dingbang:
In the course of this thread, I will be teaching all First bank esteemed Customers and those who will also love to get onboard with us about how to set up their mobile banking platforms either using the mobile app First Mobile from Google Playstore, ( that's those of us using an Android device) or iOS from the Apple store and BlackBerry App market . for those of us using windows mobile phones, First bank is currently working on launching the app for windows OS users. Please all our first bank customers should carefully read through this thread in between lines. Thanks




Why you should use First Mobile App?

Because it is easy to set up, cost effective and properly secured. I am a digital geek at First bank and i want to make banking much simpler for our esteemed customers, So I don't want you to stress yourself coming to the bank to transfer money or check account balance or pay utility bills. I am concerned about your comfort, because we put you First, that is why you need to use the First Bank mobile App. The User Interface is easy to understand and navigate, even the elderly ones can easily understand it as well. Installing First Money application is easy, requires data connection or WiFi access to download and your ATM Card for registering. Its free, no charges for setting up and also no charges for usage. Only transfer transaction charges from CBN apply. Transfer Charge is now 52naira against the old 100naira charge.
I wouldn't want to bore you with long talk.. But I will try my best to go straight to details so everyone can appreciate the simplicity in using the first bank mobile banking platforms. Please support me to meet my targets as well when you have downloaded the app by inputing my referal code TN020056 when you have downloaded the app. Meanwhile, I will teach you how to do that as you scroll down the thread. Thank You.


Now that you have been convinced on the need for downloading, let's get to the next step.


Steps in downloading the First Bank Mobile app on your android/iOS/BlackBerry Devices




1. Make sure your phone has a data connection. If you don't have a data connection, you can connect your phone through WiFi.. Please switch on your WiFi so you can be able to connect to a WiFi network. Please do not use Xender or any file sharing app to send the app from another phone to your phone, the reason for this is because you will not be able to receive any updates when it comes and the security of the app being sent won't be standard. Please only download the app from the Android Google play store/iOS Appstore/Blackberry App Market



2. Click on the Play store/iOS Appstore/Blackberry App Market Application on your device , open it and search for FirstMobile , you will see our First bank mobile app, the logo is an Elephant logo which is blue in color. Please click on it and click INSTALL Now, your First Mobile App is downloading. Please be patient until it finishes downloading.


3. Your First bank Mobile app is successfully installed in your phone, please click Open and the first Mobile App launches. For new Users, please click on New User Register You will be asked to provide your ATM CARD NUMBER WHICH IS BOLDLY IMPRINTED AT THE FRONT OF YOUR ATM CARD and also your ATM PIN. PLEASE PROVIDE THE DETAILS ACCORDINGLY AND CORRECTLY. click next.

Also for existing First bank Mobile app users who switched over to a new phone and have downloaded the app, please click on Activate this Device and then enter your ATM card number written on the front of your ATM card and also your ATM pin. Click next .. You are good to go.


4. Immediately after step 3, you will be automatically sent an OTP to the mobile number with Which you registered your account with to be receiving alerts. Please check your phone messages and copy the OTP. Please input it in the box provided in the mobile app and click next. Do not delete any OTP being sent to your phone number. OTP means One Time Password. It is used to authenticate transactions.

5. You will be required to input an m-pin ( First bank mobile app login pin) please it is important to note that it is a 5 digit pass code just for logging in purposes. Do well to put a 5 digit code that is easy to remember. And then also input two security questions and answers. Please click next

6. Please input a 4 digit transaction pin.. This pin is different from the m-pin in the sense that its only used when carrying out transactions with your First bank Mobile app. You can use your ATM pin for that purpose as well.
After that, you will see another box provided for you to input the referal code. The referral code is TN020056 . PLEASE NOTE THAT THIS REFERAL CODE MUST BE TYPED IN CAPITAL LETTERS.

"TN" are the only alphabets in the referral code and thus they must be typed in capital.


That Is the end of setting up the mobile app yourself. Very easy. Your mobile app is ready. Please login to your app and perform a transaction. It is required that you recharge your line from your first bank mobile App for you to activate your daily transfer limit to 500,000NGN . Its very important. Also note that For every transaction you make, you will be sent an OTP to your message inbox. Please always copy it and type it in the OTP box.



Now that you have successfully registered for the mobile banking, it is required to perform two transactions not more than 20, 000NGN with our First bank mobile app in order for your daily transfer limit to increase to 500,000NGN PER DAY without token and 1,000,000NGN with token. Note that this is also a security measure.

Please don't forget to also input my referal code which is TN020056 when registering your account on the first Mobile app. It will assist me in meeting my targets, And if you used it, please inform me so I will thank you specially in my own way.. Thanks a lot.

I used it

kingsleyugo41:
I am a member of Anglican church, traveled to a place where i decided to worship with an Anglican church, when the holy communion was going on i decided to go and receive holy communion on getting there, I was asked to go back because i didn't put on white shirt or a card to show.

pls, my follow Aglicans is it right?

No it is not right. I take communion in any Anglican Church in the world.

Manson1:
This is AAU, where our young once paid such amount of school fees, yet no building for lecture class, the management in AAU is a big disgrace , how can u collect one hundred and fifty thousand naira such amount without providing enabling Environment for our young once to learn, it pain me so much when I see them trying to get good Education, the government and the management is not encouraging them.

This is not an AAU thing. It is a Nigerian thing.

VickyRotex:

The Message!

Got it. Thanks and God bless.

VickyRotex:
I just want to say:









Chelsea for life! KTBFFH!!!


I know so many people will come to this thread.

So let me encourage someone with this, This translation blessed me, hope it blesses you too.

Matthew 5: 13-16

13 “Let me tell you why you are here. You’re here to be salt-seasoning that brings out the God-flavors of this earth. If you lose your saltiness, how will people taste godliness? You’ve lost your usefulness and will end up in the garbage.

14-16 “Here’s another way to put it: You’re here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept. We’re going public with this, as public as a city on a hill. If I make you light-bearers, you don’t think I’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you? I’m putting you on a light stand. Now that I’ve put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand—shine! Keep open house; be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven.

What version please?

Nigeria isn't worth dying for. My good friend, may God grant you eternal rest.

mcocolok:


My brother, this one pass me. If you take a look at that at the cathedral church in that pics, you will notice the poor roofing. Trust me, the roofing has gulped close to 25million and nothing to write home about. The bishop right hand man was in charge of that project and the embezzled all the money for roofing and purchased substandard sheets. The youth complained about the issue and the bishop told the youths to go back home and get proper home training from their useless parents or they will all die. I was in that youth program when the bishop hijacked the microphone and sent everybody home. I just dey watch how this shit go end

This has become the trend among young bishops, especially in Bendel province.

mcocolok:


Non of them will want to speak out for fear of assassination . The archbishop of bendel province and the primate are all trying to sweep this under the carpet.

My brother,
The whole thing is so tiring.
I don't understand what the young bishops are turning themselves into.
May God save His own.

Hi sister,
If you believe in God, just take everything to God in prayers and trust Him for direction.
Meanwhile, give him some space and be courageous.
Don't allow depression because you don't need that now.
Eat lots of fruits and try to stay happy.
God bless.

humbledbyfaith:
hi family landers,

I am so depressed as of right now..

I have a bro who recently got married to his fiancée..

we were happy as a family until my bro's wife started interfering in between my bro and I..
it all started when I had an urgent need in school, I approached my bro with the most humble scenery one can ever imagine, his wife just cut me short, and said they was no money, I was shocked as my bro sided with her and said they was no money.
I took it in good faith and went away.
later that day ,when they were back from work,I overhead my bro talking to someone in his bedroom..
I went closer and behold my bro was talking to his wife sis asking her if she had seen the alert of the money he sent to her..immediately I heard that,I just sat on the floor and sobbed loudly..

I wonder why my bro will be treating me and my junior bro like this ,we are orphans (lost dad and mum the same day in a car accident)my bro is in jss3 in a public school(my bro's wife changed him with the pretext that they couldn't afford the private school fee).me,I'm in my final year in the university, just remaining my project and my final year school fees..
I am really depressed as my mates have already gone to nysc..

I can't go to anywhere because of clearance and my bro has turned a deaf ear to my appeal to set me up with something I can do to at least clear my self in school..
I am not a lazy person, God forbid that I be lazy but I don't have the necessary incentive to startup something..

I am just fed up with the whole scenario, I have thought of suicide, but ithat will be foolishness as my junior bro will be left in this world to suffer alone..

If my parents are seeing all that is happening, they should please intervene on our behalf because I'm almost giving up... ;'(

sorry for bothering you all with my trouble

where do you school? will end of the month be late?
how can I reach u?

Ada9103:
Ooooooohhhhhh my God......"in Emma's voice" These guys are so so so so handsome......kia....hmmmmm dem don marry?

And you are pretty too.

BOY: do you have a boyfriend?
GIRL: No. I don’t want a boyfriend.
BOY: Genesis 2:18 “The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable
for him’.”
GIRL: But I don’t love you.
BOY: 1 John 4:8 "Whoever does not love, does not know God, because God is love.”
GIRL: So how do I discern that your words are true?
BOY: Matthew 12:34b “For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of."
GIRL: But how can I be sure that you are faithful and honest?
BOY: Mark 13:31 “Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will never pass away."
GIRL: But why me? There are so many girls out there.
BOY: Proverbs 31:29 “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all!”
GIRL: But what do you see in me, that makes you love me?
BOY: Song of Songs 4:7 " You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you."
GIRL: But really, I’m not that beautiful … you’re exaggerating.
BOY: Proverbs 31:30 “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be
praised.”
GIRL: What will happen if I say yes?
BOY: Genesis 2:24 “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they
become one flesh."
GIRL: How is it that you know so many Scriptures?
BOY: Joshua 1:8 “Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you
may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful. "
GIRL: Wooow, I can see you really love God.
BOY: Psalm 34:8 “Taste and see that the Lord is good; blessed is the one who takes refuge in Him!”
GIRL: Hmmm. Ok please just give me some time to think about this.
BOY: Philippians 4:8 "Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right,
whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think
about such things."
GIRL: owwww I love you already
BOY: Revelations 22:21b "Amen."
Have a wonderful weekend.

hurting:
Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible.

I have been a relationship for 7yrs with the lady that I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy. She has also been wonderful and almost perfect (nobody is). We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school.

After my service, I started looking for job but as things get murky in d labour market, I started a little ICT troubleshooting hustle, just to keep body n soul together before d job comes. Now this lady has been supportive all d way, after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have. She got a job while I was still doing what I do, I could provide for d daily running around like food, clothing, small bills, etc. I could pay my rent sometimes but atimes my siblings support me. When biz haven't been good.

Now this my lady resigned from where she was working because her female boss wasn't treating them well, tru one of my friends I secured a better paying n welfare job in a construction firm for her. We have been doing fine all this while but when I proposed to her she said we should wait till I get a better paying job. I make an average of 35-40k at d end of month but because I spend on what we need in d house I usually don't have it in bulk at d end of d month. She earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there. She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job. I knw I live far better than some married men in terms of finances.

This year I made up my mind to ask her for hand in marriage on vals day, but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status. I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before, telling her that am very sure d job will come before d babies start coming. She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind.

She still loves me, but the job issue I her phobia, dont get me wrong she is very decent n has been faithful all our yrs together. Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant.

Pls nairalanders advice me before I do something drastic, I need all the advice I can get, am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back. She is not after riches just d basics. And for those that will lash me, I need it too, it might cheer me a bit.
Pls help a brother.

pls help me push this to FP I need all d advice I could get before its too late for me.

P.S. Sorry for any grammatical blunder n punctuation errors.

my brother, nobody is worth dying for. You have FULL life ahead of you.
kill your fears and face tomorrow.
she's gone and nothing would bring her back. I was once there but I've moved on by God's grace.
I'm happier than before because I'm not living for anyone rather for God.
May the peace of God be with you.

sweetchizzy:
please what does all these mean. someone should please explain to me

Imagine yourself flying. ...
That's the best explanation I can give if you aren't scientific.
Welcome to the world of science.

Rilwayne001:
Sculpture of the clueless drunkard in his fedora hat… Even his sculpture looks like a slowpoke!

I can see some idiotard crying after me. The goat below me is another victim of jonathan's cluelessness, an odouriferous transmogrified creature of perennial failure! The apogee of failure de apologia!

K

funny enough, their followers on this forum have same killer mentality as seen in their write ups.

I pray for Nigeria, that God's will should prevail.

chronique:
I don't like insulting people but I think most of the posters on this thread,are just plain stupid. Do you guys think buying weapons is as simple as ABC? Or do you guys think it's like buying chocolates @ shoprite and strolling back home with a full bag?

The boko haram war and menace,has evolved from stage to stage and with each new stage,comes a new discovery.

At stage 1,the NA never thought they were faced with a formidable opponent but unknowingly to them,they had something else coming. Boko haram grew to become formidable due to the activities of moles within the army. This sabotage,gave boko haram ample opportunity to stockpile arms looted from the NA armory,and from the black market.

At stage 2,boko haram used these arms to fight the NA and gained a lot of towns due to activities of sabotage in the army. The guerilla warfare tactic deployed by bh made it very difficult for the military to record significant progress. Nigeria hadn't been involved in something like this before,and the weapons possessed by the military were better suited for conventional warfare. If they had deployed such then,innocent individuals would have been killed and this would have led to something else again.

At stage 3,the military realised they needed a different kind of approach to the insurgency and this approach meant getting new weapons and equipments that would suit the operations.
At this stage,the FG approached our so called friends in the west for assistance with specific kind of weapons but they turned us down and even blocked most deals that would have sailed through. This forced us to go the black market way and again,the deal was blocked and a huge scandal was made about it.

At stage 4,the FG had to openly request a loan for arms purchase and this loan would not be received in cash. A foreign govt would supply us arms directly to the tune of 1bn dollars,thereby eliminating the biz of middle-men in the deals. At the end,we ended up patronising the Russians and the Chinese for stuffs that our friends couldn't give us because they kept citing poor human rights records as a reason for not selling to us.

At stage 5,all the mistakes learnt from the onset have been sorted out,neighbouring countries whose bordering towns used to be safe haven for bh have decided not to allow their territories to be used as a base for fleeing terrorists,and have joined in the battle against the insurgents. Weapon transactions that have been in the pipeline,are gradually coming into fruition and the tide has been turned against the insurgents. Sooner than we think,we'd win this war.


Yes,we can't stay without blaming the NA or the president one way or the other but the truth is,there is no specialized manual world over,that teaches you how to successfully quench insurgency at once. The almighty US has been involved in at least 3 wars in the last 15 years and those countries where the wars occured,have been worse than the way the US met it. Libya,Iraq and Afghanistan are classic modern day examples. Even the US with all her might and weapons and technology,haven't been able to quench insurgency anywhere on the planet. If they had,we wouldn't still be talking about groups like Al-qaeda,ISIS,Al-shabab,Boko haram,etc. They are still learning on the job but they have more experience than us. The US with all her might,lost the Vietnam war that lasted for 30yrs cummullatively. The war was fought between the south Vietnam who were backed by the US and French forces,and the North Vietnam backed by China and the Soviet Union. At the end,the French and the US were defeated. Boko haram is not defeating us and despite our meagre defence budget,we're winning the war against them. Those who argue about Buhari defeating the Maitasine rebels shouldn't forget that those rebels never had the weapons or knowledge/support that the boko haram insurgents have. They also never had access to the kind of funds boko haram have. Finally,they never had a veritable means of spreading their propaganda and creating a larger than life image of themselves.

When we put all these together,we'd know why some of us still give kudos to the current C-in-C and the military high command. Under them,Nigeria faced a new challenge and still overcame it. No leader in this history of Nigeria,has faced this kind of issue. Having a growing economy tipped to be one of the top 10 in a few years time,and still having to battle insurgency at the same time. If only we never had the boko haram menace,only God knows the kind of giant strides we would have made as a nation.


At the end of the day,Nigeria shall overcome and we'd fulfil our potential as a nation.

The first matured comment thus far.
More wisdom.

busuyem: I think the best way to end Boko Haram in Nigeria is send an Ebola victim to their camp since the virus easily spreads faster than bomb itslf. This may save our military men from untimely death of BH insurgency in this country. Can we call this the advantage of Ebola in Nigeria by the way?

haba! No oo. Their mission would just be as easy as ABC because they wouldn't require sophisticated weapons anymore. Urine would just accomplish their task.

So happy for you all. It means there's a cure for this dreaded virus. Nigerian likitas (doctors) need to visit kanema(or whatever) as soon as possible. May God's grace be sufficient for all those who in one way or the other, has contacted the virus and may the sun of righteousness arise with healing in its wings upon them.

1.) Seeking righteousness satisfies and fills us, not sexual sin. “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst after righteousness, for they shall be filled.” (Mat. 5:6)

2.) Adultery of the heart is lusting after a woman. We kill this sin by starving, destroying, the members that cause us to sin. Our eyes cause the lust, our hand carries out the sinful deed. Don’t look upon women that will stir up lust. When you do, resist acting upon that sin with your hand. The alternative is being thrown into hell, and it is better for a few members to go unsatisfied and suffer from unfulfilled sinful longings, than for the whole body to suffer the torments of hell. (Mat. 5:27-30)

3.) Sexual sin is a unique sin, it is the sin against your own body. The body is the Lord’s, it was not made, and is not meant, for sexual immorality. Though the body craves sexual sin, the Lord will raise it up by His power and one day free us from those lusts. Even now, though, the body is a member of Christ, and should not be used for sexual immorality (1 Cor. 6:13-17).

4.) Resisting sinful impulses of the flesh is one way in which we bring God glory. For our body is the Lord’s, both because He made us, and He redeemed and purchased us with the blood of His own Son. The Holy Spirit dwells within me, and my body is the temple of God. Sexual immorality defiles the temple. (1 Cor. 6:18-20)

5.) Sexual temptations should be fled, not fought. The war is won by starving the enemy, the flesh, not by expecting the flesh to give up the fight and be persuaded that chastity and purity is superior and better. Only God can make that change, and that will not happen until this physical body perishes and is made anew. (1 Cor. 6:13-20, 15:35-54)

6.) I do not have authority over my own body. However, my wife does. Likewise, the wife does not have authority over her body, but the husband does. The giving of the body is representative of the giving of Christ’s body for the elect, and through faith and regeneration the elect become the body of Christ. The purpose of marriage is to reflect the love Christ had for His people, and the love Christ’s people have for Christ. It is an exclusive love. So how can I lust sexually and gratify the deeds of the flesh, when my body is not my own, but Christ’s first, and then my wife’s? (1 Cor. 7:4, Eph. 5:22-33).

7.) Sexual sin cheapens us, defiles us, defiles God, and defiles our spouse. It is a sin against our own bodies, our God, and our spouse. Christ’s body was given to us pure and holy, undefiled. It had to be, else it could not save us. If I am to represent Christ in marriage, every time I sin sexually I misrepresent Christ, for I am giving myself, my body, to another, who is not my own. Christ was pure before He died for us. Therefore, I should keep myself pure sexually for my wife before I am married to her as well, not just once I am married. (Eph. 5:22-33).

8.) Conversely, remaining sexually pure, with our bodies and in our hearts and minds, is rightly imitating Christ, and is an expression of His love for us. How pleased was God when Christ gave Himself for His bride, and His bride alone? Very pleased indeed. How pleased will God be when we imitate Christ by showing love and passion only for our bride, and no one else? Very pleased indeed. (Eph. 5:1-3).

9.) I can resist the impulses of the flesh. But not by my own power, but rather through the power of God, the Holy Spirit. We are sanctified by the Truth, and the Spirit of God is the Spirit of Truth. Killing sexual sin is done by living and walking in the Spirit. The Spirit and the flesh war against one another. The mind and the flesh war against one another. The Spirit, however, renews the mind and convicts us to resist temptation and live for the superior worth and goodness and glory of the Truth. Therefore, understanding why sexual sin is so sinful, and why sex within marriage is so good and glorious, is the ultimate key to defeating the sinful deeds of the flesh. (Gal. 4:16-18,24-25, Rom. 7:14-8:39, Eph. 4:17-24, Colossians 3:1-17).

10.) Ultimately, it is Christ Himself who has freed us from slavery to sexual sin, by dying for our sins. This grace itself teaches us that we are to deny lusts of all stripes and live for Him. For He died to purify us from sins and make us zealous for Him and for good works that glorify Him. Sexual purity glorifies Him. (Titus 2:11-15).

Please, this is not to discourage people from seeking for partners, but to help us overcome immorality when we eventually get one.
May God's grace cause us to abound.

One of the byproducts of our sedentary & isolated contemporary life is the growing epidemic of depression.
Over 120 million people worldwide are affected by the black dog of depression, as Sir Winston Churchill described it. Depression is one of the leading causes of disability, missed work, broken relationships and more.
Chances are you or someone you know will suffer from it in your lifetime.
It is truly one of the most devastating of dis-eases (not at ease!) in that it robs you of the ability to simply enjoy life. Activities that you used to enjoy leave you feeling empty. Interacting with friends, family and coworkers can be overwhelming.
It’s hard to imagine GTD, when just GOB (getting out of bed) seems like a chore.
So what can we do? Traditional routes of therapy and even medication are effective and should definitely be considered if depression is disrupting your life.
However there are other, natural steps to take that can, over time, be very effective. In fact, some studies have shown these to be as effective (or more so) than traditional therapies.
As an added bonus these are good lifestyle changes that will enhance anyone’s life, depressed or not, and most don’t cost a thing!
Studies have shown that primitive people get much more exposure to an active & healthy lifestyle than we do and hence they have no, or very little, depression. Attempts to study depression in primitive tribes found nothing to study. The same attempts to study depression in the Amish found very little. Changing your lifestyle to be more like those of our primal ancestors can work wonders in battling the blues.

Pick one of these and do it for a week. Add a new one each following week until you’re doing all of them. Keep doing them. They compliment one another. Doing one will help you do another which will help you feel better.
Turn them in to a routine like brushing your teeth, so that they become a part of your daily life. You don’t think about them, you just do them!
Here are the very practical caveman therapies for modern men and women.

1. Get outside. Our caveman friends saw lots of daylight; getting up at sunrise and going to sleep at sunset. Exposure to bright sunlight for 30 minutes a day either through sunlight or a light made for this, helps keep your internal clock set. This circadian rhythm helps to regulate our sleep/wake cycle and insures a good night’s sleep which in turn, helps our physical and mental health. Don’t wear sunglasses though; the exposure must come through your eyes!

2. Aerobic Exercise. Primitive folks had to forage or work in the fields for their food. 30 minutes at least 3 times a week means those ‘runner’s high’ endorphins get released regularly. It’s also a good way to work through and release stress. You don’t have to run a marathon, just get your heart rate up to your target range – around 120 to 160 beats per minute depending on your age and condition. Walking works wonders. Get your doctor’s approval first!

3. Omega-3 fatty acids. 1,000 mg daily. Omega-3′s aid in the brain’s neuron connectivity. Enteric coated capsules help prevent burping the fishy tasting oil but you can also freeze them. Throw in a good multi-vitamin and avoid overly processed foods in favor of complex carbohydrates (whole grains), fish, free range meats, & vegetables and you’re good to go.

4. Sleep. Change your sleep routine so that it’s more conducive to a good night’s rest. Turn your lights down and go to bed at the same time everynight. Turn the t.v. off. Engage in calming, quiet activities like reading, taking a warm bath, etc. Avoid caffeine and alcohol. Don’t work late or do other stressful activities that cause your mind to race. Remember a tired body and quiet mind are the requirements for quality sleep.

5. Socialize. Remember the Amish farmer has his family and community to fall back on for support. There’s no reason you can’t too. Involve yourself with close friends and family. You don’t have to engage in heavy conversations about your plight, just have fun. Keep it simple and go to a movie, visit an art gallery or museum, go to a ball game, grab a cup of coffee or have a meal together. Just be with other people and your feelings of isolation will fade. Do this face to face (not online!) and do it regularly.

6. Watch your thinking! Anti-rumination strategy is vital to breaking out of depression and other emotional ruts. Become aware of those times you dwell on the negatives in your life – both real or imagined – and stop them. It takes work and persistence but if you constantly tell yourself to ‘stop it’ when you start to go over and over the negatives, then you are building a positive habit that will change your life for the better. Whether it’s the jerk who cut you off in traffic or something a little closer to home, don’t give yourself the luxury of a negative thought.

Sourced From John Van Sickel's Tips and edited by Poster.

Nothing wrong with question 5. I've been asked almost all, and wasn't in anyway upset. Different strokes for different folks.

Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. Perhaps your mother criticized your parenting skills, your colleague sabotaged a project or your partner had an affair. These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness or even vengeance but if you don't practice forgiveness, you might be the one who pays most dearly. By embracing forgiveness, you can also embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy. Consider how forgiveness can lead you down the path of physical, emotional and spiritual well-being.

What is forgiveness?
Generally, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.
Forgiveness doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life.
What are the benefits of forgiving someone?

Letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for compassion, kindness and peace. Forgiveness can lead to:

1) Healthier relationships
2) Greater spiritual and psychological well-being
3) Less anxiety, stress and hostility
4) Lower blood pressure
5) Fewer symptoms of depression
6) Lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse

Why is it so easy to hold a grudge?

When you're hurt by someone you love and trust, you might become angry, sad or confused. If you dwell on hurtful events or situations, grudges filled with resentment, vengeance and hostility can take root. If you allow negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice.

What are the effects of holding a grudge?
If you're unforgiving, you might pay the price repeatedly by bringing anger and bitterness into every relationship and new experience. Your life might become so wrapped up in the wrong that you can't enjoy the present. You might become depressed or anxious. You might feel that your life lacks meaning or purpose, or that you're at odds with your spiritual beliefs. You might lose valuable and enriching connectedness with others.
How do I reach a state of forgiveness?

Forgiveness is a commitment to a process of change. To begin, you might:
Consider the value of forgiveness and its importance in your life at a given time
a) Reflect on the facts of the situation, how you've reacted, and how this combination has affected your life, health and well-being
b) When you're ready, actively choose to forgive the person who's offended you
c) Move away from your role as victim and release the control and power the offending person and situation have had in your life

As you let go of grudges, you'll no longer define your life by how you've been hurt. You might even find compassion and understanding.

Welll, being a non-virgin doesn't guarantee that one is without sin for those who are condemning some folks who aren't. I hold to high esteem those of US who have kept ourselves despite the moral decadence in our contemporary society today, where sex is a common language even among 13yrs old folks. Before you bash me, I'm by His grace, and willing to remain by His grace, because I fear God. May God help us all to strive towards the perfect Man.

The Anglican Communion, The Redeemed Christian Church of God, and any Bible believing Church that seems close.

Tgirl4real: My summary of this article is that you are ready to marry and stay married when you are willing to accept your partner wholeheartly for who he/she really is before and after marriage : esp. After marriage cos our true nature comes out then.

As wise as it sounds, it will only remain healthy as long as both partners are reasonable.

#Recommending for HP.

. Nice summary. Thumbs up to you and Op.

Dygeasy: But I haven't seen you misbehave stupidly around me

. Very true, lolz

What about females I bet we behave stupidly when around handsome guys and exhibit talents we dint recognise we have [/quote]. Very true, lolz

babyBB: =readerson guys like u abi?

. God knows better oooo. I really don't say much on a faceless forum maam'. I mean no offence please o.

Why do some guys feel that a guy must either be a womanizer, a smoker, or one who takes alcohol? Please let's hear your inputs with all sense of politeness. I don't do any of the above though and it doesn't make me less of a man.

[quote author=babyBB] true talk guy[/quote. There are guys @ 30 who are still virgins pleaseeee.