StennyB:
I had similar experience, the anxiety and near panic attacks when my partner and I decided to get intimate was troubling.

Try and prolong fore-play to really get her in the mood. And also try and be gentle at first cause you don't want to freak her out even further

Did you experience the dryness part?

ikdaddy01:
You dont just rush in there. It will be too painful to be exciting. Get to a pharmacy, get lubricants over the counter that help so much. Even vaseline does wonders. Let her also be ready psychologically. Are you sure she loves you yet, just yet.
Happy homes

I don't think I rush, maybe I will prolong the pre-intimacy and also get the lubs. Thank you.

Greetings fellow Nl'ers,

I have an issue which many people may consider irrelevant at this time as a result of the pandemic causing lots of pain around the world, this I know and I hope things get back to normal soon.

Now, back to my issue. My fiancee and I have been engaged for about 3 months and plan to tie the knot by July hopefully. So we been engaging in romance and kissing, and recently we've been trying to push it further by getting intimate. Here comes the issue; my fiancee is a virgin. In the last few days we have tried to get intimate but she feels so much pains and she is barely wet so I am unable to go through. She once had a near rape experience, and I'm beginning to wonder if it is a psychological issue or it's normal for virgins not to get wet.

NB: I am not a virgin and I have had s3x with just one lady (my ex who wasn't a virgin), so I don't have experience per say.

I'm just very concerned and I need matured counsel. Do we need to go see a doctor, keep trying or try using lubricants?

Your inputs are well appreciated.