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A relationship built on lies is bound to fail and most times the idea of the couple coming back together does not arise. A lie no matter how convincing is a tool of deception and imminent heartbreak and any relationship hinged on it is a time bomb ready to explode. Most relationships are built on lies that even those involved find it difficult to trust each other and without trust an affair is doomed for failure. When this becomes the case, there is nothing anybody or expert could do to salvage the situation if a breakup occurs.

Why do lovers lie to each other? It can only be as a result of insecurity and a feeling of inferiority complex. Lying has a way of rearing its ugly head especially when the originator thinks he has outsmarted the other party. It tears relationships apart and makes nonsense of the love they both profess. Telling a lie smacks of indiscipline, lack of taste and trust in oneself because if you are not threatened, you will discuss the issue with your partner. Lying is a constraining factor to a healthy relationship. It should not be touched with a ten foot pole.

Transparency in a relationship is an energizing tonic, a booster and a sine-qua-non in a standard union because you will really see and appreciate your mate better. It is also a sign of maturity and enduring affection for nobody kills what they love. As a matter of fact, lying in relationships is not a mark of hatred but a display of fear of losing what one cherishes if the truth became known. Fear is a torment and a terrible inhibition to one’s ambition in every aspect of human endeavour and should be done away with if success is to be achieved.

Is there a way out? I think there is for every problem comes with its own solution. The only available option is to learn to tell the truth no matter how unpleasant or painful it may be. We have been told severally “to err is human and to forgive divine”. We should learn to let go especially when the offender shows true remorse. You may never know but a little nudge could be just what your romance needs to be rekindled.

Cyndi Jones (not real names) is a clear picture of what every woman would love to be. What with her enviable job, good looks, comfortable lifestyle and a very caring, handsome and wealthy husband who made sure she had whatever money could buy and pampered her to no end. Little wonder she was devastated immediately after her 35th birthday when her dear husband passed on leaving her to cater for three little children. Her world literally collapsed and the pall of gloom and loneliness overshadowed her. Without asking for it her once vibrant, vivacious lifestyle transformed overnight to a sullen, unhappy and lonesome life.

Stella was a Branch Manager in one of the third generation banks who was committed and was actually doing well or so she thought until she lost her means of livelihood and withdrew into a shell, becoming a shadow of her former self. She allowed the circumstance to get to her to the extent she lost the will to live.

The two scenarios above are not new to us because people suffer one loss or the other at different times in their lives. The period following is usually very difficult to deal with and if not properly handled, could lead to an unwholesome end.

The dictionary says that 'happiness is the agreeable sensations which spring from enjoyment of pleasure without pain'. The question is: who determines your happiness? Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy or otherwise. Your state of mind determines your outlook in life and the approach you will take in handling issues. I dare say that your circumstances notwithstanding, stand straight and have a life. Life is for the living and make sure you live it to the fullest. No one moves forward with a foot stuck in the past.

Depending on your parents, spouse, children or relatives to make you happy is laughable because you would be surprised to know that your happiness does not depend on them. You would be living in misery should you believe otherwise. Engage your mind in profitable ventures and shake off the gloom from your life. This will not only guarantee you some level of joy but will keep you away from stressful situations.

Life is full of choices. God through Moses gave the Israelites some choices to make but at the end of it all in his infinite mercy advised them to choose life. King David the man after God’s heart at a time was faced with a hopeless situation when his family and others were carried away and his city burnt but we were told that he encouraged himself in the Lord. You could do better because the same God is still out there waiting for you to be bold enough to trust Him for bigger things.

When life gets sour and unpleasant, laugh it off. The ability to laugh in the face of adversity and trials is the hallmark of a champion. I have learnt a long time ago not to cut off the nose to spite the face.

Precious lost her husband of 15 years at the age of 39. Family and friends thought she had come to her wits end because they were really an item but the young lady resolved to stay afloat. Several months after the demise of her husband, she brushed everything aside, got a grip on herself and moved on knowing full well that the well-being of her six children depended on how she handled the situation.

What about friends you are wont to ask? You must be joking! Believe it or not, when trouble strikes you are left to handle the ‘dirty’ stuff alone. When you are down you are despised, so do not delude yourself with the notion that friends will always be there. The only ones who will stick with you are those who may be in the same situation as you or some family members who couldn’t just walk away.

Allowing someone else determine the pace of your life is not only worrisome but an admittance of weakness, lack of faith in your abilities and a total disregard for the love of God.

It may not be easy but you can do it. Choose to be happy today. Sadly enough whether or not you are, the problem will not go away but will bring in its wake several others as the days go by, so why not be smart and take a plunge into the future. Hey, there is no law against happiness and nobody can berate you for being ‘too happy’. When you learn how to laugh off your challenges, you’ll discover a lot of weight is lifted off your shoulders. Never take life too seriously peradventure you leave the scene prematurely, the beat goes on. Even if your expectation has fallen short of what you imagined, don’t feel sorry for yourself or blame others for your shortcoming. You can still contribute your quota to making the world a better place for others after you to enjoy.

The lament of unhappiness is one of the common anthems of our time. When you are unhappy, you become the centre of your own attention. Samuel Shoemaker said, ‘we are lonely not because we are not loved, but because we do not love’.

The scripture tells us to ‘put on the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness’. Most of the time, unhappy people are very selfish. They feel unable to love. Have you tried being a blessing to someone else? It is time you concentrated less on you and got away from ‘me, myself and I’ syndrome. If you make up your mind each day and decide to be a blessing to people, your life will take on a new meaning. Someone rightly said the city of happiness is in the state of the mind.

By changing the goal of your heart, you will free yourself from the gloom of unhappiness, experience joy unspeakable and full of glory and God will use your life to bless many others.

Happiness is a by-product of life. It comes as a result of living actively and unselfishly. It comes from a conscious effort to be happy irrespective of one’s feelings or circumstances. The question is, are you willing to change; are you willing to do what you have to do to help yourself to a better life? You can make a change today and turn your life around.

Every change is difficult but you can do it. Do not stay with the status quo, make a detour and downplay the urge to stay in your current state. ‘Going through change is hard but staying in bondage is even more difficult’, says Joyce Meyer.

In the days of yore when Mills and Boon held sway for die-hard romantics, young ladies dreamt of falling in love with a blue-eyed, broad shouldered, handsome and extremely talented young man as depicted by the romance series. If a young man didn’t fall into the category described above, he should consider himself not good enough. I’m really glad that era has passed. Otherwise, many ladies would be in some sort of Eldorado. No one has it all.

A girl had the right to reject whoever she felt didn’t measure up. It still happens today but some men do not take it kindly.

Recently, a young man, Paul Nwokobia was arrested by the police in Lagos for allegedly pouring acid on her ex-lover, Rosemary Nnaife, in the Surulere area of the state. It is really shameful and foolish of a man to indulge in self pity after a relationship had crashed.

The duo courted from 2011 to September 2014 when they separated. A relationship ended nine months ago and the man wouldn’t let go? Was it that he loved her so much that he couldn’t live without her? Maybe his ego was at stake or his friends kept taunting him of letting her go easily? What would make a man think of eternally disfiguring his ‘once-beloved’? Wickedness was implicit in that man.

Rosemary left him because the relationship was going nowhere coupled with the fact that Paul was not a straightforward man, as explained by the young lady. She knew what she wanted in life, unfortunately, she paid dearly for it. She understood that continuing with the relationship may lead to a marriage that could easily be avoided, moreso when the young man didn’t have an identifiable job. He should have been happy to be left alone so he wouldn’t have to be burdened with caring for a woman with his savings (if any).

I ask again; was the acid bath necessary? If you had truly loved someone and it went sour, the affection you felt wouldn’t let you harm them. Love does not pay back anything with evil. If it happens your love is no longer reciprocated, do move on and let go of the past. Someday, you’d meet someone who’d value you and give you the peace of mind you so much require. The one ahead is always greater.

Let the fear of God reign in our midst. Do not be an accomplice to a crime nor be known as a trouble-maker where you reside. You may not be caught immediately you commit a crime but remember a day cometh when you shall definitely pay for your sins. Be wise.

In furtherance of its on-going campaign against fake and sub-standard products across the country, the Standards Organisation of Nigeria (SON) during the week in Lagos clamped down on an automotive motor cycle spare parts firm allegedly owned by Asian nationals.

Leading the agency’s monitoring and enforcement team, Engr. Bede Obayi told newsmen after the raid that the operation was in line with the organisation’s ‘Operation flush” campaign against sub-standard goods circulating in any part of the country.

The level of sub-standard products in Nigerian markets has been put at about 45%. Disclosing this to pressmen during the raid at a warehouse filled with automotive spare parts ranging from tyres, tubes, clutch fibre, motorcycle chains, amongst others, owned and operated by Chinese and Indian nationals at Orile-Iganmu, Lagos, Head, Inspectorate and Compliance Directorate, Standards Organisation of Nigeria (SON), Engr. Bede Obayi who led the enforcement team stated that SON uncovered the warehouse in its on-going ‘operation flush’ operations aimed at removing sub-standard products from circulation in the country, adding that the products purportedly claimed as Made in China were actually repackaged in Orile-Iganmu, Lagos.

The activities of some unscrupulous Chinese and Indian nationals have drastically affected local industries who have since closed shop as they could not compete with imported sub-standard products. Just recently, the Enforcement Team of SON confiscated over N200 million worth of sub-standard baby diapers from a Chinese firm, Ming Teag Trade and Investment Company Limited, based in Lagos.“It’s high time these people who do not mean well for the country were dealt with to serve as a deterrent to others”, concerned Nigerians declared.

It was discovered the products faked were under the brand names of two indigenous firms duly registered with SON.The varied products valued at N2billion Naira were brought in by one unregistered company, without a trace of registration of its products with SON. There was no evidence of the agency’s SONCAP certificate for all the motorcycle spare parts, tyres and tubes brought in by the company into Nigeria from 30th July 2014 to 25th June 2015 when it was discovered by SON. Within the said period, the company had made 82 shipments of the consignments in 194 containers as monitored from the Nigerian Trade Hub single window, Obayi disclosed.

“From our NICIS record and information we have gathered, we have found out the products were brought in by one Ade Ori Nigeria Limited of 118, Willoughby Street, Ebute Metta, Lagos and there is no trace of registration of these products with SON. No evidence that the company obtained our relevant SONCAP certificates which are Nigeria-import requirements, that before you bring in products into this country, our Overseas technical partners must have tested these products and confirmed they are okay before shipping them in”.

Berating the fraudsters, Engr. Obayi insisted, “we cannot allow it because Nigerians cannot be killed by Chinese here doing massive adulteration on Nigerian soil”, also it amounted to economic sabotage by foreigners.

The SON top official said, “We saw a number of expired tyres and tubes that these people are selling to Nigerians. Tubes that have stayed over seven years, when you use them, the next thing you witness is tyres bursting on the highway and killing of all vehicle occupants. This is not acceptable to us;we cannot allow them”.

The owners of the warehouse were not available but an Indian (names withheld) was arrested and handed over to the police for further investigation while the products were evacuated to SON’s warehouse for further testing and eventual destruction and the warehouse sealed.

In a related development, SON has called on importers to register their products with the agency for proper identification and traceability so that when issues arise, the importer would be traced without any difficulty.

Prospective customers are advised to make inquiries before making purchasing as well as check a product’s country of origin as any product without a country of origin remains suspicious.

“The tragedy of life does not lie in not reaching your goals… the tragedy of life lies in not having goals to reach for. It is not a disgrace not to reach the stars, but it is a disgrace not to have stars to reach out for. So aim high, dream big dreams and remember everything is possible if you can just believe”. – Anonymous

Purpose is defined by free dictionary.com as ‘the object toward which one strives or for which something exists; an aim or a goal’. Every individual created by God has a purpose for being. You came into this world for a reason. You are neither an accident nor a mistake because God doesn’t make mistakes; you are also not an experiment or a chance product of your parents. They may not have planned for you but you are here anyway and you are the most valuable of all of God’s creation.

Some people live and depart this life without making an impact, without knowing why they came and without fulfilling their purpose on earth. You can at least ask yourself: what if I die before I can live out my dream? What do you think about an unfulfilled life? Someone said an unfulfilled life is not worth living. Purpose gives fulfilment. You ought to be passionate about your purpose and employ patience to see it accomplished because everybody is blessed with time and talents.

There is no life more empty and meaningless than that without a direction. It would do you a lot of good if you found out why you were born in this time and age. God knows you are relevant to this generation; he has imbued you with the knowledge to impact your world positively and be a channel of blessing to people of your time.

You have only one life to live so do not live it pleasing others or riding on the coat tails of another. Find out the reason you came and fulfil it. Maybe you are living out a script written by your parents or relations, the best part in the play is you can break loose from every stronghold delaying your destiny and be what God fashioned you for. Do not be a cheap imitation of somebody else, be the original God created you to be. You can be guided on the right track but refuse to live another man’s dream.

The hardest thing to be in life is what other people want you to be. Perhaps you are thinking it is too late for you to start again (that is if you missed it in the past) but do not forget that the fulfilment you get from doing what you love surpasses any monetary reward you would get from doing what another person imposed on you. If you give up before you reach your goal, you are a quitter and it is an established fact no quitter ever fulfils their purpose.

The only guarantee to not being defeated in your pursuit is persistence in that which you plan to do. Learning to be you is key because everyone is unique with a God-given plan and purpose and for there to be an attainment, they have to be themselves and allow God to develop them into unique vessels of honour. Without him no life will have a purpose. He restores that which was lost and nobody achieves much without his divine help. If you are at sea concerning your mission on earth, ask God to direct and reveal it to you because for you to achieve it, you must know what it entails.

Many people do not discover their purpose early because they dabble into activities where they lack competence but there’s always a way out in matters of this nature. You should not attempt to give up. As you begin to redirect your focus, great improvement will show up. Pastor Tunde Bakare said, ‘the day you discover your purpose is the day you begin to live’. How true!

So many are of the opinion that purpose should be easy to identify, it doesn’t happen that way always. Mostly it happens gradually when you give yourself to identifying where your interests, talents and life seem to be leading you. Find something to live for; a person may be alive but is actually ‘dead’ if he has nothing to contribute to his world. He lacks insight, foresight, enthusiasm and power to create anything or help in any way possible.

Age should not be a barrier in attaining your life’s ambition because you are neither too old not too young to fulfil your destiny. Whatever God wants you to be, he will give you the grace to accomplish it. Anybody can dream big dreams and bring them to pass. How old is ‘old’ anyway? We have been told that age is just a number. If it is so, opportunity abounds for whoever wants to reach the sky.

At age 66, Colonel Harland David Sanders founded fast food chicken restaurant chain Kentucky Fried Chicken. Isn’t it amazing? He considered not his age. At a time when his mates were on the road to retirement, he was just starting something new. He knew he had something great to offer his world. He may have conferred with some of his friends who probably tried to discourage him from pursuing his dream but he held on to his belief and became happier for it. Today, even Nigeria has become a vibrant market for the world-class brand. He sure made a difference in his generation.
Everybody wants to be important and relevant in the scheme of things. That is why a lot of people are looking for importance in very many things in the society. Armed robbers, arsonists, kidnappers, terrorists, even rapists want to be recognised; they seek relevance in the wrong things. Inside every one of us is a craving to be somebody. You should be committed to your vision because God’s opinion of you matters most.
The success of a product is the fulfilment of the purpose for which it was made. Sadly, many people are on a joyride to nowhere. A life without a vision is like a rocking chair, moving without any progress, no distance covered therefore no work done.

Thought is supreme. Preserve a right mental attitude always and your success is assured. You are successful in life when you become what you want to be. You cannot change your actions unless you change your thoughts. It would not be out of place to make some careful re-adjustments of your priorities, schedule, association and any other thing that could delay your progress in order to accommodate new thoughts and dreams.

Jealousy and envy are the twin results of unfulfilled purpose. Not knowing your purpose will bring stress, fatigue, disillusionment and conflict in your life but your life becomes easy when you discover where you are going and what you are supposed to do per time.
Do not be carried away with the world’s symbol of success. When you discover your purpose you will not lack. No good manufacturer produces a product with a warrant for failure so why would God create you without a purpose. He is committed to your success and is willing to help you beyond your imagination.

A man’s life consists not of the things he possesses. With God leading you, you will prevail over every circumstance warring against your success.

‘It is true that you will create a healthier, happier, more fulfilling life when you discover your ultimate purpose in life’.

Some things are indeed very strange in this life. How can a human being be licking animal's face or allowing them lick their face. It's just disgusting.

Doctors have diagnosed a cat owner, Janese Walters, of Toledo, Ohio with 'Cat Scratch', a bacteria caused by cat's saliva or fur. Now that she cannot see, what becomes of her pet?

The Bible is a book that is replete with genealogies. It makes a clumsy reading and I have had to ignore ‘this begat that and that begat that’ until it dawned on me that there must be a purpose for it. It shows that family is truly important to God and he cares about our lineage. God adopts us into his family immediately we surrender our hearts to him. Even in the midst of the multitude, God can locate whoever he wishes to favour because he knows everyone by name. It is not out of place to question where ordinary people find the strength to accomplish extraordinary feats.

Jabez was a man that was destined for distinction by God. In the midst of the roll call of the tribe of Judah, God singled him out for recognition. There was nothing prior to the mention of his name in 1 Chronicles 4:9 that he would be so much favoured or rise to such prominence. The roll call paused to introduce him with his peculiar condition indicating something spectacular, his image was in tatters and he could not hold his own amongst his peers. One thing though stood him out from the pack. He recognised that his situation was subject to change and he never gave up. With the approach he took, he became a limit breaker. God honours faith whenever it is expressed. His special recognition catapulted him to a rare place of the mighty and gave him a place amongst the revered.

His mother named him Jabez meaning ‘sorrow maker’ according to the amplified version of the bible or pain in some other translations. The bible did not expatiate or take us back to what happened earlier in her life to warrant such a hateful and unusual name for an innocent child. I would try and hazard a guess; maybe her husband died before she gave birth to the boy; maybe she had him out of wedlock and was left alone by her folks to cater for the pregnancy; maybe she was disowned by her parents when she brought the disgrace of an unwanted pregnancy to the family; maybe it was a protracted labour; so many maybe’s but the result became a man with a poor self image who knew he was living beyond his God-ordained calling.

Every labour comes with a tinge of pain but something about Jabez’ made his mother to memorialise it in her son’s name. His name became an impediment to him. He tried his hands on so many viable ventures all to no avail; he may have tried to pry the reason for such a name out of his mother probably without any headway, so he beamed his searchlight on God having heard of his wonders and the miracles he wrought in the lives of the Hebrews. Despite his unpredictable future, he had hope of a transformed life. He realised an effective image should be consistent with one’s vision in life. He got himself to take action because ‘for every disciplined effort there is a multiple reward’, a la John Rohn.

Nobody loves pain or sorrow not to talk of having it as a name, a constant reminder that nothing good will ever happen to such a person. Even armed robbers/kidnappers/terrorists who deliberately inflict pain on their victims beg for mercy when apprehended by law enforcement agents indicating that pain is abhorred by all living beings. Faced with the possibility of living a very miserable life, Jabez decided to take his future in his hands. He prayed a short prayer that catapulted him to incredible success.

He became aware that for his situation to change, he had to do something drastic or perish. For a change to come, you must know firstly you have a need. Secondly, you will seek help form a higher being, in his case, he sought God. Thirdly, you must act because faith without works is dead. When all these are put in place, a favourable answer is inevitable. Anyone can have the same result that Jabez had with a right mindset and definiteness of purpose. Our God abounds in blessings. Jabez prayed a four-point prayer.

Oh that you would bless me indeed; he felt he wasn’t blessed at all. He may have watched his friends do exploits and wondered why his case was different. He definitely didn’t belong to the ‘happening’ group. His endeavours may have suffered several setbacks hence, the request to God for a real blessing, the type that would be evident for all to see without having to shout it or tell people.

And enlarge my territory; he wasn’t comfortable with the status quo. His expectation fell short of what he desired. There is nothing wrong in aspiring for greater things if the one you are entreating his favour has the capacity to do much more. He didn’t feel he was disturbing God as God couldn’t be scared by our requests.

That your hand would be with me; he knew unless God is with a man, he is not likely to achieve much or make much impact in life. He needed God’s covering and protection without which the blessings may not last. Whatever God gives someone, he protects and preserves from all harm and predators because he only gives lasting riches and honour.

That you would keep me from evil; evil is everywhere human beings can be found. Man does not have the strength to ward off evil as it comes. He needs help from his creator. God is good and it is his delight to help his people achieve utmost satisfaction in their daily lives.

God granted his request and he began to live large for God. What an indescribable beautiful experience. In the heart of God is nothing but love. Peace is to be found in God because He is more durable than the mountains. With him there is stability and permanence that invite the fullest confidence. His blessings are not laden with sorrow.

There will never be a time when God’s love for his children will wane neither will there be an occasion when he will cease to hear their petitions and supply their needs. God is ever merciful and generous. Just like Jabez, your story too can change for the better. You only have to recognise your need for a change, take action and call on the one who has the answers.

You have to be aware that God is not overwhelmed by your requests. There is no problem to which he does not know the solution. Nor is there any difficulty so great but he knows the way out. God has the resources to alter your unpleasant situation or whatever condition that has plagued you for years. You can change any situation you are not comfortable with by reprogramming and reorganising your mind to make room for that which you sincerely desire.

You are responsible for your thoughts, so be wise and earnestly covet the best from God always. Remember Jabez and the amazing transformation his prayer and cry for help brought him. He displayed a rare form of courage and boldness; he wasn’t scared of being accused of asking for ‘too much’. He may not have conferred with anyone before making his petitions because he didn’t want any discouragement as he was already tired of his situation, afterall, he had nothing to lose. He got what he wanted and became the reference point in his day.

Giving up shouldn’t be an option for anyone who is desirous of standing out from the bunch. Nothing is impossible for the one who is determined to achieve his purpose. You may be the next in line for a miracle, only if you ask.

I wish our President the very best in his tenure. This is just the beginning of great things to happen in Nigeria. God bless Nigeria.

Some animals are really getting very vicious these days. The other day in Tbilisi, Georgia, it was hippopotamus, lions and tigers on rampage and now sharks have gone hay wire chopping off limbs of beachgoers.

Two teenagers on Sunday lost both their left limbs to raging sharks less than two hours apart in separate incidents off Oak Island, North Carolina. It sounds so scary. Imagine swimming and feeling great only for it to be truncated by a large, angry fish from nowhere. OMG, it must have been a sight!

The teens, a girl aged 12 and boy 16 had been swimming about 20 yards offshore, in waist-deep water. It’s a pity entering the water whole and coming out maimed.


Will this deter beachgoers from catching some fun? Your guess is as good as mine.

(photo credit: AP)

Lol. It's enjoyment galore for them till death do them part. Happy wedlock.

A 103-year-old man and a 91-year-old woman have held their wedding in Britain, becoming the oldest couple in the world to get married.

George Kirby and Doreen Luckie — together for 27 years — looked delighted as they tied the knot on Saturday at a hotel in the seaside town of Eastbourne, southern England, before close friends and family.

The bride wore a white dress with blue flowers while the groom, a former boxer, was dressed smartly in a suit and tie, and was in a wheelchair following a recent fall.


With a combined age of 194 years, the pair beat the previous record held by a French couple, Francois Fernandez and Madeleine Francineau, who had a combined age of 191 years.


Speaking ahead of the ceremony, Ms Luckie said the couple had "no regrets" about not doing it earlier.

"We didn't want to bother about marriage before but eventually we did it," she said.


The couple reportedly have seven children, 15 grandchildren and seven great-grandchildren between them.


They got engaged on Valentine's Day this year, according to the Daily Mail.

"I didn't get down on one knee, because I don't think I would have been able to get back up," the newspaper quoted Kirby as saying.

AFP

Let's see how it goes

There was a minor fire incident at a female hostel of the University of Uyo on Saturday morning, in which the property of 20 students were destroyed.

The university’s Public Relations Officer, Mr Godfrey Essien, confirmed the incident, but said that the inferno was put off by men of the State Fire Service.

“Yes there was a minor fire outbreak in one of the female hostels in the town campus of the university, but it was brought under control by men of the State Fire Service.

“The fire affected just two of the rooms in the hostel while no life was lost.

“The university authority is currently carrying out an investigation to determine the cause of the fire,” Essien said.

The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) gathered that the incident was caused by an electrical fault when one of the female students was cooking.

Are you married? If not, marry her. There is nothing wrong in that. she is a woman and she may even like you or love you. The ball is now in your court. You better play it. Goodluck

@Cutehector, sex is not a proof of love. If that's your purpose of getting married, you'd end up disappointed because the day the sex becomes boring, you'd want to quit the marriage. So, it's a wrong reason to get married.

@GeneralQuamdeen, starting a family is lovely but someone should be able to define his/her purpose of getting married. Children will grow better in a home full of love. Just like anything in life, definiteness of purpose saves one a lot of heartache and mistakes in life. Sex shouldn't top the list. Have you considered unrestricted love? Everything responds to love. Show your spouse love and all these other things shall be added to you.

@Imas, great things you said there but don't forget someone you'd equally love, appreciate, cherish and achieve great things with. Remember the golden rule and apply it and you'd enjoy every bit of your marriage.

The issue of leadership has become an unending topic for debaters and arguments not only in our nation but all over the world. The world is groaning under the weight of bad and cruel leadership but we can make our society enjoyable by not joining the bandwagon.

A leader according to the new Webster’s dictionary of the English language is ‘someone who acts as a guide, a directing head of chief’. A leader must have a vision and know where he is taking his people to. Success does not dwell in isolation. You are really successful when you produce more success. The ability to have followers who believe in your leadership qualities makes you a good leader.

The difference between successful and unsuccessful people is action. While successful people take action, it is not so with unsuccessful people. They have dreams as well which lie only in their bosom. They are always full of ideas that never get implemented. God endowed everybody with talents but most people have allowed theirs to remain dormant. Success is planned. Nobody stumbles on success. It is a culmination of positive activities or processes one has worked on or gone through. Successful people have clarity of values. They know what they want and set their priorities aright.

Pastor Chris Oyakhilome defines success as ‘impacting your world with the investment of your personality’. He goes further to say it is ‘influencing the world around you to think like you and to aspire to your inspiration’.

Transformational leadership is where people’s lives are changed from the inside out. The leadership challenge in Nigeria has remained an issue because leaders have not effectively engaged their minds to be able to design policies to enrich the lives of the led. The recycling of obsolete procedures and systems that have achieved nothing over the years has posed a great challenge to a better life for the citizenry and until they are discarded, the issue of genuine development will remain a theory and topic for heated debates and round table discussions for a long time to come.

A successful person invests in himself to be able to impact others positively. It is when one has invested enough in himself that he can have the capability to change another. The world system is not really fashioned for anyone’s failure. People have been known to do well even in very bad economies. Successful people do not trade blames. They rise to the occasion when it is demanded. They take responsibility for their actions and blame no one for their failures (if any).

Success is achieved not only through vision but ideas and strength. As a person, you have something to offer because god made you in his image and likeness and imbued you with the seed of greatness. Your ability to harness that inner strength will mark you out as a leader with a difference. If what you have is locked up, you are no different from the one who lights a candle and puts it under a table. The light has failed to illuminate the darkness it was meant to. You deny your world the opportunity of appreciating what God has endowed you with if you are not walking in line with his purpose for your life. It is not enough to come into the world or live long; but living too champion a noble and worthy cause and leaving your footprints in the sands of time.

We should let our works be such that will serve God’s purpose. You begin to fail when you compare yourself to someone else. That another person is succeeding doesn’t make you a failure because you are gifted differently. You are a real failure when you refuse to listen to the spirit of God in you to know what you have been called to do. You’ve got to use what you have to influence your world. Your path through life may have been tortuous or probably you grew up with a disability but all that is not enough to explain away the non-pursuance or total negligence of your dreams and aspirations. The road to failure is strewn with excuses.

People who compare themselves to others are visionless and lack taste. They live a life of mere existence. Successful people look for solutions to problems. They are not afraid to take up challenges because they are aware they have what is takes to meet and overcome them. Success births success. Everyone created by God has something to offer this world, never bury your talent like the servant whom his master left with a talent but who out of sheer greed did nothing with it. He failed to realise that greed is a robber of integrity, diminishes one’s achievements and terminates destinies. In as much as we are living in a world where it is becoming increasingly difficult to live a good life, you must be up and doing with your divine endowments and leave the world better than you met it for the generation following.

You are a success when you influence the world around you to think like you. Like, they say, begets like. This becomes possible only when you have made concrete and beneficial deposits in you. There is no gainsaying the fact that you can only give what you have. The reason the Nigerian society cannot boast of enduring development even with the enormous resources at her disposal is because those in leadership positions have not imbibed this notion. You become eminently qualified to draw from your wealth of experience and affect others in your sphere of contact positively when you make adequate deposits in you, otherwise, you may not have anything reasonable or remarkable to offer and you’ll make no impact.

Leadership suffers when the leader is bereft of ideas, lacks insight and is clueless about what means, strategies to employ to improve the lot of his followers.

Anyone can be a leader, including you.

Have you wondered why people get married? Better still, why would someone desire so desperately to get married? I think one good reason why anyone would want to get married is just to get married.

That you want to marry is not enough reason to tie the knot. There must be several reasons to do so. If you look at it very well, there are so many bad reasons why people jump into marriage.

The fact is, every marriage should have a purpose otherwise, you are obviously getting married for the wrong reasons.
If you want to live a happy life with whomsoever you chose, get married for the right reasons. Let’s look at some wrong reasons why people get married.

Too much pressure from loved ones
Most times, loved ones who feel that a lady is ‘over ripe’ for marriage put unnecessary pressure on her to get married. Men are not pushed that hard but women find it difficult to concentrate when family members and friends decide to frustrate them with questions like, ‘when are you getting married/you’ve not shown us the man yet/don’t you think you are of age?
The inability to handle this aspect well pushes many a young woman to do the unthinkable – saying yes to the next available guy. The ability to resist pressure from folks will help you think aright.

All my friends are married:
When a lady’s close friends get married, the only thing uppermost in her mind is getting married because she could no longer handle loneliness. There is nothing wrong in being lonely for a while knowing that waiting for the right person would be worth it. Your loneliness would be increased if you get hooked with the wrong person. Do not allow someone else’s status determine how you live your life. Everyone is called and fashioned differently. Loneliness is not desirable but it is better to hang in there rather than rushing in to rush out.

I need someone to take care of and provide for me:
It is wrong from the start. You should be able to cater for yourself and be responsible for your life without depending on anyone for sustenance or support in any way because the moment the care goes, you’d realise you’ve made a huge mistake. Marriage is not for the lily-livered, it requires maturity and planning.

I want to have children:
Children are a great blessing to any union but wanting to get married because you love children or you feel as a lady that your biological clock is ticking so fast is not a good reason to want to get married. It is imperative to understand that children need a loving atmosphere to grow and flourish. They need to be raised in an environment of peace and love. Let your home be a place where love reigns supreme. It should be the concern of anyone going into marriage.

I really don't know whether it is because of Andy Uba and OBJ that Peter Obi took more than N250 million from Anambra state coffers to build a palace in Lekki, Lagos.

Andy Uba made him do it!

Enemy of progress, which police or court confirmed theft of 250m?
Peter Obi was worth over N47billion before becomiing Gov.
He is not a thiefing politician like the rest

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I wonder if it's the same article i read that's causing this war. maybe i have to read it again and again to see what
Abalti said wrong.
I am in my 30s and listen/dance to all these hip hop Naija music but that doesn't take away the fact being made by
Abalti that they lack substance.
Banky's & Eldee's response are simply off mark.
Abalti's point is simply that the young generation should think deeper! It 's not only in Nig, but also in USA.
The world is moving faster,leaving out so much of the things that matter.