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Career / Re: How Lucrative Is Pharmacy As A Career? by psalm121vs1: 12:20pm On Apr 30, 2016
IZANAMI:
And also sir!why are you going into pharmacy business?
so that I can start supplying APIs I already have the contact for to pharmaceutical companies at better rates than what they spend importing. .. .but u need to learn how the industry works..this why I m in the industry now..and already started supplying to gauze pharmaceuticals..
Career / Re: How Lucrative Is Pharmacy As A Career? by psalm121vs1: 11:46am On Apr 30, 2016
IZANAMI:
In short,what you're trying to say is that pharmacy isn't lucrative as a career,Yes or no?
I need your answer.
I already answered the question. .I said the golden age of the industry is fizzling. .its becoming more established. .if u re looking to make a name for urself in the industry in nigeria as a business person. .it will be difficult..there re so many useless rules which doesnt really affect some people.. there is not much profit except u do it like nero pharmaceutical or what genith pharmaceutical is trying to do..that is..creating a new angle.which requires a hell of a capital or u might just meet someone willing to give you a try.but if u re looking for just a comfortable source of income and nothing fancy..its the right thing in nigeria. .go to google..type pharmacist and scroll down to nigeria and no course is poor..it depends if u understand why u re reading it..and the passion u have for it..dont do it cos u think is lucrative because u wont see the opportunities in that course even when its staring u in the face....fela dropped out of law for music..and I will say this again..if u dont have passion for it or fail to develop a passion for it..u will be miserable..
Career / Re: How Lucrative Is Pharmacy As A Career? by psalm121vs1: 8:30am On Apr 30, 2016
chistev12:


So what's the least you should score in jamb to gain a chance of studying pharmacy?
if u dont have money..250 and above..u go to great schools like unn unilag oau unizik..if u have money..200 and below..any private university
Career / Re: How Lucrative Is Pharmacy As A Career? by psalm121vs1: 9:19pm On Apr 29, 2016
Kunlexic:
sentiments at its peak
Where is sisiafrika?,she shd come and speak to this guy sense
Not sentiments bro..I really wanted to get into the pharmaceutical wholesale industry. .I realized patent drug dealers at head bridge were really killing the industry. .why do u think the mega drug distributing sector isnt working..but it has already been built..but the men at head bridge will not allow it to function. .it would have been easier. .I had to register with their union instead for that part of business..and trust me most pharmaceutical industry in nigeria depend on this people u educated people call illiterate to survive. .study pharmacy because u love it and want to make a change not because of money cos u will be miserable..in my opinion thats the best course a lady can study and nursing as well or medical lab science
Career / Re: How Lucrative Is Pharmacy As A Career? by psalm121vs1: 2:19pm On Apr 29, 2016
Apitch:
Op please don't read pharmacy because u want to make money.
Don't listen to most people here because they don't know what they are saying, like someone advised, go and meet some pharmacist and hear their advice.
CONHESS 10 is far different from the normal civil service grade 10.
very correct
Career / Re: How Lucrative Is Pharmacy As A Career? by psalm121vs1: 1:47pm On Apr 29, 2016
eridos:


Well said I'm sure this person wasn't lucky to read Pharmacy.maybe screened out of the department.reason for the beef.in dese country today so many oil and gas guys wana divulge into the Pharmacy business today. Last year the former MD of Bank PHB spoke to me one and one about the opportunities of chain pharmacies in Nigeria.which he would like to key into.i gave him the necessary information he needed not without collectyn my consultation fee though.today he has started his own Pharmacy employing Pharmacist to use their license and paying them handsomely.The Pharmacy is in VI in lagos.and he is looking to expand.currently as we speak there are plans for the big Retail chain Pharmacies abroad to cum into the Nigerian market (boots,wallgreens).a lot of potentials are yet to be untapped in the Pharmaceutical industry.the future is very bright for a young Pharmacist in Nigeria today.of course u have to be streetwise,know ur onions, network, bargain very well and most of all develop urself.ull be amazed at how well ull do over tyme.a lot of opportunities exist for Pharmacies in the country and beyond.new Mulltinational Pharmaceutical companies are cuming into the country each year.they employ Pharmacist and pay them the way they pay their Medical representatives in other countries.when u work under someone and u make enough money u can decide to start ur own.the key is getting a good location I'm talking of retail Pharmacies here.if u check the trend now most people don't wana go to the hospital and pay huge bills while they can just get into the Pharmacy and speak wt a Pharmacist and get quality drugs wt less hazzle.not all Pharmacist are rich,some are average,but none is poor at least they earn more dan the minimum wage.but most Pharmacist fall between the middle class and high class.we are better off than most doctors cos we don't depend on Federal Government jobs like most of them.we are far better off on our own in our private business.
And a Pharmacist and Pharmacologist are different.a Pharmacist is a drug expert who knows everytyn about drug production,drug interaction,sourcing of drug materials,Pharmacy regulation.he has a license to import and export drugs,distribute,counsel and administer drugs to patients based on his vast knowledge of drugs.

A Pharmacologist on the other hand. Just learnt about one aspect of Pharmacy which is the study of drug usage,interaction,adverse effect notyn else.he doesn't know hw the drug is produced nor how the raw materials are sourced cos his scope his limited to wat the drug does and just information about the drug on the body.in Nigeria It's only 2 schools that offer Pharmacology as a B.sc course which is Unilag and Delsu.

Pharm techs on the other hand just handle dispensing and countyn of drugs. A Pharm technologist is not a B.sc Holder it's just a 3 year programme and u bag a technical certificate.there is one at Yaba school of health technology a department of Pharm technology.so don't get it all mixed up they are different from each other.
My dear I dont like pharmacy as a course..I studied ich class of 07 and did my masters in the same..but I m realistic which is why I secured an admission for my sis to study pharm in Madonna with the idea that I will use her licence but thats not reality bro. .because I cant have another shop without employing another pharmacist.amd nafdac makes this things more difficult which is not the same like when juhel started .she will be graduating this year..u said u finished 2012 so u will probably know her..i gathered all this facts while trying to register a pharmaceutical company from pcn..pharm nwizu precisely in anambra..but u without licence is already breaking the bank which is not impossible. .am just saying with the facts on ground..its rare I think u re just newly married..u havent seen the true nature of ur spouse..the infatuation is still crowding ur thoughts but remember if u truly love ur spouse u will have a healthy marriage but if u dont..thats bad news

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Career / Re: How Lucrative Is Pharmacy As A Career? by psalm121vs1: 11:35am On Apr 29, 2016
IZANAMI:
So many unemployed pharmacist??Sir,I haven't seen any jobless pharmacist,you can never be unemployed as a pharmacist,you can only be underemployed that which is quite rare.All the denigratory points you cited have no claims to validate it sir,you obliviously and ignorantly enumerated the cons without making mention of the pros.
You even went to the extent of juxtaposing a pharmacy grad with an English graduate? Oga how far,who does that?
Of course the entry level for a pharmacy grad after nysc is CONHESS level 10.if I'm not mistakened,A b.sc nurse grad is on CONHESS level 8 not to even mention the auxiliary nurses.
At the internship level,you're placed on a salary scale of CONHESS level 9 obviously higher than a B.sc nurse grad which is quite unfair.
I suppose you're not new to the fact pharmacists are the next paid after doctors in terms of salary scale.
some of your points are quite drab,insipid,unintelligent,myopic and shallow sir!!i'll term it a misconception of facts.
No offence intended sir!
U can still get ur points across without being aggressive. ..lemme give another fact
1.U have to work for at least five years before u become a supretendant pharmacist that is u cant register a shop even with ur licence except u ve worked for five years..which is why what eridos posted is not logical except he was lucky
2.bsc with professional certificate like ican is automatic grade 10
3.dont expect to be paid the same thing u earned during internship
and in summary dont think u better than anyone cos this is really the reason why there re so many unemployed graduates..I mean u just said I dared compare English with pharmacy but what u should know is this in terms of academics a prof is a prof. .no one really cares about ur area of expertise and in the corporate world anybody can be anybody..
u might have a dream of working for orange drugs..just remember he dint finish high school

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Career / Re: How Lucrative Is Pharmacy As A Career? by psalm121vs1: 10:31am On Apr 29, 2016
eridos:
Pharmacy my dear Pharmacy!!!
Every parent wants his child to read pharmacy nowadays cos it's lucrative,the day of our induction igbo Men came in to look for female pharmacist to get married to so they can use their license to import and export drugs.it wasn't a bed of roses though,i remember the tension of pre-qualifiying exams and professionals,the cramming of structures,the reading of vague things which were incoherent cos we couldn't see most of them.
Thank God dose days are all over.i started working before I was inducted into the Pharmacist council of Nigeria. Without a certificate and a license,and I was earning more than most bankers.i went ahead to do my internship at Federal Neuropsychiatric hospital lagos,was also working in a community Pharmacy in the evening.anyone who knows Federal Neuropsychiatric hospital Lagos knows it's the Highest Paying for Pharmacy interns throughout the country.as an intern Pharmacist( A Pupil Pharmacist) I was earning more dan 200k in a month from my 2 jobs.after my one year internship I proceeded to do my Nysc. I was posted to Lagos "don't ask me how I got lagos"!!i served in an health centre in eti osa locaal government in the morning and in the evening I go to my community Pharmacy I was close to 200k with all my allowances from FG which is the 19,800 local government which pays 30k and my dear community Pharmacy that paid me the largest chunk of my salary I won't tell u how much I earned from my Pharmacy but all my allowance for the month was close to 200k. I bought my first car during my internship and also rented an apartment on my own with my money.with no assistance from my parents. Now am done with service I got another Job in one of the Chain Pharmacies in Nigeria.ever since I graduated I've been smiling to the bank. Alert has not stopped entering my account.
My license was paid for and put in use by my company apart from my monthly salary.
And the opportunities are enormous u can grow,have ur Pharmacy,decide to import drugs, go into politics.being a Pharmacist makes u street wise.cos uve been tutored informally under so many aspects
Business administration,marketyn. In Abroad Pharmacist are one of the highest Paid professionals u cud switch over and go practice there. Just a few exams to convert you and enable u practice dere

I gave this little epistle for young ones who are confused of a career choice.Pharmacy is one u won't regret. It's a stepping stone to greater achievements.so if u feel u have what it takes give it a shot and follow ur dream.i feel fulfilled adding value to the life's of my patients and for them cuming back to thank me that the drug I gave them worked.makes me feel I ddnt make a mistake reading Pharmacy.

Mind you the profession still has some short comings as no profession is 100 percent without hazzles.but the future is bright for young Pharmacist.
I Rep Pharmacy class of 2012.Madonna University Elele Rivers state#
As Men of Honour we join hands. it's so good to see this post of my profession and contribute.
Its either you re not being completely honest or u were just lucky and I will give u facts
1.as a pharmacist you re not allowed to register more than one shop..if you want to own another shop you must hire another pharmacist
2.if u work in any government establishment. .u re not allowed to register a shop
3.there re so many unemployed pharmacists in the country which is why some of them re sales rep to men with capital
4.the salary scale of an entry pharmacist is grade 10 which is the same as a graduate with any professional certificate to his cv
5.a pharmacist can earn better in a pharmaceutical industry just like an english graduate can higher in if he or she works for the un
6.if u dont have passion for Pharmacy. .u will be miserable
7.the golden age of making serious profits from the pharmaceutical industry re over as there re more strict rules now unlike when u can just without the problem of nafdac which is why men like juhel and orange re seriously diversifying

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Health / Sex After Pregnancy : When Can I Resume Intercourse? by psalm121vs1: 2:50pm On Apr 03, 2016
Most mothers will agree that the last thing on their mind after having a baby is sex. However, this is not often the case with their partner! On the other hand, some women may be ready to resume sexual intercourse shortly after having a baby. But when is the right time to resume sexual intercourse? In general, it is recommended that sexual intercourse is avoided for the first 4-6 weeks following a vaginal or cesarean ( C-section ) delivery; however, it is important to speak with your health care provider before resuming sex. Most often, especially in cases of a C-section, perineal tear or episiotomy, it is recommended to wait until after you are seen for your 6-week postpartum visit for the green light from a health care provider to resume sexual activity. Following childbirth, your body is in a healing phase in which bleeding stops, tears heal and the cervix closes. Having intercourse too early, especially within the first two weeks, is not recommended due to a risk of postpartum hemorrhage or uterine infection. When a woman is ready to resume sexual intercourse following the birth of a baby depends on several factors, including: Pain levels Fatigue Stress Sex drive Fear of sex or pregnancy Vaginal dryness http://www.okoyetech.com/2016/04/sex-after-pregnancy.html?m=1
Career / 15 Signs You Need To Quit Job And How To Actually Do It by psalm121vs1: 2:26pm On Apr 02, 2016
If you're not sure about your job, here are 15 signs that it might be time to pull the eject handle:
1. You spend most of Sunday dreading Monday.
2. You need caffeine, alcohol, or other drugs to get up for work, to come down from work, or to avoid thinking about work.
3. You frequently feel tired, achy, or run down, but you rarely take a sick day.
4. Your spouse hates your work phone.
5. Your bosses, your co-workers, or your clients are abusive.
6. You're often anxious or short-tempered at work.
7. You can't seem to remember what you used to do for fun.
8. You spend at least an hour complaining about work every night.
9. You feel exhausted during work but you can't sleep at night.
10. Your values and your employer's values don't line up.
11. You no longer have the energy to do the things you love.
12. Your work environment is toxic.
13. You think about work constantly…even when you are on vacation.
14. Your strengths and talents are not appreciated.
15. You have so much built-up resentment and anger that even if every one of your work wishes was granted, you still wouldn't want to stay.
If none of that sounds familiar, congratulations! You can stop reading and get back to your super-awesome job. But let's face it…if you're still reading this, it's probably best that you think about making a change.
Before you flip over your desk, consider making an escape plan…
In the Short Term
Do some triage:
How bad is your current work situation? Do you need to quit, like, yesterday? Or can you stick it out a while longer? If your work environment is toxic, abusive, or put
s your health at risk, don't hesitate. Consider a lateral move or even something at a lower pay grade. Your health and sanity are worth more than a slight drop in salary or prestige.
Do nothing.
No, I don't mean just suck it up and soldier on. I mean, carve out some quiet time every day to soothe your mind and body. Implementing a regular meditation practice can quickly take your tension level from RED ALERT to recharged. There are a ton of great guided meditations available for free online. Find one you like, sit your butt down, and listen. Every day...read more of this on http://www.okoyetech.com/2016/04/15-signs-you-need-to-quit-job-and-how.html
Health / The 5 Weird Questions That Could Help You Find Your True Purpose by psalm121vs1: 2:12pm On Apr 02, 2016
One of the most common questions I get asked is, “How do I find my life purpose?” The short answer is to follow your joy route.

What does that mean? Your find your joy route by identifying what makes you happy, what makes you feel alive, and what brings you uninhibited joy. And then you follow it.
You don't have to know the end of the journey. You just need to know the next step.

My joy route involves expressing myself creatively through writing and traveling. When I started searching for my joy route, I could see glimpses of my ideal life, but the full embodiment of it felt so far off and foreign to me. I thought, “How could I possible become a travel writer and book author when I am stuck in a job I hate?”
The jump from my corporate advertising job to following my actual bliss seemed totally impossible, until I was let go from my job. After the shock wore off, I realized it was the best thing that could've happened to me. I started to build a bridge to happiness; I worked freelance jobs to pay the bills and consistently took daily action to create the life of my dreams.
You don't have to know the end of the journey. You just need to know the next step. Take one step at a time, and the next step will reveal itself to you at the appointed time.
Most of us are "stuck" because we are afraid of the unknown, afraid of failure. But I am living proof that your dreams can become reality. I am writing this article from Mexico because I did the work to manifest the life I wanted. Writing from all over the world brings me pure joy.
If you're trying to find your life purpose, take a step back. Start from square one, and you might learn some things about yourself you didn't realize before. Here are a few questions to nudge you forward on the journey.
1. What makes you feel alive, fulfilled, and present?
I was once asked "What are you best at?" in a job interview. They really meant, "Where does your passion reside? What do you love to do? What makes you feel confident, fully alive, and present?"
Ask yourself those questions, and visualize the answers. Do you see yourself painting in your art studio? Are you outside in nature with your loved ones? Are you curled up reading an amazing new book? These expressions of your joy are glimpses into your ideal life.
The way I found my purpose is by discovering what feels important and meaningful to me. Ask yourself What do I love to do? What comes natural to me? What am I best in the world at?
2. What suckiness can you tolerate? What can't you tolerate?
Let’s just get this out of the way. Nothing is pure joy all the time. You'll definitely have to roll up your sleeves and sweat. There will be tears. You will struggle. The question is—what struggle can you tolerate?
No matter what your joy route is, there will be a transitional period from where you are now
to that ideal life you envision. And even when you're far along the joy path, there will be struggle. It's called life. The sticky little bugger of a truth is that everything sucks some of the time.
When I started to pursue freelance writing, I had to stare my fear of rejection dead in the eye and just get over it. My last book was rejected by over 25 publishers but went on to become an Amazon best-seller. Imagine if I had quit after my first rejection. Where would I be now?
Maybe you want to become a superstar tech entrepreneur, but you're terrified of failure. You won't make it far. If you want to be a professional singer but aren’t willing to play your songs in public, you might as well hang up the guitar now. If you want to be a big-name court lawyer, but can’t stand the 80-plus-hour workweeks, then you're in trouble.
The goal of finding your life purpose is to ask yourself what suckiness you will tolerate—and what kind of payoff is worth that investment.
Everything involves sacrifice. Every pursuit comes with some sort of cost. Nothing is pleasurable or uplifting 100 percent of the time. What struggle or sacrifice are you willing to tolerate? Ultimately, your ability to achieve the life of your dreams is determined by your willingness to handle the rough patches and ride out the inevitable rotten days.
3. When did your younger self lose track of time?
When I was a child, I often wrote stories and poetry. I would sit outside by myself for hours writing about life, imagining other lives. This was my bliss. I didn’t write it because I thought people would read it. I wasn’t trying to prove anything or get recognition. I did it because it brought me joy.
At some point, the demands of life stepped in, and I stopped. We have a tendency to lose touch with our sense of wonder when we get overwhelmed by "shoulds" and "have-tos." Social and professional pressures can squeeze the life out of our joyful, curious inner child. Think about when you were happiest as a child, and find your way back to that.
4. Where do you find your mind drifting when it's free from worry?
We worry a lot—about both things we can and things we can’t control. We worry about what might be and what has already been, although we can't change either of those things. Fear is paralyzing. It keeps us from moving forward with clarity and joy. Occasionally, when we've exhausted our brains with worry, it gives us no choice but to stop. Your mind goes on a little vacation.
When that happens, your mind drifts to joy, fantasies, and possibilities. The next time you experience this, take note of where your mind goes. Do you dream of traveling the world and writing about your experiences? Do you dream of helping others eat and live better with recipes or cookbook ideas? These insights are inspirations from your heart. Trust them.
5. What is your biggest fear?
I'm not talking about your fear of spiders or public speaking. I mean the deep-seated fears that inform every decision you make (even the subconscious ones). Most of us are afraid of the unknown, but when we peel back the layers of this fear, we come to realize that "the unknown" is really the same as "not living life fully."
My biggest fear is not living my full potential—dying before I do everything I want to do. This fear motivates me to live each day with purpose and make the most out of my life. Find your biggest fear, and tackle it in your life—whatever that looks like to you. If you don't, your biggest fear is already coming true
http://www.okoyetech.com/2016/04/the-5-weird-questions-that-could-help.html

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Politics / Re: Bola Tinubu: My Life As A Cab Driver And Security Guard: PM News by psalm121vs1: 3:54pm On Apr 01, 2016
iamrealdeji:
I can only say you suffered if only you experienced all these in Nigeria. How many people have the opportunity to travel abroad or have a mum that has expensive trinkets and uncle that has a car in those days?
..thank you..cos i wonder oo..the man even get beetles...his own version of nothing is light years from where some men like samuel adedoyin..cosmos maduka..nero pharm..started...respect to the man though

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Health / Pregnancy Planning Facts by psalm121vs1: 12:50pm On Mar 31, 2016
Many women choose to start pregnancy planning prior to conception
 so that they may minimize possible toxic exposures to the fetus.
Women or couples with an increased risk or family history of genetic
(inherited) diseases may undergo genetic counseling as a step in
pregnancy planning.
For the best outcomes, chronic medical conditions should be treated
and under good control prior to attempting pregnancy.
Smoking cessation and avoiding alcohol or illicit drug use strongly
improve a woman's changes of having a healthy pregnancy and baby.
The amount of weight that a woman should gain during pregnancy
depends partially on her pre-pregnancy weight.
As soon as a woman stops using birth control, she is able to become
pregnant. Some long-term hormonal
contraceptives may require a period of
time for the hormonal effects to wear off.
Women who are planning to become pregnant should take folic acid
supplements to reduce the likelihood of neural tube defects in the fetus.
Some types of fish may be high in mercury or other toxins and are
not recommended for pregnant women.
Exercise is part of a healthy lifestyle and is recommended for most
pregnant women with uncomplicated pregnancies.
It is important to review all medications, whether prescription or
over-the-counter (OTC), with your health-care professional if you are
planning to become pregnant.
Sexual activity is safe for most pregnant women.
Certain infections, including Zika virus , rubella, toxoplasmosis, and
parvovirus B19 can pose risks for the fetus.
Women who do not have immunity to the rubella  virus should be
vaccinated before trying to conceive.
Women who have been infected with the HIV or hepatitis B viruses 
can receive medications during pregnancy or at delivery to reduce the
likelihood of transmitting these infections to their newborn . More healthy living tips here http://www.okoyetech.com/?m=1
Romance / Re: How You Can Heal From Heartbreak by psalm121vs1: 6:09pm On Mar 24, 2016
firstking01:
@psalm121, i will lift up my eyes unto the hills from whence cometh my help, my help comes from the lord who made the heavens and the earth...





Unto the matter on ground....there's no better pills to take that can heal heartbreak than time, O yes time, give it time...heartbreak does not heal instantaneouslly, it heals with time, especially when you love the person.
very correct
Education / Re: Courses That Might Turn Your Passion Into Compassion by psalm121vs1: 4:30pm On Mar 22, 2016
HighIQ:
An elite was once asked what could be the causes of the high level of unemployment in the country. He replied " the courses studied by most students in the higher institution" The point is there are some professions in Nigeria that does not exist at all. Meaning going to study such course is a high tremedous waste of time. How can a student say I have passion for animals, plants, soil. I love to play with flowers. I love farming etc. Shockingly, most students that studied such courses to fill the vacuum of their passions may end up with unrelated professions like teaching etc. The following courses does not exist in Nigeria.

1) Microbiology/ Biochemistry-- Those that studied medical laboratory science has sent these people packing from our hospital labs.

2) Zoology/botany- I heard of a zoologist who now works in Mr biggs

3) Anatomy/physiology- There is no available slot for a bsc holder of these courses in our hospitals except in the motuary. They have to further to be a lecturer. Infact, medical doctors are equally competing with them to be lecturers in those courses

4) Soil science/ Animal science/ All Agriculture courses---A five-year course that.may end u been disapppointed.

5) Physics/ Mathematics/ chemistry- (in an upper musical tone voice) ....be ready to be a teacher. ¶¶

6) Psychology/ philosophy/ Demography/ sociology-- I am just dumbfounded. hmmm Courses where you are been taught "how to kick your ass"
7) The list goes on and on.

Note- I am not saying those that studied the above course won't be succesful in life. But my point is they may eventually end up in a profession not relating or fully engaged to the course they had studied in university such as teaching, banking , Immigration Job, Police officer etc which are even thug of war to get.

so u mean industrial chemistry as a course is useless in nigeria
Education / Re: Exams At St Camillus School Of Midwifery, Uromi, Edo (Photo) by psalm121vs1: 9:18am On Mar 21, 2016
drlaykay:
Necessity is the mother of invention. I trust some bad guys.
...i wonder ooo...bluetooth earpiece no dey market again..dey go just their hair cover am...if na guy..use bandage..tell them say u get accident
Romance / How You Can Heal From Heartbreak by psalm121vs1: 11:03am On Mar 11, 2016
We are all familiar with betrayal. Partners, friends, and even family members can
make a commitment and then disappear.Some of us take this in good faith while to some of us it can create what we know as paranoid personality disorder making it impossible for us to trust again
Here are the strategies you can
employ when someone you care about pulls a
disappearing act.
1. Don’t take it personally.
While relating this story to another friend, she laughed and said,
"You, too?" That got me out of my head, reminding me this
happens to everyone. Rejection hurts, but it often has nothing to
do with our how worthy of love we are. People’s behavior is a
reflection of their own beliefs, values, feelings, and thought
patterns. When we personalize their behavior, we start to spiral
into self-blame and unworthiness. Viewing it as a choice made
independently of your behavior or nature allows you to address it
from an objective perspective.
2. Avoid the impulse to start thinking of them as "other."
It’s very natural to want to develop a sense of otherness from
people in your life. It's differentiating them from you. But when
we actively separate ourselves from people as a response to pain
they've caused, we sacrifice our empathy for them. We can no
longer relate to them.
On the other hand, identifying similarities between ourselves and
others, we reconnect to our shared humanity. The Buddhist
Loving-Kindness Meditation involves sending goodwill to
ourselves and all those who have hurt us. You can begin to practice
this, saying
“just like me, you want love,” I found a space where I
could identify with and feel compassion for both myself and my
friend.
3. Take responsibility.
Brené Brown said, "Love and belonging are irreducible needs of
all men, women, and children. We're hardwired for connection —
it's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives." This very need
is often ignored when we blame others and shrug off our own
culpability.
Deep down, we just want love, and we get so afraid of losing that
person that we ignore the reality of the situation. By owning what
we did or did not do, we share the responsibility of creating that
reality. This empowers us to make better choices in the future
rather than just being a victim of someone else's choices.
4. Focus on wholeness.
“What a jerk!” another friend remarked. “Don’t say that," I
squealed. “She’s really supported me, too." My friend muttered
something about me being crazy. But there’s logic to this. When
relationships go sour, our bad moments become the focal point. In
truth, there is good and bad in every relationship.
Acknowledge the hurtful events, but remember the laughter and
joy, too. Seeing the whole picture neutralizes the negative and
creates an equilibrium in our minds. It keeps us from stewing on
old wounds and letting resentment grow.
5. Set an internal standard.
We all have to love and honor ourselves. That starts with
recognizing our own values and acknowledging our priorities. If
we don’t set internal standards for what we want and don't want,
what we will or won't accept, we unconsciously give people
permission to treat us according to their own standards. Once we
set and enforce our own boundaries, people will treat us
accordingly.
Clinging to memories, doubts, or questions about the people who
have abandoned us won’t bring us peace. Certain questions might
never be answered. The most loving thing you can do — for both
the person who left and for yourself — is to move on. Moving on
affirms your worth and your choice to treat yourself as you
deserve to be treated.http://okoyetech..com.ng/2016/02/how-you-can-heal-from-heartbreak.html
Health / Frequent Urination Requires Your Attention by psalm121vs1: 8:39pm On Jan 31, 2016
Going to the toilet four or five times in the day or night requires your
attention, because it could be a sign of a medical trouble.
What could be the cause
Infections of the urinary system can lead to frequent urination, also
some people have the problem after an affair which may mean the
entrance of veneral disease.
Another possible cause can be too much sugar in the blood
(diabetes).Excessive intake of alcohol can also be the cause, so drink
responsibly. Stress, anxiety and tension can also lead to frequent
urination, my advice? Take things easy and find practical answers to
your daily needs. Take care http://okoyetech..com/2015/12/frequent-urination-requires-attention.html?m=1
Romance / Craving Emotional Intimacy In Your Life? Here's How To Get It by psalm121vs1: 8:31pm On Jan 31, 2016
Feeling emotionally connected with loved ones is a deeply
fulfilling experience, but one that is all too often missing in our
important relationships. Emotional intimacy thrives when both
people, or all concerned, feel safe with each other.
The question then becomes — what creates safety? Here are six
ways to increase the emotional intimacy in your most significant
relationships.
1. Take responsibility for your own feelings and needs.
When each person takes responsibility for their own feelings and
needs, then no one fears getting blamed for the other person’s
struggles. We feel safe when we know that we are not going to be
attacked if we say something or do something that another person
doesn't like.
2. Be open to learning about yourself, both alone and with
your partner.
We feel safe when we know we have an open arena in which to
discuss any problems that might come up. If we’re afraid to bring
up a problem because the other person might get angry,
defensive, resistant, or withdrawn, emotional intimacy can’t
survive.
3. Believe in your own and each other's essential
goodness.
We trust that our partner, family members, or close friends would
never intentionally hurt us, so we know that if we feel hurt by
them, it's not deliberate. This makes it easy to ask about it and try
to understand it within ourselves and with each other.
4. Be caring, kind, and compassionate with each other
rather than judgmental.
One of the quickest ways of undermining intimacy is to be
judgmental. When we fear another's judgment, we feel tense
rather than safe, open, or connected with that person.
Consciously and consistently choosing kindness and compassion
with each other — as well as with ourselves — creates the
environment of safety that allows intimacy to flourish. We need to
be able to rely on each other’s caring in order to feel the safety
necessary for emotional intimacy. http://okoyetech..com/2015/12/craving-emotional-intimacy-in-your-life.html?m=1
Health / Seizures In Children:what You Must Know by psalm121vs1: 6:42pm On Jan 31, 2016
One morning, the mother of kelvin, a well fed plumpy two year old boy
noticed that the boy has no appetite and has gone off feed. Later in the
day, she observed too that the he is sluggish and very quiet. This is
unusual of a boy who is generally energetic and agile.She touched his
forehead only to discover that he was not hot but the feet and hands
were cold. Consequent upon this findings, she quickly rubbed the hands
and feet with some balm and covered him with very warm woolen
sweater. Windows and doors were also closed to prevent the boy from
catching pneumonia. Within few minutes, she noticed that he was
staring blankly into space. All effort to close his eyes failed, in some few
seconds the boy started twitching in one corner of the mouth with eyes
blinking continuously. Consequently he started showing violent
movements of all four limbs and the trunk was bending and
straightening violently.
His mother confused, let go an involuntary shrill cry which alerted all
neighbours. People trooped out and converged in the small room to
rescue the boy.
Some sympathizers brought all sorts of quack remedies (are you gonna
blame them?) , and advice to stop the convulsion. As the mother was
struggling to keep the mouth open in order to prevent it from clenching,
the sympathizers tried to make useful contributions to control the
spasm and the movements. Some table salts were forced down his
throat and this was followed by concoctions. The child started
breathing rather rapidly. Coal pot was brought into the room the feet of
the convulsing boy was held over the fire to warm them. With all these
efforts, the convulsion dint stop and the kid died of febrile convulsion.
This would have been prevented if the mother and the sympathizers
had some information and had embarked on first aid management
capable of bringing down kalvin's temperature instead of misdirected
remedies and stupid superstitious ideas which aggravated the febrile
conditions of the child.
For the benefit of parents and guardians, this write up will direct
searchlight of the causes, first aid management, treatment, the health
implications of quack remedies in the treatment of of febrile convulsion
and the preventive measures. This will go a long way in preventing this
type of calamity or at least reduce it to an insignificant level.
Causes Of Febrile Convulsion
The convulsion is commonly due to a sharp rise in the body
temperature resulting from numerous fever inducing illness. Malaria,
minor or major infections of the body are among the fever inducing
illness.
In some families febrile convulsion manifests in late infancy after the
age of six months and occurs more constantly in the first two or three
years of life. As the age increases, the frequency of occurrence also
diminishes. It is only on rare occasion that febrile convulsion may be
encountered after the age of six.
A disturbance of the well balanced functions of the brain is the main
cause of febrile convulsion. When febrile convulsion is of short duration
that is lasting a few minutes, there is no recognisable brain damage.
Convulsion may also be the resultant effect of more serious insult to the
brain cells which may give rise to fever. Therefore, drawing a line
between febrile convulsion and other types of common causes of
convulsion and fever include the infection of the covering of the brain
(meningitis) or cell of the brain (encephalitis). Also worth mentioning is
the abscess in the brain which may give rise to convulsions. Brain
tumour and hypoglycemia (low glucose in the blood) are amobg the
conditions which may cause convulsions.
Basically, convulsion is characterised by regularly repeated fits with
eyes turning upwards.
Treatment
Though convulsion is one of the ugly conditions which generate panic
in both the mother and sympathizers, a front line aspect in the
treatment of a convulsing child is for all and sundry to be calm and
allow common sense to rule them.
Crying, shouting,running round to invite sympathizers will not help. The
first line of action is to gently open the mouth and a hard slim object
which may be metal or wood should be properly wrapped in clean cloth
and placed between the teeth of the upper and lower jaws. This will
prevent the child from biting his tongue also help in preventing tongue
from rolling backwards, thus causing difficulty in breathing.
It must be stressed for general understanding of mothers, that clenched
teeth has no grim consequence in a convulsing child. In a convulsing
child, clenched teeth is simply an oral expression of the convulsion.
Sharp and dirty objects should not be used in prying open the mouth of
a convulsing child as this may introduce pathogenic organisms into the
gastrointestinal tract of the child.
First Aid Management
1.The dress of a febrile child should be promptly removed (strip the
child naked), pour cool water over the child, do this until the fever goes
down.
2.Give the child plenty of cool water to drink.
3.Give the child a medicine to bring down the fever.
Remember that aspirin works well, although some clinicians consider
paracetamol or safer than aspirin for small children.
If the hospital is within close proximity, the above first aid treatment
may be unnecessary and its better to take the child to hospital.
The second line of action is to carry out physical examination which is
aimed at identifying the presence, the severity and cause of the fever.
Febrile Convulsion is very easy condition to manage and once the
cause is promptly identified, and treated, the patient will regain his
health and vitality within few hours or days.
In order to prevent serious complications, it is essential to distinguish
febrile convulsion from other convulsions caused by infections. When
these are not identified and treated appropriately, they may bring about
severe brain damage. Both physical examination and examination of
various specimen from the patient will help the attending physician to
make accurate diagnosis.
Health Implications Of Quack Remedies In The Treatment Of Febrile
Convulsion
1. Knowing fully well that febrile convulsion is the resultant effects of
the sharp rise in the body temperature of the patient, placing coal pots
beside the convulsing child will help in increasing the body temperature
and thus prolong the convulsion.
2.Forcing down materials down the throat of a convulsing child is a
health risk because a convulsing child has difficulty in swallowing,
some of these remedies may go into the lungs where it is likely to
cause infection and damage to the lungs.
3.The practice of rubbing quack preparation into the eyes of the
convulsing child is health destructive because it may lead to permanent
damage to the eyes.
Prevention
1. Mothers and guardians should be able to monitor and recognise
when the temperature starts to rise. When this becomes noticeable, the
temperature should be brought down by exposure of body to fresh air.
2. As soon as the body temperature starts to rise, drugs such as
paracetamol or soluble aspirin should be given in mild dose. The patient
should be taken to the hospital where doctors can diagnose and treat
the underlying causes in order to prevent convulsion.
If in spite of the above measures, a child still goes into repeated
convulsion with fever, the attending physician may consider it
appropriate to prescribe drug to be taken routinely to halt the
recurrence of febrile convulsions. http://okoyetech..nl/2016/01/seizures-in-children.html?m=1
Romance / 5 Times You Should Definitely End A Relationship (and 5 Times To Think Twice) by psalm121vs1: 6:17pm On Jan 31, 2016
1. When you see a fatal flaw.
If you see something you consider a fatal flaw, there’s no point in
staying around. That can mean drug addiction, mental illness
(with the caveat that there aren’t children already involved),
problems with alcohol, serial cheating, or compulsive lying.
2. When you feel like you have to “fix” them.
Never fix someone. This isn’t your job. They have to fix
themselves. There are a lot of people who shouldn't be dating
before they’ve spent a solid year on a therapist’s couch or
working on their anger issues. You get the picture.
3. When you or a child is being verbally or physically
abused.
Please run as fast as you can. Don’t even think about bringing
children into this mess. If you already have them, that’s all the
more reason to leave. Never put up with this behavior. It will
affect your self-esteem and put you and your children in danger.
4. When your partner is unreasonably jealous or
untrusting.
If someone has a jealousy problem, get out quick. Relationships
with very jealous partners have the potential to turn abusive
quickly. This could be caused by myriad things — lack of
confidence, addiction, you name it. Just don’t accept it.
5. When they aren’t interested in commitment (and you
are).
Men get the blame for not committing, but women are equally
guilty of this. You deserve someone who wants to be with you in
the long run. It’s can be painful, but it’s infinitely less painful to
get out early than to try to change someone’s mind about their
feelings for you.
When To Stay
1. When you have children with your mentally ill partner,
and there’s potential for them to get help.
If you have children with a mentally ill significant other, you owe
it to your family to try to deal with what you might otherwise
consider a fatal flaw. If they refuse to seek help, aren’t consistent
with medication, or otherwise endanger themselves or your
family, then you start considering your other options. That’s when
it might be time to leave.
2. When you have a big fight that doesn’t actually involve
a deal-breaking issue.
Too many people walk away when they start to feel like maybe
they grass is greener on the other side. This says more about the
person who wants to leave than the other person. Commitment
doesn’t always make you happy. Learn to communicate your
needs.
3. When someone has cheated, but you’re both committed
to healing the relationship.
If you agree that it was a onetime offense and trust that the other
person is still invested in the relationship, it is possible to heal that
rift. The cheater must break off the other relationship completely
and seek forgiveness from you sincerely. It can be hard to heal a
rift like this if you’ve aired your dirty laundry to all your friends,
so if you feel like there’s a chance you’ll want to make it work, try
to avoid that route.
4. When you think it really might just be a rough patch.
If you’re confident that, deep down, this person is a good person
who loves you and makes you feel loved, stick it out for a while.
Remind yourself that all relationships ebb and flow. Without fatal
flaws or abuse, when there is much love and respect, it’s definitely
worth it to hang in there. Be willing to put in the work.
5. When you’ve lost the spark in your connection.
If the partner you used to go crazy for feels more like a friend to
you now, look for ways to put the passion back into your
relationship. Shake up the monotony. I see too many people leave
because their relationship starts to feel like a friendship. This
doesn’t mean if you never felt an attraction to someone, you
should date them because it’ll grow with time. It might, but it
might not. I’m saying that if your relationship had passion to start
with, it’s still there. You just need to find ways to get more of it in
your life. http://okoyetech..com/2016/01/5-times-you-should-definitely-end.html?m=1
Health / Fertility Boosters by psalm121vs1: 6:01pm On Jan 31, 2016
In some part of the world, the principal aim of marriage is to have children while some just wanna be single parent. Fertility is important in all communities. According to a yoruba saying."children are the cloth of the body, without children one is naked"(that is their opinion anyway) Without gain saying,the more important children are to the fabric of the given society, the more essential it is for couples to be fertile .While families of four to eight living children are common in africa,throughout the recorded history of man,there have been couples who want to but are unable to produce children. Some couples only succeed with difficulty and unable to have as many children as they would have liked. Traditionally, infertility has been a source of pain ,anxiety and shame to some people. Since most couples who are infertile do not know the cause of their infertility it will be adequate to give some fertility counselling for the benefit of all. It must be stated for general understanding that ways of living, occupation,diet and even clothing are sometimes relevant to fertility .Couples should learn which of their habit reduces or increases their fertility. Some examples are 1. Fertility Awareness- couples should be aware of the female fertility cycle and that sex with intent to produce a pregnancy at the time of ovulation. In order to know the time of ovulation women must chart her basal body temperature or check her cervical mucus. 2. Sexual intercourse - couples should have intercourse at all time around ovulation when fertilization is possible. Sexual intercourse outside ovulation might be the cause of infertility. Ideally a couple should be encouraged to have relations frequently during the mid-cycle period, that is about a week after the onset of menses to a week before the next anticipated menses. During this period daily sexual intercourse or every other day should be encouraged .However in men with low sperm count (oligospermic)2 to 3 days is required to build up sperm building mid-cycle sexual relations It will be unnecessary to embark on rigid schedules for the performance of intercourse. Psychologically this will be too stressful and maybe counter productive for efficient sexual functioning. However maximum fertility has to be shown to occur when there have been six coital exposures in a week. 3. LUBRICANTS- Before sexual intercourse some couples are in the habit of using lubricant for their lubricating organs, the use of lubricant is not recommended for couples actively trying to conceive because some of these lubricant are also spermicides, couples using them may be practising contraception unknowingly. When maximal fertility is sought couples can use saliva as lubricant 4. DOUCHIHG-though douching is an unreliable methods of birth controlling hyper-fertile and moderately fertile couples in extreme cases of marginal fertility douching may kill the very sperm that would have fertilized the ovum. A couple that is actively trying to conceive should be discouraged from douching. 5. MEDICATIONS- IT has been recently observed that a number of medication affect male fertility. For instance , some may cause impotence,retrograde ejaculation or may impair spermatogenic temporarily. Some of the drug's that can cause impotence are narcotics, tranquilizers such as phenothaizidies, moncmie oxidase inhibitors . Guanethidine and mehtyldopa are well known culprits of impotence in some men. Sperm production is adversely affected by anti-malaria drugs,ambecides, nitrogurantion and methotrexate. It must be stressed that conceptive potentia of female may or may not be diminish by utero exposure to DES(dicthylstibestrol). Expert claims that male exposure to DES causes higher rate of testicular cancer, sperm abnormality and undescended testicles. These have profound adverse effect on fertility. 6. Exposure to irradiation -when a male is exposed to irradiation it may affect reproduction at several levels. For instance, the testicular germinal epithelium which encloses the seminiferous tubules may be partially or permanently incapacitated for sperm production, equally chromosomal aberatious may occur. Males should therefore limit their exposure to irradiation to enhance maximum fertility. 7.Athletic Activities - In women,strenous activities such as long distance running may lead to amenorrhoea (absence of menstruation).Sperm production may be stopped or greatly reduced through the taking of frequent hot showers which subject the scrotum to too high temperature which inhibit sperm production. couples who are actively trying to conceive should be conscious of this. 8.Tight Clothing - Sperm production may also be suppressed when a male puts on certain tight clothing such as tight undergarments and pants which permit high temperature in the scrotal region. Male with fertility problems should be encouraged to wear loose undergarments which permit free circulation of blood and fresh air in the scrotal region. 9 . Occupation- Certain occupations may cause low sperm counts. Among such is long distance truck driving. Still on this line, certain chemical substances in cotton seed and PCB's(poly chlorinated biphenyl) may contribute to low sperm count.couples who are infertile should not take up a job whose hazards impair fertility. 10.Nutrition- Experts claims that gross interference with conception does not occur until near starvation is experienced. It is universally agreed that poor nutritional status may cause a general debilitating effect which may hinder a couple's chance to concieve. Overeating may cause obesity which may lead to less frequent ovulation or less frequent intercourse and thereby be a contributing factor to less fertility. Married couples should eat balanced diet but overeating should be avoided. 11.Alcohol- Drinking of alcohol has been identified as a major cause of poor sperm quality in some men. Couples who have problem with conception should not engage in excessive drinking of alcohol. 12 Smoking- smoking appears to lower fertility. A large study showed that while only 5% of the non smoking women failed to conceive 5 years after stopping contraception, 11% of the heavy smokers were still not pregnant. Female smokers have a risk twice as high as non smokers of extra-uterine pregnancy, have a higher risk of dysmenorrhoea and of uterine cervix cancer and earlier menopause by about two years. According to recent investigation smoking and alcohol consumption have a negative effect on the developing fetus. 13. Pollution- At present, experts are still investigating the hazards of exposure to toxin fumes , pesticides, because it has been suspected that they cause or contribute to infertility. 14. Multiple Sexual Partners - Women who have multiple sexual partners may contract a sexually transmitted disease likewise men. Apart from this, some women may develop an immune response to sperm over time. 15. Infections- Some infections which are liable to cause infertility in male include numps, torsion of the testes not promptly diagnosed and managed as infection, tuberculosis of the genital tract. These diseases and surgical repair in the groin should be carried out by a skillful physician. http://okoyetech..nl/2015/12/fertility-boosters.html?m=1

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Romance / Re: 13 Facts you must know Before You Say I Do To That Man. by psalm121vs1: 12:16pm On Jan 17, 2016
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Family / Re: His Parents Are Against Him For Wanting To Get His Own House by psalm121vs1: 8:25pm On Jan 14, 2016
franklingud:
Some parents can frustrate their children atimes. 28 year old man is not old enough to rent an apartment of his own?? shocked I wonder.
I can never live with my parents at my age, BTW I don pass dat age na shocked so why I go come live with ma mama again.

Free dat guy joor!
At US u can no longer live with ur parents @ 18.
taaaa...US KWA..stop sharing ur own opinion on public forums...so a harvard undergraduate is living on his own..why then did steve jobs drop out if it was easy for him and started his business at his parents garage..name any us billionaire who started on his own without support from anyone..except u mean moving out and still collecting loans from ur relatives which in my world is the same as living with them..cos moving out should be entirely..u no longer require their financial support..not living out in a house which they re indirectly paying for..
Webmasters / Re: Why You Are Not Making A Kobo From Your Blog by psalm121vs1: 8:06pm On Jan 14, 2016
nenergy:

Not entirely true. Linda Ikeji has the most ugliest website/blog in Nigeria...yet! grin

Abeg, evaluate my part-time blog: www.thejobseekerscreed.com
dont mind the op..na to come here the spew trash...that ikeji made her millions on ..even twitter still have their blog on ...do things because others re doing and not because u have the passion for it..ur name na sorry..u can have the most beautifully designed blog with all the money spent..u will still make nada..my favorite nigerian blog is this kid..writinggenies.com or something..cant remember the exact name..but that guy is talentented
Family / Re: His Parents Are Against Him For Wanting To Get His Own House by psalm121vs1: 6:56pm On Jan 14, 2016
Most of u shouting like its a crime re all fake..in a country like a nigeria u see so many 30s still living with their parents not because they want to but circumstances..thats not an excuse anyway but in the guys case he already has a job so he is very stupid to allow his parents decide..i married at 25 my wife stayed with my parents till i see small money built a house for them..and my friend an architect stayed with his parents till he was 32 and built his own house..and another one moved out at 24 and still moving around the country without base...my advice get a base have something working before moving out or u can move out prematurely and return to ur village before 50 and live in ur grandfathers house forever

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Health / Re: Pregnancy Are You Pregnant Or Going Through A High Risk Pregnancy,,lets Talk by psalm121vs1: 7:08pm On Dec 23, 2015

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Education / Re: 7 Most Difficult Courses To Study In Nigerian Universities by psalm121vs1: 6:15pm On Sep 21, 2015
MadCow1:
Law? Difficult?


grin grin grin





Utter rubbish.. I can graduate in Law without even attending class for 4 years. angry


Law School is what's tough.



Mechanical Engineering is the toughest engineering course in Engineering.

Electrical Engineering is the easiest.

Geological Engineering is not just tough but also annoying.

Architecture is a tricky course, not necessarily tough.


Medicine is a tidous course, also not necessarily tough.

what about industrial chemistry
Business / Re: How I Registered My Private Limited Liability Company With Cac Online With 40k by psalm121vs1: 1:44pm On May 09, 2015
Very good bro..don't mind the haters..without ur information..they will still be blind..u re very right to put the professional fee..
Romance / Re: Reasons Why Living With Him Won't Get You An Engagement Ring by psalm121vs1: 8:29am On Apr 13, 2015
What exactly re u trying to say @OP...I m against the part where after cohabiting..the guy will leave the girl for someone else...but to say that most couples who cohabited and eventually marries don't end up well is a BIG LIE..in fact most newly weds who dint cohabit..after they re done bleeping for 2 or 3 years..reality sets in..u even start noticing ur wife snores..
Politics / Re: Bomb Scare In Awka, Anambra State According To STV by psalm121vs1: 11:53am On Mar 28, 2015
Na lie...no be Awka I dey

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