emmyrichie:




Hi,

I'm glad you finally saw this. Sorry if I went off the track a bit as I acted on the information on your thread.

However, you are the one who wears the shoe and you know where it pinches. There are so many what ifs as regards your story.

One question I stop asking is: what if you got married to him two years ago? How will you handle the situation at hand?
Will you still find solace in the new guy's hands?
Or will try to make your marriage work?

May you find peace and love in the end.

Sorry if I was a bit hard.

No it's fine, you don't have to apologise. A lot of water has passed through the bridge and if it was 2 years ago, no I wouldn't have looked elsewhere, I've never done it, it was an abomination to me, I value fidelity. I'd have fought for us but I got tired of fighting to make things right. I loved the man, I did right by him and he knows it. And no, this is not me trying to feel good or justify the horrible thing I've done.

I have understood I am wrong and like I said, I have taken every comment and any form of concern to mind.

Thanks a lot for taking your time out to write this to me. I have gone through a lot and nobody knows me enough to judge me but it's all good. I'll not put out everything that was wrong with our relationship because I don't want to dwell on the negatives because he's a great guy and beyond that I've made up my mind concerning the issue at hand.

To those that responded to my thread, I appreciate it and your comments were read one after another, none was skipped.

@ all, the new guy or my man are not rich, just average guys. I met the new guy when my man and I had an issue and we didn't talk for almost 3 months and I thought that was the end even though we've agreed to marry before then. the wedding issue has been dragging on for a long time and I got fed up. I believe he's scared of losing me that is why he demanded we get married now.

I'm not a bad person or cheat, my man was my first. I just feel this new guy really cares about me and he's optimistic about having me in his life.

PS. the new guy doesn't know we've worked out our differences and we are not dating officially, we just spend a lot of time together and he's talking about getting married.

Did you have doubts about your spouse before your wedding?

Did you meet someone amazing and you wanted him but decided to go ahead and marry your spouse?

How do you feel about the marriage now? Do you feel you did the right thing?

I'm in my mid 20s and I'm getting married next month, we've been together for almost 5years. He is the love of my life and I've never doubted my love for him or the fact that I wanted a family with him. He's got everything I want in a man.

The problem is we started having issues about 6 months ago, we stopped talking like before and we are completely disconnected now especially on my end but we're still going ahead with the marriage plan and I still want to marry him.

I met another guy I am really attracted to and we've been talking about a lot. He knows I am having issues with my man and I can't tell him we are planning to get married.

I'm having doubts about my man now, I'm confused, I feel I'll be happier with this new guy, I'm thinking it's lust but it's getting more complicated. Should I go on with the wedding?

Feel free to talk sense into my head, I need to hear hard truths.