drpossibilities:
If you are currently working in a company that pays you N700,000 monthly and you are on the right path to becoming a director in that company by 2030 (8 years from now), will you resign and relocate to Canada? Note the following:

1. Directors earn not less than N2,200,000.00 monthly and salaries are reviewed upwards in the company annually.

2. You and the company both contribute to a pension fund with a reputable pension fund administrator monthly and your pension fund account balance in just 6 years of working with the company is over 8 million naira.

3. The company caters for the health needs of you, your spouse and 5 children at no cost to you under HMO.

4. You enjoy performance bonuses annually.

5. Your next promotion is to Assistant General Manager where you will begin to earn about US$6,000 per annum as foreign trips allowances.

6. You are married with 5 children.

7. You are 35 years old.

don’t try to relocate. I wanted to say because of health but it’s covered. Uncle, I dey Canada, you are living the life

300whitewolves:
It's nothing new to me anymore cos, counting it right now, it's 5 times now. This all started 2020, everything was good maybe to me though, but my gf was changing, picking fights with me every now and then, it just got too much I wanted to give up, later on she confessed to me that she made out with a guy in their church, prior to this time she was always telling me about this guy, how she went on sleeping with ladies in the church and all and how bad he was and all sorts, it was a thing of surprise to me that the same guy still nailed her, though she told me nothing happened except the making out that she was ashamed of herself and all. It caused a rift then but I seriously loved her and it was not going to be easy letting her go, later on when we made up she promised never to do the same thing again, but guys she ended up doing the same thing 4 times, and I end up forgiving her, fine some people might be thinking who the cukhold is this, but I ain't one, I already told myself this is not someone I can definitely marry, this fifth time broke everything, still the same guy again, the funny thing is I didn't even react because it's already over to me, the annoying this was that she told me to leave her alone, when we tried talking she was basically telling me to do what I feel it's right cos she doesn't have any excuse to give. I.am not going to give her the easy pill of me breaking up with her, she has to receive all the pain I have passed through to, am planning on proposing to another lady when I invite her for an outing, thats my plan.

lol

SilentQueen:
I have to come out and ask for help here because I can't tell my family members Pls don't judge me

My male Cousin on the mother side actually came home from Abroad 2 weeks ago for visiting so he choose our house as his base, he is in his late twenties while I am in my early twenties! I don't really know him that much and he is planning on staying for 6months. So me and him use to be home alone most times since my parents goes to work and my siblings are in school

He is so handsome, he actually looks like my dream man so I actually started crushing on him, wishing I could have him, but It is all shades of wrong having anything to do with my cousin so I keep it to myself So 2days ago we were home alone as usual but he said he wanted to gym, once he took off his clothes remaining his boxer I couldn't hold back myself and I was forced to give him a kiss which he loved it and we started kissing so passionately that we were about to get down, wen I realized that it wrong and had to pull away from him.

Since then I have hated him passionately and don't want to see him but he said he love what we had but my Conscience is killing me and my parents can kill me if they know about it... Nairalanders pls help me

I am stuck with him for now and he won't stop telling me how he wants more and I don't want to do anything further

and you have a bf abi

TkhGuy:
It's hurtful, I don't know which side of the coin you guys want to follow but, she came that day, uninvited like she use to & know I have to tell her when she starts touching me & reaching my sensitive zone, I held her hands for a while & broke the silence,

I did tell her that we aren't going anywhere after noticing how flirty she is from first 1 month of our date, but she kept coming back, I have broken up with her prior to this, but she still comes to my place uninvited,

She is curvy & seductive, she is beautifully personified,
I don't have time to chase after girls due to the nature of my job, so, she has been the only girl I have all along,


I have carefully made my choice, ladies you all need to learn this cos most Nigerian guys will not tell you this or force it on you..

I can't marry a girl who doesn't trust me, or projects condom forward just at the point of having Bleep with her,

I can't have a girl who can't cook as a wife but gf yes,

I can't harbor a girl who questions my authority as my wife, but as gf yes

I can't take a girl who challenges me even to point of picking up a fight with me as a wife, but as girlfriend, yes

I can't take a girl who disobeys me as my wife, cheating will be nothing to her,

I can't marry a girl who is unapologetic, for girlfriend, yes but not a wife

I can't marry a girl who's 80% contact is raging with boys, even if there are all her cousin, or she doesn't sleep with them I don't care,

I can't marry a girl who wears make up 247 when coming and going and always on a tight body revealing clothes, what that means is she is not done advising herself to highest bidder

This are the conditions & challenges that i tried hard to stop my girlfriend from but she wouldn't let go,

We have dated for more than 3 years but this attitude never changes,

I found someone whom all this came from without me pushing for it, now she is crying out her eyes,

u see that condom part, na where you lie. So because of stupid trust make she carry STI

Netmuch:
Hi fellow nairalanders,

I and my fiance were both bankers, I brought her in town and God used me for her to secure a job.

Where I used to stay was a bit further to our work place, so their is another banker guy who has a CR-V Honda car that usually drops her in the morning at her office whom she later became close friends with, although dey do call themselves whenever the guy is about leaving his house to pick up my fiancee, which I was aware of.

However, suddenly I realized that my fiancee WhatsApp chat is always cleared not to let me see their chats which I suspected a foul play, but the worst came last week when I was trying to get my car engine oil and I was approaching her, she was calling the guy, as I near her to eavesdrop on what she was talking with the guy, she quickly ends the call. I got angry that why will she not let me hear their conversations if truly she has nothing to do with the guy. I challenged her but she insisted nothing was going on between them that she had to end the call on my arrival which she has always call in my presence.

I don't want to be a fool as am about to end the relationship, but I guess I need your honest and positive response on this matter why she had to do what she did. I am a very simple guy and I believe every one should have their freedom. And I don't cheat.

I will love to hear your mature opinion on this.

Thanks.

bro, take this from me, she dey cheat

miltonchux:
Please who has idea, how much CT scan cost in Lasuth or any medical centre here in Lagos.

last I need of the abdomen was 40k, but now e go done increase

Moz22:
he was away when it happened... And he's yet to make a comment nor call me since yesterday

just apologize to her

Tunesco1:
Just trying to transfer a file from her phone when a message came in on whatsapp, I didn't bother at first but the content flashed again in my head, it's about going to see a movie..

She is actually planning to go and see a movie with this guy..

I have been overthinking, cos my instinct kept telling me, if a girl doesn't fancy a guy, she wouldn't accept to go on a movie date with him .. or can this be called insecurity too?

We are cool, no fight or issues of any kind oo, in short she just finished calling me now and our communication has not changed in any way..

I just want opinions concerning this , is this how girls who claims to be in a serious still goes out on a date with another man ? What is their motive ? Is it that they are considering dating the other man too or just for fun sake

would she be ok if you take a girl out on a date?

Saviourk:
Dude don't u have conscience at all?What of if she is saying the truth. I don't know why some of u are callous nd insensitive..

woman never do you something

realestate99:
........with my little time on Earth, I have realized that there are two groups of people that lie vehemently like it is a work to be accomplished
1. Politicians
3. Ladies in their prime ( age wise)

exactly. I done learn my lesson

Dizzyyish:


This is the same thing I posted on that thread;

I've said it before and I'll say it again:

Never take a woman's word at face value. Always get both sides of the story before you decide what is what.

A woman's defence is her presumption of innocence, so she'll naturally try to preserve this presumption--this is also another reason for their tendency to avoid accountability.

She would most likely omit the parts of the story that paints her in a bad light (and also to seek validation from people on the internet)

1. There's never one unhealthy person in a relationship i.e. like attracts like.

2. If she was "the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of" she wouldn't be single at 31, let's be honest.

3. Throughout her post she didn't once mention anything she did wrong so that means she was just dating a moustache-twirling villain who left her for no reason whatsoever.

4. The last point is amplified by her "best girlfriend ever" comment meaning she has no capacity for reflection, hence; no sense of accountability.

no mind her. They are all cheats

Mccullum:


I think your conclusion on cheating could be the cause of disengagement by the guy in their relationship, some guys are not consistent in decision making, some doesn't have value for their pledges and some only closer to ladies for specific interest, conclusively, some could be dating without seeing that lady as wife at all, such guy usually using such lady for other social desires.

There's a relationship which the lady so humble and sincere to this guy, still the guy will be telling me that he can't marry her, when I asked why, he said she's too gentle, and always agreed on what ever he asked her to do without any question, He broke her heart by marrying another lady, but he regretted his decision because God used that lady he married to punished him beyond his thought.

The lady he left is now happily married, the guy first marriage ended in divorce, though he's remarried but still facing another challenges. Just be hopeful and move on, you'll get your own husband at ease.

where can i find this movie on YouTube

LilMissFavvy:
You will be fine, move on with your life, the right man will come to you. These days, majority of ladies are settling in their 30s, so you are not late. The most important thing I want to say is that, YOU SHOULD NEVER EVER LET A MAN TIE YOU DOWN FOR MANY YEARS IN THE NAME OF "RELATIONSHIP". If after dating for 6months and above, and a man doesn't state clearly where the relationship is heading to, then you know you should not put all your eggs in one basket.

na ds you should not put all your eggs in a basket they make dem cheat, then they cheat, and give a nonsense excuse. Why not just leave rather than putting your eggs in separate baskets

seanwilliam:
as crazy as this might sound, it’s the reality.

Trust me, no man will leave an invaluable woman that adds positivity to his life. Also don’t forget there are two sides of a story. Some men would have seen the red flags in you but then will keep hitting the couchie if it’s sweet and will drop it like a hot yam when they see thd right person ..I don’t think any man will marry a woman out of pity.










5 years is too much though but then it’s what it is. Life is unfair. This same woman will dump him if she sees better offer

”better offer “ key word

DoggoneDogg:
Hahahahahaha
Nothing sweet me pass d tears of a Nigerian female. Auntie when u were jumping from gbola to penis keeping like 3 options, you nor remember abi. You thought you were smart then, calling it "don't put your eggs in one basket".

Now ya eye don clear

exactly

Graceihotu:
Aswear with my life, I never cheated on him. As a matter of fact I tell him whenever any guy asked me out. If it's based on cheating then I am practically innocent

lol na so una dey talk. I learnt my lesson but it was fast

czarr:
That guy has been detaching himself emotionally from you little by little and you failed to notice it. It's not easy for a guy to move on to another lady if he is emotionally invested for up to 5 years.

Here is what I believe, he is paying you back for something you did to him in the course of your relationship, he felt hurt and betrayed, he may even have discovered something you did behind his back and chose not to confront you but just to waste your time as revenge. Did you cheat on him in the 5years period and thought he won't find out, after all what he doesn't know won't kill him.

It's easy to be an angel when you are 31 what about when you were 26 and you still had market value, did you do something that you thought he may have forgiven you because he can't do without your hot body.

Think hard and well, nobody is that terrible of a person,it's just that some people don't forgive betrayal.

this is d truth. She go don do something for past

spencekat:
Bro, fastly leave her.Don't wait for anytime to strike.Please run to avoid regrets.I am speaking from experience.

what regrets? Please explain

nigeriagospel:
If I do worse to the girl am dating now, even heaven will not blame me, ladies sometimes think they can fool men.

A man can hold grudge and still keep you while waiting for the perfect time to strike.

The one am dating now is 33, one of her ex wasted over 6 years of her prime.

She has cheated on me with several guys, which I found out from her phone.

Recently she even denied she is not in a relationship while chatting with one man. I just laugh it off, she don't even know what is waiting ahead of her.

This said lady is having birth challenges with child birth I have been informed about it unknown to her, cos we are from same place,now she is trying to hang it on me not until I burst her. Fear women oooo, woe betides any man that pities woman.

lol no mind dem

TheGidRedpiller:
This Is Funny But, Before You Send That Money For T-Fare, Ensure That You Are Actually Getting What You Are Paying For, Set Up A Pricing Model Where You Can Easily Withdraw Out Of, CHECK REVIEWS To Ensure Quality!

True. By the time all men begin to do like this, women would learn to work for their stuff

bepositive11:
Please enlighten us Nairalanders on the cons of moving abroad to give us a more balanced view of what life is like abroad.

Please share your negative experiences and your struggles to settle in and to get to a point of living comfortably.

No positive experiences, please. Only the negative ones since we always hear the positives.

Cc: lalasticlala

its boring here

Thrycimacus:
Hello guys I'm in need of a solution. I started dating my babe since last year, and we plan on getting married this year.

Believe me, I'm completely in love with her. Since I met this girl, it's as though every other girl isn't worth my time. I would say that we love ourselves to the best of my knowledge.

I didn't ever believe that my babe was a cheat, so I don't suspect her, neither do I read her text messages , nor even ask who called her and all that.

Something stupid happened today though. I checked my babes whatsapp chat out of curiosity without her permission (please guys forgive me for that). She was working on a project beside me while I was reading her chat.

I noticed she wasnt comfortable as I told her I only wanted to preview her whatsapp stickers. As I spent more time with her phone, she became so worried that she had to get her phone, asking what I was doing with her phone.

I told her I was reading her chat, then she got real angry, that I shouldn't have read her messages. There are contents there she doesnt want me to see.

Pretending as though I havent seen anything yet, I asked her , which content? Then she was already angry and collected her phone.

I tried getting g her phone but to no avail. Then I sat her down. Babe tell me, are you a lesbian ? She vehemently denied, asking why I will even ask her such question. Then I told her about her chat with one girl. She was trying to defend her self that the chat doesnt mean anything. The said chat was actually lesbian related.

I asked my babe, is the girl you were chatting with a lesbian, she said yes. I said fine, give me your phone let me continue reading then if you have nothing to hide from me. She refused.

I told her that her refusal only means 1 thing, and that can threaten our very relationship...

To cut the low g story short, at some point, she began to cry. I told her I knew she was a lesbian from that chat, I only wanted her to tell me with her mouth. She didnt directly admit it though, but she said that she was working on fixing her problem.

Admit it baby, so I know if its something I can fix with you, babe said she will tell me everything tomorrow, that she can't get herself to discuss anything with me today. With this, I had to understand and let her go. Hopefully tomorrow she can confide in me finally about her (I suppose) lesbian affairs.

Honestly I love this babe. Up until today, i have always believed that she loves me too. But this revelation is really threatening to destroy my future with her.

Before she left today , after I must have given her my word that telling me all her dark truth will not stop me from loving her, she said I was saying those just so she can open up. That if I leave her or change my behaviour towards her when she tell me what shes been hiding, it will not be good.

Please guys, how do I face this serious problem now in a mature way ?

Please I'm not here to play, I need mature contributions.

I created a new account for privacy sake

you should be happy. I love lesbians. Na to dey cheat with my fellow man I dislike. With woman, u r free so long you tell me

Maxfrancis:
So guys she just texted me on WhatsApp, that she's back from church,abeg Nairalanders which church dey start around 7am in the morning close around 9pm .i saw her chats but I am not replying any at all ... definitely she would come over tomorrow after work ...then I will play her records to her..but before that I will still have to snoop on her phone again...to dig out more infos so when I show her, she would really be dumbfounded

abeg dey quote us so we go know say u don reply. We need ds gist

AgirlsNightmAre:
There's no need celebrating
A relapse is knocking at your door, do something to prevent it
Keep on fighting champ

lol una no nice

Maxfrancis:
Well my current relationship is about breaking
So my babe came on Friday to spend the weekend at my place, during her stay I always notice a particular number always texting her on WhatsApp,I didn't bother asking who it was .. guess what when she went to bath I took her phone unlocked it and stared snapping the whole chat with the unknown number.. guess what,it's a guy ...they been chatting for quite some time and the guy even sent her transport fare to come visiting today..
This morning she went to church early, till now her phone isn't going through neither is she online on Whatsapp, she's no where to be found...well she's probably with that guy ..this is a girl I cherish so much ..well all my feelings for her done die ..

lol no mind am. I go like hear how e go

orohbiro:
You bought her gift then she break ur heart or u guys have quarrel or she rejected ur proposer u went ahead to collect your gift u are a weak man not a strong man.
In fact u not a gentle man u are not qualify to be a man in the ist place.
If u are doing that u should stop it is embarrassing

lol we agree say we weak. As you strong buy Am yourself

Kelvin2022:
I would love the house to advice me on this one because my heart is bleeding �, this is my first time experiencing hrt break it's so painful.
We were so inlove at first and it was the happiest moments of my life because i finally got the woman of my dreams after 2years of chasing her, we dated for just 7 months and she just left without giving me reasons�, i noticed something fishy when she started giving me attitudes and ignoring my calls so when i finally got her on phone she boldly told me she's dating someone else, how do you just start dating someone else whilst still in a relationship with me that's what i asked her and she said i shouldn't ask her stupid questions that i can leave if i want to. I cried repeatedly, i begged her not to do this to me i couldn't take it she just told me she's dating the guy because she's benefiting more financially from her but to be sincere with you guys i had been doing my best to support her financially, i always attend to her financial needs except the ones bigger than my capability. few weeks ago she had an accident not so severe though so i seized that as an opportunity for us to make amends i told her i want to be a better person, i want us back together again and she accepted but before you ask about the other guy, she told me she's no longer dating the guy which i believed her because she showed me evidence.
I thought we were cool together and i was making sure she's getting all the care she needs whilst she on her sick bed i spent a lot of money i attended to all her financial demands but i noticed she was still giving me cold attitudes and i confronted her then she broke it to me that she was just trying to force herself to love me again but it's not working that it's best we move on, i cried uncontrollably i have been trying to move on but it's not working, I'm going crazy, i feel so depressed. Please for those that has experienced this before i would love you to advise me on how to handle this ��.
Before you think if I'm still a kid, i am 28 yrs old and she's 23.

Thank you ��

as hard as it is, i would tell you to move on

Baitullah:
Mistakenly slept with my ex

You are not serious at all.

I tire ooo

Mendeline:
My traditional wedding is in 2 months time but I just discovered I am pregnant. My last period was 19 of January and on 23rd, I had sex with my ex mistakenly and it happened without protection. I didn't allow him release his fluid inside me because I started feeling pains and when he pull out, there was plenty blood on his dick. So yesterday I went for scan and I was told I am 5weeks 5days gone. From the scan gestational sac was seen but fetal pole hasn't formed yet
From 25th January my husband to be has been having sex with me almost everyday. Now I don't know who is responsible for my pregnancy.
Doctors in the house, please who could be responsible? I don't want any issue in my marriage

why you go said you had sex mistakenly? Was it rape?

siofra:
I hate being in the kitchen and I will soon marry. I don't know what to do, I hope my very Nigerian husband to be will understand.

I also hate doing house chores because I think it's slavery. Am I doomed?

just have your own money wey u fit take hire house keeper incase ur husband no get

Beremx:
The current situation of the country made him to still be living under your roof. Don’t frustrate him and make him misbehave. He’s still a good boy unlike some sons who are jobless and shameless. Give him more time to look for a better job and let him move on

did you read it well? He is not chasing him. He only needs him to contribute to the house from the little proceeds he gets from the teaching job

YoungThug14:
Good day y’all. I trust you guys are doing great this weekend.

Just want to share something with you guys and not to seek for any advice but please pardon my errors.


I met this girl late January via online (FB) and we vibe together, few weeks later I invited her over for the weekend of which she came. When she went back we continued and it seems everything is going well. She do most of the callings because am not good with calls.

When she came we discussed alot of things, she asked if i’m into any relationship and I said NO! Of Which is true because I find it very difficult to date. I told her I have been single for over 6 years but not that I don’t have Se* because I do whenever I feel like. Told her I do hookups whenever i feel like to have Se*. But I wanna give love a chance and see what happens between us.


Now to her own side, she told me that she hasn’t been in any relationship for over 8 months and also she doesn’t believe in love anymore due to too much heartbreaks. (I do understand her tho) so I asked her about her se* life and she asked me to promise her not to get mad if she tells me of which I did.

She told me that she has this guy that she normally calls to come over to her apartment and romance her (ONLY ROMANCE ACCORDING TO HER ) of which she pays the dude after work done. I was like “WOW”


I told her to stop it of which she promised, the thing is that I’m falling for her already and also I noticed that she’s in love with me (still doubting it) as a street Nigga I watch her moves very well despite she’s a bit far from me. she’s a jealous type too.


Now she has been on my neck to come spend the weekend with her in her place since she has been to mine almost four times and we live in the same state but bit far from each other but I keep posting her of which I finally gave in, OK. I arrived at her place yesterday to spend the weekend with her.

I came around her phone while she was making her hair at the nearby salon to check this particular number that keeps calling her even when she was in my place of which I asked her and she said Na her ex (ex wahala lol) Guess what? This girl is a cheat lol I saw their conversations and voice messages lol I quickly forwarded all the voice messages to my WhatsApp and deleted them from her message.


I listened to all the voice messages but I was not shocked at all lol, not only the so called ex. I went to her fB messages and see all her conversations with men, the one that got me mad was when one of her toasters asked her if she’s in a relationship and she boldly said NO! I took a screenshot aswell, she finally walked in and I pretended like everything was good lol


First thing I did when she walked in, I went to her and give her a romantic kisses and bleed her real good to the extent that she kept asking “babe what happened? you have never bleed me like this before” I told her sh*t always happens. As I’m typing this now she’s inside her room while I’m in sitting room.


I sha don tell her to go cook white rice and stew with turkey for me because Na wetin I wan eat be that. In her mind all is well lol I have decided to keep bleeding her till I go back to my place then when I got home I will forward the voice messages to her and that will be the END!

This is the reason why I don’t wanna be in any relationship honestly! What of marriage? Don’t think it will work for me either. I have made up my mind for baby mama SIMPLE!

Thank you guys for reading! And happy Sunday!!!

abeg give us update oooo. This one sweet