Rosement:

You are absolutely right. If he really cared about me and loved me as much as he claimed, he would have been ready to wait. The good thing is, I found a better guy.

so you haven’t given this new guy

Fira09:
God bless sadio,

This is what we want super eagles players to do for their own communities and not lavishing their money abroad.

money wey dem make, u go tell dem how to spend am. It’s a nice gesture from mane but everyone no go b like sm

darichlife:
Good Day Nairalanders, let me just go straight to the point, my girlfriend is 24yr old, and I am 29, we starting dating in 2021, she is slim and fair in complexion and average in height. We are from the same state and LGA. While dating I discovered she has a very bad temper towards trivial things. For example if she sees me with another girl she starts quarrelling, she just jumps into conclusions without even asking simple questions, if a female friend calls she starts dragging the phone with me, and sometimes when am not there she picks the calls and starts to insult the girl on the line. This has made some people I have known before her to start avoiding my calls.

Another sad thing is my mum and sisters don't like her. Recently I just helped her secure a job while I was on holiday before going back to school. We have been through a lot together, her father is a Mopol officer who don't give a damn about her whereabouts, when she takes off her clothes there are scars of cane everywhere on her hand and wounds on her body, whenever I asked her why she doesn't like to go home she starts quarrelling, (Are you driving me away from your house? She blares, I said no just that I don't want Mopol officer's problems in case they come looking for you). She can stay a whole week without going to her house which is just a 100 bike fare.

I have talked to her about her attitude on different occasions and how it is doing her a great disservice, because I am not the type that double dates, she keeps saying all men are the same that she will not be fooled or deceived. I just laugh and overlook her attitude because I believe it is jealousy and insecurity that is within her caused from her past experiences. Also she is not the double dating type from my observations.

What is bothering right now is her manipulative and angry attitude towards me, she is a first daughter while am first son, she always wants what she says to be final even if it is wrong, some times when she calls me on phone to explain certain things to me, she will say I should narrate it back for her so she will believe I understand her, I say did without explanations she will just end the call, sometimes she will say am too annoying why will I say understand if can't explain, sometimes when am explaining without saying her exact words she just ends the call and say why don't I pay attention when she is explaining things to me, I will have to call her back to ask her what is really wrong because I don't see why she's picking offences over little conversations that does not involve insults that should annoy you. This is a girl who find it difficult to spell certain words, I will take my time to explain things to her and she will say she does not understand, I will smile and repeat myself, she will say OK she got it, ask her tomorrow she will say she can't remember. Last month see picked my phone and deleted all the ladies number in the phone, BOTH THE MISS. AND MRS. I was mad and asked her why? she said she hates seeing me making those long calls either business or just normal greetings that it leads to something else.

When I confronted her she punched me on the face and say I should do my worst. I wanted to beat her up, but I just controlled myself and left the house. I have blocked her lines and changed my padlocks.

I gave the keys to a friend and told her am going back to school. She started cursing and raining insults, that why am I so wicked and heartless, where do I want her to stay when she closes from work, I bluntly told her to go and live with her parents at least it's rent free.

Her friends have been calling me to forgive her. I Told them never. I have had enough signs of a failed marriage in the making, I can't change her she is too opinionated and never see the big pictures of things, she has no female friends, she Kip's to herself and find comfortable to keep malice both in workplace and within the neighborhood. Am tired.

I wonder how you even tolerate such when she no b the only girl for this world

vakjay08:

Only you can answer that question. Sometimes its not really about how much money. How's the relationship with your wife? Or what kind of woman did you marry?

Gbam

Iamhero:
I’ve been in a relationship with this girl exactly one year ago and she is very young she is 19yrs old now, I’ve never found her cheating because I connected her WhatsApp with my PC for the past 4months ago and she didn't know about it. But two weeks ago I noticed that she was chatting with a man on her WhatsApp and this man is an old man like a 50yr-old upward, I was confused I didn't ask her about it. She came to me last week Monday and she was on a call with the man and immediately she saw me enter the room she quickly hangs up the call and I asked her who she was talking to and she told me she was talking to her dad, I said okay, after that I noticed she was on her WhatsApp and I quickly took my PC and check her recent chats then I saw the man asking her where she is and she told the man she was in her female friend’s side, I still didn't say anything to her I didn't let her know anything, after 3days I checked her WhatsApp again and I saw my girlfriend sending the videos they made inside the man’s car to him and the man was like I am happy to see you today! And the man asked my babe when both of them will have time to sleep together and my babe told the man that he should be patient with her till she was done with her exam and the man agreed. Now to cut the long story short, last week Tuesday she came to me and I took her to the restaurant to eat and she was trying to make a video with me, as usual, she always did but this time I'm not happy with her and I just forced myself to smile and made the video with her, then my mind told me to check her WhatsApp but I don't want her to know that I want to check her phone and I was patient till we get home back, then I took my PC and check her WhatsApp chats, I saw her telling the man that the man should not worry she will meet with him on Sunday and she will sleep over and she will have fun with him. The one that pained me most was that she was telling the man she will give him all kinds of styles for him and the man was very happy and even sent her money, at this moment I want to talk and ask her because I was very angry but I still calm myself and I didn't even tell any of my friends about it, I now told her that I have a special place I wanted to take her to on Sunday and I want her to have it in mind, she immediately frowned her face and told me she was going to a naming ceremony with her mother on Sunday and she even told me to ask her mom, I knew she was lying and she was going to that man but I insisted that we must go out together on Sunday and I even told her I was taking her on a mini-vacation and she was happy because she likes to go on vacation, now she agreed but later she chats with the man and gave him some excuses and she told the man she will come to him on Saturday instead and sleep with him till Sunday morning and the man agreed. On that Sunday very early in the morning I called her mom and asked her to help me give her phone to her because I was calling her number and her number wasn't going through but her mother told me she was sleeping and I said okay and I hanged the call then later she calls me and we talked, I told her to chat me on WhatsApp that I wanted to tell her something and she said okay, I did that to gain access to her WhatsApp and I saw her telling the man that she has gotten home at 7 am and I saw the man complimenting her that she really enjoy her and this time I was very very sad to the extent that I was crying because I thought this girl is the right person for me to marry because I haven't found any shit with her for the past a year we have been dating and I always take care of her based on my power and my current situation, I changed her phone 1 months ago and I always gave her money every week to make her hair, and when am broke I always let her know that I don't have much on me and she will even advise me not to think much that everything will be fine.
I know her mother knows about that man because from her chat I always read sometimes she does tell the man to drive to her house and come and check on her and she lives with her mother, she came to me last week Sunday that same day she came from that man and I didn't even let her notice that I know everything I just keep all the pains in me and act like nothing wrong but I left her inside the house and went out to my friends side just not to be seeing her face that day and I make sure I didn't make fun with her till she left my side for their house, I'm really heartbroken now and I'm confused I don't know what to do, I'll be happy if you guys can tell me what to do. Thanks for reading ��

bro, how you get mind hold ur anger? You strong ooo. I go like hear the full gist

Agurichman:
Please dear nairalanders I need an advice on this very topic .
I have a girlfriend and we have been together for 3 years now ,we've not had any big quarrels of fight and mind you I'm a gentle person,we love each other very much but she claims her love is more than mine ,let's get to the story .
I was sorting out my school assignment last week when I received a call from my girlfriend telling me that she wanted to see me urgently,I was very scared with the way she sounded and so i gave her directions to CBT center I was doing my assignment,when we finally got home ,she then told me to please forgive her that she sent her nude pics and a video to an unknown person and that the person is blackmailing her with the content to put it online,and that they are asking for a ransome and that if not they will put the contents online.
After much pleading I decided to forgive her but gave an instruction to delete all contact relating to the fraudster and that she shouldn't sent any money to them but to my greatest surprise she called me this morning to tell me that she just sent them the money and I'm very mad right now ,I'm not picking since that mmorning ,I feel like ending the relationship,please I need advice

she is for us, not u

Streett:



It all depends on the Girl….. Trust is vital!
Dinner or lunch dates no mean anything …. Colleagues for work dey go Dinner dates as well ..
As long as it’s on pure intent and no embedded mischief ….
Like I said e depend on the Babe!
Cuz these women run things … na gra gra we jus dey do!

E jus be say that kain date for naija right now dey wan kain….. Cuz we too over kaku and we dey see each other like hyena weh ready devour any babe weh slack at any slight chance given lmao

na so I dey talk before. Trusted her for years. Until I see things. Now

LaSenior:
When your girlfriend accept a guy's proposal of taking her out on a date , what does it mean

Please as a girl who's in a relationship with a guy you know that is doing everything just to make you happy is it right for you to accept guys proposal for taking you out on a date.
I am complaining because those male besties are not just besties they want to have their own portion of her they have target and that's her pants and if I tell her She will say nothing of such Will happen then I tell her if she makes her available it would happen sooner than later

Please guys I need a clear answer to this my Questions

bro, take this from me, she is for the streets

OkwuEziokwu:
She got tipsy with friends yesterday and sent me a message and picture of empty liquor bottles.

Message: So we were doing bj with a bottle
Omo I miss doing it ��

When we come dey talk for phone she come talk sey for the shayo session, na friend 1 bn talk sey she no sabi do am, friend 2 come sey she no sabi too. Na so she come turn teacher.

Omo, this na girl wey I never do nada with sake of this lo g distance thing.

We never reach one year.

Help me reason am! Na like this our women dey do these day? Thoughts?

����bro dem dey bang her right now. If you doubt me, whenever you are going to meet her, Dnt tell her, then check her fone and observes who calls her dat day. I don learn

Headbanger:


Thank you very much, apart from feeding which is 25k weekly,
We have other budgets, such as fueling which is 30k monthly for the car
genetor we have 15k set aside, and PHCN is 20k
we also have emergency 50k which if we do not use, we carry over to the following month.
Then for the laundry, we have extra 12k for that, because sometimes we engage dry cleaners.

hope she helps you financially too

Colephbreed:
Hello guys good day hope y'all are doing great.

Am writing this with so much grief in my heart as I feel depressed, sometimes love can come with somuch pains and joy at same time.

So recently I agreed with my fiance to relocate to a different city since she got a job over there, we agreed a scheduled time we wil have to see each other within a specific period of time. This is someone we share everything in common the love was great, she's an awesome soul to be sincere.

I got so much attached to her, that it made me felt lonely and empty when she left, due to that reason I always want to call and check up frequently, This has been going on For about 4 weeks consistently, the first red flag I noticed was that she asked me not to be calling her frequently that sometimes it's not really cool with her, I respected that fact and reduced the way I call but I was beginning to loose the trust I had for her.

She goes out with her friend frequently and they love partying, even when I consistently warn her about the late nights they keep most times in clubs and partying she keeps telling me she's not a kid and she can handle things herself. Lately the relationship have been filled with lots of argument, misunderstanding, and the trust is beginning to reduce drastically.

Yesterday she uploaded a nasty picture as her display pics on WhatsApp, she was just putting on a top without bra, though she's busty and all that, I asked her take it down and upload something more appealing and decent that am not comfortable with such pics, she began to rant and start saying all manner of things like it's her privacy,her phone, her body,and she decides what to do with it, am an African man and I don't welcome this woke mentality of women nowadays, feeling they need to be half naked to feel sexy I can't cope with such indecent dressing, I told her am not trying to tell her what to do but atleast you should respect my opinion sometimes, I got angry and sent her a very long message about my displeasure. since then she has refused to pick my calls nor reply my messages.

She tried calling earlier today but I didn't pick, I couldn't sleep through out the night the whole drama was just playing in my Head.

Guys is this enough reason to call of a relationship or are my just being too self centered? have actually made up my mind just need to hear from different and more matured people in the house.
Thanks for reading and enjoy the rest of your day.

you already know d truth. You are just scared to leave her, but trust me, she is for the streets

TeeGentle:
Try to save before it is too late
And learn to manage

too late how? Dem dey late for savings?

cutecommend:
Please share your experience on someone you dated or you are dating that cheated before and has stopped cheating now...

dem no dey stop dat thing totally

Kingbeewillsee:
Hi guys i date one girl in my school we have been dating for 6 month after somewhile i started noticing my girlfriend behaviour she started becoming more suspicious the first time she cheated on me when she first started dating a guy while dating me. She begged me to forgive her and she said the guy propose to her in public so she had no choice but to accept she told me the guy she dated will break up with her soon and i should forgive her and me patience.
After 3 weeks her and the guy broke up and we continue our relationship till a month later she dated another giving me the most stupidest excuse that the guy wanted to know what it feels to be in love and so she dated him and she told me ahe accepted it and I said that's the end of our relationship after that she started calling me and apologising i should forgive her and accept her she won't do it again what should I do i need advise should I date her back

see my guy, once she does it once, she will do it again . Use your head

Please I need more information on this

Gracelander:
I never knew this is what heart break feels like, I'm shattered and broken.

I started dating him from 100 level till we graduated, it's been five years now. We suffered and passed through a lot together, I made a lot of sacrifices for him and even had two painful abortions for him.

But he always complained that I got fat and he liked slim girls, he broke up with me in the most excruciating manner. I noticed changes a few months back but he kept lying to me not knowing he was seeing another girl.

The girl chatted me up few days back to know her stand and I told her everything, he even posted pictures he had with the girl, this is someone that hates pictures and hardly takes one with me regardless of how much I beg. He doesn't even post his own pictures but he's already posting the girls pictures.

The girl is his spec and more attractive than me... I'm just ashamed of myself. The girl decided to stick with him even after everything I told her so she could leave him including the abortion part.

I've wished him well but I'm in serious pain, I've been crying for days now and unable to eat. I gave him everything, he was my first ever guy. I wish he could come back, I'm ready to forgive him.

How can move on from this heart break, it's killing me slowly.

swear say you no cheat during that time una date.

Jennyclay:
Personally, I can't go out on a date with a guy using okada as means of transport.

It looks so awkward to me. You don't expect me to dress well and start jumping okada up and down with you under the sun or rain... It's wrong abeg!

If you don't have a car, atleast order Uber when going out on a date with a girl. Uber is also cheap to move around than using an okada. Abeg!

Yesterday, after I closed from work, a friend of mine who is a medical doctor wanted to take me out just for dinner. So while I was waiting for him at my work place... minutes later he arrived, I was expecting him to come with Uber ride because he doesn't have a car.. only for me to see okada, he even told the Okadaman to wait for him.

The moment I sighted him through the gate, I started pretending like I'm having stomach ache.. I just told him I've been stooling since morning that I need to go home.

Men I have a question... Will you fall sick if you order Uber to take a lady out on a date?? Stop using okada abeg! It's a special date!

Some ladies can jump okada with you but personally I can't ooo.. Biko!!

then order the Uber.

VictorUSA:
If your uncle lives in the US and send you 30K, and you are satisfied with that you can quote me with this trash again.

is this post real or a joke? He was suppose to send you 10k

Obagreatdatoye:

Radisson Blu....is great

u wan kill am?

Born2winnx:
The wedding is holding today and have made up my mind not to attend because the dude invited me through WhatsApp. It annoys me how children of this days has no regards or character for their elders. they are changing everything all in the name modernization.

How can someone, I know the exact date he was born be inviting me through WhatsApp, no respect at all, sending the scanned card copy there.. what happened to the hardware copy he printed? I had to tell him, he laughed it off saying bros nor vex the 500 copies he printed was not enough to share self. I didn't want to press the issue farther my mind is already made up.
He won't see me there today.

I just hope he invited his in-laws through WhatsApp too

Seun
Lalasticlala

you are an entitled mumu man. Did you train him? Na you dey sponsor the wedding?

Nowner:
Body count doesn't matter. If you didn't meet her a virgin, don't ask her her body count. You can't know. Know this and know peace.

you don talk your own. Make she tell me say 20 d*cld done enter there first, then watch me run

Groovedaddy:
The question is was she exclusive with the guy during the period? The same girl maybe accommodating 2yrs, 5yrs even 12yrs alongside. Nigerian ladies don't know how to be faithful most times

exactly. And when you catch them, dey expect you not to go because of the number of years you guys spent together

thesicilian:


It's not about self esteem or trying to subjugate women, it's about what's best for the family. If the husband is capable and willing to take care of the family alone while the wife stays home to make sure the kids are well brought up, isn't that much better than having both father and mother hardly around while the children rot way under societal and social media influence?

pikin wey wan rot away go still rot even if both parents are present

Rtk5:
I am tired of my marriage and really at the verge of ending it because of the following.

I am married with 2 children, my first child is already in school and my wife is yet to secure a job. Every morning I wash clothes of everyone in the house including that of my wife, i also wash plates, I sweep, mob and arrange the house, I go out to my neighbour's house to fetch water everyday. But my problem is that when i come back from work totally exhausted, i can't even sleep and rest for 30minutes you will see my wife telling me to help her hold the little baby(9months old). If I tell her I want to rest, the next thing you will hear her saying is that she is tired, will she kill herself? This is someone whose job in the house is just to cook and look after the baby. We all know that about 90% of Nigerian families the wife does all the house chores without complaining and still look after the children, yet you never hear any complain, you rather see them happy always. I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't womanize. The only thing I don't joke with is watching football, but yet anytime I want to go out to watch a football match you will see her frowning and angry. Sincerely at this point I am fed up with the marriage. Sometimes I keep wondering what is the essence of me getting married. I'm better of when I was single. Stress is really killing me deep down. I foot all the bills in the house, I buy gifts very often. Please I need your kind advice on what to do.

wait, You foot all bills, you have a house wife and u still do chores? Na wetin you want sha. Unless a woman is working, that’s the only time you guys will share chores

Glory001:

240

wetin u wan use am di

Hassany4u:
I score 271 in just concluded jamb is it enough to gain admission for medicine in university of Ilorin

no, you need 380

Kestolove:
if the idiot girl had respect other people relign this rubbish wont be happening, christains always call the shot nd will b forming victim

weyre

Hamachi:
If you are above 30 and you are still single as a guy, better start going to churches or start working on yourself, it's either you have a bad character or your Uncle in the village don't want you to get married.

Yes, this is the bitter truth...

Being single at 30 and above is bad, and the chances of you getting married and having your kids on time is slim...

What if delay in child bearing occurs and you happens to stay for more 5 or 10 years before children starts coming...

Uncle, get married now ooo, time waits for nobody

How does it sound?
Does it sound stupid?

This is the lines most you use on ladies, making them believe they are overdue for marriage.
This is the lines most of you use on ladies, that talks them into depression.

At 40, he got married to her when she was 20, believing he has higher advantage as a man, yes, God blessed them with a girl and since then no issue.

Uncle is running to 50 and becoming very weak, Aunty is running to 30 and looking more sound and beautiful ❤️.

The chances of Uncle dying anytime soon is 50-50 because he has a diseases which keeps him in the hospital all the time.

When next you think about shaming a woman, because she is 30 & above and single, read this...

Written by Chiamaka Inyama.

ok I appreciate ur advice. Will you help a little with my wedding? Just find small something for me

zyzywizzy:
Good morning guys!
This will b my first time bringing a topic here, I been having issue with my GF recently! I have been doing so much for her, she’s a fashionista and also a sales girl, her father ain’t responsible, he left their mother, her, including her younger kid! I been doing d little I can, am just in my Final year and I had make little for my self! Investing in crypto! I do support her so much! I gave her weekly up keeping for her to keep supporting herself at work and her fam! I even got a a tailoring machine and some other things, But this days when crypto is down! I couldn’t do much then I notice the chances, no morning text nor calls I didn’t take that serious!
Until last week she discussed getting a new phone, and I was like WTF, don’t u know what I have been going through? I said when d BTC pumps I will assist u in changing that, she said Okay! She’s to visit me in ilorin, d next few days I asked her about her coming over! The next thing she said will I buy her d phone when she comes then I change it totally for her! I told her didn’t u remember when things are going fyn for me! I do alot to help u, why are u now pressuring me now.. that b*tch was telling me to go bring my STATEMENT of ACC, then I gave up totally on her! For her to utter such! I’m done helping her and it’s been 6 days ago we’ve talked last, no apologies text from her then I give her a distance, I had make millions not less than 7M in my crypto! I can sponsor her education, but no I won’t do that, imaging I have sponsored her school already! This is how I will be treated! What have I done for her?
Pls advice me guys!!
Just 2 years relationship

see entitlement. Make you bring your statement, like she put money there. Delete her number

endsarrrs:



Really

yes my dear. Let’s be friends. Let’s chat on whatsap

victooman:
scared of her having a second degree? what are you blabbing,, when has that become an achievement especially in this present Nigeria of ours, those ladies with master are they only dating or marrying men with masters, l am talking about a society were money rules, even if tomorrow we are not together l am teaching her to be self reliance and make money for herself instead of going back on the lies the society keep throwing at us about certificates, l am not tired of her, l am worried she isn't taking the right step, she is the woman l want to marry

just because u dnt like her decision doesn’t make it wrong. If she chooses to go for msc, all you can do is support her. This isn’t a solid reason for a break up. Unless I don tire for her ooo, but if it is this reason alone, bro no be am

victooman:
please help advice me, we both finish our Nysc service last year, luckily enough we started a pos business and and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis, The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down,, she told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger, please nairalanders did l do anything wrong? what is the best way to handle this issue?

are you scared of her having a degree more than yours? Cus I see no problem here. She said she no go ask u for money and u dey distrb am. Wait, wat if u guys break up tomorrow? So she lose u n masters. Uncle, say u just wan break up cause u don tire