bellong:
What do you expect or want the "marriage counsellor" to do for you?

thorpido:
The change(not APC),starts and ends with him.I don't know what the marriage counsellor will do in this case.
You married a chronic womaniser and if there's going to be a change,it won't happen suddenly.
In the meanwhile,get him tested for STDs and HIV.Also don't have unprotected sex with him.

jeremiah505:
I just need to clear my head on this and understand what there is to understand...

I'll appreciate talks from experience... cause i strongly believe few, some or most of us has engaged in this stuff (Distance and Social Media Relationship)... so from experience, study and observation.... How promising can it be?...

orobs93:
I think some men stay outside their homes more than that.

honmusa:
Olx has now become an haven for fraudstars,i still prefer conducting my biz on nairaland without any fear.Up nairaland!!!!!

5minsmadness:
@xtraordinaire

Now that the female folk have sympathized with you adequately, I wish to have my say.

It appears you married a chronic cheat and womanizer. You have lived under this situation for a while which shows you are an accomodating wife. Not all women will endure what you have endud. Kudos to you.Thanks for your comments but d facts stil remains dt hes not ready to change because presently hes making jest of me dt am too jealous but deep down in my heart am pitying him.

Your man promised you that he will stop womanizing this year . Apparently his efforts are yielding fruit that is why one of his ashawos outside has called you out of frustration to release his pen1s for them. They will do all they can to upset you so that you will leave your house and your man will go crawling back to them. Its like 'if we cant have him, his wife won't enjoy him too'. That's what they are doing. They are bringing up past mistakes like the STD to get you emotional and leave him so they can have chance. If you leave you are playing right into their hands.

My advice.

Get him screened for HIV and STDs. Any hospital can do this for you and its not expensive. Also tell him he will be doing his HIV screening every 6months. This will keep him aware of the dangers of flirting outside. There is no test men fear more than HIV test.

Secondly, be prepared for more calls. The longer he stays indoors with you, the more his oloshos are going to get angry. No more sex from him, no more favours or money from him. They will find a way to get your number and call. But eventually when they see you are not budging they will leave him and go after other fish.

Thirdly. This man has made a habit of womanising for years. He has resolved he wont do so this year. You stuck around all the other years, why leave now that he has resolved to change? Its like a bad habit, its not easy to break even if he means to change from his heart. I'm sorry to say he might fall one more time. Be prepared for this. It may not happen o, but prepare yourself emotionally for it if it does. If it does happen teach him a lesson he will never forget, let him see you very angry etc but deep down be prepared to forgive him after he has suffered small. This will strengthen his resolve to stay with you and have a deep respect for you.

Some women marry faithful men who later in marriage become unfaithful. Some marry womanizers who later in marriage realise that all is vanity and stop their outside exploits. I think yours is the latter and I pray it works out ok for both of you in the end.

All the best.

hatbricker:
People often have misconception about us which judge the way they treat us in return....


Startin with me, I have a somewhat 'clueless innocent' look which make people think i must be a slow poke or something until they move closer to me and find otherwise.

Now over to you NLers, can you share your experiences here and how you have been ablemi proved them wrong?

andromida:
I wonder why this man married. He does not believe in monogamy why stitch himself up in marriage instead of living freely to sex up as many women as his heart desires.

I am sorry about your pains I hope you come to a decision that makes you happy.

EfemenaXY:


I can almost hear him laughing at you.

The choice is yours: An alive Ms. or a dead Mrs.

Which is it?

elantraceey:
My dear save yourself and leave that man the earlier the better , i used to be strictly against divorce but right now i've changed my stance on tgat because of the kind of men we see this days (there are still good ones though so don't get me wrong ) But did you tell him about the call and if you did what was his response?