Mynd_44:
He told you that and you thought he would change? A guy confesses that he will cheat on you and the best you can come up with is that he will change after marriage? What is wrong with these people?

Hello didn't you read well, pls do read it again b4 you you crucify me . Mr prfect lover

deniyor: One more thing i missed earlier.
Why is your hubby cheating on you? Are you satisfying him in bed? You don't seem to be able to keep up with his libido. A very satisfied man won't really have the strength or stamina to go out.
Are you connecting with him emotionally? Cos that is a reason most men go out of the relationships.
Are you sure you are rocking is world. Don't just answer yes, consider it deeply. And if in doubt, ask him to be frank with you.

He is a superman ohhhhh!he once told me he can never be satisfied and he had slept with over 200 girls b4 we got married.I taught maybe after marriage he will stop.

frank3.16:


Oga pls stop makin statements u are not sure of. A man can love u and still cheat on u.

Like I said in a previous post men have sexx with women (including their wives or girlfriends) not because they loce them but because they want to satisfy their hunger For sexx, and therefore it can come in differnt veraities, but men marry u, care for u, buy u gifts etc because they love u. But women cheat with their emotions hence the story is different.

@poster, find a way to let him know he is hurting u. U must have evidenec that he is cheatin on u, do this smartly and let him know it hurts his reaction will tell u he loves u or not. Bt I still think he loves u and u know it, hold that one first, it is more important.

He knows he is hurting me because I have got evidence,which ave shown him a couple of time.He knows he is guilty that's why he doesn't want to reply this topic.He a NLder and he likes commentin on topics on romance.

deniyor: It's possible for a man to love and still cheat. Its just the way they are wired and a result of their upbringing/environment.
The one thing he lacks is real respect for you, and you have to fight for it.
If you weren't married, i would have said leave his sorry arse till he comes to his senses. But you are married so maybe a break from marriage then? Tell him you understand that he likes all the extra pusssies, you want to go enjoy all the other dycks you possible can too. Two can play that game. No need to really do it but if feels the threat is real, it will get to him.
Let him know the next time you catch him or just suspect anything at all, his friends or neighbours will be getting a free ride. And you will divorce him after that and go for everything he's got (that inky works outside of naija though).
Good luck you deserve the best.

you are really on point,seriously I have to gain my respect back and the best really I deserve

Shaw007: At this stage wer at. . .21st century-ish,most ppl cheat,its becoming normal. . .as much as u dont want 2 think about this he might actually be bored with your marriage. . .just talk 2 him about this,as his wife. . .he should yield,if doesnt now he will. . .

And,how old is ur marriage?

How can he be bored when we are full of fun. Please cheating should never be normal,its only africans that believe cheating is normal.

190:


hehehehe

there is nothing you can do, you cant eat all the money alone

there is love in sharing

I know your type,one that can never be faithful.God help your spouse o

190: OP

Dont you get it, MEN MUST CHEAT!!

You better manage him that way or continue increasing the number of males

strolling in and out of your legs life

Mind you am married so cheating is nt accomodated in marriage.Tanx

@ crazyman,thanks.I will continue to try my best to get my man totaly back to me because it hurts when someone else is sharing your love wth you

Mynd_44: You can't love someone and cheat on the person. Its not possible

That is what I believe to but at times I get confused with the way he shows me lv

I think I agree with you,each time I confronts him, he tells me they are just friends. That he only hangs out with them and does nt have any intimate relationship with the ladies. To me that cheating and no true love.

He shows me so much love n care but still cheats on me, and tell me lies. It really hurts,I love him so much that I can nt cheat on him,so I really don't know if the love he shows me is real.I want to know if true love accomodates cheating.

Well its nt disrespectful if d couple are free with dem selves n trust exis between them.
Talking about insecurity,this exist when there is distrust and reading your spouse SMS with dis attitude will be disrespectful because he/she will be uncomfortable

My husband is so wonderful, he doesnt even need to read this,becouse he loves me to a fault.Even with more bad habits than what you posted he loves me.He is so lovin n understanding.Huzy you are the best,i really appreciate your love and will nt take it 4 granted.

[quote author=omosexy1]she is a runs gal and I don't need evidence to prove it. From Nassarawa to Abuja to visit a friend. From Abuja to Lagos and to Festac. She conducts her business in a hotel in Festac (serious matter). If it is the Festac I know very well, then she is runs gal. Festac is the new den for runs gals in Lagos. After Abuja is Festac. I grew up there and I can tell you clearly. You need to see the huge inflow of ladies every evening trooping into Festac on a daily basis. Also, the men (married and un-married) who come around, many of them do not even stay in the estate. These activities are giving Festac a bad name. Any hotel you visit in Festac you must see them, either alone or in groups or with men. If the lady visited any hotel in Lagos and not in Festac, I would have thought differently. Anyway, it is a pity she was murdered. If I see my sister in a hotel in Festac my mind will explode. My friend's cousin (a lady) owns a boutique in Port-Harcourt (thats her side income), she comes to Festac bi-weekly to hustle, travels to Dubai to buy clothes and return to Port-Harcourt to sell them. We met her in a popular hotel in 1st Avenue and I was shocked. Though she did not deny it and even told us that her partner is upstairs waiting for her. Please note, she is a graduate. It is a fast growing trend for ladies looking for cheap income or to support themselves in school. Dem plenty for Festac loitering around. Festac is providing them safe haven to carry out their activities. We need help in that area as daughters may be lured into this menace.[/quote So oga what is your point now,are you God? Why conclude and judge her.Anyway may she RIP

no bi blue band butter i dey c so

Please, please,please, what is weekend husband? it cant work for me o, how will he be removing the cobwebs down below

husseinjnr: It will surprise you the petty things that can destroy your marriage. Its great to have gadgets, but spending time together is so important in your marriage. Please communication is key.

communication is rili the key, you don't knoww what you have until u looose it.Most of us think communication is only necessary when we are far apart and don't appreciate it especially when you see the same person in tthe same house every day.We always believe there is nothing more to talk about.

Tanx NL 4 ur replies, but rili think i need ur advice now becos its not as easy as i taught. At least am tryin bt my husband is finding it very difficult.

Kobojunkie: @Poster, computers are actually dumb and only do for you what you want them to do. So if you want your smart phone to cause distance in your marriage, it will help you achieve that. It is not to blame though because the power to stop it or continue is really in your hands.

yea agree wth u bt my dear if ur rili into gadggets u will undastand its nnot has easy as u say. it can turn to a rili bad habit jus like in my case bt i thank God we are tryin tp take control.

I have observed this between me and my husband. Our smart phones, blackberrys, laptops, i pads , playstations, internet and other electronic gadgets have been causing emotional distance between us. We get in from work, glue to our pads, eat dinner together and thats all. We now hardly spend time together. I really want to know if this is happening to other people. Please share your experience. Now we have observed it, we are now doing our best to work on it.

Rip

Omotola i rili respect U̶̲̥̅̊',lovely family