Please I'll like to ask you guys not to judge me. That's why I created this account, because lots of people know me offline from my original Nairaland account. I just want honest advice and opinions. Nobody is perfect. We all have flaws. Let's not be hypocrites.

So there was this guy I met months ago. He's very attractive and very intelligent. He's also very interesting and fun to be around. But above all, I'm very sexually attracted to him. Like I get wet just standing close to him. Almost everything about him turns me on. Our friendship was very short and he ended things with me over text when we had an argument. At the time I felt he was being very immature and being unfair to me because what he accused me of doing, wasn't even true. The end of the friendship was painful for me because even though we hadn't had sex, I sent nudes, had sex chats, and we had feelings for each other. I deleted his number afterwards and vowed not to contact him again.

I thought I'd get over him, but I haven't. It's been 2 months since I last talked to him and I'm still in love with him. I haven't texted him and he hasn't reached out. A part of me is still yearning for him to reach out. It hurts knowing that he doesn't care about me anymore. I think about him everyday and still have dreams of him.

I just started going out with this new guy and I feel underwhelmed by the relationship. My current boyfriend is a great guy that cares about me, but I'm not as attracted to him as I am to the previous guy. Even though I didn't have sex with the previous guy, I feel that sex with him would be more fun and enjoyable than the sex I currently have with my boyfriend.

Sometimes when I'm alone I shed tears when I think about the previous guy and how he pushed me out of his life like I was worthless to him, despite him telling me that I was special. I'm still deeply in love with him and I feel like I'm being unfair to my current boyfriend.

I'm afraid to contact the previous guy because I fear he might ignore me or worse, say something negative that would.make me feel even worse. I don't think he wants anything to do with me anymore.

I'm so confused. I don't know what to do.