Advice Me Please

Me and a friend met this guy in a restaurant, we hooked up, cos the guy was so into me, but at that stage i wasn't ready for dating, and he wasn't even living in the same city as i, he then became friends with my friend to get close to me, later we started hanging out alot, we got to know eachother, till the time came where we started dating.  my friend was always in the middle, i hated it alot, they used to call eachother, when i ask then am jealous, or than am too emotional, i begged my friend can you please butt out, but she never wanted to.  I fell inlove with this guy, and i thot things would work out, my friend was then dating the cousin of my guy, things gone bad for them,then he started calling her names, and he told me that we were both f,  by the guy, i was so hurt, and i asked him but he never gave me a straite answer, till oneday me and my freind argued cos of the guy and we became enemies, cos i asked ha if she also wanted the guy, but she denied, i pulled a strategy using my intelligence i had her confessing, she told me she had a sexual relationship with the guy once and it ended there, my own friend betrayed me, i didn't care that much about the guy but she used to say i'm jealous while she was the one who was always jealous of me, i hated her that much that we didn't even talk anymore and me and the guy broke it off.  Then he started looking for me, he wanted to be with me and he started asking questions about me, that he probably wants me back etc etc, then we spoke, i don't know if i should get myself into that again, i feel sumthing for him but am too affraid, what should i do, and his friends are spreading rumours about me that i'm having another guy, the guy says he  so wants me but the stories his hearing are turning him down, i tried explaining but i don't know whether he believed me, my question than is, should i give it a try or what do you think and my friend should i forgive ha

Hi guys, it's a pitty i was in exact same position, i was inlove with this guy, i loved him completely, we started dating 2005, there was this dark cloud that filled my life the day he left me for sumbody else, he wasn't even honest enuff with me, he accused me of being involved with another guy, which wasn't true, then he dumped me over the phone,in mid 2007, my god it has been a year and two months now, but the memories of the past are still fresh in my mind, i thot i wuld die, he disappeared out of my life just like that, i was hurt, and in jan this year, he showed up at my doorstep, just wanted to come see how am doing, and he told me his getting married, i kept on asking myself, why does shit always enters my door, why and why, but yeah am healing, thanx to God the almighty, i kept on praying so he could heal my soul, i cried alone but thanx to the almighty am strong, and i remained standing.

My advice, "All will Fall, but only the strong remain standing" It all lies in the heart, and its up to you to decide that i've had it and that am gona move on with my life, it ain easy i know i experienced, but whre there's a will there's always a way.

I agree with Uchetobi, she's right, we women tend to be comfortable in the relationship, and forget about making ourselves beautiful, he looses interest and you blame him, try to look your best, don't expect him to do everything all the time, we were fighting for gender equality, now we have it, so lets practice it.

Go women Power Go

i feel that love conquers all

You can have a healthy, long life, even if you are infected with HIV and AIDS, you must eat healthy food, exercise, practise safe sex all the time, have a positive healthy mind, have faith in the almighty and am sure life will be much easier for you.

and this thing of having a baby, you can have a HIV free baby, cause now we have anti-retroviral drugs that protects HIV from mother to child during birth, so the child can be 100% free of the virus

the opposite sex (man) always

LOVE is a feeling that no doctor can cure, its a wonderful feeling that can make you sad, happy,jealous, or make you do all da stupid things. Its a feeling that comes from the heart, a feeling that two people have, when they are together, there's a certain magnet that pulls or attracts them nomatter how hard they try to move away from each other.

Infatuation is like lust, well to me it is, sort of crazy, you don't love the person, you are only physically attracted to the person,but not emotionally.

I guess that's what i feel/think the difference is between the two

i know how it feels when your partner cheats on you, have experienced it before, so devestating, but i believe that a man/woman that truly loves you will not cheat on you, what is it that the other person offers that you don't.

Ag personally, i'm kinda thru with man, they are kinda all da same, they will always be cheaters, and i got my heart broken, as we're talking i don't even know where my relationship stands, i'd rather be alone, than hurt all the time. Oh sorry brothers, but man,

Am still heartbroken, will never forget , what happened to me, but i gotta move on

nope, not really, am single right now, but am thinking of settling down.

@TESHA THANKS FOR THE GREAT ADVICE, I REALLY NEEDED TO HEAR THE TRUTH, COZ NOW THERE IS ALSO THIS MARRIED MAN WHO IS AFTER ME, SAID THAT WE SHOULD HAVE A RELATIONSHIP, BUT I WAS TOO AFRAID, ALWAYS AVOIDED THE DEMN MAN.

but he is still after me, but i cant do it, cos i know if am married one-day wouldn't want another woman to play with my family - husband.

I never gave in, thanks though for the strong message.

I AM SPECIAL COZ GOD CREATED ME THAT WAY, AM UNIQUE

THERE'S ONLY ONE ME IN THE WHOLE WIDE WORLD

YEAH WE ALL SPECIAL COZ WE ARE ALL UNIQUE IN ALL OUR OWN WAYS!

when he shys away from you, , when he talks about you non stop, good things hello,

i think the guy was moving to fast, and that thing of you look familiar it turns some people off, and how can you compare me to a model if am fat, its total embarressment daaa.

but in some cases many couples meet like that.

There is nothing wrong it just shows she's in control

no, sometimes its hard to resist, at the end of the day we are all just humans made of clay, and temptations will always be there, unless your really that strong and say that you will never cheat on your man, or have a lover secretly,

Never judge a book by its cover, i might be beautiful as they say, but have the ugliest heart, so look deep into the persons heart, and find out how she/he is, cause true beauty comes from the inside.

And i feel as a beautiful person, if you want to approach somebody, work up to them coz you don't know whats in store for you, if she turns you off, there will always be another, and another, you know what they say, when one door closes, another opens.

So dont be fooled by beauty, or threatend by it, coz beauty comes from the heart, that is what i can say,

@tochi

i agree with you,

To me it hurts, everytime he's answering the phone, and not really talking, only those short words like yes and no, i hate it, but i never really told him, even though i'm burning up insight.

You see now, men like to do their things, what if i'm called by other guys, the way they go on, baby are you cheating on me, they really do go on, but if its the lady, she gonna get a slab in da face.

Unfair ha

i know good men are few, and only few men appreciate us women, why am saying so is because am coming from a wierd relationship that lasted two weeks.

He never used to call me, and always wanted me to call him, he always asked me for money, but i was too clever, how can you meet a person in less than 3days, you are already asking for money, luckily i was too clever, for the low life dood.

He thinks he is high society, forgive me, but i don't like to judge others, finally i got rid of him, cause its so clear he only wanted to use me, but am too clever for him.

After i dumped the brother, he went to tell people bad things about me, that am so fat, he is ashamed to be seen around with someone like me etc.

It did kinda hurt, but u see, so really good men are few, and very hard to find.

But i know there are some out there,

In our culture, it is traditional beliefs to get married to your cousins, way back the ancestors used to do that to keep the cattle in the family.

and they also believed that if you marry family, lets say your father's sister's child, that person will take good care of you, cos he's related to you.

Not that i'm saying its the right way to go, but it's culture.

Here in Namibia, some people still do it, but only the Otjiherero Tribe.

You can get married to your cousin, but only if its your fathers sister's child, or your mothers brothers child, its culture, and strong traditional belief.

we have different diversity of culture. In Namibia we have different tribes, cultures and believes, that's why things are done the way they are being done

well i do it anywhere when i feel like it, in the taxi, in the restaurant at work, who give a fxxk about anybody anyways, live your life, and stop wondering what other people might or will say.