SO YOU THINK YOU HAVE FAILED

Yes, you I am talking to you, you've tried so many things and failed so many times, now you think you have failed the exam called life. Well I have news for you, it's not failing itself that makes you a failure, its giving up on success that makes you a failure.
A success story that didn't pass through the valley of the shadow of failure, is a perfect story and we both know, there are no perfect stories.
I failed yesterday, I may fail today, but if I don't give up on success, I will not fail tomorrow.
Let me tell you just how strong you are, you are strong because you are doing one of the hardest things there is to do and that's staying alive. It's so easy to commit suicide, but it takes gut and balls to live. Living is hard, it requires hope, courage and many more. And if you are alive, make that count. You are not a waste of flesh and blood. You can make it, if only you believe.

THE FOUR DIMENSIONS OF LOVE; THE LOYALTY DIMENSION
Hmmmm… “LOVE”, just four letters, so little but yet so compound. It can’t be seen but it affects us all. For countless centuries now, no dictionary has been able to explicitly define this thing called Love.
From my last post “WHY LOVE DIES” I explained that love dies when its conditional, and some people emailed me on how to rekindle a dying love and how to fix a breaking relationship, this post is part of my series on how to do so.
After years of deep research, I have discovered that love can be divided into four dimensions and an understanding of these four dimensions will help us truly understand love. Any relationship operating in these four dimensions “CANNOT” fall apart.
Love without loyalty is not love at all, it is mere lust, it is like an empty shell, an empty bottle with no drink in it. Love is more than a feeling, it is a commitment. The first requirement needed for any relationship whatsoever to last long is LOYALTY. Many marriages today lack loyalty and that’s why many crash. A MARRIAGE WITHOUT LOYALTY IS A TICKING TIME BOMB WAITING TO EXPLODE. Don’t marry a man/woman who is not loyal to you during courtship, if he/she is unfaithful before marriage how do you think he/she will act during marriage.
Now if loyalty is so important, what then is loyalty? Loyalty is devotion and faithfulness to a person. It is a thorough-going and wholehearted commitment to a person. LOYALTY GOES BEYOND FIDELITY, you may not cheat on your partner but that doesn’t mean you are loyal.
Being loyal means being respectful of your partner’s weaknesses and discretely helping them compensate for those weaknesses when needed without anger or shaming. One of the reasons people are disloyal is because they expect a perfect partner, “A KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOUR/CINDERELLA”. But the truth is that we have a misconception about the word “PERFECT”. Perfect doesn’t mean you never make mistakes, PERFECT MEANS MATURE AND COMPLETE BUT NOT FLAWLESS. Loyalty means siding with your partner even when you think he or she may be partially at fault; never shame your partner in public that is very disloyal.
Being loyal means keeping your partners needs as primary over your needs and all other people’s needs.
Loyalty is a circle, loyalty breeds loyalty, if you start sowing seeds of loyalty to your partner, no matter how far he/she might have gone, he /she will in no time respond back with loyalty. Any breaking marriage can turn around for the better if loyalty becomes a part of it.
I have seen the loyalty dimension of love, work time and time again and I believe it would work for you too.
Next I’d be talking about the second dimension of love; the openness dimension. If you need help with your marriage or any relationship or you have a question. Contact me; livingtheunlimitedlife@gmail.com or message me on facebook @livingtheunlimitedlife. Thank you.

WHY LOVE DIES
This is the 21st century and this generation has witnessed really shocking breakups, couples you never expected got separated. I once witnessed a couple say “always and forever” but I guess forever is over for them because they are no more, this brings me to the very interesting question, why love dies?
Some of us feel that when you “fall in love” there is no end to it, but in reality, you can fall in love and also fall out of love.
You can say love is dead, when you can no longer forgive your friend, when you are so irritated by the person you were once fascinated about, when your mum, the one you love so much and even called “sweet mother” is now the worst thing that ever happened to you. "The reality of life is that anything that comes to life can die".
LOVE DIES WHEN IT IS CONDITIONAL!
In every wedding ceremony you witnessed or saw on TV, part of the marriage vows says “for better and for worse”. The truth is that every sweet relationship today will walk through its own valley of the shadow of death, every rosy relationship will pass through a storm, and the only way it will survive is if the love is unconditional. "Love is not based on what you do, but on who you are".
MARRIAGE IS AN IRREVERSIBLE CHEMICAL REACTION OF TWO PEOPLE BECOMING ONE!
I want you to know that true love exists and it is UNCONDITIONAL! The only love that will scale every mountain and stand every storm is the unconditional love. You are not perfect and so is your partner but unconditional love will look beyond your imperfections and join both of you perfectly.
Fix it! Don’t throw away your relationship because it is broken, don’t quench the dying flames of your love, instead rekindle it and I see your relationship lasting always and forever!
Next I would be starting a series on “THE FOUR DIMENSIONS OF LOVE” don’t miss it.
If you need help handling a relationship or fixing a failing marriage or you have any question you need answers to, contact me at livingtheunlimitedlife@gmail.com or message me on facebook @livingtheunlimitedlife.
Thank you.

SHOULD I MARRY BECAUSE OF LOVE?
I am sure you have probably heard your parents or at least one couple, say "I REGRETTED EVER MARRYING YOU" but my question is, were they ever in love? The answer is obviously "yes" so how did they get to the point of regret
Like in the movies, the beautiful Juliet wants to marry the handsome Romeo, why you may ask, because they are crazy in love.
Right now a lot of couples that once said " I would walk a thousand miles for you" and who gave poetic oxymoron like " I WOULD CLIMB 7 MOUNTAINS AND SWIM 7 SEAS FOR YOU " and "I WOULD CATCH A GRENADE FOR YOU " are at the verge of breaking apart and the grenade called "REALITY" is about to explode right before their eyes.
I recently came across a shocking report, it revealed that 1 out of every 2 marriages in America ends up in a divorce, that's 50% of every marriage will end in a divorce.
So my dear, the fact that your love is a strong as " Prince Charming and Cinderella" doesn't mean it will end happily ever after.
Love is not a good enough reason for marriage, the feeling and tingly effect of liking someone or having feelings for them will wear off with time especially when you are married. Marriage is more than just feelings, marriage involves a lot and marriage needs to be built on a strong foundation, feelings and emotions is not strong enough for your marriage to be built on.
Any marriage built on feelings alone is a big crash waiting to happen!
Don't just walk down the aisle with someone just because you have feelings for each other, don't let movies deceive you. Before you get married, seek counsel and approach it with wisdom and don't rush in it. Marry for attitude and character not just love, and I am sure you will be having a "happily ever after" marriage.
Next i'd be talking on" WHY LOVE DIES".
if you are having any issues in your relationship or marriage and need help contact me at " livingtheunlimitedlife@gmail.com" or message me on facebook @ livingtheunlimitedlife.
Thank you

IS LOVE ENOUGH REASON FOR MARRIAGE?
I am sure you have probably heard your parents or at least one couple, say "I REGRETTED EVER MARRYING YOU" but my question is, were they ever in love? The answer is obviously "yes" so how did they get to the point of regret
Like in the movies, the beautiful Juliet wants to marry the handsome Romeo, why you may ask, because they are crazy in love.
Right now a lot of couples that once said " I would walk a thousand miles for you" and who gave poetic oxymoron like " I WOULD CLIMB 7 MOUNTAINS AND SWIM 7 SEAS FOR YOU " and "I WOULD CATCH A GRENADE FOR YOU " are at the verge of breaking apart and the grenade called "REALITY" is about to explode right before their eyes.
I recently came across a shocking report, it revealed that 1 out of every 2 marriages in America ends up in a divorce, that's 50% of every marriage will end in a divorce.
So my dear, the fact that your love is a strong as " Prince Charming and Cinderella" doesn't mean it will end happily ever after.
Love is not a good enough reason for marriage, the feeling and tingly effect of liking someone or having feelings for them will wear off with time especially when you are married. Marriage is more than just feelings, marriage involves a lot and marriage needs to be built on a strong foundation, feelings and emotions is not strong enough for your marriage to be built on.
Any marriage built on feelings alone is a big crash waiting to happen!
Don't just walk down the aisle with someone just because you have feelings for each other, don't let movies deceive you. Before you get married, seek counsel and approach it with wisdom and don't rush in it. Marry for attitude and character not just love, and I am sure you will be having a "happily ever after" marriage.
Next i'd be talking on" WHY LOVE DIES".
if you are having any issues in your relationship or marriage and need help contact me at " livingtheunlimitedlife@gmail.com" or message me on facebook @ livingtheunlimitedlife.
Thank you