Zeemoor:
May the good Lord make his face shine upon you and answer your prayers

A mighty Amen to that and wish u same too

Zeemoor:

Your posts reeks of aggressiveness

You re' Not far from the truth, but I am sure someday my prayer for over 10yrs won't be invain.

Anyway you look gorgeous and .......

Zeemoor:


Someone just broke your heart, Mr?

Lol! Breaking of hrt does not exist in this 21st century. Let that lady park well cos' I think lots of them flight the street. Just as my boss will always say, if you say rubbish I will throw u and go outside the street and get lots of graduates with file searching for the same job. ...... So you can see why I cnt be hrt broken.

Zeemoor:
The search for that one true love, the compatible long-term mate, of course

There are a hundred and one ways to raise cash in a few days

Its not as easy as you said, I have met several ladies claiming they truly love you but put money and wealth as priority.

If u Rush into a Relatnshp u ll Rush Out. I wonder why there is no Holiness amngs many here yet they need better hubby's/wifes. Dnt fool urslf cs its nt possible. U cnt giv wht u dnt hv cos u dnt deserve it...... Hey its just what I observe n dnt think otherwise.

Still available

A fenced and flat land for sale at one man village just at the back of A.A RANO filling station in Nasarawa state close to the federal capital Abuja.

Size: 3000sqm

Price: 27M

Purpose: multipurpose

More detail: 08093008831

The position of the land is on a good side! Hotels, estates and personal houses sorounded the land. See for yourself and you will thank me later.

Here is another technique and hope they will be of help to you @op and any ready of this post.

COGNITIVE RESTRUCTURING
Simply put, cognitive restructuring means changing the way you think. When you're angry, your thinking can get overly dramatic. When something goes wrong, you might tell yourself, "Everything's ruined!" With cognitive restructuring, you replace those kinds of thoughts with more reasonable ones. You might tell yourself instead, "This is frustrating, but it's not the end of the world."

Try these strategies:
Avoid words like "never" or "always"when talking about yourself or others. Statements like "This never works" or "You're always forgetting things" make you feel your anger is justified and there's no way to solve the problem. Such statements also alienate and humiliate people who might otherwise be willing to work with you on a solution. Focus on goals. Say you have a friend who's constantly late when you get together. Don't go on the attack. Instead, think about what you want to accomplish. State the problem and then try to find a solution that works for both of you. If that doesn't work, take matters into your own hands. You might tell your friend to meet you half an hour earlier than you plan to arrive, so that he or she will get there when you do. Either way, the problem is solved — without damaging the friendship. Use logic. Even when it's justified, anger can quickly become irrational. Remind yourself that the world is not out to get you and that you're just experiencing one of life's inevitable rough spots. Do this each time you start feeling angry, and you'll get a more balanced perspective. Translate expectations into desires.Angry people tend to demand things, whether it's fairness, appreciation, agreement, or just the willingness to do things their way. We are all hurt, disappointed, and frustrated when we don't get what we want, but don't let disappointment turn into anger. Some people use anger as a way to avoid feeling hurt, but that doesn't make the hurt go away. Instead, become aware of your demanding nature and change your demands into requests. Saying you would like something is healthier than saying you must have it.

I can go on and on to help you secure your normal tempo but its upto you bro, do the rightful thing and don't forget I charge per each therapy and lecture rended. We nairalanders want positive testimonies from you.

Cheers.

In psychology there is what we call cognitive-behavioral therapy which improved people's control of their anger and reduced their hostility, aggression, and depression. Here are some strategies you can use to simmer down. If you are in a relationship with a hot-tempered partner as a nairalander, you could both benefit from these techniques.

RELAXATION
Simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help soothe angry feelings.

Try these simple steps:
Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm. Breathing from your chest won't relax you, so picture your breath coming up from your "gut."Slowly repeat a calming word or phrase,such as "relax" or "take it easy." Keep repeating it to yourself while breathing deeply. Use imagery. Visualize a relaxing experience from your memory or your imagination. Try non-strenuous, slow exercises. Yoga and similar activities can relax your muscles and calm you down.
Practice these techniques daily. Eventually, you'll be able to use them automatically when you're in a tense situation.

There is no prescription for anger per say but there is what we called ANGER MANAGEMENT in psych.... that can help you manage your anger.

We all know what anger is, Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work like you did slap your boss, in your personal relationships as you design your girlfriends face.... (don't take it personal its just how I counsel), and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.
Easily angered people don't always curse and throw things; sometimes they withdraw socially, sulk, or get physically ill.
People who are easily angered generally have what some psychologists call a low tolerance for frustration, meaning simply that they feel that they should not have to be subjected to frustration, inconvenience, or annoyance. They can't take things in stride, and they're particularly infuriated if the situation seems somehow unjust: for example, being corrected for a minor mistake.
My brother I will share with you the strategies in coping anger especially the chronic one possibly like yours.

That's a whao! Story full of thrill and suspend........

Ruth has gone viral ooo, please help me catch her before she kill Hannah;

Infact I hope the law of karma work here cos its payback time. She must vomit the N50k she collect.

Lesson: Becareful with your friends nor matter how close and good they are to you. Always be watchful and be prayerful that you don't fall victim of such prey called Hannah.

Next story please!!!!!!!!!!

firstEVA:
nice angle

I was thinking we have to individually help in this issue of security! About a month ago I went to MUBI for an intervention and discovered it will be difficult for the islamic terrorist sect to over power our people but my logic was wrong.

Information is very powerful and that's what they use cos they have lots of informants, slow but steady am sure we will win the battle. Let's just keep praying for our president cos its not easy as we think and be watchful too so as not to become victims of the boys.

Long live Nigeria, long live Nairalanders and long live Mr president and the good leaders.

firstEVA:
Is Jonathan the first president of Nigeria? was obasanjo not a president? was the state of violence as it is now? was yaradua not president though for a short time, did he not handle the situation of the Niger Delta militants? I really don't understand why Jonathan in incapable of handling the situation, its very shameful.

Indeed so shameful, but wait a minute!

President Yar'adua offer the millitants amnesty and the accepted the offer, president GEJ offers them same but SHEKAU said over their dead bodies to lay their arms "we re fighting for Allah and every ARNE(meaning a non muslim) who does not turn to islam must be killed"......... Now you can understand their cause is more of religion that politics and the sokalled muslim leaders who wanted to use them to fight religion can't stop them anymore. Shekau has seen money and power to control thousands of evil troops to destroy innocent lives n nw u expect him to handover power? Don't forget that they re power phrick n can die for it.

Don't expect GEJ to carry gun and fight cos he is the chief security, don't forget must of the serving chiefs re from the north, they hv ministers n lots of political favor from Mr president, what re they doing instead of stealing the money belonging to the buying of new weapons n empowering the armies in war front. Tell me, what do u really want GEJ to do

missdebs:
are we nigerians girls not good enough biko

Hahaha my dear, I can help you get close to the family. We are neighbours in Jos but I wonder why I can't see any of his relatives around or maybe my eyes can't see well. You girls the must prettiest but I think what mikel want is the white skin or maybe she use juju on him.

aristocrazzy:
Omo the CEO tell am straight up. And that's why I can't think of marriage until I don find better girl wey no go like me just for my money/ my papa money. #thiswhoresaintloyal

Abegggg!!!! no kil me wit laugh oooo

Vanellope:
I personally don't like ladies who are too conscious of their good looks.

Its not bad to be conscious of your good look but using it to trade for the like of Dangote and possibly me, hey! I notice men don't border about beauty anymore cos must of them are just gold diggers and no brain but love express. Nor wonder the beautiful one's hardly get married. Hope my analysis is not wrong?

Princecalm:
THE CEO SAID IT ALL.

You can share your experience if you have any. I am tired of seeing girls using their beauty as a yardstick to justify what will make them happy (marriage).

A young and pretty lady posted this on a popular forum:
Title: What should I do to marry a rich guy?
I’m going to be honest of what I’m going to say here.
I’m 25 this year. I’m very pretty, have style and good taste. I wish to marry a guy with N25M annual salary or above.
You might say that I’m greedy, but an annual salary of N65M is considered only as middle class in Abuja.
My requirement is not high. Is there anyone in this forum who has an income of N25M annual salary? Are you all married?
I wanted to ask: what should I do to marry rich persons like you?
Among those I’ve dated, the richest is N1.5M annual income, and it seems that this is my upper limit.
If someone is going to move into high cost residential area in Abuja like Asokoro and Maitama, N1.5M annual income is not enough.
I’m here humbly to ask a few questions:
1) Where do most rich bachelors hang out? (Please list down the names and addresses of bars, restaurant, gym)
2) Which age group should I target?
3) Why most wives of the riches are only average-looking? I’ve met a few girls who don’t have looks and are not interesting, but they are able to marry rich guys.
4) How do you decide who can be your wife, and who can only be your girlfriend? (my target now is to get married)
Ms. Pretty
A philosophical reply from CEO of J.P. Morgan:
Dear Ms. Pretty,
I have read your post with great interest. Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyse your situation as a professional investor.
My annual income is more than N25M, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes that I’m not wasting time here.
From the standpoint of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain.
Put the details aside, what you’re trying to do is an exchange of “beauty" and “money" : Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square.
However, there’s a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but you can’t be prettier year after year.
Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It’s not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worse 10 years later.
By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a “trading position".
If the trade value dropped we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term - same goes with the marriage that you wanted. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or “leased".
Anyone with over N25M annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you. I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with N25M annual income. This has better chance than finding a rich fool.
Hope this reply helps.
signed,
J.P. Morgan CEO

What is your opinion on such kind of losers using their beauty in exchange of virtue as if its a right. That's my take anyway! Say yours.

dicefrost:


I beg to disagree with you sir. No one is denying the influence of bad association in this case, but the parents cannot be absorbed entirely of the blame.

Every child is a" tabular rasa", and something must fill the blank space. It is either the parents mould the child or his/her friends do. And like the bible says, "foolishness is tied up to the heart of a child" hence teenagers are inclined to pursue the wayward course

Regarding the word "TABULA RASA" The term also is used as the name of an epistemological theory that individuals are born without built-in mental content and that all of their knowledge comes from experience and perception. Generally, proponents of the tabula rasa theory favour the "nurture" side of the nature versus nurture debate when it comes to aspects of one's personality, social and emotional behaviour, and intelligence.

I totally agree with you Dicefrost, Let us not forget that Ella's behavior and personality are experience nurtured from the outside world of social activities from friends and society. She wants to belong and thereby get involve despite her parental strictness, she had a good nature but bad experience(nurture).

Hope you complete your story dicefrost.

What criteria is use to define beauty/handsome on earth? I can't imagine people falling for beauty/handsome and use it as a yardstick for TILL DEATH DO US PART! Nor wonder must girls looking for handsome guys re victim of divorce and men after beauty end up in deliverance church cos its either a mamaid or demon possess.

Anyway as for me, everybody here is awesome and wonderfully created but what make you stand out is your personality and output. Goodluck searchers..... Thank God am handsome.

Eveluv:
January 18

I came a day before you. I resume duty on earth 17th.

perry2020:
Thanks. ,i wish u d best in ur quest.

Thanks alot......... wish you same

perry2020:

Kai sum ppl and funny comments sha.
Anyways my own opinion of a wife material is
1.a lady who can submit herself(she isn't too proud,neither is she boosy,she doesn't put herself above her husband and family)
2.a very understanding lady(sum one who understands u bcoz d key to a healthy relationship is understanding,when they understand each other some quarrels can be averted).
3.a lady who supports u and completes u(sum ladies have d ideology dat "it's my husbnds responsibility to do everything dats why he is d man"its shouldn't be dis way. a wife should be a helpmate not a liability.(take her out on a date tell her u forgot ur wallet n plead with ha to pay n c her reaction)
4.a god fearing lady
5.a smart lady and a lady who is very resourceful and independent not one who at just dating level is expecting u to buy cream,pad etc f u start now just get ready to do it forever.
6.a lady who knows how to be economical and considerate
7.a lady with good morals,very
14.dis is quite important to some men. IF I WAS A GUY.SHE MUST BE A VERY VERY GOOD COOK COZ I LOVE FOOD AND VERY GOOD FOOD.( VARIETIES OF COOKING SKILLS AND RECIPE)the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. If a lady cooks better for him babes forget ur nigga oo.
15.she MUST be ready to satisfy him sexually(dis is another thing i noticed that drives men away from home when she gives him 2 days in a week roaster AFTER Aff Pay bride price oo. And u expect him not to look out as a young man.
17. A lady who respects u,ur relationship and everything u value including ur parents and siblings.
18.a wife material must be matured aldoe age is just a number sum times,its abt maturity.Good communication is also very necessary.

Well said, I never believed what you wrote until when I checked you profile that with your first word "kai" then I knew we re' from the same state. I know my people re very smart and presentation in all ways including books and doing the rightful thing......

I like your points cos' its well pointed out. Now I will SIT WELL and use it as my critaria for choosing her. Hope with can contain the 19 points aforemention.

I like you pix too.

Whao! The best story ever read on NL. Lots of lesson learn from the epic till date. I believe I have an edge over those who haven't read this.
Lesson 1: never keep your children in safe home guard, they need experience from friends and colleagues.
Lesson 2: train a child in a way s/he should grow and when s/he grows it will not depart from them. Influence of bad parenting affects children and too much of everything is bad including the cathekist exaggeration.
Lesson 3: learn to trust even your children, her mum went too far by inspecting her virginity.
Lesson 4: influence of bad friends can chance your character and behavior. Ruth is a professional liar and prostitute, now Ella is a victim without noticing it. Anyway let me wait till the end of the story.

Dice you have a great skill, keep it up.

GAZZUZZ:


The correct transmission oil for your vehicle is dextronIII not dextronII

Thank you my brother! But I will like yo know the particular transmission oil to use. Will it still be the Seahost or ATF, cos I learn there are varieties of company's producing the transmission oil.

Thanks bro.

I have a 2001 Nissan Maxima which have been serving me well but recently I noticed that when ever it want to enter the second gear it will gear in hard.
I when to see a mechanic and then remove service the valve but it still enter the second gear hard and with a sound "guk". I when for diagnosis and nothing was found either. Please is there any help you can render. I use seahost DXII for the gear transmission.

Again, the car consumes lots of fuel beyond my imagination this days. It consumes 45lits from Abuja to Jos and its a V6 engine. Is there anything I can do about the fuel consumption?

Your help will be appreciated.

Thank you.

I have a question for you @op! Let's say your sister comes and seek for your advice that she wanna live with her boyfriend cos' she had no money for rent anymore;
What will be your advice to her?

I am sure you will tell her to go and sell some fruits or sachet water to make some money, or visit uncle or anty bla bla bla so raise the money for her rent.

Do you know what? Infact! You are NOT serious cos' I dnt expect such question from you.

The answer to your question is ................ Body nobi wood unless u wan mak pikinsssss wey u no dey prepared for am.

Keep off and be a man. That is not an excuse, remember real men don't say their mini problems to women for solution but try harder to fill the licking space in their problem. So fill you licking rent problem and stop complaining.

I thought the NA slogan is "NO RETREAT NO SURRENDER", the story is not straight cos' I can smell some paid journalism here.

I know our GALLANT NA can never retreat neither surrender just like that. I am sure they are busy searching for the boko boys for practicals. Their blood are stil vibrant and hot to make things work, they re our hero's and kudus to GEJ for giving the NA full support. May God give you more wisdom my presido and please remove the bad generals in the NA before they wikileak their strategy to the boko colleagues.

#teamgej2015

1. Let it rain - Micheal W.Smith
2. Majesty - "
3. Your majesty - T.D Jakes
4. God favore me - Hezekiah Walker
5. I give myself away - William MC Dowell
6. I lift my voice - Frank Edwards
7. The air I breathe - Mercy Me
8. Heaven speaks - Joe praise
9. Book of life - Nathaniel Bassey
10. Who am I - Casting Crown
11. By your side - Tenth Avenue North
12. Holy are you - Jesus culture
13. My soul longs for you - "
14. One thing remains - "
15. Glorious - "
16. Everything - "
17. God of wonders - Third day
18. Heaven on earth - Micah Stampley
19. Speak into my life - "
20. On my kneel - Jaci Venlasquez

These songs are inspiration to me, thou I like simple, quiet and soft music when coming to worship. I pray we will be raptured so we can be amongst the saints to sing and worship our father in heaven the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob when we depart this world. Amen

If I ask whether you re' a believe I know you will say YES! And you re' proud of the evil act attached your topic, no remorse or guilty of what Gal 5:19-21 says. The bible rebuke sexual immorality and say in verse 21 that any who take part In any of the sin will not inherit the kingdom of God. Rev 21:8 also mention the sexually immoral and say their place will be in the fiery lake of burning sulfur. Just have a second thought sweetheart and change.

I lament for this generation, we keep asking God for a caring, loving and godfearing husband while we re' not ourself.

I advice that you better ask for pardon and forgiveness from the merciful Jesus and He will forgive you and bless you marriage with a man who will not just satisfy but give you peace of mind and joy in your marriage. My dear you re' searching for shadow in marriage while the real thing is forgotten! What a pity. Read Heb 13:4.

Salvation is what you need now not some fornication hubby. My take and I pray you understand that their is more to life in true marriage than what you re' looking for now.

If you re' waiting for a perfect beauty/handsome created being, then get ready to wait till thy kingdom come. Better go and get some one like me, manage it and make me better as you want.

Anyway, I am happy as baba God made $me.