babyosisi:

Anyone that tells you to divorce your husband over this is a fool
If you decide to follow that advice you will be a bigger fool
At the end of the day,everyone logs off the site and life goes on
You will be the one living the consequences of your decision

These people here including myself are strangers to you
Your own mother has advised you on this matter but you would rather listen to people you don't know?
You made a decision when you decided to marry a Christian man
Since he will not join you,you have to join him as his wife
If the man is good to you,not abusive,cares for you and baby,you want to throw all that away because some person you don't know gives you an email address and you walk out into the unknown?
Be wise
Your decision to make
there are millions of Muslims converting to Christianity annually
In Yoruba land tons of former Muslims have become Christians,you can do that too
I promise,you will not regret that decision

Thanks alot sis

I would never do such becos I remba how we started nd how we stood by me, I can say he's the best husband I could ever ask for, Wish I cld go on and on... All the same thank you so much

bukatyne: I will sincerely not blame the Muslims that want her to divorce the man.

If the husband is a muslim, I would tell her to divorce him if they cannot reach a compromise. Her salvation is much more important than any marriage. No body would ask if she was married or not.

I wish the OP's could read this thread. Him forcing her to become a christian speaks volume of his own salvation too. If he wants her to be a Christian, he should repent, work on himself and pray to God for her soul.

The last I remembered, it is the Holy Spirit that convicts and not man.

I pray the OP does that which she feels is best for her

Thanks alot.

We're working things out amicably and by Gods grace divorce wld never be the best options because we love each other more than what people think. My hubby is more concerned with he's children joining my religion which I'm trying to convince him nothing of such would happen.

babyosisi:

Anyone that tells you to divorce your husband over this is a fool
If you decide to follow that advice you will be a bigger fool
At the end of the day,everyone logs off the site and life goes on
You will be the one living the consequences of your decision

These people here including myself are strangers to you
Your own mother has advised you on this matter but you would rather listen to people you don't know?
You made a decision when you decided to marry a Christian man
Since he will not join you,you have to join him as his wife
If the man is good to you,not abusive,cares for you and baby,you want to throw all that away because some person you don't know gives you an email address and you walk out into the unknown?
Be wise
Your decision to make
there are millions of Muslims converting to Christianity annually
In Yoruba land tons of former Muslims have become Christians,you can do that too
I promise,you will not regret that decision

Thanks alot sis.

If you read my last reply, I ask him even when I've baby for my hubby I shld divorce him??... I find it vry hard to blieve some pple wld even advise me 2leave when a baby is involve bt every1 with diff views on this thread.

joker5180: and thats the reason why u shouldnt hv gone into this marriage in the first place, u will deliver children who wil practice a religion different frm urs nd u may ultimately lose ur iman(faith). check the english versions of SAHIH BUKARI and SAHIH MUSLIM, read the chapters on marriage u wil get ALL the answers u need. MANY nairalanders dnt understand ur religion and hence give a one sided advice

Thank you so much


I wld reads the verse you mentioned but in situation like dis, wld you advice me to divorce him jst other people said?. Awaits your sincere answer

deols: @Op

Be careful whose advice you take. Many of those telling you to go ahead and be with him are saying so because they are Christians.

I dont know how much of a Muslim you are. But I can be sure that you are concerned about your hereafter and that of your children.
of course you dont want to lose out on al jannah just because of your husband's threat.

If he truly loves you like you claimed, he wont be lording this over you. In fact, when you maintain your stance about remaining a Muslim, he will allow you practice your religion because as much as you don't want to lose him, he also doesnt want to lose you.


Please talk to me here-

deols001naija@yahoo.com

Thanks alot

I tried to email you but I got failure delivery reply.

AbdH: @poster,
there is no valid marriage between a Muslimah and a non-Muslim no matter how much is spent on the wedding, I hope you realize that.
I'll be frank with you, the solution is to divorce him and marry a Muslim for anything short of that is tantamount to having zina for the rest of your (un)married life.

Even when I've a baby for my husband I shld divorce him all in the name of religion?

Thanks alot

I speak with my mom also about this, I was amazed shld Cldnt support me. She said a gud wife must practice her husband religion so matter what the case might be, she said we ladies of this generation seems to be very selfish of ourself & that's why we've high rates of divorce.

kofsy:
Someone is asking for an advice you are here condemning! Religion is indeed the opium of the masses... It has taken over our common sense! Smh

So two people who are in love can't get married cos of a barrier called religion? The question you need to ask yourself is, Does being in the same religion guaranty a happy home? Even though majority of people marry from their religion, there is still a looming rate of divorce... So what then is the problem?

OP, I guess the problem is foundational! Yourself and your spouse didn't talk it through and reach a compromise as touching this. You need to do what you ought to have done during courtship now... Sit him down an appeal to his sense of understanding. He's human too and if he has an iota of love for you, he'd listen. Tell him the decision to switch religion is a huge one and it should not be forced on anyone. Tell him everything has to do with your mind and personal conviction. I'm sure he would not just want you to be a church-goer, he would want you to have faith in Jesus. So he should let God convince you personally. Until then, peace should reign in your home. Doing this would buy you time... Before you decide what to do.

Now what to do... I need to ask you some questions.
1. Have you ever had the thought of being a christain?
2. How did it make you feel?
3. Do you feel you'd be happy being a christain?
4. What do you feel about your kids being christains?

If your answers to the questions above were positive, then you can easily switch for the sake of keeping your home. But if they are negative, then you really have to stand your ground, but in an indirect way. Men are like toddlers, they can easily be manipulated depending on the approach you use. You know your hubby more than every other person. Always be calm when you are talking to him... Don't argue with him. Be submissive in your tone when taking home your point. Whenever he raises the issue remind him that he can force a horse to the stream, but he can't force it to drink water. Over time you guys will get over it. I'm sure he's getting pushed by some external forces. Work on his psyche and you will be fine. In doing this, you must always meet up with your wifely expectations. Take care of the home, feed him well et al! The home is yours dear... You can either build or destroy it. It all depends on you. "Wisdom is the principal thing, seek wisdom..."

Thank you so much Kofsy

Your words are touching & sincerly appriciate your advise. We had a discussion few days back & he explain why "I should change my religion due to our baby. He doesn't want them to practice different other than he's religion but we were able to reach an agreement and I told him to give me time to work things out.

mgbeketoto: He has asked you to change to XTIANITY.
If the answer is NO. . . get ready for his reaction which is one of 2 options.
1. Separation or DIVORCE.
2. You stay the same till one person DIES of High Blood Pressure or STROKE.

Simple!

There is no wrong or right to 'SWITCHING' religions or FAITH/BELIEF SYSTEMS.

If I were you. . . .I WOULD NOT!. . .He is only looking for an excuse. . .to WANDER OFF. . .as usual.
HE CAN TAKE A HIKE. . . .

He's main reason was because of our daughter I believe.

nat138: It is quite annoying when people bring serious issues on here and then disappear.

OP sought for advise which she has been given and very serious questions have been asked but she is no where to provide answers to them na wa o.

As one poster said 'I wonder what people discuss during courtship these days'. You would imagine that the issue of religion will be top priority but well deed has been done already.

The Op's hubby probably didnt bother all this time because there were no kids in the picture, now with the arrival of baby Kate, it has become a worry to him as to which religion his daughter as well as subsequent children will follow. Will the kids go to the mosque with mummy on friday and then follow daddy to church on Sunday? I have a friend whose dad was a muslim and their mom christian, the father had no issue with all the kids going to church with their mom but there was a condition for the only boy among the kids, he followed his dad ti the mosque as well and had to participate in other islamic activites as well as going to church and also participating in christian activities. It had its fair share of confusion for the little boy. Well their dad finally became a christian down the line.

So am sure this is the kind of situation op's hubby is weighing. I really dont know what to advise because whatever we are going to say here, you probably heard much more while preparing for your wedding. The ball is in your court, My concern is not even about you and hubby but about the spiritual upbringing of your children.

Op it is time you and hubby go back to the drawing board and redraw the omitted bits you guys ignored while dating and chart a course forward.

Cheers

Sorry I Couldn't update my thread...I sincerely appreciate everyone advice on this issue, my hubby Cldnt give me a good reason I should change my religion but ""it's important for a wife to practice her hubby religion. I don't want to divorce him because I found everytin I could ever imagine in a man "true love, honesty etc"

My husband & I are based in hull United Kingdom & we love one another dearly during our dating time he knew I was a Muslim, we had our first baby (Kate) only recently he started actin cold towards me insisting I've 2change to Christian I was vry angry about it. I was angry because he never discuss this with me in the beginning, I need your sincere advice towards this issue HOUSE. Is it important for a wife to practice her husband religion at all?. Also I would be glad if this make it to the front page.

Thanks