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Delilah nawa |
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DEIFIED:Lolz no where |
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It's ok 1 Like |
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Na nature sha |
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Y dis girl no fit jst cover dis yeye tin sef 1 Like |
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Most Ladies are nothing buh liabilities |
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It's all nonsense |
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Op retrace ur origin o. maybe na 4rm d village |
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Davland:Dats y everybody wan form badt guy 1 Like |
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When did Saying I Love You became a crime? . |
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Infatuation! |
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Who is gonna vote 4 me? |
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XBLadez:Delta |
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RapLawd:Ah dnt undstnd! |
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RapLawd:Ah dnt undstnd! |
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Caseless:May? |
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XBLadez:Am 18 |
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adorablevic:Hw d feeling b like.? |
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Caseless:Wah abt me? |
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Vote Wenson 4 Mr. NL 2015 1 Like |
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Vote 4 me guys,.am really nervous abt dis contest av nt done dis kind of tin b4 hope ah can count on u guys 2 Likes |
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Same old stories |
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From wer? |
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Give it a rest, already. I enjoy s*x, a lot — the act alone, encompasses so many options and opportunities for pleasure, connection and even exercise. I also talk about s*x in marriage a lot, usually with people who aren’t getting it right or simply aren’t getting it. Most of the time, I work with couples to move them toward “daily intimacy.” But I find that most people assume that daily intimacy means s*xual intercourse daily. It doesn’t! I define “intimacy” as loving experiences that bring you closer together (mentally, emotionally, and physically) — experiences that you couldn’t have in front of others without making them uncomfortable, nor would you brag about paying someone to do them for you. (For example br /> If you get regular massages from a professional and might consider Grandma accompanying you to a session, then that massage is not an act of intimacy for you.) Having s*x every day certainly fits well within this description of intimacy, and it’s a great way to kick start a new or a floundering s*x life. However, having s*x every day in marriage (or other long term relationships) can easily start to feel expected, mechanical, monotonous, … even lifeless. s*x then begins to rank right up there with brushing our teeth or taking a shower; it feels good, but we don’t do it for enjoyment or deeper connection with each other, we do it out of routine or need. Some couples get stuck in this monotony, while others go overboard trying to avoid boring, mechanical s*x. They turn s*x into a contact sport with assigned positions and sometimes even a team of players, all in a desperate attempt to keep things exciting. As a woman, using s*x as a means to an end leaves you feeling as though YOU were the one used as a means to an end. If the focus becomes checking off items on a checklist or successfully implementing the plays in a “how to have hot s*x” playbook, you’d feel like the ball in a soccer game being kicked around, until you reach the goal. I don’t know about you but I need to feel like we’re the goal — like loving and building a stronger bond is the goal. If intimacy is contingent on daily s*x acts (and resulting goal-oriented orgasmic explosions), a potentially beautiful experience then turns into an Olympic event. And I must say, there is a reason the summer games only happen once every four years! s*x is NOT sport, it’s not even an outlet. No five- point spread, no pat on the bottom for a “good game.” When we associate extreme s*x, or s*x in general, as the way to have a meaningful experience with one another, all other forms of connecting pale by comparison. As a result, we stop seeking the simpler moments … radiant appreciation and quiet presence fall away. We need endless drama and thrills. If we’re not having Olympic style s*x, we’re having stadium-sized arguments, which only disconnect us further. Remember, I did say earlier that I love s*x (a lot). My husband and I share a long-standing, star- spangled- banner s*x life, you know, with the rocket’s red glare and bombs bursting in air. We also practice daily intimacy … but not always daily intercourse. It feels good to reconnect with ourselves and each other in new ways as whole people, not just the sum of our s*xual parts. We come back together stronger, even more aware of each other and our needs. Our love grows ever more resilient and unbreakable. Win-win! There are rules and recommendations across many religious and spiritual traditions, such as Judaism, Catholicism, and Hinduism that encourage abstinence periodically in marriage, either based on the woman’s menstrual cycle or the phases of the moon. Here are five powerful, intimacy-building reasons you should not have s*x daily in your marriage br /> 1. You remove the pressure to perform and reduce the focus on quantity (vs. quality) 2. You create space for more quality experiences with each other, across the full spectrum of intimacy 3. You find opportunities to re-discover and re- awaken YOU, as an individual. 4. Your partner gets to notice and be reminded why they love YOU, not just s*x with you. 5. You cement your bond in more than one way. Even in baseball, we can’t win the game based on the bat connecting with the ball alone. The players need to run, catch, be aware of the other players’ positions, communicate, and support one another. Not having s*x every day, doesn’t mean you disconnect from each other. On those no-s*x days here are some suggestions on how to still “play a good game” as partners br /> Flirt with your spouse Tease each other sensually and get comfortable with uncomfortable arousal Talk about what’s important to you while lovingly stroking each other Kiss Sleep unclad together Really look at each other, see into each other Be playful and have fun s*x is most enjoyable when it’s approached with a sense of discovery, exploration and appreciating every moment. After taking a timeout from having s*x, come back to it and let s*x be about what feels truly good and right to both of you and build on that; uncovering the buried pleasure. Turn “the game” into a loving, sensual adventure. |
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#TeamSingle |
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Couldn't tell my girlfriend I love u 2 her face, ah was afraid 2 c her reaction so I told her via watsapp |
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Lolz |
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This 1 dah am nt campaigning hope u guys will vote 4 me? |
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Just like women, we men do certain things privately that are exclusively known to us only. Before I go on further, I want to issue a disclaimer that the things inherent in this article is not performed or done by every man. Some men might do one or two of these things while others might have a combination of more than a few. Moreover, the ones that actually do them will hardly admit they do anyways, or will they? 1. Get Naked Women are known for enjoying walking around naked when they are home alone. Well, men also enjoy this. The reason for this isn’t far fetched given the fact that being unclad gives an air of freedom. Spend Quite Sometime In The Toilet The reason we do this is majorly because we take our phones, tablets and sometimes laptop along with us to the toilet. This form of distraction makes time pass by and we barely even notice. That’s because we become enthralled with games, instant messaging and other social applications. Some of us use that time to scan dating sites in the hope that we can meet our life partners. 2. Watch Porn We’d never admit this but we watch quite a bit of porn in private. At times, the porn is strange to us giving the fact that we stumble on it through the numerous internet pages we surf. We find ourselves in a logjam in the adult entertainment hole and we emerge later from it with a sort of unsettled and disturbed mind based on the weird things we saw. The thoughts disturb us as we wonder if we can live up to the acting we witnessed. 3. Talk To Our Moms Almost every man does this! We mostly talk about the women in our lives with our mothers in the hope that they will tell us when we are in the right or wrong. Mothers will still mostly question our stories of being right when we put our women in the wrong. In all, they make us feel better no matter how terrible the situation may appear to be. 4. Regularly Check Up On Ex-girlfriends We actually obsess over this up to a point. Guys do this to monitor the progress of their exes. We want to know how they are doing, if they are more successful than when they were with us or if they are now dating a guy worse off than us. In a way, we hope our exes are no longer as beautiful as when they were with us, so we can laugh and smile about the fact. 5. Sulk and Cry For whatever reason it is, the society believes that men should keep the emotional outbursts to a minimum. This has put some sort of pressure on men to always appear strong no matter what the situation calls for. That is the way it is and in order not to appear weak, we would rather cry in private most of the time. Be it an emotional scene from a movie, a heart break or the loss of a loved one, we will show the world our strong side and secretly shed tears in private. 6. Sing At The Top Of Our Voices The crazy part about this is that we sing out loud in croaky voice to absurd music. We do this in private in order to shield ourselves from criticisms. We do this while carrying out a variety of activities including taking our bath, cooking, cleaning or while engaging in any form of idle activity. Funny enough, we sing to music you have no idea we actually like. The songs coupled with the singing activity actually has a way of improving our moods and general outlook to life. 7. Miss You We privately miss the ones we love, especially our girlfriends. We get to only truly have fabulous private moments because we know our partners understand and are always there for us. |
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Annypie:Buh u know u can't jst possibly c a perfect love! |
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