Hello all,
Please those in the financial institution should kindly assist with advice on my friend's request.

She seeks your advice regarding her career.


This November will mark her second year in the banking industry. She didn't have any prior experience in this field; her first degree was in Chemistry education. However, she is keen on pursuing a professional course or a master's degree that will enhance her prospects in the financial sector. She is looking to transition from one financial institution to another to facilitate her growth in this field. (she said transitioning from one bank to the other quickly enhances ones growth). Don't know if this is true anyways and she's aiming to transition from one bank's transaction unit to the other.

She is currently working in the transaction unit, handling responsibilities as a customer service personnel and also serving as a teller captain/ATM custodian. She is at a loss when it comes to deciding the right professional course to pursue and the masters degree course she can pursue too.

Please note that she is in transaction unit and not marketing.

Thanks as we await your responses.

Good evening all.
Please I need advice for a friend. My friend works in the corporate sector (Financial). She earns a decent salary and is happily married but her boss(a man) is the main problem here.

What can she do in a situation where her boss wants everyone to see her as a bad fellow?
Could it be because;
1. she got pregnant, and went on mat leave and maternity shift too? Why are some male bosses cruel? and this is someone who has a wife at home.
2. She puts herself first in anything she does at work. Can we say my friend is selfish here? Hmm
3. She goes to the hospital to treat herself whenever she's sick. Ever since she resumed her mat leave she overstayed the stipulated time the bank gave her for the other three months and this is just because she does her work properly and just to ensure that the team moves forward. Recently she fell heal and went to the hospital for treatment only for her boss to start calling her a lazy lady and at the same time comparing her strength to others. Hm, the evil men do...
4. She and her husband are both in the system and they earn quite a decent salary together.
5. Could it be that he and other colleagues are jealous?

Anytime my friend makes any single mistake, he'll start telling everyone, even those in other branches. He always threatens her with her appraisal anytime this girl needs to give her opinion about what she feels is not right.


This same boss is someone who calls himself a supervisor, he gossips about others with his subordinates (those he supervises).

Just because my friend is an introvert, she isn't a gossip, she's very quiet and reserved. I just feel he's trying to cheat this girl.


Please what can she do?
Quitting her job is a no-no. No boss can frustrate her to quit her job. Where was he when she was burning candles to pass training school exams?

Please advise us she's overly frustrated.

A very good morning here. This is going to be a bit lengthy but, I'll try to abridge my words here.

Well, I studied biology and education in my first degree. So I applied for masters of education in evaluation and measurements in one of the prestigious uni in Nigeria and I've been given admission.

I teach in a private school and I have few home lessons I take. Though as i type I really do not have much funds to start this programme being a 25years old female teacher but I'm so keen about furthering my education before settling down.
I've been having doubts if i should go for the programme or not. My fears are:

1. I have my younger brother to cater for (he lives with me in my self contain apartment), though he has handwork (fashion designing) and a school cert holder but I've not been able to get a parmanent place where he can work for now. I've been the one shouldering all bills ever since I graduated from the university and I really do not want to bother my parents because they are not too financially buoyant and I have 4 more younger ones.

2. My friends told me not to go for the masters programme because biology education and masters of education in evaluation and measurements aren't correlating.

3. Getting to starting the programme and at the long run after finishing I'm not able to get a good paying job cause I'm putting all my savings into it and the aim is to get a better paying job and not the token I'm receiving now.

4. I might lose my Job if I get to go for the programme because I applied for a full-time programme which is just a year unlike the part-time which is close to two years. Many of my friends asked me to resign because they feel what I need now is just a little change to sustain my brother and I when I eventually start the programme. As regards me resigning from work, I'm thinking of pleading with the management if my work time can be reviewed to be a part-time job even if it involves reviewing my salary I don't mind, so as to have the remaining days to attend lectures while I still keep doing my home lessons.

I'm so so confused. Everything seems so confusing and what I need right now is just a candid advice on the best way to go about this, cause I don't want to get married before furthering my education.

Good evening all.
So my female friend finished her youth service last year and she is currently working where she is receiving 60k salary every month. Her GPA is 3.75 (second class upper) and she has been trying all means to apply for scholarships abroad but financial capacity is really low being the first child out of six kids her parents gave birth to. Lemme just say she is from a very humble background.
Well, for now she's totally confused on maybe she should further her education to taking her masters. She read biology education actually, the masters course to go for sef she doesn't even know.
Her parents are already troubling her to get married next year as she'll be clocking 26 years old and getting married in Nigeria no be beans
So my question now is should she go ahead and further her education? If yes, kinda suggest lucrative courses to go for, while doing that please note that her first degree is biology education OR should she go get married with 60k as monthly salary considering the fact that she has family responsibilities to carter for.

Good evening all.
So my female friend finished her youth service last year and she is currently working where she is receiving 60k salary every month. Her GPA is 3.75 (second class upper) and she has been trying all means to apply for scholarships abroad but financial capacity is really low being the first child out of six kids her parents gave birth to. Lemme just say she is from a very humble background.
Well, for now she's totally confused on maybe she should further her education to taking her masters. She read biology education actually, the masters course to go for sef she doesn't even know.
Her parents are already troubling her to get married next year as she'll be clocking 26 years old and getting married in Nigeria no be beans
So my question now is should she go ahead and further her education? If yes, kinda suggest lucrative courses to go for, while doing that please note that her first degree is biology education OR should she go get married with 60k as monthly salary considering the fact that she has family responsibilities to carter for.

Hello nairalanders, please I need help on applying for chivening scholarship. Writing the essays is really a big problem. Anyone who can help out should reach me via this email address.... temmybidemi@gmail.com. Thanks

Sorry, my story is a bit lengthy but kindly take out time to read. Thanks
I have this friend that has been in a serious relationship for a year and 7 months, but has been complaining of too many red flags from her guy.
She started dating this guy last year January, though was a match make kinda relationship. The age of my friend and her boyfriend is 25 and 30 years respectively. She lives in Lagos and him Abuja. When they started dating, this guy had no job and she was serving back then. When it seems the job wasn't forth coming my friend fasted and prayed for him to get a job and God actually did it. She gave him his first transport fare for a month #10,000 and never collected it back.

This guy started working, lied about his salary. He told my friend he was collecting 45k, all of a sudden he changed it to 50k, but she knew he was lying, hmmmm... not a straight forward guy at all. He visited her once last year. The first day he saw her he insisted they have sex, she objected but later agreed. The second time they saw last year was in his family house. He showed her to those that matters in his life, this gave her rest of mind that he really means business.

Fast forward to early this year she was already done with service ( last year November) but loses all her savings of #800,000 to an investment. Being the first child of her parents with 5 other younger ones she really has lotta responsibility cause she's from a very very humble background but doesn't want this guy to know about her family background because she feels she might lose him if she tells him.
During this trying times of losing such a big money to an investment that got her so devastated, she became so emaciated, look darker and unhealthy. Told her boyfriend about the whole investment palava but this guy kept blaming and abusing her that she's a traitor, he abused her of not telling him she had such amount of money. This caused serious issue between the two of them, they both decided to break up at a point but it was the guy's family friend that settled the issue. Each time she ask this guy for money or subscription he would say he doesn't have. The last time he did was when he gave her 2k and 1k subscription for just 3months and he stopped. She complained again but this guy didn't do anything about it.

Luckily for her she got a customer service (intern) role at a multinational online retail store immediately she finished service and was collecting 42k but she was spending a lot on transportation. Had to quit the job and kept searching for another. She got another one few weeks later, same role as the former but at a very big hair saloon. Her salary here is 50k. Worked for few months and she later quit the job because of the nature of the job. This time around she wasn't looking good due to stress and lack of enough cash on her, she really used to be a caramel beauty. Few days later she got a new job as a teacher on the Island and was collecting 65k. She needed to get an accommodation and change her phone by her self but doesn't have much then and she doesn't want to sit at home as she feels she's a big sis and has those she's fending for. Told her boyfriend about the amount for accommodation but keeps telling her God will provide and reminded her she's working too and earns more than him. This very month my friend complained about accommodation issue was when this guy got a new car worth 3.5m for himself ( claimed his boss helped him out with some little change) and eventually sent my friend 40k to add to her accommodation fee or phone. Isn't that too small from him?

She complained about her boyfriend not giving her monthly stipend ( at least 3k) for upkeep. Each time she says this, her guy would tell her his younger sister is his priority. She truly loves this guy but she noticed this same guy lies a lot, nags, has someone he takes advice from before coming to her and talks shabbily to her.
My friend is actually a stubborn girl but brilliant and very respectfully. Most times this guy capitalises on this trait that that would be the only disqualification for him to getting married to her.
Each time she complains about her guys bad habits it turns into fight and might not talk for days.

Fast forward to this year, he visited my friend in Lagos sometime last 3month. The first thing this guy did was to body shame my friend, told her she wasn't looking good at all, that she's looking too black, looking so lean and asked her why she folded her jeans. Started showing her different girls and what they wore, he had to tell her he already has a car so girls will start flocking around him. She had to replied him by saying any one that wants to flock should flock, when he had no car who was there with him. This got him angry and later led into another fight.

Well, to cut the long story short, my friend worked on her dress sense, changed her body cream, bought supplements just to make him happy but with all these, this guy doesn't even care. She noticed this guy is cheating on her but kept saying he isn't. The last time he visited her, his phone was on airplane mode for the 2days they spent together. Reason being that he doesn't want his boss to know he traveled. Please how true is this?
She saw a video of someone calling him baby on his phone but he claims she's just a friend. Please I hope this guy isn't cheating on my friend cause she's a very emotional being and her health is really important to me.

Well, the question now is, should my friend visit him in Abuja for a week or more to know what exactly is wrong or she should just walk out of this relationship and focus on her career. Thanks