People are people. You will find good and bad everywhere. Generalizations are easy. We all do it, however, if you're silly enough to believe that they're accurate and are applicable to all people, you're pretty "unenlightened". Now for the real reason I came here, there was an african american woman married to a Nigerian man who was going to do a reality type show documenting her trip back to the motherland. Can someone point me to it?

It doesn't look good, my friend. Did u put her church down? If she loves you, she would at least first see if you also giving your life to Christ is a possibility. Then you guys could "walk" together. Maybe your friend helped her give her life to Christ and in the process swept her off her feet. People use the church for their own agenda all the time. Its not the first time and it won't be the last. How do you feel about Christ?

Really sorry to hear this. Tough sit to deal with. But everything happens for a reason sweetheart. Looking back, can you honesty say that there were no warning signs? Personally, I think she met someone else. I don't think a woman would do this after three years of dating and an engagement.

I hate to tell her to stay away because I have a tendency to be close-minded but my gut says to tell her to shut it down.

Hi all,
My first post. Please advise.
I have a friend who really liked a guy but from afar. She said nothing to him. About 6 months ago he approached her. She was so happy. But the happiness was short lived. It turned out that he really only had one agenda. She's a V, but she didnt tell him that. The thing just fizzle. She stopped returning his calls and he stopped calling. She heard that he had started dating someone else. Anyhow, fast forward to a week ago. The man is back and seriously making an effort to get back into my friend life. I think she's still hurt and isnt really entertaining it much. She talks to him when he calls but thats about it. Do you think she's making a mistake in not giving him a chance? I dont know wat to tell er.