Ranoscky:

Op, see your kpomo mouth lyk two serious relationship, you know wetin be serious relationship?

Toto don dey scratch you again, abi?. . . .sha dey use condom O!

I should ask you, do you know what a serious relationship is?

roymary:

@Poster.

You said you are physically disfigured. Dunno how bad that is but seriously; he could solve most of the problems by putting a pillow on your face.



You are 21 but most of your old aunties on NL acting Saint Teresa, were once as promiscuously minded as you are but they had an excuse; there was no internet nor GSM to expose them to vital informations so they end up having se/x with numerous men; your own case is different, i'm sure you have a BB and a desktop;
You shouldn't be as naive your Nairaland aunties.

Another woman in the making.

I suppose u know that statement in the bold was a sarcastic answer to one of these posters.

Greg Dre:

Hi OP, am 22 and a guy. Am in my final year now schooling away from Niaja and have been single for six months now, NOT because i can't get a girl but because i hve made up my mine not to till i graduate this year. I feel bad sometimes when i see my friends going out with their girls and also when the make fun of me for being single, but i take it all in good faith and don't let it bother me because i kw what i want at this point in time in my life. So what am saying now is for you to be certain of what you need in your life. If it is havn a man then do it but if not then never let other peoples action define who you are, so you don't make any mistake. Hope it helps ch33rs!

Outstrip:

Why are you in such a hurry. Are you ready to get married? If not then focus on other things. There are a million other things you could be doing right now than looking for a boyfriend.

ITbomb:

Young Lady, I think you are taking relationship a bit too serious and too emotional. Girls like you go from one extreme of being deep in relationship to totally staying away from guys, which is lockup. I advise you dont see the next guy as the only person who will give you the world. Develop a likable friendly personality, make friends with a lot of guys, any that want to overstep tell him in simple terms that you are in a committed relationship with another (even if it's a lie) but would still like to keep him as a friend. if he is responsible, he will stay around as just a friend and believe me you will learn a lot about life and guys when you have open relationships. if he dosent stay, he just fail the screening and he's not worth your time . make friends with guys and instead of pressurizing you, they will eventually develop respect for you then you Handpick the one that fit your profile from all of them. Dont wait for a guy to chik you, attract the good ones to yourself.

location:

i urge you to do what you believe is right and not just what your friends are doing, i wish you all the best as you take critical step to both think and shape your future in the right way, wish you all the best friend

justrodney:

RELAX-pls know urself- dont go into comparing urself wif people -be ready for business and neva rush to fall cheap-avoid regrets-and be real cheers!

Uncanny Genius:

Well, if i were u i won't hurry to get a boyfriend just b'cos your friends have. Who knows the boyfriend u get in a hurry might be the person u regret ever meeting in the first place. So be your self and stop doing things b'cos u see your friends doing it.

Thanks guys, would heed to your advices, guess i was so overwhelmed when i made this post, about 5 of my girls, their relationship, boyfriend etc, just made me fed up

Mobinga:

Why don't you have a boyfriend? Are you hideous?

Yep not only hideous but highly disfigured!

Jenifa_:


I also find some of my friends getting hooked but I also find more who are breaking up or who are single. It's all a matter of what you choose to focus on and the types of friends you have.
my advice is for you to go and work on your self esteem issues.  learn to love yourself. you seem like one of those girls who need a guy in her life in order to validate her self worth.
but if it makes you happier or less depressed, then get a boyfriend. what's stopping you? 

best answer so far!! succinct and to the point.

Nothing is stopping from having one, there are a lot of guys out there. My post here was signifying being pressured to just have one regardless of anything instead of taking my time and chill. The pressure.

Pharoh:

You simply do not have responsibility so you can be thinking of peer pressure to have a boyfriend and not something useful to your life.

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Atreides:

OP i understand exactly how you feel. I mean it's very easy to say don't give in to peer pressure but when you actually face it it's a different thing entirely. I'm younger than you are,but i've been there/still am there sometimes. It's like wherever you look,everyone's paired up and you feel this powerful urge to be part of that unit called a couple. I totally know how that feels like,but another thing i also know is that peer pressure is surmountable. I think the fact that you've been in two serious r/ships already is kinda disturbing(but that's just me). You have to figure out whether you're ready for a r/ship now or not. It shouldn't be because you want to fit in or because you wanna say 'oh there's my boyfriend'. You need to figure out what you want,and you need to be convinced about it. Convinction/truly believeing in what you're doing is very important,IMO. If you're convinced that staying single is the best thing for you right now,then dealing with peer pressure will be much easier. If you're convinced that you're ready to be with someone,then go for it. The point is,you have to know what you want/need,and you have to do what's best for you.

thanks for understanding and the advice.

rafiky:

Pressure here pressure there,we all experience pressure at some point in life,which is normal.What matter is the way we handle the pressure when it comes.I will like you to look inward and give it a serious thought on what you really want,if what you want is what will give happiness and peace of mind,then go for it.
All that Glitters is not Gold.      

thanks.

tlops:

OP what u are experiencing is peer pressure. I think you should be more concerned at having good grades in school now than looking for a boy friend. Dear set your priorities right if you know what I mean.

Goodluck jonathan to you

done with school

iice:

Peer pressure is a hard thing to withstand.
Even when you try to get people to be logical. . .it's like they don't actually want to not succumb to peer pressure.

exactly, really hard most times.

Mrs, Chima:

I am sure you can get sex anywhere.  The men will hunch on anything nowadays.  But, I only asked because I know younger girls are vulnerable and having a boyfriend fill that "lonely void". 

What do u mean by younger girls filling the lonely void? 21 is young to have a boyfriend? Wouldn't i marry someday?

Jenifa_:



2 serious relationships by 21? jeez. I think you shouldn't jump into relationships for the sake of it. wait for the right guy otherwise you're soon going to be out of the r/s and looking for another one in a minute. unless you are ok with that.

I'm sure you have friends that are single. you probably are just focusing on the ones in r/s and feeling self conscious. Find your single friends (or make some new ones) and start hanging out with them more and doing things together. single life is fun too esp. if you have friends who are also single.

what's the rush to be in a r/s anyway, when eventually, you are going to be in one for the rest of your life. and by then, you will have times when you'll wish you were still young and single again. 
better enjoy your freedom while you still have it.

i quite agree with you but eventually you would still feel it as time goes by and more of your friends are getting hooked.

Mygoldie:

^^^Lol.



@poster, you've had two serious relationship at the age of 21? (not been judgemental)

And now your looking to go for a third one? oh well!
what i'd say is live young and live good. (just two words).

Yes I have had 2 serious relationships

Mrs, Chima:

Do you want a boyfriend so you can have intimacy? Just be honest with me.

Nah! I could have intimacy anywhere without a bf.

jakesund:

Peer influence is a very bad tin, dont get misguided by d deeds of those around u cuz at d end of d day they would be the one's telling d story of your failure.

Orton1_0:

I'm single Come and woo me.
What sorta life is that?
If thats how everybody on earth succumbs to silly peer pressures,
I wonder how the world will be by now.
Don't let anybody push or pressurize you into doing something you'll regret later.
All fingers are not equal. Get vat.

It's always easy to say don't succumb to peer pressures but most times it is really difficult when you look around you from every angle.

omega25red:

why are you living your life accoring to what your friends are doing? you should take it easy and focus on school since you already had 2 serious relationships at 21. guys are easy for you so you need not worry.

at the bold, guess you meant according.

i am living my life for me, i guess just me wanting to be in the same league with the others around me. i'm done with school and of course i would like to also tell them , hey, look who is in a relationship again, not just them telling me.

Hey you all, greetings.
I am 21 years of age but already feeling the pressure to have another boyfriend again. I have been in two serious relationships but not anymore. Each time i look around me, my friends, same age or slightly older/younger, they are all hooked up with their boyfriends and i can't take it no more. Guys are not hard for me but just not so ready or maybe i haven't seen but i am feeling the pressure. need your advice.