Genesiszero:
My brother has been a well disciplined man, he has married a woman whom he love dearly, sometimes I wish If I was a woman, I'll marry him! Gentle, calm, humble, educated, exposed with a very good source of livelihood. Doesn't smoke, drink or womanize And most importantly, God fearing. Maybe heritage from our dad.

But I never could have imagined it that what seems like a blissful marriage of my brother could end just like that. What is the problem? Social media! They had an issue, and she went and posted it there, from WhatsApp to Facebook and the worst of all twitter and some stupid women group which she seems to be a member of, may be there is some Judges there, come and see some people passing judgment even without hearing the other side of the story.

He warned her series of time not to ever post any family related issues to the media. I can remember while I was still with them, he always tells her if she ever has anything about him, she should call him and discus it with him or better still report to our parent. I don't know if it's a family thing for us or something, personally, I'm not too good with these social media of a thing.

To the best of my knowledge, my brother is the best and cool personality I had ever come in contact with, But these act of hers has been the height of it for him.

Brethren as I'm talking to you now, my brother has contacted a lawyer to prepare the divorce papers. Our parents and family members has called a meeting, we begged him for almost a week now but he stood his ground about the divorce, her family has come to apologize and beg for reconciliation for the both of them but to no avail, I spoke to him personally and begged like what you could ever imagine but our please fell on deaf ear. He personally told me that if his wife had gone to the court, he would've preferred it. If there is absolutely anything I know about my brother is him being a man of his words. She has done countless of things to him and She'll call us to apologize all the time and he'll forgive especially when my mom is involved. But for these I don't know what To say, she has cried and cried her eyes all out but for where It seems My brother has made up his mind, But if I may ask the ladies, why always the social media, going out there to claim the victims card.

Sorry I don't have much time neither am I good with telling stories, if not, I should have narrated what led to the whole problem but is a long epistle on it own....

Why is too hard to know what your spouse want and dislike. Note: he doesn't even want you posting his image in any media platform even on his birthdays, we're kinda some sort of reserved people in my family.

The marriage is three years old.
Not everybody likes these social media of a thing.

You are like your brother...you come here to post this lengthy thing but can't tell us what she did that is leading to divorce...maybe the woman has been subdue to an ordinary house wife....
If he fails to forgive her he should go and create Mrs perfect...I am married and can't allow anyone not even my siblings to come and settle anything between us...

Alvanbenjamin:
Good morning everyone.
Please I had a shop I was making use of till I gained admission 8nto the university and still paid for the shop without use for over 2 years...
After the pandemic in 2020, I decided to rent the shop out cause I was seriously affected and was already in my final year... I paid two years rent for the shop, running from February 2021to January 2023. Then I got a letter about rent increase, few months it was followed by the court order...

Please is this right? What should I do ?
The first picture is the receipt I was issued after payment, the 2nd is the increase letter and then the one sent from the court.

You rent out someone's property and asking if its right to serve you a notice to quit...

Next time spend ONLY WHAT YOU CAN LOOSE...

IF SHE ISN'T YOUR WIFE IS JUST LIKE A GAME...

[quote author=Newcon123 post=104324303]Hello All, permit me to add to the avalanche of marital issues that have graced the front pages of nairaland lately. I will try not to bore you with too much details, but the volume of these issues sometimes makes one think this whole 'Happy marital life' thing is just a mirage.

Have been in this relationship with this lady for quite some time now. I met her through a close relative. My family members have always wished that I marry a lady from my tribe. Although I have never been fixated about that, I thought this will also address my parents concerns.

About a year into the relationship, she moved abroad for a BSc program. Unfortunately she didn't meet my immediate family before then because I felt it was kind of early. But my family knew about this.

Honestly, she's one of the most ambitious and hardworking ladies I have had any serious relationship with. However, she's got this nagging, abusive and unforgiving attitude that tend to have overridden the positives. In fact, this was almost soiling her relationship with my family if not that I keep most of these issues away from my family (because some of these abusive attitudes were being directed to my family members whom see erroneously believe have all my attention and my finances).

A little about me: I am generally calm and quiet and typically find excessive talk tiring. I am generally doing well in Nigeria, with some attractive 6-7 figures salaries.

Marrying this lady gives me a golden opportunity to start my family abroad (especially considering the poor prospect in Nigeria for upcoming generations). But the nasty attitudes (that are worsening by the day) have been massive concerns for me.

Interestingly, I am even beginning to look at other ladies that seem to be better off in terms of attitudes, even though they haven't achieved what this lady has achieved.

So I have been battling with several questions in my mind: should I sacrifice my happiness for moving abroad? Should I give a chance to those that truly love me for who I am (and am beginning to really love)? Note that divorce is not an option for me.[/quote

You mean without her you can't move abroad?
Don't marry cos of the reasons mentioned above...marry who loves you and who you truly love...
She knows why you are interested in her...

Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons

She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.

I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.

Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.

Matured advice please

You are in school and 24...what is your source of income bro...

KinzyeWriter:
What do you do when a girl ignores your texts?

We are just friends but she usually ignores my text.

Share the contents of the text...

??

phillip001:
please house,i have been into a relationship for five year now,we started when we where in the university, we finished our nysc last  two years, now due to no good job the relationship needs Gods help to continue as the girl is afriad to stay.i dont know what to do cos i love this girl very much.please want do i do??

If you truly love her ,free her...


Better days ahead...

remi4ever:


Correct, but you do not generate banner codes, you embed your Publisher ID, and ad unit Into your activity codes, and also in your manifest file before you can start showing ads.

Advice: Don't do any self clicking app, it'll end in tears. I've heard loads of complains from people telling how they were scammed by people who built a useless app that is suppose to give them money if they self click.

Google is not stupid.

I did like to know more, please

smadav:


I don't feel anything for anylady at all including my baby mama, but I love my boys, I just have sex with them nothing, even my current girlfriend, treat her like trash and she don't derserve it, after love making I can decide to just chase her out without reason, and she there not argue me or I slap the shit out of her, I tell you it's that bad.

Read books man,don't be proud and just know that u need to love to be loved...
You 26, you don't like her but gotten two kids already....marry your love(baby mama)

History555:
I need candid advise pls no insults. I got married 2years ago, of recent i noticed my wife has been spending so much time online. Not that its unusual to me because i know shes kind of addicted to her phone.
But suspicion made me pick the phone on several occasions but it was paasworded. Finally i was able to discover the password after many trials and to my surprise she has been chatting steadily, morning and night with this guy.
Not only that the guy calls her sweet names and she responds. Even to the extent of telling her he wished they were married. Her response showed she was receptive to the idea. Then she asked him why he did not make a move since and he blamed his financial status.
In summary i hve seen enough, though i hve neva confronted her. My plan is to inform my people b4 calling the marriage off.

Pm me...

aimuan:
Thankx for the advice anyway. But I am actually not interested in that Toto.I have gone past that.Toto does not really move me,I just need a wife that all..

My advice is since it doesn't move you,and the girl in question has tested it with her 'EX' just allow them to be having it together till after marriage....

WilliamsTheGrea:
Hello everyone, my name is Williams, I'm a young guy of 26 years old currently engaged to a very pretty young lady who is 24 years old

I do business online and earn good income before I decided to find a lady and settle down with and luckily I found a good one who is decent and don't flirt around or do social media's like whatsapp or Facebook. Hardly receives calls, not friendly with males lol (I managed to woo her through a church member)

We have been 1 year into the relationship now and we are to get married next month but guys the problem I am having now is that she has a child for another man which is her ex she was with when she was young she gave birth at age 20, we dated for about 7 months before she told me this.

Ever since then I haven't really been myself, the child is a male child who lives with her mother but recently the mother called her to come carry the child as she can no longer look after him due to him being a very stubborn boy, the child is 4 years old.

Now she has gone to bring the child to our home, a two bedroom apartment, I'm a kind of guy who loves peaceful environment with no single drop of noise, now ever since the child came in about a week now, I have not had peace, we have quarreled several times because of the child, I'm not really comfortable with the child because I can't love another man's child as my own

My girlfriend is yet to give me a child of my own, the child runs around and doesn't listen except when beaten and each time I beat the boy up when he does wrong my girlfriend looks at me with hatred like I'm maltreating the boy because I'm not the father.

Please guys help me I don't know what to do but I can't cope with the child, I remember paying the child school fees about 3 times since we are together because the child's father isn't doing anything at all.

Now today is the child's birthday and she is asking me for money to get him cake and take him out.


My people of nairaland I cannot accept another man's child no matter what I love the mother but not the child the connection is just now there because the boy isn't of my character I'm a calm man, very calm but the boy is very radical and stubborn children irritate me so much.

I don't know what to do.

Each time this child topic comes up between I and my girlfriend she becomes bitter.

She says she will never take the child to the father or the family of the father that she must raise the child herself.

I don't think I can help train anothrr man child whom in the end will go and find his father after he is all grown.

Please I need advice, she says over her death body will she return the child to the father

I'm not comfortable in my own home.

A lot of things running through my mind like to break up with her for peace to reign

Or rent another apartment for her and the boy to go live in.

Please I need matured advice

Don't be selfish...train him and forget the biological father...God will reward you...thank you

Biafrareform:
Good morning all, for those still awake.

I think my relationship just ended. Something we both cherish.

Well, months back my ex and I came back together. We had a bliss relationship while in our final year, but I wasn't committed at all and she knew it and left. Back then in school she kept going to my phone and of course she do see things to talk about .

After 1 year of being apart, I needed a committed relationship cos I wanted to settle down. She came to my mind and the feelings was so strong even though I tried to resist it. We finally met and resolved all issues that led to her leaving .

Is been the sweetest memory we have had so far. Everything was going fine. She is a nice and sweet girl. Our agenda is marriage and she is aware. She fits perfectly to my ideal woman. Our emotional and spiritual connection is just perfect.

Well, things take a turn when I went to her phone and saw stuff that knocked me out. What really got me mad was her dating a married man. My emotion was dead. She said the relationship is in the past. She was forced to go into it after she left school. Her mum forced her into it when she stopped caring for her and asked her to go fend for herself. Then we weren't together. She confessed to becoming someone else from who I knew when I didn't tried to bring her back. But she is not a bad as I think , she concluded .

I also saw her chat with someone where she sent a bedroom pics she took in my house. She said she is just flirting with him (they have a fling) but that I should give her time, she is going to completely cut of tiers with them.

Well, I love her was ready to stay with her.
She was around again this Val and was tempted to check again and noticed she is still communicating with the married man. Infact I noticed they met lately in January. I locked up , and decided that is over. Didn't talk to her about it.

We went out for on Saturday. She is the type that hardly post on Facebook. Infact she has reduced my activities on Facebook. Her reason, our lives shouldn't be on social media.
I uploaded our outing on WhatsApp. She did too, but didn't upload the one we took together. Yea, she hasn't done that b4. I was angry and voiced out what I saw in her phone. Accused her of deliberately hiding us from her contacts.
She apologised and told me she isn't doing anything with the man again. Just the normal chat cos of the friendship they have had b4 . She even handed her phone to me to call him and end it if I want . I wasn't taking any of that cos I saw from her browsing history where she is been searching how to make a married man fall in love and spend on her but didn't let her know of it.
She pleaded that nothing is happening between them again. Then she begged that I should stopped going to her phone that is destroying us. That if I ended up destroying this relationship, where do I want her to start.

She is back to her base and we chatted last nite and she brought up the case of me going to her phone again and I was angry with that and told her about the browsing history too.

She was completely devastated with my findings.
Is lengthy right, sorry about that. This is a relationship we both cherished and I know she love me real good. Ohh, I forgot to tell you, she bought me a native dress and sent 6k to me from her 33k NYSC allawee. She is a good girl. She is nice and caring. I love this girl real good. Never loved anyone like this before.

But I don't know what has really gone wrong with her. I was determined to really make this right, but as it stand now, it seems dead to me and I am sure she also feels same too.

I should have stayed away from her phone. But guys, is not my fault, I love this girl and I am serious about it.

You guys are not yet married...no one is perfect even you...if you think she can't change let go and look for a pretender...

ayoadeifee:
I Am writing this with my heart bleeding with too much pains, I need help!!!!! My mom has been working with the government as a teacher for the past thirty two years, she's upright and diligent and a very hardworking woman, she's the best teacher I grew up to know.

She was promoted to head teacher November last year after all she's due for it. In another school, the same local government, there are rifts and fights within that school which is school 1,2,3 which does not have anything to do with my mom, suddenly they called my mom from SUBEB, they want to transfer her to that school where they have been having loggerhead. But it's not that she doesn't want to go but my mom has health challenges. She's high blood pressure patient and the place of primary assignment is very far from our residence so she refused to collect the letter of transfer and she presented her doctor's report at SUBEB.

I forget to add that the other person they transferred to my mom school from the school they are having rifts was well known at SUBEB and was a very powerful person so she initially pointed where my mom was heading that she want that place or they transfer her back to her sch back, but my mom refused it, and since she has the back up of SUBEB, the chairman and almost everyone at that SUBEB came this morning and chased my mom out of her office saying she was suspended. They do not only cheated her but they also humiliated and violated her human right and harassed her publicly just because we don't know anybody from the government.

Meanwhile it's just within the local government, it has not reach the state level, At this present moment we don't know what to do. She has been so devastated and sad since morning. We have been praying but we still don't know what to do.

Next time advise your Mom not to reject or refuse to go on transfer...it would have been better to go and later present her health issues to her Superior (s).

kellywiz300:
@smarttm a month and

Thanks

kellywiz300:
Just got paid today....... Yougov Australia
Australian Vpn needed

How many weeks were you able to reach minimum threshold...
Please can you inbox me...thanks

abiolap89:
He his a citizen of that country nd he can't use western union cause he has no domincilary account nd besides he wanted to deliver goods to me so used d opportunity to stash the cash in there

Please do you need an account to send money through Western Union?

MYDEBBY:
Dear Nairalander I greet you all.Pls I need candid advice,I have dated my wife for over six years with an issue,and now that we have done traditional rites and about to climax with white wedding she is giving flimsy excuses that she is no longer interested in me.She is currently in final year and has drastically changed in her dressing and attitude towards due to influence of friends in school. Often I do report incidences of her recent poor dressing to her parents after cautioning her she will channel the grievances to me.The recent one made her so angry that she started recanting all my past mistakes which she and her family are aware of and have resolved since now using it as an excuse against me that she is no longer interested. She kept mute for over two weeks due to anger yet I still transferred money twice to her but up till now she did not acknowledged it,only for her to send text that she need money for our daughters school fees.I then decide to visit them off campus where they stay yesterday with lots of provision yet she could not say a common thank you.While I was still making peace with her asking her to forgive me for whatever wrong I have done to her by reporting her to her parents,promising not to do so again,a guy knocked the door,and she went out after the guy I asked a relation who was there who was the guy and he said he is my wife's friend,I quickly followed them on citing me the guy diverted after their discussion about me.when we then entered the house I asked her who was the guy and she said that's not my business. I kept quiet.after a while I called her parents to tell them the situation of things that their daughter said she is no longer interested they now asked us to come down to the village to see them this coming weekend.I know things are not alright somewhere and as such I need straight forward advice on what to do.pls no insult just help out.Thanks

My opinion:
1) You don't believe you can make it without her
2) You can't force it on her
3) like you are still struggling
4) You not acting like a MAN
5)JUST KNOW WHAT SHE DISLIKES ABOUT YOU SO CAN FIX IT AND MOVE ON...don't ever beg anyone to marry you...

glimpse33:


You're missing out.
Importation profits ranges from 200k to 500k monthly.

But, You've to know your "onion" in order to succeed in the business.

I am interested

eddybest:

Let me show you how to approve your upwork account 101 times without disapproval message

I have an account but has not been able to get any project after sending several proposals

I applied for shipping officer's role,has anyone been invited...

Thanks

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

The solution is very easy...go and meet ewa beans seller,learn how he/she prepares it...just try your your best because this is not a problem...

Tnaasky:
No one has been invited for any test or interview, all these post are irrelevant. The Process is still ongoing and before the text or interview you will get a mail successful or not...

Okay...can you back this up with any proof please...thanks.

I applied last month for the post of a CORRESPONDENCE UNIT VISA ASSISTANT and got an invitation for English test scheduled for next week.... please I need information on level IV(FLUENT) SPEAKING/READING/WRITING.

THANKS IN ADVANCE.

Hello,I applied for the CORRESPONDENCE UNIT VISA ASSISTANT and got an invitation for English test next week.... please I need information on level IV(FLUENT) SPEAKING/READING/WRITING.

THANKS IN ADVANCE.

Please,I want to know if those that applied for Shipping officer's role have gotten any invitation

GreenWhiteGreen:
She's just plain dumb. Definition of beauty without brain. " What characteristics do you expect a bbn winner to possess" Yet the fool kept saying Me Tasha... Me Tasha.

She isn't dumb, please...
Please can you give me three characteristics that a winner should possess?
And please know that it's your Opinion and not a standard.

Oluqueen:


I also got it.

Can you post it here at least for clarity...thank you.