93Miles:
FAILURE IS AN OPTION AND NOT THE OPTION.

Only if you accept it as an option. Yes we fail but the ability to rise again and triumph makes failure null and void.

I work in offshore and my work rotation is 2weeks in, 2weeks out. Most often I stay a month or more in offshore due to the demand of the job. I have wife and 3 Children who their age limit is from 7yrs down. My wife has a business at Alaba Int'l market and we live at Ajao estate to show you the distance. I protested her having shop very far from home but she insisted and threatened that she must get the shop at Alaba. For peace to rain I got her a shop there and gave her huge amount to start. I also bought Lexus 330 and gave her. But I gave her a condition that she must be returning home at most 6-7pm to interact with our Children before they retire to their beds. She started and each I call to know her whereabouts, she would say, hold ups are heavy, she was still at Mile 2 by 8-9pm?. Our Children will stay every night without both parents as if they are late. At times when I call home, my Children will be crying asking when I should return, that they are afraid, and are missing me. I will feel so bad. Why must I have a wife, yet my children will not enjoy parental training. The house help I have is still a teenager. Why must my brilliant Children God gave me suffer this way? Who are my suffering for? At times I woke up by 2am thinking about my life. I felt that my wife does not value the sacrifices I make for the family. I have built a beautiful home for us, she has Jeep she is driving, blessed with 2boys and a girl. My work is stable and I take care of her needs and Children. I have not once requested a kobo from her. But she refused to listen to me. Please close the shop by 5pm and leave for the sales lady, but she will remain in the shop till late hours because her shop is outside market. I am confused on what to do for 2yrs now. My children is not giving me the right behavior I needed. Their body building is bad due to no care, most often sick. I have vowed not to marry 2nd wife and I cannot not. But yet I cannot afford to lose my home.

This brother needs our honest advice
Let's help him out.

PrincessB1:
Nice one

Failure is a stepping stone to success

Absolutely.

Life charges at us with numerous hurdles, none of which is aimed at destroying us. You heard me! We often get it wrong by assuming life wants to see us frustrated, hence we tend to give up easily. Most times we are tested to discover our inner strength, hidden skills/talents, to enable us know that when life throws you lemons you make a delicious lemonade and sip with smiles instead of ranting about how sour the lemons are.

Growing up I had dreams and aspirations like every other kid out there. I wanted to be this, do that, build this, the list was endless.

Did I achieve them all?

The answer is, No!

Through determination, self encouragement and empowerment however, I am still standing and making progress. All this am doing despite several set-backs and failures.The fact that you lost your father(like myself) at an early age in life shouldn't mean the end of the road for you.

You applied for a job and was turned down does not imply that you cannot be hired elsewhere.

If you give up on the possibility of being employed by someone then create a job for yourself! What if that is where your wealth and destiny lies?

As a married couple, if you find it difficult to have kids despite all your efforts do not lose hope. You can be wonderful parents to a child that needs love and care if you adopt one today!! That singular act of love can move our creator to bless you with a seed.

The fact that your mates are getting married before you does not mean the world has forsaken you, use that time to work on yourself.

The fact that your married friends appear to be doing better than you shouldn't mislead you or cloud your judgements, you do not know their secret pain so do not envy them.

We are so preoccupied with counting our problems that we forget to take out time to count our blessings!

If you do not like your present situation, Do something!!!!

By doing something I mean taking a bold step in the right direction.

As a teen, I made chin-chin and eggroll for sale just to get pocket money. As an adult I still do my little business by the side. All am trying to say is, never let any situation deter you from being the best you can be. Device a positive means out of every tight situation.

Failure is not an option!!

It is a stepping stone, if you fail, you try again!!

The goal is to come out successful and with a testimony to inspire others!!

www.nakedwithvivian.com

dayleke:


So how did it go ?
You survived it na..,,

I survived it oh, and I hail the bros with the technique . lol.
Thanks for asking

kalemy:
try me.. zero 80 three nine one two nine six seven seven

Interesting technique, well-done.

Who can genuinely save me from this boring Saturday in lagos?

It comes once in a month.

When it arrives it comes with stress.

When it doesn't arrive, that's a story for another day especially for the single ladies.

Some call it flow, others period, yet another set calls it menstruation.

I call it monthly drama. Please do not get me wrong, as I do not refer to it in a negative manner.

I dubbed it that simply because of all the symptoms that comes with mine.

I notice I bloat shortly before it starts, sometimes I experience severe cramps before or during the first two days, my sense of smell is heightened to almost 80% more than normal, I don't even want to perceive the aroma of any food not to talk of eating on day one, I develop express stomach upset, am in pain and discomfort abdominally and the thought of not sleeping well at night plus getting up to change so often irritates me.

Please which drama is more intense than experiencing all of these at once in addition to the fact that some of us go to work while on it? Imagine this happening to someone every month, we as ladies have a lot we are dealing with at a time I must say.

Yes, there are drugs to help ease some of the pains but no one is advised to subject her body to drugs especially during her productive years. So as women, most of us learn to endure the discomfort. Some of us do this and still take care of their family, cook and still bear the pain.


Complete the story via the link below:
https://nakedwithvivian.com/2018/08/09/a-woman-affair-menstrual-drama/

1. Once upon a time, I met a man who told me that telling the truth and making someone cry, is better than telling a lie and making someone       smile and happy.

2. He said to me your true friends are those who will never avoid you just because they have met new friends.

3. As he kept on speaking to me, he said If some people do not appreciate and value my presence, I should work hard to .make them value and appreciate my absence.

4. He said I must not be angry with anyone who is quiet on me because there must be a reason why they are quiet, and that I will get to know the reason later.

5. He told me it is always better to be a blessing to others at all times than to be a burden at all times.

6. He said I must learn to forgive others not because they deserve it but because I deserve the peace that comes with forgiveness.

7. I must know that everyone deserves a second chance and many more chances if they ask for forgiveness, but I must not loose my guard over their intentions.

8. I must not only talk to people in my free time, but I must free my time to talk to people.

9. I must know that the truth may hurt for a little while, but a lie will hurt for a long time.

10. I must learn to value and respect people who tell you the Truth no matter how painful the truth is.

11. I must make my decisions when I am in the right mood, not when I am angry, likewise I must not make promises when I am excited with high emotions.

12. I must know that some people are like candles that burn themselves to give light to others. I should not have regrets if I happen to be one of such candles.

13. I must learn to be a caring friend because it is a thousand times better than a careless lover.

14. I should value and protect my relationships of many years of investments because they are like a book that takes years to write but can get burnt only within few seconds.

15. He specifically said this repeatedly that If have a problem with someone, I should go tell the person and not go tell the world.

16. He said to me that I should know that nobody is too busy, it is just a matter of their priorities within a day.

17. He said to me that people can trust you when you are consistent with what you say and what you do.

18. He said with a low voice, only God can be totally trusted. Trust God 100%.


Read on via the link below:
www.nakedwithvivian.com

Hello readers, how have you been? Hope you had a great weekend? Mine was quite eventful and today’s story is culled from an experience over the weekend.

A cousin of mine had her baby’s dedication and I was present. We had a great time and when it was over, I boarded a bus home. The journey started smoothly and suddenly a passenger started preaching the gospel. He asked that the men in the bus with hats on take it off for prayers. People respected him and did as he instructed. After the prayer, he began his sermon. He kept shouting “Haleluyah” and “Amen” between his sentences and expecting everyone to respond same back. Few people did and others kept quiet.

He continued with his preaching(normal hungry Nigerian version of the gospel). He was saying some things that were apparently baseless. He narrated a story of how he went to kirikiri prison to preach and saw a man wearing a red cap, red shirt and trousers in a cell. When he asked the man why his uniform was different, the man told him it was because he killed his wife when they had a quarrel over a meal(does this explanation make sense?).

We all kept quiet and allowed this so-called preacher to continue with the hope he would soon round up and keep quiet. That was when he decided to drop a bomb that exploded right in his face! He opened his mouth and said “If you buy a bag of rice for your household and finish it without giving some to your neighbour, you are a witch and will go to hell”

Click the link below to complete the story:
https://nakedwithvivian.com/2018/07/31/prophets-of-doom/

folake4u:
Till now, I suck at wearing heels.

My dear just start with the heels a Lil above the ground and when you are very comfy with that one, you take it a notch higher. That was how I got used to it eventually.