldnt cheat either. And should respect her man. A man who sleeps with every woman they can is just public property and has no self control or self discipline. No one has to have every person they find attractive. Exactly what will that achieve in the long run? Broken marraiges, hurt, hate, mistrust, regrets, grudges. And its not what u want children growing up to learn or see n be the same. Isnt it better to have a happy fiercely loyal wife than one full of resentment? So only a mans happiness matters. It isnt unmanly to be a kind n faithful husband 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by sparko1(m): 7:58am On Mar 09, 2021 |
The fact that you are considering going back to him, hence this long episode is more shocking than his inability to understand the difference between a relationship and a fling.
You must have had an idea of his personality, someone like that didn’t change over night, you knew he was a cheat but the things he provides is more appealing to you, even now he is sure he has the power to change your heart. His family support implies he is also regarded as a provider hence they can’t correct him, this is the worst person you can ever decide to spend your life with, nobody can correct him even his family can’t and you are still considering him.
He is a cheat from the beginning and a cheat now, this is not going to change, if you insist on going down this rabbit hoe, print your obituary and leave out the date, at least you will enjoy what he provides until he decides to end. 2 Likes |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by olanshi: 7:58am On Mar 09, 2021 |
It is grace to know when to leave! The ball is in your court, take absolute charge of your life.
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Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by david102(m): 8:00am On Mar 09, 2021 |
Those men saying most men are cheaters, are fools and lack self control 2 Likes |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Murjem(m): 8:08am On Mar 09, 2021 |
In as much as what the man is doing is disgusting as it has nothing to do with men but rather his upbringing as a child. But your supposed comment is not only disgusting but also very disturbing calling for a Man's castration for having affairs with other ladies who might end up being his wife at the end of the day because the last time I checked the man wasn't marrier yet. I believe you should be a woman, in that case in as much as you didn't meet your supposed man as a Virgin (that's if you currently have any) then you just shut the Bleep up!!! How are you sure your man didn't cheated with you against another innocent woman before he finally fall for you for what ever reasons?? Women who make this kind of rotten comments are always murderers in disguise and I pray the good men of this world should have nothing to do with you I'm life. CASTRATOR like you. ![kiss](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/kiss.gif) PrettyBunny: I'm reading so many disgusting replies but I would rather not comment on them..
Cheating is not a shortcoming of anyone and should never be accepted in a relationship. It's not a mistake and neither is it part of ups and downs of any relationship.
Any man that believes every man must, should be castrated. Only a man that lacks priority in life and has no intention of treating any woman right, believes every man must cheat. It's a disgusting way of life.
I am sure you know that this man isn't your rightful partner. Whatever truly belongs you won't embarrass you.
My advise? End every pending relationship with him, take your time and heal up. Then look for what truly belongs to you. This current man is a dirty scumbag and shouldn't taint your beautiful life.
I wish you good luck in all your endeavors. |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by prince2pac(m): 8:10am On Mar 09, 2021 |
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Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by IhateInjustice(f): 8:12am On Mar 09, 2021 |
OkoNDOoBo: if you like hit your head on the wall , it doesn't change the fact that men re born cheaters.nature didnt give men a raging testetereone to be with one woman. Have you ever wonder why men testetereone is 20times bigger than women? Nature created women with low sex drive while men have raging libido. If you woke ladies think you can change status quo you re on a long thing you will end up moving from one cheat to another. 90% men out there re fucking cheaters including me, even though i have never been caught and I dont hide my phone Goodluck to you looking for men that doesnt cheat on earth Nature created women with low sex drive, I laugh at how ignorant you are. There are women with high sex drive and there are men with low sex drive. ...or are you saying that only men cheat? No matter how you try to force down accepting cheats, there are men that don't cheat. |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by ACE1010: 8:12am On Mar 09, 2021 |
Kriss216:
![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png)
I like this your boyfriend oo.
If actually you know what it takes to ask a Nigerian girl out ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png)
Your boyfriend suppose win Time's Man of the Year. ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png)
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Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Viserion: 8:13am On Mar 09, 2021 |
AdesewaAde: So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.
We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.
Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.
Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.
Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.
He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “
I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste. since it doesn't seem like he would change, start cheating also and see who will succumb, any meat you see, climb it, any balls you see suck it, any guy you see follow him, unleash the hidden runs girl in you. An eye for an eye, he cheats with one do it with five.. Make him regret knowing you and thank me later |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Xkale1234(m): 8:13am On Mar 09, 2021 |
Hmmm wat I observe is that he can't stop cheating |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Pharaoh4rin(m): 8:33am On Mar 09, 2021 |
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Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by bigpicture001: 8:34am On Mar 09, 2021 |
If he wasn't wealthy would you have been confused bout a decision to take..? |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Justiceibeikenn: 8:40am On Mar 09, 2021 |
Oluromantic: Hmmm I'm afraid I have both of you to blame. I do not support what he did but you too are just beginning to understand the life of a man. Most men do it but your man was wrong in that he didn't place you high enough over others. You are probably one of the kind of women who get deeply pained over cheating. For you at this level of getting close to marriage and still have the inkling that there's no tendency for him to cheat is being unrealistic. I'm not saying he has d right to cheat but for a woman who's ready to stay in marriage, you shd have learnt before now to take your mind off his cheating tendency. I guess that wasn't included in your upbringing or self training. That's what your mom-in-law was trying to figure out for you..like a woman who wants to last in husband house must close her eyes off her husband's cheating tendency blabla.
For him not to groom you from the onset that he's a free man sexually so as to prepare your mind for what you're coming into is also wrong. For him to tell his side chicks that you're in his life is good, it shows he values you despite their sexual service...some men will deny their wives. But for them to call you names like witch and he's comfortable with it is wrong. Strangely, there are some ladies who even work out chicks for their fiance when they're not around. But it's d man who shd be careful not to misbehave.
This is true for many men. They'll see other girls they like but won't place them above you.
But from your description of him, he seem not to care about your respect. When some men will frown at side chicks for abusing their wives both in her presence and absence, he was too flexible that they have no regard for you. Then also, you need to ignore the number of girls you saw on his phone, it's not always like that. Before a man gets a girl to sleep with, he has to toast about 3-5 before one succumbs, shakara won't let others. So it doesn't mean he's sleeping with 10 girls at the moment. You don't have sense |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Nobody: 8:40am On Mar 09, 2021 |
Wittyduchess: That guys is borderline psychopath. When you hear "man sets lover ablaze" ,"man kills lover " na them be this .
She should relocate if possible and change all her numbers ,block him on other social media. If you can help her,then do it. If I had the money, I would have helped her. |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Nobody: 8:42am On Mar 09, 2021 |
"who doesn’t have taste.[/quote]"If u had taste y would the man be cheating on u? , abi don't u cheat? I'm going to give a fair and impartial judgement now Court!!!! Arise !! This is case btw Asa and Tobi(Fake names for privacy sakes) To tell u the truth, if I'm in ur shoes op, I won't live with a man that shows no remorse for cheating, I would leave him in my dust b4 he knows what is happening, I advice People not to stay where they are not appreciated or valued, where there hearts, emotions and humanity isn't respected, u are being treated like a slave and trash, like u don't have anything to do with ur life or as if he was the one that created u, u need to make a decision now, u now knw clearly that he cheats, let me tell u, 64% of people cheat at one point in time in their marriage, but someone that fakes remorse for cheating and still does it many times is worse than someone that opens up and owns up to his mistakes, and takes responsibility for them, if u think if u meet a new man he's not going to cheat on u, then be ready to keep divorcing and divorcing! U calling the man a dog says much about u, A Slut! Y have u left out the fact that u arent a virgin if u are not a slut ![](/faces/huh.png) How many people slept with u that he doesnt know about and u didn't say that part of the story, u are a fool if u think I'm going to swallow ur half baked story thin and sinker! Anyways having said my bit, here's my judgement I hereby ask the defendent to take any action that she feels is right for her, and my court would back any such decision! May we rise!!! Court dismissed! |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Pharaoh4rin(m): 8:47am On Mar 09, 2021 |
Oluromantic:
Lol. Nothing better is expected from an NL lady
If this one sees ur guy, she will grab him aand shower him with love and she's advicing you to...not even separate peacefully but dump. A decision you may regret later
Pls op be properly guided Oluromantic! Nice name. You've not changed. |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Justiceibeikenn: 8:47am On Mar 09, 2021 |
Oluromantic:
Lol. Nothing better is expected from an NL lady
If this one sees ur guy, she will grab him aand shower him with love and she's advicing you to...not even separate peacefully but dump. A decision you may regret later
Pls op be properly guided Regret how?..some of you don't have Sense...if this woman is a millionaire and have her own money do you think the man would have done that?..the man is doing this because he's the one taking care of her and he thinks she needs him... they've not married and it is like this...if they marry it will even be worse... 2 Likes |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Afriifa(m): 8:48am On Mar 09, 2021 |
AdesewaAde: So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.
We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.
Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.
Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.
Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.
He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “
I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste. Never marry such. He's a reprobate. Forget all the apologies and flowery promises he's going to make hereafter. Nothing will change! Worst, he sees you ad his property and I hate that notion. So Please dear, scram! About his mother, just forget that woman. She's part of the problems. 1 Like |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Justiceibeikenn: 8:51am On Mar 09, 2021 |
brightfuture24: You are a disgusting, patriarchal and illiterate fool. How dare you try to justify cheating What a big fool. Men in this part of the world are not only shameless, but they expect women to accept their irrational shame.
OP and other ladies here, don't you ever in your lives condone cheating. You do not only invite evil spirits into your bodies, but also STDs. Don't listen to this bloody fool here telling you that a man will always cheat. They are rare, but there are good men out there who do NOT.
How could someone sit down and type this bullshit, and no moderator on here deleted it? Bloody bastard fool. I swear the guy don't have sense 1 Like |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Afriifa(m): 8:53am On Mar 09, 2021 |
PrettyBunny: I'm reading so many disgusting replies but I would rather not comment on them..
Cheating is not a shortcoming of anyone and should never be accepted in a relationship. It's not a mistake and neither is it part of ups and downs of any relationship.
Any man that believes every man must, should be castrated. Only a man that lacks priority in life and has no intention of treating any woman right, believes every man must cheat. It's a disgusting way of life.
I am sure you know that this man isn't your rightful partner. Whatever truly belongs you won't embarrass you.
My advise? End every pending relationship with him, take your time and heal up. Then look for what truly belongs to you. This current man is a dirty scumbag and shouldn't taint your beautiful life.
I wish you good luck in all your endeavors. I owe you a bottle of wine for this. 1 Like |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Gudlite: 8:54am On Mar 09, 2021 |
A broken Marriage is worse than a broken relationship. The earlier you quit that relationship the better for you. |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by gabicon: 8:56am On Mar 09, 2021 |
AdesewaAde: So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.
We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.
Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.
Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.
Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.
He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “
I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste. I don't think this is a question of he won't let you go, it more like you want to be bound and you are looking for justification to staying bound. You hold all the cards as a woman, men do what you allow them to do. 95% of men are cheats is a fallacy because no human being knows 95% of men, neither has any report been published that supports this theory. As a woman you need to ask yourself what are the requirements, stipulations and rules guiding your relationship. You lay out the rules, if he can't live by them, let him take a walk, you were created to be respected, if he can't respect you for who you or what you stand for he isn't the one. One of the reason he behaves this way is because you are at his place most of the time, he has seen you finish, if a man keeps on getting free milk he will never buy the cow, and if by chance he buys it, he won't value it. Get your life together, get busy, start doing great for yourself and society, your inherent potential far outweighs your present output. Lastly when men can't inspire they begin to manipulate, if his philandering isn't a thing you can live with walk away and let it be clear to those begging on his behalf that that is your standard. He would send friends and family to try and manipulate the whole situation, but as I said earlier if it's not something you can live with take a walk. A person sleeping with you and 10 other people has the tendency of infecting you with some for of disease be careful. 3 Likes |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Justiceibeikenn: 8:58am On Mar 09, 2021 |
OkoNDOoBo: if you like hit your head on the wall , it doesn't change the fact that men re born cheaters.nature didnt give men a raging testetereone to be with one woman. Have you ever wonder why men testetereone is 20times bigger than women? Nature created women with low sex drive while men have raging libido. If you woke ladies think you can change status quo you re on a long thing you will end up moving from one cheat to another. 90% men out there re fucking cheaters including me, even though i have never been caught and I dont hide my phone Goodluck to you looking for men that doesnt cheat on earth How on Earth do you people justify cheating self...if you are a man of girl cheats on you how would you feel?..you should ask if this girl cheats on the guy how would he feel?..he doesn't respect the girl that's why he doesn't even have remorse...the worst thing a woman can do is marry a man who has too much ego... he'll abuse you,treat you bad and would never apologize...it will be just like he'll because he'll do whatever he wants and feel no one can do anything about it...what if he gets another girl pregnant?..or even contract HIV or STD...you don't even think about that and you are trying to justify that he's a cheat...there are still men who respects a woman and would apologise if they are caught cheating...that's how to know a good man |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Nobody: 9:03am On Mar 09, 2021 |
Lumpyy: The guy is a TOUT sis,he's told u already he will cheat,you want to strap yourself with that type of man for the rest of your life![](/faces/huh.png) DO NOT MAKE THAT MISTAKE.. With his audacity,he will bring them to ur matrimonial bed and still say he doesn't PLACE THEM ABOVE YOU,he feels telling them about u makes it alright,10 girls at once??RUN SIS,RUNNNNNNN!! Sharrap! Hypocrite!! How many men are u seeing aside ur main Bf? Or do u think cheating is only when u have an affair Look at ur life b4 trying to fix someonelse's |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by OkoNDOoBo: 9:08am On Mar 09, 2021 |
IhateInjustice:
Nature created women with low sex drive, I laugh at how ignorant you are.
There are women with high sex drive and there are men with low sex drive. ...or are you saying that only men cheat?
No matter how you try to force down accepting cheats, there are men that don't cheat.
testetereone in women which is responsible for sex drive is very low women except for few cases. of course there re men that dont cheat unfortunately they belong to 10%. When the 10% eventually get married and re faithful to the spouse you ladies will be left with the 90% cheaters to choose from |
Re: He Is A Cheat, Yet Won’t Let Me Go by Oluromantic: 9:12am On Mar 09, 2021 |
awulio: Firstly everything u wrote is rubbish but I don’t think u meant harm. Women are tired of men cheating. If men can cheat then women should be allowed to cheat freely. Two can play that game. If u can’t be faithful in a relationship then don’t enter it. Women will no longer accept rubbish from men. If other men can live without cheating then why can’t Nigerian men?
I don't expect you to understand neither do I expect any better quote from you. You shd ignore what doesn't appeal to you next time |