9star:

My friend stop wallowing in self pity.
Wetin dey do u sef?
your not actin like a man jare.

aint wallowing in self pity.i love this chik and am trying so hard to get everything out of my mind and aint finding it easy. thats why i came to post it here. if am able to get it out of my mind, will i post it here?

michelin89:

@ poster

Don't you ever go out together? I myself would be bored to death in that kind of relationship!

that question is giving me a kind of answer to my assumption abt the whole thing. we really dont go out 2geda much and its her fault. the time we have gone out 2geda have always been from my side. she is always saying she want to stay at home. this just came to my mind, cld it be she never loved me? this question is bring so many things to my head, we hardly DO THAT THING and truly wen we do it, it really dont enjoy it at all. its always very boring to the core and u knw we men cos of the urge we gat to do it.

thanks all ya for the words. am working on myself and looking for a way out. though it aint easy but i'll work hard on it

henchmark:

from my experience if a girl tells you to give her space, quietly reallign your life man, no time for nonsense.
but lets be sure we are on the right track, how long have you guys been dating? or is she just seeing you as a casual friend while you are seeing her as your babe because some guys fall prey to this a lot, a guy would ask a girl out while she is still considering one or two things the guy is all over her, thats why IN MY OPINION, i wont say a girl cheated on me or is seeing another guy if i havent slept with her.

we have been dating since late august and ever since we have always been 2geda until some few days ago. on new year's day while i was on the fone talking to my friends, she came to sit beside me so that she'll knw what i am talking abt cos i was talking to a lady and she asked if she is my new chik but i just ignored.

thanks all once again for ur words, its just helping me. i have taken what i need from all that u said.

i just wanted to have my love life back, thats why am giving her so much attention but dont knw why itsn not appreciated. anyway, am bracing up for the worst cos i have been in this lane b4 so it aint gonna work on me again cos the 1st time something like this happened, i knw what i went thru

thanks all for the words. this is a text i got from her on new year's day

am not happy with the way things are with us, its getting monotonous and boring. we need to break off from the old ways and do things differently. take kia

yesternite 3/01/2008, i got this from her:

wats up? hw was your day and work? i'm sorry about my attitude. take kia and have a wonderful night rest

hi house,

i need ur candid advise on this issue. just want to knw if am the one that is wrong or the other person and also a way out of it. never done this b4 but am kind of baffle abt what happened.


there is this chik that i met some months ago, she stays not too far from my area. we became pals and later we started dating. i stay with my cousin, where i really dont like staying cos the area is a GRA and its kind of boring, i have no pals. its from home to work and from work back home. am this type of guy that like having people of my age around so that we can talk.

wen am coming back from work everyday, i bracnch and spend like an hr b4 going home, i kind of asked her if her family is kind of cool with my coming but she said now.

3 days ago, i found out that she doesnt wanna talk to me, i just felt it was one of those things but on new year's eve, we went to church 2geda with her 2 younger sister but she didnt talk 2 me all thru. at 12am that every one was telling each other their prayers for the nu year, my gf just walked past me without saying a word, rather she hugged her sisters. i was just pissed off. i sent series of goodwill nu year messages to her but all she cld send to me was HAPPY NEW YEAR, not even good wishes for the new year. wont lie to u i was heart broken to have gotten such a treatment for some1 that told u a week ago how u mean to her.

yesternite, on my way home i branched and engaged her in a conversation to knw why she is acting like that and she told me she needed me not to come over to her place like i use to and that am chocking her up too much, that its getting monontonous.
i told her she has all the space she wants and i'll not bother bother her abt attention again.

cld it be that she wants out? just curious. though i love her for real but will not stop her if she wants out

we spoke yesterday. my intention now is that i will see and talk but its all abt the baby and a littel abt her. am taking the baby's responsibility and will not allow her to harrass me all over the place with phone calls. she calls me up more than 10 times a week with nuting concrete to say. she just keeps saying i should come and when i get there we'll quarell and she'll call again and again

a female nigerian research student scored 100% in the Ph.D placement at howard universtity in the U.S.A

the V.C of the school said it was the first time that a feat like that is achieved in the over 100 years of the school's history

thumbs up for her

tkb417:

@topeorekoy
have you asked youreself why Mexico is playing us when its not as if they are preparing for a Nations Cup Qualifier too?
You need good teams to shape up your team, the colour and race of your opponenents in friendlies wont affect you one inch.

i am trying to say that y is there no african team in the friendlies lined up for the super eagles when we are preparing for the nation's cup. i wasnt refering to the mexico match.

we are palying slovenia, switzerland (mainly european teams), we shld play a friendly with an african team

@TeskyMan,

this one is a big one oh.

thanks once again for all ur advice. appreciate them all. my mind isnt that ok with her. i feel there are some things fishy about her.

she is a cool girl but behind my back she says bad things abt me which i have seen a text she sent to her friend. i have never had sex without a condom in 2 4 years until that faithful day. i have always been protecting myself but that day dont knw what happened.

i'll give her a call.

am at a marriage age but am not getting maried cos i still have something to put in place b4 getting married and i told her when we met that am not getting married until in 2 years time

thanks so much for all ur words. what baffles me is that, her mum came to nigeria and she never even called me for once to ask me abt it. her bother only called me once and never again. i dont knw what she wants from me. i wouldnt blame her cos i did it but she is a doctor in the making or made. how did she not knw that she missed her period? i was the person that told her she could be pregnant. i'll just sit down and think of what to do, aint getting married to her and the baby? dont know for now

i need pples advise on this issue and am in dire need of that now. my mind, head and heart is going crazy.

i met this ghanian chik some months back, she is doing he house manship and we sarted dating and really liked each other. there was this day that we were caried away and we made love without condom. immediately we finished, i told her that she shld just do someting abt it . she assured me that, she is a doctor and obviously she will do someting abt it so i relaxed. a month after i found out that she didnt do her menses, so i drew her attention to it that she shld go for a test. she the discovered that she was a month preg. i told her that i just dont want a baby now cos i have a lot to put right abt my life and a baby will not make things easy for me. at first she refused that she doesnt want to go thru an abortion and that she wants to keep the baby which i insisted all the while. she keeps calling me everytime abt the what we r going to do abt it but i kept telling her that i dont need a baby for now.

3ths into it she agreed to go thru an abortion after a lot of talking and talking. she then billed me which i gave her 80% of the cash. she said the doctor will give her an injection first and after 3 days he'll carry out the operation. some days later, she came and told me that the injection didnt work and i told her to go back and see the doctor but she didnt go and she lied she went. i dont knw how many months the preg is now cos she is pregnant and she has been calling and calling saying that i come and that she needs a place. she said she was going to come and see mey family but i told her that once they knw abt it, she is on her own and that all these audience that am giving her will cease. AM IN DEEP MESS HERE. PLS SOMEONE TELL ME WHAT TO DO cos i dont want any baby right now.


at a point we broke up, there was this night my ex- called my fone and she piked it up while i was sleeping and she copied her num and started calling her and i dont knw what she said. she sent a text to my-ex that am stupid, i only sleep with her and all other things but when i acousted her, she said it was my ex that started it. i called my -ex and told her that she shld hands off my life and face hers.

what is my main concer is that, she has so many guys after her, so many times at night guys call her but when i challenged her, she said do i expect guys not to walk up to her but i now asked that must u give every guy u meet ur num. there was even a day she said a guy came to her place and wanted to sleep with her forcefully even when she was pregnant

her friend called me some days ago that she is so sick and she wants to see me. am so confused but am still adamant that i dont need any baby for now which i have always told her from day 1.


pls help, what do i do