Family / Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by shege45: 8:29pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
cj1900: Thanks guys for all your advices.. It is really worrying because I am trying not to sound insensitive to my brother but at thesame time, it is common sense that someone's wife should not be living under thesame roof alone with a full grown man. Bro, your instincts are right |
Family / Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by shege45: 8:28pm On Apr 15, 2022 |
Mooh247: ![cool](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cool.png)
Tell him to look for a room selfcontain apartment around the neighbourhood and pay for it to have rest of mind... That way he can constantly check on your wife and assist her if need be
I don't think a room self con should be more than 250k depending on your neighbourhood ,£300 charity for your brother isn't too much especially considering his usefulness staying near by and to secure your home
Infidelity with a stranger or an ex is quite forgivable, but with your own blood and family , that would ruin your entire family and make your innocent children suffer from broken marriage and it's vices
According to Marslows hierarchy of needs regardless of who you think you are or your discipline level and self control... Your urge and needs sometimes are involuntary
Your wife needs Food, Sleep, Sex, Intimacy, Companion , security and no matter how disciplined she is she would seek it with someone close to her especially when they are cohabitating
. the way una go dey talk this “pay rent for him” like 300 pounds is a walk in the park |
Romance / Re: Found Her On Adult Site, Advise Needed by shege45: 5:36pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
adebayo987: Let's have an adult discussion. No insult please. I have a girlfriend that we were set to marry by December.
Let me cut the story and go straight to the point. I travelled to a distant place for work since November last year and since I can't cheat on her, I decided to be mastvrbating whenever i'm high. I even let her know and she said it's Okay.
She's a good church girl though and always dislikes sex when i was around with her. So, i got shocked when i saw her on a january uploaded porn video just last week. I didn't believe my eyes because i thought it's someone that looked like her. So i took some screenshots and sent to her to ask if she can recognize this person, only for her to start begging me that it was the devil's handwork as she didn't know "they" would post it online.
This was someone I due send 45k monthly as salary and additional 10k every 20th of the month for miscelenous. Right now i'm heart broken as i'm going to call her family to inform them of my non interest again. Or what should i do? ahhh wat do you want to do before. Marriage plan done end na |
Travel / Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by shege45: 7:28pm On Apr 12, 2022 |
Firefox01: Currently reading from the beginning. And I seem to observe that it's mostly married people getting this PPR. Can't someone get it as a single person please? I am single, been here since 2019. I never still marry, 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Health / Re: I Feel Pain Anytime I’m Urinating by shege45: 9:38am On Apr 12, 2022 |
Tundexboy:
I think so But I’ll be very careful after this I already went for test yesterday at Synlab I’ll go and collect the result tomorrow I’m pretty sure it’s an STI. Some anti biotics should fix you. This pain should be the least of your worries. Do a full panel, if free, den always use a condom |
Health / Re: I Feel Pain Anytime I’m Urinating by shege45: 12:51am On Apr 12, 2022 |
Tundexboy: Hello nairalander please help. I don’t know what’s happening. I feel pain and delayed when urinating it’s really painful. And I’m fed up have you had unprotected sex recently? If yes then it might be an sti. If not it might just be UTI |
Family / Re: My Younger Sister. by shege45: 7:53pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
ibechris: In Africa there is nothing like invading anyone's privacy as far as she lives under the canopy of your parents.
I only blame u for not sending those messages to your self and thereafter break down that phone to pieces.
Yes,it is actually painful when u see someone u trust misbehaving. Do not take it easy with her,in fact tell ur parents now about it now or never.
someone you trust? Asin For knack aspect? You funny ooo |
Family / Re: My Younger Sister. by shege45: 7:52pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Shoodboi: It's not your responsibility to tell her whether to have a boyfriend now or when to have one. She is 20 -- two years past the legal age of an adult. On top of that, she's almost done with uni.
Also, you shouldn't beat/fight an adult for any reason unless their behavior is becoming a threat to the safety of other people and their properties.
Plus having a bf doesn't distract her from improving on herself. How do they even correlate?
One last thing: Mind your business
I tire oooo, I wonder how having a bf would hinder one from achieving their goals 2 Likes |
Family / Re: My Younger Sister. by shege45: 7:49pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
Good morning all.I just open this new account to remained anonymous!
I believe this the right section to post this,I need mature minds and advice's,because am writing this with a sad and heavy heart. ![cry](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cry.gif)
I have find it difficult sleeping since when I came across a WhatsApp messages on my younger sister phone (last born) who is just 20 but would be 21 by Dec.
She is in her final year in the uni,very intelligent girl,even her course mate's do tell me that,she is supposed to have graduated from the university last year but Covid and ASUU have not help matters.
We came from a strick Christian family.my dad and mum have tried their best to bring us up in the right and best way!
It happens during the weekend I was home from work and my phone was down due to reasons because I couldn't charge it overnight.
So I decided to make used of her phone to google something on the Internet,the moment I put on her data a particular WhatsApp message came in saying 'Bleep YOU.
This made me shock and I decided to check it out.only to see erotic and sex chats about Cumming with this boy saying he don't last long,who she claims to be her boyfriend or what according to the chat.
To the extent she have been send sending him money(saying she is sending him the money not because of what between them but because she loves helping people).I have never known her to be having a B.F.
I have seen the boy few times when ever I go visiting in her school,they both school together in another state.
After some few hours to think right,I confronted her about it only for her to deny it,that it was only just a chat that nothing was there,claiming i invaded her privacy this got me angry and her slapped her.
I collected her phone to show her proved of what I saw to my greatest surprise the chats has been deleted.
This is a girl that have never look at me in the eye's but on that day she looked at me shouting on her Voice..
Please house I don't know what to do because am confused right now.
I would be needed your mature advice's on what to do next!
sorry for any typing errors.
that girl is not a kid. You invaded her privacy thereby bringing disrespect to yourself. If you even handled this amicably it would have been better. Were you thinking she was a virgin? At 20 ? In final year? Bro, wake up. |
Family / Re: 3 Months Cheap Room In Lagos by shege45: 6:30pm On Apr 11, 2022 |
RaniOpe: Hello.
I need a place to stay in Lagos (mainland preferably) for just three months. May-July The reason I'll be coming to Lagos is because I need to get some documents.
If you have an offer, please drop a comment or send an email.
Thank you.
why not try a hotel? 1 Like |
Romance / Re: I can't keep calm, I had the best sex ever today by shege45: 12:22am On Apr 11, 2022 |
Kirchoffs: I toast this babe last week, used my sweet mouth to whine her, she later came to my house today and we had sex thrice . This girl is super cute and tight , no iffy odors emanating from her v-jay.
Towtow sweet abeg, she's 18years though. we r proud of you |
|
Romance / Re: Catching A Cheating Lover /partner by shege45: 9:41pm On Apr 10, 2022 |
Ultraviolet5: what?? I think there has been a misunderstanding here. I sell WhatsApp spy app; it is used to link someone's WhatsApp to your device allowing you to see the messages they send and receive ;spy on their WhatsApp that is. There is no need,nor desire on my part, for us to meet in any eatery or at all. All you have to do is message me on WhatsApp or call if you fancy that, we agree on a deal and I send you the app through WhatsApp. I assume you are worried about being scammed,so am I . I am also worried about being grabbed and shoved in a sack��
ok but i would get the app before payment? |
Romance / Re: Catching A Cheating Lover /partner by shege45: 3:53pm On Apr 10, 2022 |
Ultraviolet5: Do you suspect that your husband,or boyfriend or girlfriend,or wife or side chick is cheating on you? Well one way to find out is through their WhatsApp chats but you can't just start scrolling on their phone can you? I bring you WhatsApp spy app, link this app to their phone and you will see all the messages they send and receive . dm me to get the app at s very cheap price 090 507 75 903 I saw a thread like this sometime ago, and I will still say same thing. Let me test it and if it works, I would pay you double. We can meet in person so that you would collect your money instantly. I would also pay your transport fare to which ever eatery we meet. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: The Virgin Girl I Had Sex With Hasn't Seen Her Period - Please Suggest A Drug by shege45: 8:05pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
Deadmeat: If you follow my previous post about how I disvirgined a girl. All of a sudden she's all over me, she won't let me rest. I wanted to hit and run but I'm afraid I might get hooked now.
The worst part of it is that, she just told me yesterday that she hasn't seen her period since two days and I'm afraid.
I'm not ready for commitment for now I just like my peace of mind. That's why i have a lot of runs UI babes full my DM once I need sex I just call them, wetin push my mumu self to go meet virgin girlfriend naim I no understand
However, I'm a bit confused here, on the 17th of March she saw her period now she told me she hasn't seen her period since two days, is it possible to see period twice? I asked her how come she said I no fit understand. I only had sex with her 3 times
Someone please suggest any drug she can take abeg. panadol |
Romance / Re: Help! A Man Is Threatening To Release My Nudes, I'm Depressed! by shege45: 8:03pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
Angela1996: I'm just depressed over this situation, I'm tired of him, he snapped me while I was naked and threatened to release my nudes...I've told him to sign the undertaken and leave me alone but he has refused... Please I don't know what to do again!...Don't judge me or insult me because no one is perfect anty he didn’t snap you. You send am give am. If you know him personally, tell me 2 Likes |
Travel / Re: What Are The Cons Of Moving Abroad? by shege45: 8:01pm On Apr 06, 2022 |
ike007:
God forbids and I reject every thing that has to do with deportation or anything like that in your life and others in Jesus name amen. Can't wish Nigeria upon my enemy sef. May you over succeed over there, wherever you are in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Amen. Enjoy thank you my brother. It’s all love |
Romance / Re: How Do You Guys Move On??? by shege45: 4:01pm On Apr 04, 2022 |
Ezendimmuo: There is this girl I'm dating Tbh... I don't trust her... She has lied to me in the past and also cheated on me... I called her on Saturday.. I called her in the morning... Someone was playing music in her room... I asked her who it was.... She got angry that I don't trust her I called her at night also I swear I heard someone's voice in her room at night She got angry when I asked who was there...hung up on me and switched off her phone .. I apologized for "hearing" things... Yesterday... An anonymous person called me out of pity and told me that my girl usually stays in a guys room... This same guy has kissed her twice even when she knows we are dating.. He even calls her when m around and tells her he wants to see her even when he knows m around... She said she saw her coming out of the guys room that morning... I asked her about it... She got angry and wanted to know who told me about it... She said I was a big fool and I do not have sense for believing the person... Mind you ..my girlfriend has lied to me in the past and I have no reason to doubt the caller because she has nothing to gain if we break up... What even made me break up with her was the fact that she started calling me names I'll attach a message she said to me when I told her I was done... My problem is this .. We started having small talks after the whole thing... I started explaining things to her!! Can you imagine?? I feel like a fool right now... Legends in the house... How do I break up with her and never look back![](/faces/huh.png) She's toxic to both my emotions and finance But still A part of me won't completely let go I need help guys I am very sure she is sleeping with him. It won’t b easy but find someone else 4 Likes |
Travel / Re: What Are The Cons Of Moving Abroad? by shege45: 1:07pm On Apr 04, 2022 |
ike007:
You will sha get deported..I'm sure. ok thanks. When it happens, na your house i go come stay oooo. Hope say una get plenty room |
Travel / Re: What Are The Cons Of Moving Abroad? by shege45: 11:42am On Apr 03, 2022 |
ike007:
My mom is late and may my ancestors make them deport you and never allow any country in the west allow you to enter their soil ever again. I won't insult your mom my mom brought me up better. But upon you o lord do I cast this man and his insult upon my mother who is late to bear. May he not ever make it when he gets deported to Nigeria in the mighty name of our lord . Amen You just come online and talk rubbish because you can. Abi this one pain you. That was how i felt. I am satisfied. Next time you won’t try this. Cow |
Romance / Re: She's Ready To Swear In A Shrine That She Didn't Cheat6 by shege45: 10:34pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
Hitlerxxx: So my girlfriend of 3 years was acting funny, and when girls start acting funny like that, it means they're getting di©ked or seeing someone else. I broke up with her and blocked her everywhere. She texted this morning that we should go swear somewhere to prove her innocence.
What should I do guys?
Note, after we started dating, I tried for 2 months plus before we had sex, and yes I disvirgined her.
What do I do? Do I take her to swear? she is cheating bro. No mind am |
Romance / Re: My HIV Status by shege45: 10:31pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
9 Likes |
Romance / Re: My HIV Status by shege45: 9:57pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
Jenkings222: Bro this a standard lab , I'll go to a government Lab as you said. how long since d incident did you get d positive result? |
Romance / Re: My HIV Status by shege45: 9:42pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
Jenkings222: Earlier this year I was banging a runs babe unfortunately the condom burst , I didn't know bcoz I was high on alcohol until I cum. My intuition told me that this girl is Hiv + . After some weeks I noticed my body changes I developed fever unlike me , I summon courage to visit a Lab well equipped. The results showed I have malaria and HIV 1and 2 is reacting to the antibodies. I couldn't believe it the lab technician told me to come for Confirmatory Test. I thought about going for Hiv test elsewhere I went to 2 different it came out negative . I became confused because within me I was not okay. So I went back to the former lab for the Confirmatory Test and paid it came out positive that my is just starting . That there smaller Kit's to test Hiv . I have been wondering all my life have been extremely careful I don't have unprotected sex , I got annoyed to the point was the need while other guys bangs raw but couldn't contact it . This life no really balance , The Lab technician told me to buy Lamivudine and vitamin b complex that I should take it for 1 month . Then I should come for another test . Since I started taking it there's an improvement but Private Labs cost more . I'm thinking of going to FMC one far from my state . I don't know my chances of getting married and conceive a baby . Maybe I'll marry someone that's positive too , Just that I'm on stage of settling down I feel ashamed of myself I'm yet to tell any of my family members . They will feel disappointed . I'm supposed to have a girlfriend but the way girls dey bill person anyhow I started going for runs babes.
My little advice those going to brothels and hotels to have cheap sex or having sex with runs girls be careful condom can burst anytime is not %100 safe . Having a girlfriend is not safe too . I just dey avoid and hate girl's since then . There's not Gain in spreading it one can contact more diseases on the run . I'm just living my life for now . No Sex No girlfriend just extending my fund's to the needy and family members. bro, i don’t think You have it. Since you did it in two different labs and it was negative, there might just be a problem with dat lab, You rarely get false negative results. My advice, go to a government lab or a standard private lab and do it there. Come back and tell us, you would see you are negative 10 Likes |
Romance / Re: Am I Insecure?! by shege45: 4:31pm On Apr 02, 2022 |
Ezendimmuo: Good day people.. I called my girlfriend this afternoon... While we were talking..I heard music playing in the background.. I asked her who was with her... She said it's a friend in the lodge I asked her who it was because I know everyone I her lodge She started asking me why I was asking her all the questions... There is this guy in her lodge she told me she was attracted to while we were having an argument (she wished she hadn't said that) The Truth is that this girl has cheated on me in the past twice(those I know of)...I found out when i was with her phone... Tbh...I don't trust her anymore.. Anytime she says she is somewhere...a part of me says it's a lie.. I know she loves me..at the same time she is confused.. My question is this ... Is it a bad thing to call my girlfriend and ask her who she is wit or where she is?? Does that make me insecure?? Its a LDR...she is in Enugu..I am in Lagos bro, person cheat , you forgive am, she still get mind dey as you dis question? Lol you dey take rubbish. She is doing it again |
Romance / Re: I'm So Sad, My Close Friend Is Laying False Accusations On My Cousin And I by shege45: 6:34am On Apr 02, 2022 |
Nelllson: In as much I trust my cousin, I still asked her bia.. are you stealing from him? she said no and I believe her, if you call her a thief you're also calling me a thief.
There is no way my cousin will be stealing from him that I won't know. My cousin savings is about ₦210k when she showed me her bank balance and statements, and that's her salary she has been receiving and saving since she started working with him (January 5th 2021)
She need to go back to school for her HND by next year. bro, don’t entirely trust humans. E go shock you |
Romance / Re: Dear Men, Please Do Not Make This Terrible Mistake In Your Relationships (photo) by shege45: 4:47pm On Apr 01, 2022 |
siofra: I just say make I tell una.
Never leave a good woman because she mistakenly slept with another man Thank you which one b mistakenly again |
Travel / Re: What Are The Cons Of Moving Abroad? by shege45: 4:45pm On Apr 01, 2022 |
ike007:
Then go back to where you came from you be mumu bro. They asked the cons and I replied, I tell you said I wan go back? I don’t normally insult pple here but dis ur reply pain me. E no go better for ur mamA. Idiot Low life person U fit b small pikin wey dey hide behind phone. If |
Health / Re: I Had Sex! Doctors In The House Please Help Answer This? by shege45: 8:54pm On Mar 31, 2022 |
NeedHelpNow: Hello doc. I had sex with a condom yesterday, it didn't break or anything but I wasn't so sure and out of extra precaution I went to buy a PEP drug from a pharmacy store.
The drug is tenofovir, lamivudine efavirenz. Its meant to be taken for 28 days. Last night I took my first dosage and this morning been feeling sick, my head heavy, had a nightmare.
However, as I ate breakfast, I vomited the food. But am feeling better. Please what do I do? Could it be the drug's side effects? Do I stop medication?
do pharmacy sell ds? |
Family / Re: Help! My Wife Still Talks With Her Ex. by shege45: 7:57pm On Mar 30, 2022 |
Gracepikin33333: Good afternoon Nairalanders!
I have been suspecting my wife for some weeks now, so i decided to go through his phone whatsapp chats when she was asleep last night.
I saw her chat with her ex on how they both had sex when they were together before we got married and his ex was asking her about the last time we both had sex. Questions like did she enjoy it? They were both telling themselves how much they do miss each other. He was even trying to persuade my wife to find time for him. Please advise me on what to do! if it’s whatsap, clone her chat and observe |
Travel / Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by shege45: 8:42pm On Mar 29, 2022 |
WinterDreary: Hi all,
Trying to renew my Nigerian passport. but it looks like appointments are all booked into May. I really need a passport before end of April for travel. Is there a chance the embassy attends to people who didn't book on that specific day? I'm thinkin of just going to Ottawa and seeing if they'll attend to me this April. However, my appointment is for May. Don't know much about how things work there. Is this possible? email them, they would set up one for you. That’s how i did it |
Romance / Re: Fiancee Was Violated But I Found It Hard To Trust Her Again by shege45: 4:43pm On Mar 29, 2022 |
Pascopele: From on inboz
Good day,
I want to share my story,please keep me anonymous. I broke up with someone that I was in a relationship for almost two years. The relationship was the best I ever had. I think I am still in love with this lady but something happened that made me leave. And that has made me to have trust issues with ladies and I am finding it hard to trust even as I try new relationships.
Dupe (not real name) and I knew each other since 2016. We met during NYSC. I love that she was a homely and godly girl. After service year,I got a job but Dupe could not find a job for almost one year. So,I got her some money and she started a buying and selling business. I liked how industrious she was. She started an online business too. She would deliver orders to customers at their homes or offices.
Early this year,she made a delivery to a man and claimed that the man ended up raping her. I was livid and wanted to report the matter to the police but she said she did not want this to come out cos of the shame and stigma. I tried to convince her but she would not bulge.She begged me to let things be. I then asked her to tell me who the man was,she initially did not want to but maybe cause she did not want me to be suspicious,she told me but made me promise not to do anything about it.
God knows,no man will hear that his wife to be got violated and will do nothing about it. I tracked the man down and confronted him. He laughed and told me he never forced my girl. That it was a mutual agreement. He told her he liked her and before he could buy stuff from her,he wanted to sleep with her. At first,she resisted but he made her a handsome offer and she finally agreed. I told him he was a liar and I would deal with him but he said,go and ask your LovePeddler girlfriend to tell you the truth.
Now,this whole revelation was very hard on me. Here I was,dating this lady for two years with no s*x cos we wanted to wait until marriage and here someone else is claiming she willingly gave it to him? I could not take it and I asked her. Of course,she denied it. I then asked her to let us report to the police to prove her innocence but still she refused. She refused on the grounds of the shame and stigma of being known as a rape victim. She said,my family would also find out and hate her. I know it will be hard if people find out the truth but I did not care,I just wanted justice for her and wanted to make sure she was not lying.
This disagreement between us caused a strain in our relationship. It was clear there was trust issues. We could not get past it. She would cry and say that I am insensitive to her plight. I was torn between believing her and sticking with her. my brother, if she doesn’t agree to go to the police, she dey lie be that 6 Likes |