It means 'Welcome'!
I understand basic french
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Making it personal doesn't make a difference as to whether a person should accept responsibility for their actions and knowing the difference between right and wrong. This doesn't change because they are close to me.

If something is wrong and they do it anyway, they know the risk. If they and adult, capable of making informed decisions and show they don't care about the risk and they make the choice to act out violently anyway, then caring about what happens to them is not my concern. They made the choice, they live with the reprocussions. I have experience had abusive people in my life. At the end of the day, I had to decide whether I will put the long term health and well being of those involved first or put the abuser first. I will always choose me and my children.
If children grow up in an enviroment seeing certain behaviors, they have a better chance of growning up thinking that behavior is acceptable. If you stand up and show that specific things are not, then it at least challenges the seeds that have been planted.

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"Even if i will have to conseider very well if its worth spoiling his life for him.
He goes to jail has lost his job maybe house etc. For even two slaps its not worth it.
For a bblueeye maybe also not . may be if i land in hospital and he used the fist.
But not for an open hand slap, "

Violence is violence.
If he is stupid enough to put his hands on you, then he deserves what he gets.
Whether its a baseball bat or a night in jail to think about other ways he COULD have handled that situation.
Men, just like anyone else, need to take responsibility for their actions. They can't expect to control what people do because they don't like a behavior.
How can one teach children that they reap what they sow - but acting out violently, with only a slap or two is the way to go. How can one expect to tell a child that temper tantrums are wrong if there are adults who act out because they don't get their way?
Not cool at all.

What does a person tell the children of an abusive parent?
Well - for starters, NOT telling them something and treating it like its acceptable plants seeds that abuse is okay. If you don't like something someone says or does - hit them! Then the cycle continues.

Telling them daddy f**ked up and needed to learn a lesson.

It would be a learning experience for all! Kids learn hitting is wrong, Dad learns to keep his hands to himself (hopefully).
Mommy earns the respect of the kids because she didn't roller over and continue to be a victim.

As for Domestic Violence in North America, the rules differ depending on where you are.
There are some women who won't press charges against a man who has abused them, but the city will proceed and the woman has nothing to say about it. Seattle, Washington is like that, I know there are other places as well.

Since this is an open forum, I would love to read more perspectives other have to share - especially from the personal experience of others and what they've learned, why their love didn't last. Minimizing any shared thoughts by referring to them as an 'addendums' to one post (which was copied from the internet) doesn't encourage people to share.
I hope more people keep building on this - I know a lot of heartbroken and frustrated people who would love to read what anyone has to say.

I was searching on Google for dark skinned models, and somehow this came up in the results. I have found numerous forums of interest and noticed how well articulated some of the posts are. So far, I am happy to support it.

I think there are a number of reasons why love doesn't last in relationships.
Now stick with me because this will be kinda deep.

One of the main reasons relationships don't last is because people "fall in love" with an IMAGE. Whether it's an image we create of ourselves or an image of what we think someone else is. I think this is something we all do or have done at some point.

Human beings live by experience.
Our personalities are defined by the experiences we gain and the choices we make.
Many of us also pick up on patterns. If we run into the same situation repeatedly, we come to expect certain things to happen. This is the case in social interaction as well.
We make up our minds that people who display characteristics A, B, C are this type of person and
someone who displays D, E, F is another type of person.
Based on the 'images' we create of people when we meet them, we immediately;
(a) Make up our minds based on a number of interactions whether or not someone is or isn't worth our time
(b) Convince ourselves of the things this person would NEVER do and believe it
(c) We look for 'signs' to confirm our beliefs of what the person is REALLY like. We see these things as 'PROOF' to their character.

Then the inevitable happens - that person does something that surprises us or hurts us. That person does something that we didn't expect. That person 'changed'. In reality, we should really question whether the IMAGE we created of this person was inaccurate. Were we oblivious to the changes in this person? We felt betrayed and love goes away.
Sometimes it happens in another way, where WE have an image of who WE think we are or who we want to be - other people in our lives buy into it and when they realize the image that we created was inaccurate, they feel betrayed and love disappears.

Knowing this, I try to make a conscious effort to look at every person as a blank page. To outsiders (people who don't know me) I appear naive, stupid or too-trusting. I care not. I have won the most remarkable and rewarding opportunities and friendships by being open and giving people a chance to show their colors. Being this way also has its perks in weeding out the shady, undesirable types as I just give peeps enough rope to hang themselves and it never fails.
But I digress.

I look at it like this, a person CAN affect another in 3 places.
(1) Intellectually - Example: you can talk for hours because their brain turns you on
(2) Physically - Example: when you see them, you want to know what they taste like - every single day.
(3) Emotionally - Example: from the time you got to know them, something in you just wants to be there for that person

If the person in your life only falls into one of these categories, you can either take more time to see if the other two will develop -OR- draw a clear line stating to you and them that this is all it is to avoid any misunderstandings.

If you are lucky, someone may only affect 2 of the above - don't mistake it as love. If you do, the relationship will tire. Give it time, one could drop off or another could be gained.

I was the one out of all my friends who no one thought I would ever get married. I loved being single and playing men the way men play women. I have been with my husband for 3 years and he is the first man who never bored me. He is gorgeous, talented, intellectual, he constantly makes me laugh and we are always talking. We are both quiet passionate and artists. I enjoy being in his company because there is so much I can learn from him, so I respect him. His family comments on how much happier and healthier he is and how he's so much better dealing with stress. He says he's learned that from me. People make fun of us because we are always together. Things don't have to change as long as two people are together for the same reasons and they keep growing and changing together.