Good morning. Since here is very active, i decided to ask my question, please pardon me.
Mynd44 , Lalasticlacla


On the 11th of June, 2021, I had #110,000 in my account ( I have two accounts though Gtbank account and Access Bank). The ,110k was in my access account and I budgeted to get a phone of 85k and use the remaining to get some things. The money was even sent to me, a night to when I would get it, around 1:24am, 18k was debited from my account from one POS web stuff I don't even know of but I used POS (it was a guy in the POS stand i withdrew from) just once though with that account. I went to the bank to complain they said it can't be traced but they had a complain sent to their headquarters. So in the bank there, I changed my card and everything but I had the same account number.


On the 31st of July,2021, just last night here. I had the last 16k in the access account and a night breaking this morning, I woke up to see 9k remaining in my account this time, no transaction history in my bank app.
But I used POS (it was lady in the stand i withdrew from) month too to withdraw 1k.

I'm tired of it to be honest, I'm planning on going to the same bank again ..I'm still sure they will say it can't be traced..
What is the issue please and what do you think can be done?
Thanks y'all.

Richy4:
Shouting match will not solve anything... Getting angry where no one tends to listen to another person's opinion won't help..

Do operation 7day best behaviour... Be extra nice to your dad for one week.. within the 7th day, while he's relaxing, buy two bottles of what ever he likes.. join him and tell him u want to talk.. Ask him why his in laws refused to let him marry their daughter and what he did/ how he handled it.. let the conversation flow without interruption.. From there, you can figure out what to do..

is it my father that have never sat down to advise me...They won't ever talk... especially my dad

igbosoupkitchen:


I have modified my post.
If you engage her this year ,will she wait for u for another 3 years?

As i said in my modified post, this is not wat u need now, work towards being a better you FIRST, you are in the best age to do so....
As for your girl, i dong know why the hurry, u can both remain dating, if 25 meets you both together fine and good.

But honestly, you are not doing yourself, any good with this type of discussion now,

I understand you sir..it's not necessary I get married to her at 25 you get...
I am actually stable oo,I'm living well..
it's not really hurry...when I was 11 years...age 25 have always been in my mind...maybe that's why things got to be stable for me at my present age...
what don't I have(I'm not bragging..buy honest here)that my parents won't let me choose a woman I want to be with ..

Deborah98:
@extol1 thumbs up....Op should calm down and analyze where he or his mom got it wrong. Two wrongs can't make a right,bro calm down,talk things over and see why she is against you marrying the girl but I will advise you not to tell the girl first till you have concerete reasons from your mom why she's against it. Apply wisdom, do not rush things ok. Good luck.

okay sir...
but the thing is that...I've asked like countlessly,still yet nothing..

igbosoupkitchen:

Sorry but if i may ask? Are u 22 or do u want to marry this year?

I want to get married aged 25 A girl that I'm about to engage very soon before June... I've been with this girl for two years now oo

DaddyRochie1642:





Just pray it doesn't end in Weeping and gnashing Of Teeth in the End

nah..no...they just want to be in total control of my life .like I said,I am the first child..

DaddyRochie1642:





Oga there's a Famous statement and I quote,

“What the elders can see while sitting down, the young man cannot see it, even if he climbs the highest Iroko tree".

A word is enough for the wise.

Young man,sorry to say...this is way out of it...they re not seeing anything... I'm telling you this fact

To burst you guys bubbles,she was like all the play and friendship.. she's doing with my girl are just pretence...it broke my heart...
I told her she actually broke my heart with that her statement

frozen70:


Pls just take it easy with them, this is not an issue that will be treated with stubbornness of arguments

What your mum is doing is normal for some women because their son will start having less attention to them and becomes insecured that the love you have for her will be diverted

But its a simple issue to handle unless you have the whole time in this world to face them forever

My advice is, seat both you parents down and let them know that this lady is the one you want to get married to

Listen to them and if they turn it down, don't argue with them, leave the matter and bring it up again next time

If you go against their wish, you may not find it easy and your mother will make sure you don't enjoy it

For the fact that she is not supporting you, is enough for you to know that it's not going to be a smooth ride

To be honest,my parents feel their their own statement is final...hard to convince those people

helinues:


Height excuse is not convincing enough.. There is more to the height issue..

nothing more than that.. though she's really not from a rich home,at least they re average...we are average as well in our house, what's the issue...I'm so sick o..
nothing flow in this house again

helinues:
Both your dad and mom are probably hiding some facts from you about the lady

Push your other siblings to whine your mom to know her reasons..

There's really no reason..she once complained of her heights before now...
abeg na she I dey or I wan settle down with o..legit women like her cannot be lost abeg

This is not a small issue right now o in my home...this girl we re talking about,she's a very good, hardworking,humble,committed,godly lady... she's my first girlfriend, I've seen experiences and I don't wish to date more than once...
please what should I do?

Good evening and a happy sunday nairalanders..
i don't know how to start but let me start from somewhere..

Instead of writing a long epistle,i will summarise,so you won't get tired of reading..

In a devastated state now and my heart aches..
All the days of my life,i have always learned to respect my parents and listen to them...though there are some instances i am stubborn .but if i go wrong,i accept it and i apologize.
As the first son of the family..firstly,let me chip in this..i have never one day associate my self too much with ladies,i've never even showed a girl to my parents before.. I'm 22years old..though my parents know my intentions of getting married at 25years of age

So one fateful day,i told my mom of my girlfriend which i'm intending to build my life with..she knows this girl,she plays does things with her,they both look like mother and daughter sef...so on friday,my mom was like i can't marry her..that she will choose who she wants me to marry when i bring them..she was sha saying some stuffs and she was like I wouldn't do anything without her and even shouting(sorry to say this,she was actually shouting) at me,it really got to my head and it caused a big argument her and i..i'm trying to summarise here..most of you should have understood with what went down the arguments..

she was the same person that told me that,her parents and family didn't want her to get married to my dad..but she stood her ground and got married to him..please why is she disturbing me...i've asked her to give me reasons..yet she can't even give one thing...the only thing I'm sure she doesn't like abt her is height,she isn't really tall but she no be dwarf abeg o..
I told her if she keeps pestering me,I will leave the house soon and go to my side..

My dad will likely want to support her,they do that...I will leave..
Please are my opinions okay...or what should I do?...