greed, could you elaborate further,what way would a woman commicate to send mixed signals

you are welcome softee. I can read a high level of maturity in your post. I refuse to agree with those who say that a 15 year old is not mature, some 12 year olds are more mature than some 30 year olds, at a point in my life, I was just thinking about marriage. I was only 18 then. today I bow my knee and thank God , that he didn't grant my desire to get married . sometimes, singles think marriage is all about romance , but there is a lot involved. it requires commitment/hardwork. I believe there is a reason for everything. that is why by God's grace, I find it hard to judge people. thankyou for sharing your need .
, I quote,

"because i have had quite a hard time in teen-hood ( i like to call it) that i was forced into maturing. I still believe there is nothing for me being a teenager"


I am sorry to hear that you had a hard teen-hood. but I would encourage you to hold on. God has a reason why you passed through those hard times, sometimes God allows his children to go through hard times, first to build character, and 2nd so that we can be a source of encouragement to others in that situation,also so we can depend on him. I would encourage to see the best in your situation . even though you may feel there is nothing for you being a teenager, I want to tell you God says , there is something for you as a teenager. God has made life in stages. I believe this is your stage for development in emotionally, physically, etc. but once again I must confess I appreciate the maturity in your post. I want to encourage you to seek God's face, ask him to show you , his purpose and plan 4 you. ask yourself , " why am I a teenager" , how can i maximize my potential. also  remember there are many married folks /mothers who wish they are still single /not yet mothers. I have a friend who got into an ungodly relationship, she got pregnant, and the boy abandoned her, she is left alone to care for the child. she was really sad, the guilt she feels, she says to me"roses, plz save yourself for marriage" , she tells me its very hard being a baby mama. one day the child would soon be asking , "where is my daddy". may God never let you get into that situation in Jesus name Amen. I would recommend that you find a support group. teenagers need lots of support. follow positive people, develop yourself so that you would be the best mama to your future son. I believe you've got great potiential , don't let that dream die, hold on, and God would see you through. God bless you. I also pray that you would get into godly relationships, that God would bring mentors into your life who would believe in you, encourage you and help  you reach your destiny. God bless you richly.and may God give you the strength to stay pure to marriage, I congratulate you for taking a stand, even in this polluted world.

let begin.
my favorite breakfast is donut and strawberry/banana smootie. wow, it makes my mouth water. the donut is glazed.
cheers.

but if a guy likes someone why the merry go round. why does'nt he say it upfront. ?

thats interesting, yeah ,I smile a lat, I think pple misinteprete it. I in no way dress provocatively . anyway , I have my new way of life sorted out.
cheers

thank y'all for replying. but I actually meant side hugs, I hug pple briefly just like on the neck or side . little or no body contact. so from what y'all are saying side hugs are not good . so in the church , it is wrong to hug . anywayz i never liked huggs b4 . but some guy could be hugging evry one and then they come to me, its like Hellooooooooooooo, can't you hug. so i changed to be more open. but I guess its high time I become very very very reserved again. doing my own thing being in my own world.

I 'm not in any relationship now,never been in one. sometimes I'm so happy to see my friends , and so I could hug evry one, just laugh happily , u know a little pat here and there. I can't understand the "sexual arousal part" , could you plz elaborate. I just find it so hard to understand that part. I am really confused about this issue . I am a very friendly person, at the same time I don't wanna be viewed negatively. I see mexican pple greet and kiss on the cheek ,u know . really , I'm so puzzled.

I still don't get it. could you paraphrase please . thanks

thanks 4 sharing. anywayz, I have made up my mind to be a little more reserved . limit to only handshakes, coz I don't want folks getting the wrong message. or what d'u think

good question. I can say one thing
" it is not by power , or by might but by my spirit says the Lord"
I believe only the holyspirt can give strength during the difficult times
"it is not you speaking but the spirit of my father,don't worry b4 hand about what you would say ".
some times God says run, some times God says stay , this calls for wisdom
in the bible peter was certain like many of us on the site. he said "jesus I can't deny you " , but Jesus emphasis was , "Peter I have prayed for you" . the disciple denied christ coz they were sleeping instead of praying .
I believe only praying people can take a stand for calvary and say like paul, ' to live is christ , to die is gain" .
to answer this question I shall say .
" only by the grace of God " but I pray it would never be our portion.
thanks

I think the focus now should be how do we fight the disease, many innocent children are born with the virus. the focus should be educating pple to be safe.

I'm glad you mentioned you are a christian. I want to let you know that God has a plan for your life. I believe he would grant you your heart desire if you seek him dilligently. sometimes God wants us to wait a little bit. we are accountable for the decisions we make . we would have to face the consequences of whatever actions we take. honey I believe the time isn't right for you. You are young , I believe beautiful, I would encourage you to focus on your career. right now you may think you are mature enough to handle raising a child but 5-10 years time , you may look back and say "what was I thinking" . but even if you are mature as you sound , think about the future of the child. you don't wanna bring a child into this world , and weep daily bcoz you aren't able to support him financially or you have to overwork just to make ends meets thereby spending little time with that child. there are many fatherless kids out there, children are a gift from God . I believe they deserve our best. I believe if you bring a kid into this world , he's not going to get the best considering your present circumstances. also think about this , do you wanna be a baby mama, when your friends are doctors, lawyers, hanging out, having fun, having stable homes. I belive you wanna be a role models to other young folks. whew let me stop here anyway I believe a baby is not best for you now, but like others said you may babysit the one-year old more often , or find tiime to hang out more with kids. you can learn a lot which you would impact in you kid's life in the future. I shall pray for you. remember
serve the creator in the days of your youth, enjoy being a teenager, enjoy having to go out without thinking " oh my son is sick " or this and that. honey enjoy service for God because a time would come when u gat to focus on family.
let me know what happens
cheers.

love is patient, kind , gentle, does not see its own , but the good of others. Love is
" what can i do for him/her" .
Love is
"I want to see her/him happy"
I want to help him/her achieve her destiny.
I believe lust on the other hand is I what can I get out of him/her.
I 'm just interested in one thing. meeting my needs.
love is I desire to serve you, of course in the process of giving to you , I shall meet my needs hopefully.
my 2 cents

I don't get it. what exactly d'u mean "by their interest".
thanks

who is a desperate woman

when some ladies are really nice, many men may interprete it to mean that she 's in love with them or something. why is that so? is there a crime in being nice, open, caring to all.
really curious
for instance I have a friend that just keeps collects pple's numbers , she is so friendly with evry one, ,.

why do some single guyz tell their women friend(s) who are single that they are lonely?

then why do pple go ahead and disobey God's command . I'm not judging here, just curious

what does the bible say about fornication ? naira landers?

gifty has a boyfriend, the relationship is shaky but gifty holds on. lately gifty learns that her boyfriend is looking for a girl friend. what advice would u have for gifty. Should she just leave , confront , or play ignorant.
what advice do I give my friend?

flora's asking for advice, she gets to see this boy in school, she likes him, she ain't sure if he likes her coz he never ask 4 her number . although they get to chat about school and surface issues. flora is single , and Tim is single too.

So what d'u think, maybe he isn't interested in flora, or he just want to be " friends". Please advice flora.

Ronke!!!!!!!!!!!!! , Ronke!!!!!!!!!!!, ronke!!!!!!!
how many times did i call your name.
3 times .
hmm hmm hmm .
can a man walk on hot coals without his legs being burnt? ? ??
u better make a decison quick before its to late. and always remember if you settle for less , then don't be suprised if your true hero pasess u by. since u are already in a "relationship ". also remember that the married man is eating his cake and having it, he is going to hinder a young and pretty woman like u from moving forward. honey , wisdom calls, treat yourself like a rare gem, pple would treat u like one.
my 2 cents.

When Would You Ask Her Out?

hey folks, just curious. This is for the men in the house. If you see a girl you really like, would you
1. Ask her out immediately
2. Or approach her immediately
3. Would u test the waters or
4. Just admire her secretly
5. See if you could make friends with her, or her folks.

Just curious. Would you wait 6 months, 10 years before asking her out or just assume she's already got a boyfriend or perhaps feel she ain't going to go out with you? What do u do?

honey u are so young. I mean 24 is a pretty young age to me. I belive it may take time to seperate the best from the rest. you can just go ahead and settle for some guy u don't love deep down,or u may be the "other woman" , or u may wait a little longer , believing that the best is yet to come. well the choice is urs.
peace

nope. I 'm taking my time. y'know it demands more patience to seperate the best from the rest.

quick question. I 'm not sure how to say no to " boy friends" who want to take the friendship further. I mean "no " as in to say "I don't think this can work, I don't think u are my match" . I try to respect people's feelings that is why it is difficult 4 me. besides I don't want to spoil the friendship .
thanks.

this is interesting. I am no relationship expert but my 2 cents is that u should seat her down and have a talk. be polite, courteous and speak the truth. it is healthy never to start a relationship that's built on peer pressure. I dunno how far u went with her, but it may have been better not to start it at all. from day one, it is important to consider the future. I think it is good to ask oneself,
1. why am I doin this?
2. do I really wanna do this or is it pressure from outside?
3. am I being selfish , just trying to catch some fun and leave?
4. is there the possiblity of a future together
5. am I tampering with another man's possession.
truly love hurts at times. someone may love u and u may not love her back, its only natural. but how do u react to that scenerio. do y'u play along or do u make ur intentions known. this is a personal decision , my two cents.