It seems that when it comes to scam investments, Nigerians, regardless of how much they have lost in the past, never learn their lessons.

The situation in Nigeria has turned several people into criminals, and sometimes we know it. We are just hoping to benefit from the loot and in the end, many of us become the loots.

From MMM to several Ponzi schemes, to Chinmark, and most recently Ovaioza, Nigeria has always had scams or bad investments through which people lose their monies year in, year out. There are people who lost their monies to those three mentioned above. It seems to me that they do not learn their lessons.

Someone I know recently invested up to 15 million, 13 million of which is not his money, in a scam investment. In fact, the money included the ones he has been saving to get married. He had to abandon his house and run out of Lagos, people whose money he collected to invest are now on the lookout for him.

The marriage has also been canceled – there is no doubt that his life is shattered. He is still hiding away from people, whose monies he invested as I speak.

A lot of folks have been killed; some are in prison while a lot of others committed suicide for losing their monies to scam investments but it seems we never really learn our lessons.

Nearly all Nigerians have lost money to scam investments at one time or another, except the elites that make up only 5% of the entire population, and who control the economy. However, when you ask if people have lost money to scam investments, they can’t admit it.

Losing money to scam investments is like claiming to know God and getting scammed by your religion leader. You will not be able to expose the religion leader because doing so exposes your ignorance of God.


When people lose money to scam investments, they keep quiet about it because they are afraid of being tagged greedy. However, losing money to scam investments has very little to do with being greedy and more to do with other things that most people do not know.

The reasons why people lose their monies are divided into three categories, namely.
1. The Internal Triggers
2. The Business Strategies
3. Ignorance of the Safety Signs


Greed is one of the internal triggers but there are more. Even if there are no internal triggers, the business strategies of the scammers can induce you to fall victim. This is why you need to learn about safety signs.

All of these are written in my yet-to-be-released book titled “STOP THROWING MONEY AWAY”. If you do not wish to lose your money to scam investments anymore, then you need to read this book.

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Maryam Sanda was recently sentenced to death by hanging for killing her husband two years ago. But hers was just the beginning of something that will soon become a norm. It will not be hard to agree with me, just pick a national daily, and you will see news of wives killing husbands. It is rampant now, but this is just the beginning. It will be fatal if things are not done to prevent it.

On page 23 of my book HOW WE BECAME NARCISSISTS, I predicted that in the future, more women will kill their husbands than otherwise, and within just three years of writing that book, the future is already here. The table is turning. The days of unopposed patriarchy is now over. More women will stand up to defend themselves.

I have given several prophesies, most of them on the future of education, and maybe this will make you take them more seriously. However, this post is to address the situation on ground; women killing their husbands. If you have read the book mentioned above, you will understand that it is a reaction to something that has been happening centuries before now.

The more knowledgeable a woman is, the more dangerous she becomes, and because we live in an age of over-information, it is nearly impossible to stop women from gaining access to as much knowledge as they want. You may have observed that if the friends of a particular woman do not like you, it is usually hard for her to get along very well with you. They are her source of knowledge; she acts on what they say.

There are more sources of information nowadays; social media platforms play a major role. This means that many of these women will not tolerate mistreatment as their mothers and grandmothers did. They now feel their mothers weren’t well informed and they were right. The statement is as simple as it gets, mistreats your woman; cheats on her, get caught and get killed. Marry a less-developed woman and get killed.

The killing of a person is automatic whenever the emotions of envy, jealousy, and self-centeredness are mixed together. This may take time to happen, but with a trigger, it is one of the most destructive mixtures of emotions. The trigger usually happens whenever the emotion of envy switches place for hatred, which undeveloped men trigger by mistreating their women.

This confirms the fact which I had previously stated; operating a system of education that neglects the development of emotional intelligence is a time bomb. Some of the bombs are now exploding because many of these killings are been and will be carried out by the so-called highly educated women. It is no surprise therefore that many men are afraid of highly schooled women.

How do you save yourself from this before you become another victim?

The answer is simple, invest in SELF-DISCOVERY AND DEVELOPMENT, focusing on the faculty of Mixture and Management of Emotions. It is important for you and your spouse if you must escape this surging reality.

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Talking about love, I was the worst of all men; my first approach to a woman was pure disaster, her friends mocked me for asking their friend out, they nicknamed me[b] “Ugly Cheche”.[/b][b][/b] I was beaten and ridiculed by them. They felt she was way above my caliber and they were right.

The second lady I attempted was a mountain too tall for me to climb; for four years I could not get her attention, I was a complete idiot and to her, I could just not fit into the circle.

I was a complete outcast when it comes to love and acceptance from women; I surely did not belong to the group of the tall and handsome boys that many ladies wanted or so I thought. I became of afraid of asking women out. For years I was suffering in silence and was continually placed on friends’ zone by these ladies.

I have always lived with the mentality that the best ladies belong to the fine and rich boys, or either of them and seeing that I did not possess any of those qualities, I kicked myself to the backseat; I was struggling and pretending all was well. People felt I was just a guy who did not like women, but deep within me, I knew I was a guy who was afraid of rejection.

I could not just get out of that circle, until I turned 24. I got involved with my first lady, who loved me with all she had and was willing to give her money to be with me, despite I was not rich. More so, she considered me the most handsome man on earth and was almost worshiping my body, despite nothing did change about my appearance.

I grew from a guy that no woman wanted to be with to one that they now ask out. I am now on the driving seat of whether to reject or accept them. Note that I was not rich yet as at this time and nothing did change about my physical appearance. What then changed? The answer is simple and straightforward – MY PERSONAL BRANDING.

It was silly errors in my personal branding that stopped ladies from coming to me back then, not because I was ugly and broke. It was the reason why I never fit into their circle, but now the story has changed, while I do not need all the women in my life, I have a fantastic relationship with a fantastic woman.

Having gone from zero to hero when it comes to relationship with women, I feel I am now in the position to help men that are willing to learn the secrets that worked for me.

It is not about money! If you still believe you need to be rich, famous or be handsome to attract the right woman, there is everything wrong with you, because to attract the right woman, you do not need to possess these things first.

All you need is the RIGHT PERSONAL BRANDING and everything else that you need will come to you. This is why I have written the book titled: THE ART OF PERSONAL BRANDING FOR MEN.

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A few days ago I wrote a poem titled “Victim of Love” of the stanzas of the poem goes thus:

Something was lost in me,
I did not know what it was,
I searched north, south, west and east,
Yet I can’t find it,
I am empty, something important is lost,
Love is gone, and away from me!

The above stanza of the poem described my exact feeling that night I went to see some of my clan after months without communication, I was empty, I just really didn’t know why. After seeing my people, the emptiness was still there, so went to a bar. Of all things, going to a bar seems wrong at that time, but I was clueless, I didn’t know what I wanted: something was lost in me; I did not know what it was.

One of the call-girls at the bar came to meet me as a prospective customer, staying in the bar made me one. I told her, “listen, I do not want sex, what I need is love”. Oh yes! I discovered what was lost in me: Love! But I was in the wrong place to seek love and I was demanding it from the wrong person. The call-girl did not have love to offer, so she left me, I took the next bus home; I needed to figure out what was happening to me.

Did I really need love? It seemed so, I was empty and only love could fill the vacuum, not just sex.
I got into a long conversation with a female friend of mine, this conversation let to write the poem which I shared early the next morning.
That poem put me in the level of every other human being, who for the past 5 months of my life I have proven to be superior to. No doubt, I was 100% emotional, the self-acclaimed god cried for love like mere men.

After reading the poem, one of my audiences, who has set himself aside as an antagonist, but has been shut off by my seeming uncritical nature, found an opportunity to attack the warrior whose defenses seemed gone. He sent me a response which was as long as the poem; he questioned my safety and also stated my limited understanding of love. He stated that a self-acclaimed genius like me should love differently from other men and never feel bad if I am rejected by someone I love.
That poem reduced me from the status of a god to mere man, his response was evident.

Questioning my understanding of love was a perfect Irony, as I was the first person to rightfully define love in a lecture titled “The trait called love”, I understood what love is and how it works, but I was fast becoming the victim of my own lecture.
I ran a psychological analysis of my life and why I felt that way, dating back to the last 5 months of my life; the exact time I made my decision to become rich within a certain period of time.
Below is the stat:

Within the last 5 months,
I have made more money by my own efforts than I have made in years before,
I have received more ideas on how to make money than I have in the previous years,
I have written fewer poems and have attended fewer events than I have done in the previous months,
I have lost more than 5 serious relationships with resourceful ladies; I dissolved most of them because I could not create time for them, I have no relationship with anyone, but myself alone, I have no friend; I only create foes.
I have given fewer in this period than I have done in my entire life, I just wanted more.
I feel more unfulfilled and miserable than I have in my entire life.

The above stat shows my uncontrollable obsession for riches and inability to take a break from myself.
Somehow I have managed to remain honest in my dealings, but that was not enough, I was not fulfilled despite I was making money. Something was lost, something that I have in abundance, something that everybody has, something that I thought left me, but was always with me, this thing is LOVE.

I wanted more love and was not giving any. I thought I needed love, but I have actually left a lot of people suffering from my inability to show them love. I remember my friend from Trinidad & Tobago telling me before she left. “I pity your next girlfriend, she will suffer the same way I suffered, you are always busy” this actually happened, I dissolved more than 5 relationships within 5 months, any of these could have led to intimacy, perhaps marriage. They all complained of the same thing: “Stephen is always busy; he does not have my time”.

I was overly ambitious and self-centered. This often starts with the quest to prove points to people, whether as their superior or to be accepted by them. My case was for both reasons. I had an inordinate ambition, not because it is bad to be rich, but because I had all wrong reasons for it. I rediscovered myself in my conversation with my female friend when she said “even with money, I might not like you”. That was very hurtful reality, because she was one major reason why I wanted to be rich, I just wanted to be accepted by her, even though it was only in my subconscious mind.

I have discovered that quest to prove points to people either as their superior to them or to be accepted by them is one reason why some people become addicted to drugs, nicotine, engage in cultism, money ritual, sex and most times goes into prostitution and pornography. Focusing on yourself; what you want alone renders you very obstinate, even though you might not notice it; you become very inconsiderate and shows no kindness at all. All that matters is for you to get what you want.

I have been able to learn in this little while, a lesson that might take some people years to learn: “money does not bring fulfillment! If you think you need more money to be fulfilled, perish the thought, money only enhances happiness after it is gotten, it does not bring fulfillment.” Grab a vision, it will give you an ambition, putting your ambition ahead of your vision will only leave you miserable, self-centered and you will have no life.

Most people you call celebrities don’t have lives, because they live to prove points to people, they just want more, this leaves most of them on the field making the money, but never becoming fulfilled. This is more reason why they often fail in marriage, it is not about marriage; failure in marriage only shows they don’t have life outside showbiz. Share the love you have, care about those around you, strive never to be better than anyone, but yourself and you will be fulfilled whether you have money or not.

Making money is not bad. Despite discovering my faults; it still won’t stop me from becoming extremely rich, because I have checked the reason why I need money. It is no longer about me wanting to be superior to certain people or be accepted by them, I now want to make money, because I have problems to solve with it, not my problems alone, but that of others. Do the same and you will find fulfillment.

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For some time now, a lot of people have tried to divorce lust from love.
In religion, lust is simply sexual want, thus anyone that wants sex or demands for it, especially before or outside marriage is considered lustful. Some dictionaries also define it as such, while some of them are quite close to the meaning. This misconception is most times due to inability to define love. If love can’t be defined, it is hard to fully define lust, because love actually precedes lust. To decipher the differences between both of them, we have to define them rightly.

What is love?
According to Soul’e Rhymez in an essay titled “The Trait Called Love”, love is defined as: God’s trait in human beings, which inspires their caving to nurture and preserve their lives. This is the most accurate definition of love, other definitions are not encompassing. Take note of the word “craving” and “nurture”.

What is lust?
According to Oxford dictionary, lust is an emotion or feeling of intense desire in the body. The lust can take any form such as the lust for sex, lust for expensive objects (extravagance) or the lust for power. It can take such mundane forms as the lust for food as distinct from the need for food.
Lust is a psychological force producing intense wanting for an object, or circumstance fulfilling the emotion.
Though the dictionary makers could not get the meaning of love, they got so close to that of lust. Lust is not limited to sexual feeling, in my own words: lust is insatiable crave for someone or something.

What is the connection?
I said in the beginning that love precedes lust, now let me explain.
Since love is a trait that makes us to nurture and preserve our lives, it becomes lust, when we want something so desperately and uncontrollably in order to do so.

Let me relate a story, which I once related in a lecture I delivered sometime ago.
When I was a teenager, our pastor often talked about a young lady that got into university at 18 and I was fascinated, he so much praised this girl's intelligence that I couldn't wait to see her and being not too dull too, I felt we will make a great couple, at the end of a semester, she showed up and finally, I felt I had met my dreamed girl.

I asked her out for 4 years, I was so connected to her that all I wanted was her, I couldn’t imagine a life without her, yet she wasn’t feeling the same, the more I tried to get close to her, the more she disliked me, but I wanted her so badly and couldn’t get over her.
I wasn’t thinking of having sex with her, I banished such thoughts with immediate effects because I felt I loved her and thinking of sex towards her will reduce my love to lust.

But unknown to me, I was only lustful, though inspired by love for her qualities.
You still believe that’s love? Now go back up and check the definition of lust. The truth is, I had insatiable crave for her and it was preceded by love for myself, which her brilliant personality could help me achieve.

What’s the connection between determination and lust?
Often time we become lustful and think we are being determined. However, lust and determination has only a little difference. Lust is insatiable crave for something, while determination according to Oxford Dictionary is:firmness of purpose; resoluteness. That says it all, so what is the connection?
And why are people lustful and think they are determined?

Going back to my story, I moved from being determined to being lustful.
I wanted the girl so much, but I couldn’t really control my cravings for her.
Just like me, a lot of people have purposes for wanting certain things and people, though the purposes might not be genuine, it does not reduce their cravings to lust until they lose control over their cravings. The major difference between lust and determination is “control”.

The only time you know your determination has become lust, is when you can’t control how much you want some people and things. Lust in another word is uncontrollable determination.
Why do people have uncontrollable determination?
Sometimes it could be as a result of wanting to prove points to people, internal conviction that something is achievable or need for security.

When do people lust in love?
People lust in love when they cannot control how much they want certain people in their lives.
However, a lot of things contribute to why people can’t seem to overcome wanting some people in their lives, but the two major things that encompasses all others is ignorance and insecurity. These two works hand in hand, to leave people vulnerable to certain things and people.

Most people lust in love, due to ignorance of their self-worth.
In my own case, unknown to me, I wanted the lady to boost my profile in the church and among my friends, that’s why I was so into her, but when I discovered my uniqueness, I realized I was actually more intelligent than she was, and I no longer want her. What has been keeping me in lust after her was ignorance of my own uniqueness.
Just like me, quite a lot of people want certain people with certain qualities to be in their lives, because they feel incomplete without them.
That’s a huge disservice to them and it only makes them want people uncontrollably to boost their personality.

Ignorance of certain ideologies and beliefs is another reason why people lust in love and thinks they are passionately in love. Some people due to these are motivated to prove points to people, that they can achieve certain things and be respected for it, they only focus on getting what they want, regardless of the odds against them and they lose control in the long run. They allow their wants to control them; that is lust, but it started with sheer determination to prove points to people or conform to certain ideologies.

Insecurity which is also as a result of ignorance is another reason for lustful feelings.
A lot of people lack of faith in God and in their abilities even though they are aware of them, they fail to understand that it is only God that they can’t do without, thus they have subconsciously replaced certain people with God in their lives and unwilling to let them go.
They call it love, they just don’t seem to know why they seem to want them at all cost, but that’s not love, it is lust, inspired by fear of living without certain people, with whom they have shared certain things together.

Being addicted to certain vises can also be traced to lust and the causes of this are: ignorance and insecurity.
Some people ventured into drugs, prostitution and the likes and most of them seem addicted to these vises.
However, these are preceded by lust, primarily as a result of ignorance and insecurity of their lives and lack of faith in God.
It is however to be noted that without love, lust won’t exist, the solution is to be in control of your wants and don’t let them control you, lest you become lustful and addicted.
Subdue the world as God has instructed, don’t let anything subdue you.

Remember, whatsoever you can’t control is your master.

Be the master!

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Writers are known for their humility, but not Soul'e Rhymez, a Nigerian Poet and Public Speaker who recently declared he's God.
Soul'e's seeming arrogant disposition has been a turn of among writers and non-writers, but he seem to be unwilling to turn a new leaf, he simply did not care what people think about him, insisting people only see what they want to see.

After sharing his famous article, HOLINESS AND VIRGINITY, the writer was accused of plagiarism by another writer, who is relatively unknown. She claims the enigmatic writer stole his idea, even though she didn't present the writeup she claimed he plagiarised to him as he requested. It turned to a heated argument and in a bid to defend his work, the writer stated: "I am a god of my philosophy".

The accuser picked it up, claiming the writer was ignorant and a turn off, but the writer who once confessed he loved power and attention, remained unchanged, saying "I am an ignorant, oh, that's cool, but you can't compare to me in all your understanding. I am a god of my philosophy, I can never stoop so low to plagiarize and even if I do, I won't plagiarize works of people like you."

The accuser flew into a rage, calling the writer who is respected by many for his 'bare it all' writing style an "uncircumcised lout".
However, the writer who seem to have a response for every accusation admitted he brags, saying "...I know I brag here, but even if I am brought low, I can't be as low as you*

HOLINESS AND VIRGINITY an article which addresses the issue of virginity in relation to holiness was first published on Soul'e Rhymez's blog on *August 17, 2016* after it was held as a discussion in SRAF group on Sunday, *August 14th, 2016*, a discussion which was initiated and moderated by the writer.
The writeup went viral, got published by different magazines and websites and brought more readers to this enigmatic writer, most of who came calling from different parts of the world to thank him such an eye-opening writeup.

All effort to calm the accuser down was proven abortive, but Soul'e Rhymez ignored the conversion, promising to respond only when his accuser present the writeup she claimed he plagiarised to the public.
You can read first publication of *HOLINESS AND VIRGINITY* here:http://soulerhymez..com.ng/2016/08/holiness-and-virginity.html?m=1
and to have a copy of the writeup sent to you on WhatsApp, text "H&V" to +2348163800077 via WhatsApp.

However, a fellow writer who loved to remain anonymous claimed the writer is not close to being arrogant as people see him. *"Soul'e Rhymez is just unique, those who say he's arrogant don't know him at all, I guess they can't just comprehend his uniqueness. I have met him and he's the most humble person I have met"* he said.

Reported by Rukayyah Abdul, SRAF

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HOLINESS AND VIRGINITY

[color=#000099][/color][Talking about virginity to some people, you are indirectly talking about holiness, but have we ever tried to ask what the differences are?
Does virginity have anything to do with holiness?
Maybe we just don’t define them rightly.
Now let’s define them.
According to Oxford Dictionary, holy from which holiness is derived are defined as follows:
1. Morally and spiritually excellent or perfect, and to be revered.
2. Belonging to or devoted to God.
3. consecrated, sacred. [Old English: related to *whole]

Let’s talk the meaning of virginity just as well.
Virginity means remaining a virgin and according to Oxford Dictionary virgin is defined as follows:
1. Person who has never had sexual intercourse.
2. (The Virgin) Christ's mother Mary.
3. (The Virgin) sign or constellation Virgo. —adj. 1 not yet used etc.
2. Virginal. [Latin virgo -gin-]
All the above definitions of virgin points to one thing: natural state of something; a state of not being utilized.

What is the connection between virginity and holiness?
Does virginity in any way relate with holiness?
Well, it could mean holiness, if holiness is such that can be achieved by human efforts.
If not, it is only for personal gain and prestige.
Many years back when I was talking to a girl about virginity being overrated, she said it was because I lost mine already, but if I was to go by what people call virginity, I was still a virgin.

Talking about virginity as people see it, a lot of people have actually lost their virginity long ago,without knowing it, yet they still go about claiming they are virgins, just because they have not penetrated anyone or have been penetrated (broken their hymen) that’s ridiculous.

Back in the year 2010, I wrote an article titled, *“worthless virginity”.* What did I mean by that?
It simply means most people that claim to be virgins are actually worthless virgins if their virginity is anything to go by.
They only defined their virginity based on the fact that they have never been penetrated in their vagina or have done so to others.

Going back to the meaning of virgin, which is the person who has never had sexual intercourse. The word intercourse creates a little problem here as many believe intercourse means penetration. No, it doesn’t.
According to Oxford Dictionary, intercourse mean: communication or dealings between individuals. Connecting it to sexual, it mean: a sexual communication or dealings between individuals. You will agree with me that this goes beyond penetration of the vagina alone.

There are several sexual dealings and communications that do not include penetration of the vagina, such as cunnilingus, blowjobs, masturbating, kissing just to mention a few.
Many of the so-called virgins have engaged in most of these stuffs yet still believe they are virgins simply because they have not been penetrated in the vagina.
I called it worthless virginity, but I now understand it is not even virginity.

I can’t even remember when I lost my virginity, but I believe it was when I started watching Pornography at a very tender age.
However, I was a worthless virgin like many that we have around now, until I was 24.
I didn’t date any girl or had any sexual communication with any girl until I was 24, not even kissing, but I was still not a virgin, I only qualified as a worthless virgin.
You still wonder how? Let me explain it to you.

I was exposed to pornography at a very tender age and this led to masturbation at the age of 19.
I slept with many girls and did all the fetish acts I saw in pornography, but all in my mind.
In fact, at some points, I was contemplating venturing into porn industry, not forgetting that I never had sex with any girl and had no plan to do so in the real life setting.

I regretted every moment I masturbated, it usually spoilt my day, it made me feel so dirty and unholy, I could hardly pray, because I believed God will not answer me, a belief I supported with several scriptures.
However, this guilt feeling only led me to watch more pornography and masturbate more and moved away from God more even as I tried hard to overcome them.
However, I still made a vow that I will never lose my virginity and truly there are moments of temptations which I escaped, but was I actually a virgin?

Having tormented myself for years in ignorance, I later realized I was the problem of myself and I ended up penetrating a Lady when I was 24.
Oh yes I did, I had sex with her! You felt I went extreme? You think I should have kept the faith?
You think God was unhappy with that? Oh, you thought I was still a virgin prior to that time?
The truth is; I was not a virgin despite I never had sexual relation with anyone prior to that which I did on intention. Remember I was 24, so I knew what I was doing. The question is why did I decide to stop holding on?

Was it an easy decision to lose my perceived virginity? Oh no!
After that, I could never boast to my friends that I was a still virgin, a virtue that was rare among men, it was a feat; a personal honor despite I had girls coming around.
In fact, a lot of guys envied me; they were not seeing me with ladies, I only walk around with either my Bible or my books, I earned a lot of respect from people who could vouch for my holiness.

In fact, my uncle whom I stayed with was constantly feeling intimidated by my perceived holiness and will not fail to mention that I judge him because I was the holy one and he was the sinner. He comes in with a few girls and I lived with him for four years without a lady coming around.
However I decided to lose all that to accept Christ’s holiness by finally having sex with a Lady.
You think that’s odd, perhaps there is better way out?
Oh, you think that would have taken me away from God instead?
Give me a chance to explain myself.

Prior to taking that decision, I was always filled with guilt, I never had a day free of guilt, because I masturbated almost every day and it leaves me miles away from God. Take note, God was never away, I was.
I had read the Bible back to back, seeking solutions, but I only got it from Paul’s letter to the Italians in Rome where he stated: “But God has brought you into union with Christ Jesus, and God has made Christ to be our wisdom. By him we are put right with God; we become God’s holy people and are set free.
So then the scripture says whoever wants to boast must boast under what the Lord has done.”
He also stated in one of his write-up thus *“for it is not by power, let no man boast.”*

What connection does that have?
I was actually focused on my perceived righteousness, trying to please God with my worthless virginity that I couldn’t even tap into his grace and commune with him, I talked about this in a lecture I once delivered; I stated that I started hearing God more after that event of sleeping with a girl for the first time.
A lot of people were baffled and believed it was not possible, but it was real. What changed?
Like I mentioned earlier, I was focused on my own righteousness, believing with it, I could make God happy and without it, he will be devastated, a lot of folks believes in this illusion too, but that’s what religion offers, it is a way back to God.

What I did was to trash my way back to God, which was the so-called virginity by having sex, see myself as a sinner and accept God’s way back to me, which is the sacrifice of Jesus Christ, through which I was made holy with no effort from me. Paul said *“…by him we are put right with God”* so to stand with God, I needed to believe in Jesus Christ, not keep my virginity and let it become a religion, through which I felt I could get back to God. The later is what everyone should do, but the formal is not useless.
However, most people are like me, whose virginity, worthless or not have become their religion, they feel it makes them holy and losing it makes them sinners.

That is a grand illusion that can only be true under certain religions, but with God, all forms of virginity are invalid ways to attain righteousness.
Even under the law, it is like being able to avoid stealing out of many other sins and considering yourself righteous under the Law. Being a virgin is not the prerequisite to be in right standing with God, and not being one does not make you less righteous, because God’s valid righteousness is not earned, it was given, all you need to do is to accept it by believing in Jesus Christ and love your neighbor as yourself.

*Does this mean virginity is useless?* No!
However, if you must remain a virgin, know it is for your own good and has nothing to do with God.
You could make your husband respect you, earn respect from your mates and most importantly escape several STDs, those are the only benefits attached to it; it does not make you more righteous than the other person.
I will also advise you don’t list your acclaimed virginity as your most precious possession; it is psychologically dangerous to do so.
I know that will make me look harsh, but I’m not telling you to lose it, this is just to protect yourself from unwarranted heartbreak.

Have you ever wondered why people commit suicide after being forcefully deflowered?
Have you ever wondered why some find it hard to let go people that deflowered them and still keep going back to them even after getting married to another person? They call it first love.
Have you ever wondered why most girls venture into prostitution after been forcefully deflowered?
All these things happen for one singular reason: seeing virginity as a priced procession and a symbol of holiness.
It is a battlefield of the mind that must be won.
Keep your virginity as a personal choice, thinking it makes you holier than others, more righteous or seeing it as a priced possession is one of the worst mistakes you can ever make.

Virginity is not holiness, but it is not useless to keep it!

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If fear of criticism prevents you from doing what you should do, you will never become exceptional in your endeavors; and you might perhaps never achieve anything worth celebrating.

The above statement is so true that record has shown that those that refuse to do what they have to do because of what people might say remains average all their lives. No one can count the number of people who have gone down as failures due to this, but we can point to several people who have defied the fear of criticism to do what they have to do and have their name written indelibly in the history book.

The fear of criticism has left a lot of people failures and if you check it, you might just find out you are one of them.
If you find out you avoid making decisions simply because people will criticize you, then you are one of them, who are going to end up as average in life if fear is not taken. It means you only want to be in people’s good books by doing only those things that makes sense to them. This just proves this saying right: [b][/b]“if you try to make sense to people every time, you might end up not making a single sense with your life.“

Being able to move on amidst criticism is the major reason why those that achieve exceptional successes in life did so and have been confused for mad people at one time or the other in their lives. Check the record. They never let the fear of criticism stop them from achieving their aims in life. This makes them looks mad, rebellious, arrogant and obstinate to people.

Let us look at the story of Mohammed, who is regarded by his followers as the last great prophet.
Mohammed was a prophet, but he never performed a miracle, he was not a mystic and had no formal schooling, he didn’t even begin his mission until he was 40. When he announced that he was the messenger of God bringing the word of the true religion, he was ridiculed and labeled a lunatic, worst of all, he was banished from his native city, Mecca and his followers were stripped off their worldly goods and sent into the desert with him.

He preached for 10 years, with only banishment, ridicule and poverty to show for it, but before another 10 years had passed, he was the dictator of all Arabian, Ruler of Mecca and the Ruler of the new world religion.
Despite all the odds against him, Mohammed moved on, one thing worked for him: his ability to move on amidst criticisms, which led him to being banished and left him to befriend poverty in the desert.
This quality inspired his persistence and other qualities that gave birth to what we now know as Islam.

No doubt, Islam is one of the most practiced religions in the world today, whether it be of God or not is not the question here, the question is: how did a religion formed by a prophet who never performed any miracle, and was without formal education gained large followership across the world and it is practiced by men of great education and wealth, who are willing to use their wealth to support the course of its tenets?

I tell you the truth, Islam would not have become a possibility and Mohammed’s name would not have been known if he had given up due to the fear of criticism.
The principles of success are always the same, they are no respecter of persons; anyone who taps into them succeeds, regardless of their motives. This is why Mohamed gained so much power, regardless of what people think of him. These principles remain unchanged and will not change because of anyone.

However something was responsible for Mohamed’s ability to withstand all odds against him and achieve his aim; this thing is what those who give up before starting, because of the fear of being criticized do not have.
It is:
stronger believe in internal conviction than in popular opinions and oppositions. This proves Napoleon Hill right to say “if your fear of criticism is stronger than your desire to succeed, you will never succeed”.

Many of us remain ordinary because let go a lot of ideas beautiful ideas given to us by infinite intelligence due to fear of criticism. We are ignorant of the fact that those that criticize us at first will always come back to be our staunchest supporters once they find out we are right to ignore their opinions, except they want to remain adamant and never let go their ego.
Mohammed’s believe in his internal conviction ahead of popular opinion is evident here today and if you are a Muslim, it won’t be hard for you to relate with this fact.

Did you drop that beautiful idea because of what people might think of you? Go back and pick it up!
I tell you, if you are approved by people at all time, you will never become exceptional; you will only live your life trying to make sense to a section of people and always remain under their influence.
To be exceptional, you have to defy fear of criticism.
Believe in your internal conviction; for whatsoever you can conceive, you can achieve.
If Mohammed could become the leader of one of the most practiced religion in the world, without formal education or a single miracle, then you can do better.

Be the best!

Written by Soul’e Rhymez
Poet & Public Speaker, based in Lagos, Nigeria.

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