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Art, Graphics & Video / Re: 30 Most Powerful Photos Ever Taken. The Kind You Never Ever Forget by solacec4t(f): 5:19pm On Nov 28, 2013
Elantracey: Sorry o but ah dont see anythin touchin or powerful in dese pictures

cant believe you just said that.
Art, Graphics & Video / Re: 30 Most Powerful Photos Ever Taken. The Kind You Never Ever Forget by solacec4t(f): 5:17pm On Nov 28, 2013
O my God!

so touching. dint know when a tear dropped.

see those little children also...
Romance / Re: Cooking For Your Boyfriend In His House: Is It Right Or Wrong? by solacec4t(f): 10:32am On Nov 27, 2013
I see nothing wrong cooking for the man you love.

I enjoy cooking for him, i dont even wait for him to ask.. I always make sure there is something to eat.( thanks to deep freezer)

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Crime / Re: Update On Adaobi Obih's Murder - Roommate Wanted For Murder by solacec4t(f): 10:00am On Nov 25, 2013
Police talked to Obih’s boyfriend, who revealed that he’d texted and called her multiple times but never heard back. The last message he received from her was at 12:17 p.m. on Sunday, Nov. 17. When she failed to respond, he went to her apartment, saw her car in the parking lot and knocked on the door. Obih didn’t answer.





From the above statement, she had a boyfriend.
If she actually dated Klug, i doubt if her boyfriend would allow her share an apartment with him.

May her soul rest in peace.
Education / Re: Unijos Receives $8m World Bank Grant For Research by solacec4t(f): 8:19am On Nov 23, 2013
Well, haters keep hating.
I strongly believe Ujay competed with other schools. so why the beaf?
If they dont carryout the project then we can call them names....but for now i see no reason why they should be insulted.

Proudly a josite.
Education / Re: Unijos Receives $8m World Bank Grant For Research by solacec4t(f): 8:08am On Nov 23, 2013
Jman06: Proudly a Josite! I doff my hat to the greatest citadel of learning. Great Unijos!

Greatest Josite!

I am very happy to hear such of my school. I only pray the money will be used for its purpose.
Crime / Re: Student Sentenced To Death For Stealing Recharge Cards And A Mobile Phone by solacec4t(f): 10:48am On Nov 22, 2013
tensor777:
That is not the point. He is being sentenced to death for ARMED ROBBERY not for stealing and certainly not for the value of what he stole.

Ok.
Education / Re: LECTURER: Sleep With Me Or You Won't Graduate. by solacec4t(f): 10:26am On Nov 22, 2013
obviously she doesnt have any records of their conversation.

well, its not too late to have at least two, she could also chat with him and save all they talked about.

thank God we have different social network. There are a lot of ways to set him up.....

she needs enough evidence to pin him down.
Properties / Re: Lagos Sealed Our House Over Land Use Charge by solacec4t(f): 10:05am On Nov 22, 2013
You guys should talk to the Landlord.

something similar happened to one of my uncles who recently moved into an apartment in ph.
few days after he had settled, PHCN brought bills accumulated by the previous occupant
after all said and done, the Landlord sorted it out with them.
Nairaland / General / Re: Comet ISON Expected To Impact The Sun On 28 November 2013 by solacec4t(f): 9:39am On Nov 22, 2013
Research has shown that Comet ISON is very close to Mercury,so its a bit far from earth. We just pray it doesnt get close to earth.
Crime / Re: Adaobi Michaella Obih Killed In The U.S by solacec4t(f): 2:39pm On Nov 21, 2013
May her soul rest in peace.
Crime / Re: Student Sentenced To Death For Stealing Recharge Cards And A Mobile Phone by solacec4t(f): 10:46am On Nov 21, 2013
After been recently robbed at my street, i feel no pity for any thief...armed or not.

They should all be punished for causing pain on people.
NYSC / Re: 'okorocha Tricked Us' -imo Corps Members by solacec4t(f): 5:23pm On Nov 20, 2013
It could be that he wants to pay all the money after ur POP.

I served in Rivers State and we were paid a huge sum after our POP.

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Phones / Re: Share Your Phone Loss/theft Experiences Here!!! by solacec4t(f): 11:48am On Nov 19, 2013
Had the experience twice.
First was a day to my birthday (last year).I was in a taxi on my way home from work,got home and realised my nokia E63 wasnt with me. I was so confused cos i couldnt explain how it happened.
The second one was this month. On my way to work, I noticed a car behind me moving as if it needs a push...before i could blink my hand bag was snatched from me...n i just bought a samsung S4 which was in the bag with other vital items(I.D card, driver's licence, etc)...i later went to the nearest police station to get an extract...the mumu people said "ah this boys them sef, na their time o".. i felt like giving the officer a slap. i was later told to go get an affidavit first,which i did. well, im over the phone now cos i got another.
Romance / Re: Pls Help Me Analyse This Relationship, What Do I Do? by solacec4t(f): 5:12pm On Nov 12, 2013
I believe so much in communication. If i were you, I'd go to her ( that is if u love her that much) and have a long talk with her, ask her questions..... frm there you can make ur decision.
Family / Re: Should Married People Have Access To Each-Other’s Phones? by solacec4t(f): 4:30pm On Nov 11, 2013
My partner can have access to my phone...he may want to browse,watch a movie or game....

But to scrutinize my phone? wel, i dont see a reason why he should.
Properties / Re: The Building Of The Elegant 5 Bedroom Duplex In Port Harcourt by solacec4t(f): 1:17pm On Nov 11, 2013
nice one Spyder. May God bless the work of ur hands.
welcome to PH,enjoy my town.
Jokes Etc / Re: If You can read this you have a strong mind!! interpret!! by solacec4t(f): 12:50pm On Nov 11, 2013
THIS MESSAGE SERVES TO PROVE HOW
OUR MINDS CAN DO AMAZING THINGS!
IMPRESSIVE THINGS! IN THE
BEGINNING IT WAS HARD BUT NOW,
ON THIS LINE YOUR MIND IS READING IT AUTOMATICALLY WITHOUT EVEN
THINKING ABOUT IT. BE PROUD!
ONLY CERTAIN PEOPLE CAN READ THIS. PLEASE FORWARD IF YOU
CAN READ THIS smiley

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Romance / Re: Can This Be True Married Women Involve In Prostitution? by solacec4t(f): 10:12am On Nov 11, 2013
Wow! that woman doesnt sound normal to me.
How on earth can someone be proud of such?
Romance / Re: Guys,is There Any Thing Wrong For Your Woman To Get Multiple Ear Piercings? by solacec4t(f): 10:02am On Nov 11, 2013
I have two and he likes it.
Culture / Re: How Many Languages Can You Speak Fluently? by solacec4t(f): 7:59am On Nov 10, 2013
English, Hausa, Igbo, Ika, Pidgin and Italian
Car Talk / Re: 10 Most Expensive Cars In The World! by solacec4t(f): 1:50pm On Nov 08, 2013
See carsssssssssss


Will own one
Romance / Re: Should I Break Up With Him by solacec4t(f): 1:33pm On Nov 08, 2013
mimicue:

No [b]I don't [/b]that's why I'm seeking for advice

If u really dont want to, then my dear u have all the answers to ur question.
Romance / Re: The World's Largest Natural Breast (photos). Guinness Book Of Record by solacec4t(f): 11:37am On Nov 08, 2013
chunny01:
Yes na, some girls like over load na y dem dey put silicon 4 d artificial ones

o boy, this one is horribly terrible o...

i no fit shout
Romance / Re: The World's Largest Natural Breast (photos). Guinness Book Of Record by solacec4t(f): 11:01am On Nov 08, 2013
chunny01: She is definitely some girls admirer


Admirer? for real? lol
Romance / Re: Some Girls Are Just Hungry. by solacec4t(f): 10:55am On Nov 08, 2013
Cant stop laughing

wel, its good to help the less privileged.. lol

I wonder how some people reason. After making all those unnecessary order,does it make her look better?
Romance / Re: She Wants Written Proof Before She Lends Her Bf Money(right Or Wrong). by solacec4t(f): 10:34am On Nov 08, 2013
400k is a lot of money. Its very good to trust o but,verify.

It could be that the way she presented the agreement stuff was wat made him angry. Else, i see nothing wrong in wat she did,given the said amount.

They should have a long but matured discussion and come to an agreement. They are adults n im sure each knows wat is good for him/her.
Romance / Re: This Recently Married Man Jst Realized Marriage Is Not For Him."u Have To Read" by solacec4t(f): 8:00am On Nov 08, 2013
you are welcome. Im glad someone learnt something from it. God bless u too.
Romance / Re: This Recently Married Man Jst Realized Marriage Is Not For Him."u Have To Read" by solacec4t(f): 5:08pm On Nov 07, 2013
Leopantro: thanks for sharing.

u r welcome
Romance / This Recently Married Man Jst Realized Marriage Is Not For Him."u Have To Read" by solacec4t(f): 4:59pm On Nov 07, 2013
Seth Adam Smith and his wife, Kim been married a year and a half, and Seth just realized: marriage is not for him.



He realized it’s MUCH more than that. This is a recent entry from his blog. It’s well worth reading.

Marriage Isn’t For You


Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me.

Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading.

I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all.

Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy?

Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad.

Perhaps each of us have moments in our lives when it feels like time slows down or the air becomes still and everything around us seems to draw in, marking that moment as one we will never forget.

My dad giving his response to my concerns was such a moment for me. With a knowing smile he said, “Seth, you’re being totally selfish. So I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”

It was in that very moment that I knew that Kim was the right person person to marry. I realized that I wanted to make her happy; to see her smile every day, to make her laugh every day. I wanted to be a part of her family, and my family wanted her to be a part of ours. And thinking back on all the times I had seen her play with my nieces, I knew that she was the one with whom I wanted to build our own family.

My father’s advice was both shocking and revelatory. It went against the grain of today’s “Walmart philosophy”, which is if it doesn’t make you happy, you can take it back and get a new one.

No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It’s about the person you love—their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I give?”

Some time ago, my wife showed me what it means to love selflessly. For many months, my heart had been hardening with a mixture of fear and resentment. Then, after the pressure had built up to where neither of us could stand it, emotions erupted. I was callous. I was selfish.

But instead of matching my selfishness, Kim did something beyond wonderful—she showed an outpouring of love. Laying aside all of the pain and aguish I had caused her, she lovingly took me in her arms and soothed my soul.

I realized that I had forgotten my dad’s advice. While Kim’s side of the marriage had been to love me, my side of the marriage had become all about me. This awful realization brought me to tears, and I promised my wife that I would try to be better.

To all who are reading this article—married, almost married, single, or even the sworn bachelor or bachelorette—I want you to know that marriage isn’t for you. No true relationship of love is for you. Love is about the person you love.

And, paradoxically, the more you truly love that person, the more love you receive. And not just from your significant other, but from their friends and their family and thousands of others you never would have met had your love remained self-centered.

Truly, love and marriage isn’t for you. It’s for others.


Saw that and thought I should share.
Business / Re: Banker Stole N24m From Customers' Accounts (Ondo) by solacec4t(f): 9:55am On Nov 07, 2013
I wonder why people derive pleasure in causing pain to others. she should be dealt with.

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