1 thing that makes me laugh about so many nigerians living abroad is that after so many years they see them selves as whithes, u hear them refer to africa as jungle, When even as at yesterday a politician made a statement saying "black should go back home" "Cleansing" is fast becoming a reality if you look at it deep down, y was the point based system introduced for non eu migrants? of course it is aimed at cleasing the population and reducing black african/ asian migrants.

A leopard can never change its colour! im proud to be black and Nigerian.

I saw horrible things in Naija and of course life is alot better over here in terms i don't want to go into details however im here because i {1}have a right to leave my country, {2} have things to acheive here. When the time comes myself and loads of young men who know and are never ashamed of their roots will definately return 2 their motherland to give whatever they have to offer.

Has any one got any usefull information? kindly share with me, thanks in adv.

HR.hotness:

Can't say much!

This sounds harsh though, but its the truth. Jobless men should'nt have girlfriends!

only few reasonable men can see it this way.

Can't u ladies stop being defensive and carry on with the topic please?

[i][/i]My freedom, the fact that i dont have to argue & debate over unnecessary things, the fact that i have no explanations give when i get back home late. Feels sooooooooo gooooooood!

yimiton:

Keep more girls, spend more money and have more sex. That makes you a BIG boy!
Enjoy!

LOL!

@poster, i reckon you put more of ur time & resources into more productive things.

Think someone has been visiting too many dating sites!

mecussey:

Seun, sorry for this-obeying your rule by placing my mail address, but still wants to help Zogo, Zogo see what a casanova said----So what DO women want? What are their innermost desires?
Let's face it. If you have no idea what women REALLY want deep
inside, you will never be able to please them completely.
You can buy them lots of gifts and obey all their wishes, but
they are not going to be attracted to you because you're not
giving them what they really want.

* SO WHAT WOMEN WANT IS AN INSENSITIVE, ARROGANT, STINGY, THICK SKULLED, COCKY, IDIOT WITH NO PERSONALITY & SELF CONFIDENCE?

mecussey:

Every woman wants to surrender to the "right" guy.

Right! But i don't think a wise woman will surrender her life to a dickhead that doesn't appreciate her!

mecussey:

Listen. There is a darker side inside every woman
that wants to be dominated by a real man. Not in a "beat me
up and abuse me" kind of way, but in a "I want a man I can give
myself to" kind of way.

Women DON'T want your gifts and flowers. They DON'T
want your hopelessly chasing after them. What they REALLY want
is a man who can GIVE THEM THE ROMANTIC FEELINGS THEY FANTASIZE
IN THEIR DREAMS and make them feel WEAK in their legs.

They want to think, "I love him so much. I wonder how
he feels about me, ", not "Wow. That was a nice gift. This
boy likes me so much he brought me a necklace!"

They want to feel like YOU'RE the "right one" for them,
not because you "love" her and "admire" her, but because SHE
feels SHE loves and admires YOU.

You don't say to ur self, i want to have an attraction for him/her, It happens without you deciding, and only when the "aura" is there. Therefore how can you walk around pissing people off with ur arrogance & expect attraction? Besides, attraction is the first stage of any union, after which psychological compatibility comes in, if you don't have things in common, there will definitely be a repulsion.

I'd say too many compliments, sorry letters, gifts(sometimes unnecessary), make you look clingy, desperate, weak & "part of the crowd". However these, if used appropriately can be used to convey powerful messages and inner expressions that words cannot. (especially gifts). But i'm not saying d poster should allow himself be exploited by ladies.

I personally think the idea of "BE COCKY, BE ARROGANT" going on these days only work with ladies with very looooooow self esteem, who practically "have no choice".

So its a matter of taste, i wouldn't go for a lady left with no choice (lailai!). How then can she make me feel on top of da world?

zogo:

thanks for your opinions!
well, sombody's opinion here boderd on finacial strenght of a guy. now i want to ask, is/should money really be a "factor" for a girl to love u?

Going by topic, "to get girls to love me" money does not really matter. but u definitely need it to sustain the love if the relationship is on going and ur both struggling financially.

back@ topic, "get girls to love me" id say work on Ur confidence, personality and oral creativity. Confidence is a huge turn on for ladies and the more ur able to make a lady laugh & feel comfy around u, the more control u have over her mind.
This is based on personal experience. Read books on female psychology, get to to know & understand them better, then u can have a picture of what is going on in the mind of every female u come across (intelligently).
Before you speak, u can tell what her response will be, at this stage u can "manipulate" but don't be playing with people's heads, its unfair!

There's no magic behind it, think of it, big celebrities falling in love with their minders, dancers, even ordinary guys from very humble background. Not because these guys have money or fame, but they've unique personality and confidence that strikes this women differently! This creates the ATTRACTION (d chance 4u), then ur ability to make her laugh, feel special,& see every reason to spend every day wiv u, is what will c u thru.

Just go for it, having in mind that it is a normal thing to be turned down occasionally, (Attraction is not based on choice, it just happens) if its not there, u cant force it, so don't waste ur time with whoever doesn't show interest.

I'm kinda cool with extremely pretty ladies, i've quite huge confidence which i think has helped a lot. But the only problem is the arrogance and artificial lifestyle attached to them. A man wants to wake up next to a lady without make ups, to "feel" her, appreciate her, but most pretty girls rush out of bed to give their face a "touch up". They always aways want to look perfect all the time, "even in bed".

Also there is this arrogance i've noticed with the few i've been with, it just pisses me off. They find it hard to submit.

Before marriage, a man should have an academic qualification as well as basic fundamentals. His academic qualification = prospects which guarantees the future of the marriage.

I do not think it is a sin to get married when u're not yet made, but i feel its a sin to start a family subjected to starvation and poverty.

What i mean by basic fundamentals:
1) Basic household electronics. eg, TV, fridge, cooker. These are essential items for every household. Brand is what makes it luxury. (CRT, LCD,TFT screen OR HDTV, buy what u can afford!
2) Transport, this to me is necessary for day to day activities. work, taking kids to school, e.t.c  You don't have to start with a jeep, a reliable small car will do.
3) Accommodation, a habitable place you can put a wife not your pet.
4) Employment, be in full time employment, or own your own business with back up plans, or at least a long term contract employment, with wages enough to cater for two without borrowing.

Love = care, if you love someone you want to be able to care for them.

Sandra

Not only British girls love 2 date blacks, but id say white girls generally.

Here are a few reasons that i've obseved.
1) Some few white girls are just [naturally] attracted to the black male and find white male unattractive. These are the few who end up marrying from & living in the black community.

2) Some want to dissociate from racism. Date and mix with blacks.

3) White girls are adventerouse, and some want to taste the "forbidden fruit" if u know what i mean. This applies mostly to girls from the countryside. These are girls u see in afro/carribean clubs all wkends with black guys and during the week with another white bloke. They just wanna have fun, when its time, they go to the alter with their white bloke

4) For those who happen to break off from the grip of rock & dance music into r&b, see black guys as the only option to date as they will share (at least one) thing in common,Good music!

5) The teenagers, they've probably seen too many rap/hip-hop music videos, and they just want to taste the "black life".

6) Some are just obssesed with our skin, and they dream of having mixedrace kids with dark lovely skin. While some are in love with the afro/carribean culture, they want their kids to have two different cultural backgrounds.

cat & dog

Wish brownsilk another 180years in life

Last!

Too embarrased to comment!

gem87:

most cute guys r full of themselves their egos are as big as airplanes and their female counterparts r sumtimes like that which results in a massive personality clash since pride takes over, it's all about d personality 4 me before looks!

Well said ma sister, its usually the pride thing.

Think this topic is cool, from personal observations,when out on student nights. I realise it takes more effort to pull that (verry cute) chic, cos she wants to pass a message "I'M NOT LIKE ONE OF THEM GIRLS" While the guy feels "WHAT MAKES YOU DIFFERENT". While the guy talks/walks with confidence, it is mistaken for arrogace, While trying to be cool, she goes (he too dey pose). Usually the guy walks away impatientley, cos he feels "humilated" by not being received they way "other" girls would. And the chic herself, she's not willing to give herself just like that so there's usually this repulsion out of selfpride which is good atimes, but to some extent.

Ladies! seen Craig David letely?        If i was a girl, i'd prefer a body like his.

Ladies! seen Craig David letely? If i was a girl, i'd prefer a body like his.

Ist job was early morning shift in a retail store (winter period). sucks!

My first flight was a domestic flight to & fro Lagos/Abuja. It was fun, as i peeped thru the window, saw the countryside from an aerial view. I was a bit prepared for the take off & landing, as my aunt who was an air hostess gave me a few tips.

longest flight, Lagos to UK with a connection flight in Holland, i enjoyed every bit except the waiting.

temi kay:

I have a similar situation, i applied at ibadan last year and my application was taken to lagos and was refused, i appealed and the appeal was unsuccessful, i want to re apply now, but i just discovered that all ibadan applications are now taken to abuja for initial consideration, should i still apply in ibadan and get it sent to abuja or take it to lagos where it was initially decided.

i need your help please guys

Where you apply does not really matter, all application details go unto a database that can be accesed from any of the consulates.

manuch:

i want to re submit my application while on appeal because i can;t wait for the appeal wot are the implications?

Well, my appeal took a year, some others took more. Re applying has no implication, but once you address the cause of refusal in your appeal, you stand a good chance, with God on your side.